Better Homes and Gardens says to breastfeed in the bathroom

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I can't believe Better Homes and Gardens allowed something like this to be published with their name on it.





http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/food/the-...





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They edited the article and removed the section about breastfeeding. This is what it said:

"THOU SHALT NOT BREAST FEED AT THE TABLE

Yes, I have seen table-side breast feeding at a four-star restaurant. If at all possible, take it to the ladies room. (Note: most upscale restaurants have really nice restrooms!)"

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Donna - posted on 06/02/2010

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That is ludicrous! Breastfeeding is not something terrible that should be hidden. This is the way that God designed out bodies. Are we offended when we see a baby calf nursing? Or a kitten or puppy? Plus, why would I want to subject my baby to a place where I wouldn't even eat?

Christa - posted on 06/02/2010

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That sucks! I am a bit on the modest side and generally do try to feed in a less public place, but for Better Homes and Gardens to say that....Well I think they need an attitude adjustment!

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Ha! I wonder if the author was talking about me. I figured discreetly feeding my little one at the dinner table was better than letting him cry and disrupting the other patrons of the upscale restaurant... ;)

Eve - posted on 06/02/2010

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I'm personally more comfortable in the lounge area of a restroom (physically comfortable--the chairs in the lounge tend to be roomier and have arm rests!), but yeah, if I can eat at the table, I think my baby has the same right.

The way we have sexualized breasts in American culture is ridiculous--and I would say male-driven. I don't think women would be uncomfortable seeing other women's breasts if men hadn't turned them into a sex object.

Here's a short article from an academic magazine about a breast-feeding doll:

http://contexts.org/socimages/2009/08/12...

Brenda - posted on 06/02/2010

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Let me say upfront that I'm breastfeeding a 10 month old right now. I am a devout believer in breastfeeding as well as a devout believer in modesty (whether the person is an 18 year old model or a breastfeeding mom). I don't think that breastfeeding is an excuse to reveal yourself to others. It's like a girl trying to justify wearing a string bikini to school because it's a hot day. I use a cheap, light weight nursing smock from Walmart that allows me to nurse very discreetly in public. In an air conditioned environment neither I nor my baby get hot, so let's nip that argument in the bud right now. I think the worst part of this issue is that the women who put it "ALL out there" while breastfeeding are drawing attention to the situation and may make it impossible for those of us who do it discreetly to feed in public. If everything is covered they really have no basis for their argument. We have to choose our battles here...

Kinga - posted on 06/02/2010

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That's BS - I don't eat in the bathroom (no matter how nice) and why should my baby? Besides, there are so many germs in the bathroom that it's really unsafe!

Tamara - posted on 06/02/2010

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Why should a baby have to eat in the toilets... I feed anywhere and everywhere I want, anyone questioning that... I'll ask them if they want to bring their dinner with me and we'll all go sit in the toilet and eat!

Beth - posted on 06/01/2010

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I have bf my little girl where ever we are. I had one of those wraps and you couldn't even tell that I was feeding her. The only complaint I have ever had was from my in-laws who said it was rude to feed her at the table. So I told them to take me home so I could feed her and they could go without us. People are just ignorant.

Cheralee - posted on 06/01/2010

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I can't believe that article.
I never feed my daughter in a bathroom.
The germs found in a bathroom makes me sick to think of eating in one myself. Why would I allow my child to be exposed to that, as a baby?
Just because someone doesn't wish to see what nature intended.
JUST LOOK THE OTHER WAY.

Alison - posted on 06/01/2010

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why would you bring a baby to a four-star restaurant anyway? I mean, if I'm spending $40+ per plate, you better believe I'm going to get a sitter! ;) haha, joking - I know sometimes it's unavoidable.

Having said that, I have totally nursed at O-Garden and Mac-Grill (and those are only the ones I can think of off the top of my head). And yes, I whipped out the nursing cover and went for it AT THE TABLE. Yummm.

I have a new commandment: THOU SHALT KEEP THY NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE'S PARENTING CHOICES. What about that?

Alanna - posted on 06/01/2010

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Personally I would breastfeed my baby at an upscale restaurant without a second thought. I use a cover so no one would see anything anyway for the most part. I'm doing the best thing for my baby so why would or should I shy away from nursing in public? I can understand if the baby was making a constant fuss it would kind of disrupt the atmosphere so then I might resort to the bathroom if it had a comfy chair but I would certainly not sit in a stall. Another option I would consider would be a more private table, but guess what people? God created a woman's breast for the purpose of feeding babies so why is that so disgusting to see? Boobs inappropriately being displayed is degrading. Honestly, what is wrong with our culture that we make mothers feel this way?

Holly - posted on 06/01/2010

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That's just wrong! Not Breast feed at the table!!! I refused to feed my baby in the restroom, how degrading! I wouldn't want to eat in the bathroom!

Kelly - posted on 06/01/2010

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I will breastfeed my daughter where and when ever I want too. We eat where and whenever we want to so why can't breastfeed children?? When I go out in public I have a utter cover on and you don't see anything besides the feet. I love how everything is getting taken the wrong way now days. Let us feed our children!!! I will can't go in another room just to feed my child. I was blessed to be able to breastfeed and I will let anyone and everyone know I'm happy to be able to breastfeed!!!!

Mandy - posted on 05/31/2010

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i dont see what the big problem is these days...i mean what are breasts made for if we have 2 hide away in shame coz some people feel embaressed or uncomfortable??

Jayme - posted on 05/30/2010

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that makes me sick!! i will do it where ever and whenever i want!! i wish someone would say somethin to me cuz ill let them have it!! there is adsolusely nothing wrong with it!! do they wanna go eat in the bathroom???? Dont think so!!!!

Adrielle - posted on 05/30/2010

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i am a young breastfeeding mom, my daughters 4 months old and i've been nervous to bf in public, after reading these posts i'm going to get my nerves up and just do it! thank you, and f you better homes and gardens, you should just stick with what you know, better houses and growing food.

that article was obviously written by a guy or a really masculine woman.

Samantha - posted on 05/30/2010

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i rememer the first time i breastfed my first daughter at a public restaurant and people looked at me like i was crazy. i was very discreat about it and made sure i was completely covered but people still had to stare and whisper at me. i just continued feeding my baby and tried to ignore them.

Ramona - posted on 05/30/2010

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Better Homes and Gardens clearly is unaware of the law. I'm sorry, but I'm not taking my child into an uncomfortable bathroom to breastfeed. Where do they suggest I sit in the bathroom? What a bunch of bull shit!

Catlin - posted on 05/30/2010

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I'm going to preface my next comment with saying that i breast feed my 20 month old WHERE EVER I am. Unfortunately, she really hates being covered so no blanky over the head for us.

On that note, If for some odd reason I was having dinner with my children in a 4 or 5 star restaurant, I would probably not BF at the table. My daughter is a kicker & a grabber, so for us it would probably end up badly... and messily.
I'll do it at say a Denny's or a MCDonalds or most places, but if I am spending that much money for dinner I don't want it ruined.
Should women HAVE to go to the bathroom to BF, HELL NO! If your babe needs to eat, feed them! I don't want to hear your baby screaming and fussing b/c they're hungry. (However if I'm out on a date night with hubby, I probably don't want to even think about kids.)

It was definitely in bad taste to publish that

Meredith - posted on 05/30/2010

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They make beautiful nursing covers and I have found that a nice blankie acutally works better, but there is no way I would ever hide to breastfeed my child, not to mention the nasty unsanitary bathrooms I have seen. We are taught all oour lives to "hover" over public toilets, how in the world is one supposed to "hover" and effectively nurse their child. And I have been in many 3,4 and 5 star restraunts that do NOT have sofas or chairs in their restrooms.

I am a pediatric RN and we work hard each and everyday to teach moms how important it is to breastfeed, at least to try, it truly is nature's perfect food. Each mother's milk actually changes to meet the changing nutritional needs of her child. Not to mention the unbelievable bond created between the mother and child. How in the world did any article in any magazine, especially ones that market themselves to women, get printed about hiding this wonderful and natural phenomenon?!?

I agree with everyone who says they have lost their appetites based on the skin showed by women trying to be "sexy". I can honestly say, I have never shown any of my chest to anyone while breastfeeding at the table, and unless someone is looking very hard and paying extra attention to what I am doing, it is usually hard to even tell. Why would anyone who is having an interesting and fun dinner, date or outing, be so interested in what is going on at my table?

I will continue to publically breastfeed this, and all my future children, and I will continue to daily educate mom's and expectant women on breastfeeding and I will encourage them to do so when and where they and their children are comfortable!!!

Erica - posted on 05/30/2010

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I do not eat my meal in the bathroom, and certainly will not have my child eat their meal in the bathroom either. If you don't want to see me feed my child, you eat your meal in the bathroom.

Melody - posted on 05/30/2010

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how silly for better homes and gardens to write that. i wasnt comfortable with my first, as i felt like it was the wrong thing to do, but now i know its my baby that matters and am feeding my 2nd. i fed my son at bunnings today at the cafe bit and i will feed my son where i like. i eat infront of everyone, and if iwas giving my baby a bottle it would be fine, but my baby cant breastfeed in public when it is the most natural?? i love breastfeeding, so easy, convenient and bonding with my bubba!

Sarah - posted on 05/29/2010

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I love the breastfeeding ad. Priceless! I don't have the courage to breastfeed in public because of people's opinion and because I'm uneasy about baring my chest...if I can help it and plan ahead of time. But if my baby needs to eat he needs to eat.

Michelle - posted on 05/29/2010

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I saw this on the Today show and I was upset! Everyone else is eating at the table why shouldn't my baby. For the record I breastfeed any time my baby is hungery and that includes at the table. No smoothing this over for me.

Jen - posted on 05/29/2010

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i'm a breast feeding mom, i have no probable whipping them out to feed my daughter, but i do agree if i'm going to a 4 star restaurant i'm getting a sitter, but if its the normal cheap places, i' have nursed her while eating

Katie - posted on 05/28/2010

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Although I agree that the article should have been screened better for stupidity before publication, I think that some of the comments saying that the mag should lose ALL of it's readers are a little harsh. My son is exclusively breastfed and has been since birth. I am a huge advocate for breastfeeding...I've done it walking around Whistler village (BC Canada,) in just about every starbucks within 3 hours of my home, the mall, restaurants...Just about everywhere. But come on, it was one comment in one article. And it wasn't saying don't breastfeed your babies, or even don't breastfeed your babies in public...it didn't even say don't breastfeed them in restaurants. It said if at all possible don't do it in 4 star restaurants. Like I said, a silly comment to make, but I really think it is being blown wayyyyy out of proportion. I have gotten some kickass recipes out of that magazine and I am not going to stop reading it just because someone wrote something stupid in one issue. Just my opinion.

Kristy - posted on 05/28/2010

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How about if they don’t like it, they take their meals to the "very nice restrooms" and eat there. What also degusts me is how some people would say, can you put a blanket over you while you breast feed, how about you go and eat your meal with a blanket over your head!
Get a reality check, we are not going to feed out babies in the toilet, put a blanket over their heads or wait till we get home to feed our children, when your hungry you eat, DEAL WITH IT!
Im not even going to bother with reading the apology, because it’s been said, and its what you thought, everyone is entitled to their own thoughts, but that is just plain rude, if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say nothing! You meant it when you wrote it. Too bad!

Darleen - posted on 05/28/2010

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I breastfeed my 10 month old anywhere I may happen to be even if it may be a bit uncomfortable at times. I have a breastfeeding coverup wrap so the baby and me are covered and most of the time noone even knows what I'm doing. My baby has to eat/drink milk. If it bothers someone than that's their problem not mine.And if someone is staring I will say something to them, because it is rude. I am feeding my baby for crying out loud. I will never buy that magazine again BHG..

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I love those covers! Its very similar to Benefits Au Lait covers! But the latter one. Has more patterns.

Monica - posted on 05/28/2010

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lol ppl are crazy if they think i'm gona sit in the bathroom while my food gets cold and miss out on good conversation!!! i don't like wasting time, I used to breastfeed while walking through the mall or the park!!! Obviously you couldn't see anything cuz i was good at it lol. Does anyone notice how babies always want to breastfeed right when our dinner is ready??? So sorry if it's not "distinguished" but i wana eat too!!! LOL. And while they're talking about 4 star restaurants, shouldn't they also mention how nobody wants a baby there at all anyways what with the fussing and crying and rattling :P :P :P

Nicole - posted on 05/28/2010

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I find it sad that so many commenting here are so worried about breastfeeding in public. It is a sad reminder that we have SO far to go to normalize breastfeeding. You shouldn't have to be coordinated enough to breastfeed in public. Breastfeeding is hard enough! I'm not upset at any of you, I am upset that this is STILL what women are having to deal with and worry about just to feed their children! I am so proud of you all for breastfeeding and doing your best!

Things like this BHG blog and hearing all of your stories just reminds me how far the breastfeeding community still has to go.

I'd just like to add: I breastfed in Chik-Fil-A today!!!

Michelle - posted on 05/28/2010

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I can not believe how majority of people feel about breastfeeding. I must admit I was one that would pump before I left the house but even doing that sometimes my son needed more, so I have had to feed in public however I make sure that Iam covered up and most people don't know what Im doing they think putting him to sleep. I even had a kid at the mall ask to see the baby and just said he's sleeping. How do they think kids grew before bottles?LOL

Sarah - posted on 05/28/2010

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How would they like to eat in the bathroom?! As long as the mother is respectful enough to try to cover up i dont see a problem with it. I usually looked for a mothers' room to feed my daughter, if i didnt find one i just breastfed where ever i pleased :)



Also for the mommies who dont want everybody to see their breasts, they make these awesome things called Utter Covers. I just ordered 2 of them

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I would not take my child into the restroom to change a diaper. I would not even consider taking them in there to eat. Would you eat in the bathroom, nice lounge or not? I use my hooter hider when I nursed my babies, so no one saw anything. If they were uncomfortable, it was their issue not mine. That being said I don't think I would take my kids to a four star restaurant anyways. My kids are very respectful in restaurants, but it is just not the appropriate place for little ones.

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I have to admit...at the very beginning I was nervous and felt ashamed to BF in a public restaurant so I DID use the restroom and sat on the stall....I felt SO HORRIBLE after because the whole time it just didn't feel right! Well, I went home and thought about it and told myself that I NEED to be strong for my daughter and NOT have the shame from ignorant people projected on myself. So a couple days later I went back to the exact same restaurant and told myself that I COULD BF in public in the restaurant and it would be okay! Well, I did, and it went fine (after a few nervous attempts to have baby latch on, but I was covered). I am SO glad I "got back on the bike" again and got over MY fears or insecurity. Now, I can consider myself a BF pro and it doesn't phase me anymore! I KNOW I'm doing what best for my baby! Not only does she deserve the best food (breastmilk) but she deserves to eat it in the BEST of places! NOT the bathroom.

ME - posted on 05/28/2010

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I was a little nervous about bf in public with my first (he's almost 2 1/2 now), but by the time he was 6 or 7 months, I was bfing everywhere! With my three month old daughter...I just got right back to it...I'm proud to be giving my children what is best for them...I have no reason to be ashamed and no reason to hide. In fact...when my family and I are on the road...we sometimes stop at a restaurant to eat when Mayah gets hungry...it's more comfy inside than trying to feed her cramped in the front seat of the car! I would NEVER feed my baby in a public restroom!

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I agree... I wouldn't eat in a public bathroom why should my baby! I know people aren't always comfortable with breastfeeding but to have a magazine actually publish something like that?!? I don't feel bad about not renewing my subscription with them! I was never very coordinated with breastfeeding so I would pump and take a bottle or time our eating out between feedings but for those moms that are coordinated and have it down more power to them. I have never been offended, before nor after having the baby, of a mother breastfeeding. It is too bad the rest of the world doesn't see it for the wonderful thing that it is.

Mandy - posted on 05/28/2010

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I will breatsfeed in the restroom when the people who have a problem with me breastfeeding in the restaurant go and eat their meal in the stall next to me!! Thank you but I will choose when and where to breastfeed my baby, I don't belive I asked for their input!

Jessie - posted on 05/28/2010

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omg wow thats why I love where I am at right now, state law here says that anywhere a woman is permitted to be then she has the right to breastfeed there, and as I am now expecting again and intend to breastfeed alot longer then my last one lasted, I most certainly will feed him at any table I happen to be at, and if he does not like to be covered as my last one hated it then oh well, ppl don't need to stare then

Ashley - posted on 05/28/2010

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Okay strange. But I feel like going out and Breastfeeding my child in public. I think reading about all the woman that do has given me the guts to say screw it, I'm gonna feed my baby out in the open. I have this amazing cover up thing called a hooter hider that I use in front of my family. So why not. Thank you for giving me the guts to think I could BF in public.

Miranda - posted on 05/27/2010

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I agree with many of the comments that have already been written. I breastfed out in public and in restaurants: I also had a wonderful cover that enabled me to do so. As far as I know noone saw my breasts, unless they were really trying to catch a glimpse of me trying to latch my child on?

I haven't caught the Redbook article, but some people need to avoid certain subjects in their magazines, AHEM!!! And I will be avoiding these magazines....!

Katie - posted on 05/27/2010

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That is horrible! How would they like to eat in the rest room? I breastfeed where ever I am. If my Son needs to eat then I will feed him. I don't care what others think. I'm covered. There are laws to protect my Son's right to eat wherever we are. I really don't understand why people are so phobic of it.

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That's a good point! I don't change my daughter in public bathrooms. It just grosses me out. I don't want to lay her on the changing tables. I prefer to change her in the car if she needs to be changed while we're out. So if I won't change her in a public bathroom I sure as hell won't feed her in one.

Birgit - posted on 05/27/2010

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Wow! I am horrified. I agree with some of the other moms who are jealous of the mothers who can breastfeed in public. I got the hang of it eventually but at first it was so awkward and I let my impression of what I thought others would think inhibit me. It was a shame because I missed out on a lot of experiences that I could have had all because I was too scared to breastfeed in front of other people. With my next children, I refuse to let that bother me. It's part of why I have breasts- to feed my children. I can pull up at a drive thru or get a snack out of a vending machine or gas station on a whim; why should my children be relegated to eating in certain areas because people are offended by them. And a bathroom--Gross! I have a hard time changing my son in a lot of the bathrooms I have seen. I would never expect him to eat in them. That's nasty!

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