Lerin - posted on 04/05/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
I'm trying to support & gently encourage my SIL. I've known her for 8 yrs and we don't have the greatest friendship.
She has a 7 wk old that she's exclusively bf since birth. (She didn't bf her older child at all). She returned to work today. I've loaned her my Medela double electric pump. She's been using it for the past several weeks. She calls me when she has questions but doesn't look up stuff herself.
She's been giving the baby a paci since she was a few days old, but has PRAISE GOD! not had any latch problems. She doesn't feed on demand. I don't agree with it, but didn't see it as a real problem b/c my SIL had to return to work, and I knew it would be easier if she was on a schedule for the daycare. (The nurses and/or pediatrician told her every 3 hrs, so that's what she's been doing).
She's concerned with the amount of milk she gets when she pumps- the first time she got only half an oz. which I told her was normal and yesterday when I asked she said she's getting 'a little more'. I've emailed her lots of pumping tips, and even bought her a box of Mother's Milk tea to help increase her supply so that she can pump more. The baby has taken up 4 oz. in one feeding from a bottle. She asked me about putting rice cereal in with breastmilk since she's not pumping alot.
I told her I personally wouldn't b/c A) the baby has tummy issues anyway and this will only make them worse, and B) regardless of A she's not old enough yet. She's concerned that she just can't pump enough. So I told her to always allow time so that when she's dropping the baby off somewhere, she can nurse her, even if it's not 'time' for her to eat, just to 'top her off' and that'll help her go longer without a bottle, less she will have to pump.
I just can't seem to get thru to her that she should pump more often, feed the baby more often. I'm also concerned that when the baby goes back to her 2 mo. check up the Dr. is going to tell her to supplement formula- he's got a reputation for not being in the loop on matters of breastfeeding- I told my SIL this but she took her other child to that dr. and didn't really want to change.
Any suggestions for ways to encourage her more??? I'm still bf my 16 mo. old but my SIL isn't on the extended bf bandwagon. Yet, hopefully.
Thanks in advance & God bless!