Better Homes and Gardens says to breastfeed in the bathroom

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I can't believe Better Homes and Gardens allowed something like this to be published with their name on it.





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They edited the article and removed the section about breastfeeding. This is what it said:

"THOU SHALT NOT BREAST FEED AT THE TABLE

Yes, I have seen table-side breast feeding at a four-star restaurant. If at all possible, take it to the ladies room. (Note: most upscale restaurants have really nice restrooms!)"

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Sara - posted on 05/27/2010

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Hey! Lets hear it for all the fabulous mommies who nurse their babies! YAY! Lets give a cheer for all the moms who nurse a baby at the table! YAY!! Lets give 3 cheers for the mama who can balance the baby on her boob at the dinner table and still cut the food up on the plate of the 2 year old next to her while the 5 yr old tells her about her day at school, and last but not least manages to finally get a delicious bite of now cold food. YAY MOMMIES!!!

Ayla - posted on 05/27/2010

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Would they like to be eating in the toilet???
Why should own babies have to eat in the toilet..
AWWWW people like that just make me angry!!!!!

Nicole - posted on 05/27/2010

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Yeah, I followed this issue from the beginning (as I'm sure you did, too, Sara) and I have to say that I was disgusted! The apology was half-a$$ed and too late. Although, at least they even issued an apology or addressed the concerns of readers or potential readers, unlike Redbook!



The reason I feel their apology was sub-par is because the whole blog was offensive to parents and children and it should have been totally removed. Not to mention that the writer has no children herself. Not that I feel only parents make the best decisions all the time, it was just that her piece had "I don't have kids and, therefore, I don't want to be bothered by your kids being allowed to be human beings because I am anti-kids" written all over it!



Also, how does taking kids to restaurants have to do with better HOMES and GARDENS???



As well, I was surprised to see Joanna Linberg commented even here! Wow, that is some SERIOUS attempts at CYA! But sadly, Ms. Linberg, I fear for your magazine that the damage is done. At least Redbook puts their misguided lack of breastfeeding support in the disguise of breastfeeding advice. Your writer flat out disregarded the law in 47 states!

Lindsay - posted on 05/27/2010

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That is disgusting! They should eat thier supper in the bathroom. Why should our babies have to eat thier lunch/supper in the bathroom. i don't care how nice the bathroom is! it's still a bathroom and it's still disgusting!

Oh and I breastfed once in the bathroom and my son and i were so uncomfortable i left and went back to the table and tucked myself into the booth and covered and he was as happy as a pig in S*** to nurse. I've nursed on a bench in the mall, i've nursed at food courts, pretty much anywhere the boob could come out, i've nursed there. I always covered up but alot of the times my son was so snoopy he'd try pulling the blanket or nursing apron away to watch as he nursed.

My son was in the hospital for 3 days, he's almost 2 years old, and i nursed him the whole time and the nurses encouraged me to keep nursing b/c he couldn't hold any solids down, our roommate in the room was uncomfortable but didn't mind bottle feeding her 2 month old who was very sick.

I always smile when i see a nursing mother in public. i've actually said to a few "good for you, do what's best for your baby and not what the public thinks!" and i always get a smile and a thank you in return.

Breast feeding is beautiful and wonderful and why should we hide it? just because the population is over-sexed and they see nursing as sexual? HARDLY! Nothing more natural for the baby then mother's milk.

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What does it say about people in our community that people think that when women are breastfeeding they are inviting men to stare at their boobs, personally i think it is the problem of the people who cant not look at someones breasts (not that you can actually see them because the baby is in front of them). Even my older children thought this was ridiculous, and how disgusting was it to feed a baby in the toilet. I have never been harrassed for BF in public but I pity the person who wants to try it LOL

Kirsten - posted on 05/27/2010

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I breast fed my first in the middle of a busy pub on a Saturday lunch time, my younger brother worked there and hadn't seen him yet. He got hungry and out came the boob, the only person uncomfortable was my brother he still get's uncomfortable now and im on the second. I would never of gone to the bathroom or anywhere else to feed my kids if they don't want me to feed them they deal with the screaming.

Jess - posted on 05/27/2010

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If everyone else gets to eat in public, and I have to see your face covered with mayo from your BLT and hear you crunch through your entire bag of pretzels, you should have no problem with my baby eating!! She is covered and she is happy, get a life~!

Jessie - posted on 05/27/2010

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I would never feel comfortable breastfeeding at the table, but I don't feel that the ones who are should have to go to the bathroom to feed them in public. I wouldn't of been coordinated enough to not flash everything so that is why I wouldn't but some mom's I have seen do a really great job of not making it a big deal. Which is what it isn't is a big deal. I didn't get to breastfeed long but nobody makes me go feed my child in the bathroom with my bottle, so I feel that it should be the same way for people that want to breastfeed.

ALISHA - posted on 05/27/2010

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thats absolute ridiculous i breast feed everywhere my motto is if they dont like it dont look we dont deny u from eatin in public so y should we deny and infant or an toddler

Kristina - posted on 05/27/2010

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As the Mother of three adult children and one grandchild--all of whom were breastfed--I find this pervasive perspective still apppalling but not surprising. This type of attitude prevails among biased idiots who are disturbed by public breastfeeding but yet think nothing of nonbreastfed babies carrying around bottles of blue koolaid and coca cola at three to four years of age!

Acelynn - posted on 05/27/2010

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I was appaled that readers who commented on the link said its distracting in restaurants and we should go some where else! I'm sorry but if you are on a date with your signifcant other shouldn't you be paying attention to them and not some FABULOUS mom (BTW) who is BFing her child at the table next to yours? Its an insult to hear these things about women who are giving up their time and body to make sure that their children have the best possible nutrition they can get. How horrible for other people to judge us! My husband supports me BFing my daughter and is just waiting for someone to make a comment about it at a restauraunt. I BF in public there is no shame in it whatsoever! My baby has got to eat doesn't she. There would be a bigger fuss if I just let her scream... Some people are just ignorant! SN: I was a nanny and previously took a trip out of the country where we spent time in alot nicer restaurants than there are here. The little one was 2 and a half and did wonderful! She ordered her food carried on a conversation at the table with us and was fully involved in the experience. How do we expect our children to learn if we do not teach them?

Jamie - posted on 05/27/2010

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As a mother who knows her rights, i try to really ignore the igrnorant and intolerant comments from people who are so uncomfortable with the human body and sexuality that they're uncomfortable with the act of breastfeeding. I've never been asked to move or stop breastfeeding, but i know that if it does happen, i can tell the person to back off, because breastfeeding is federally and locally protected.

Tama - posted on 05/27/2010

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it is amazing how low cut tops are fine and sexy and nursing a baby and not even SEEING anything (just knowing that the baby is attached there) is somehow "gross". i don't get it. i would flat out refuse to go to a bathroom to nurse. don't care how nice it is.

love the video of the baby eating on the toilet! how ridiculous that ANYONE would think that was acceptable!

Tanya - posted on 05/27/2010

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It's not like breastfeeding mothers are whipping their breasts out all over the place for people to see! We are discreet and try not to make a scene- not like these teenagers who are putting on a parade for all to see! Society is so misguided when it comes to breasts- they are now viewed as being purely sexual and alit of people seem to have forgotten their actual use- to feed children!!! Grow up society- if it offends you don't look. I.would be ashamed to feed my child in a toilet.

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2010

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American culture is obsessed with bodies and tight clothing and has become immune to the higher hemlines and more cleavage, yet when a woman needs to feed her child with a BREAST, many people consider it offensive. It amazes me how backward we are. I have been one of those moms who goes into the bathroom to breastfeed because of my uncoordination. It really disgusted me. I wouldn't eat my lunch in a public bathroom! I agree with those who say if you don't want to stare at a breastfeeder, look the other way!

Belinda - posted on 05/27/2010

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they lost me!! I can bf any where descretely and don't like to be told that i cannot!! My 2 yr old still nurses and we are all fine with him bf where ever. Do people look at you funny when you poke a bottle in a childs mouth....DUH..same concept feeding a child!!!!!

Dee - posted on 05/27/2010

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i don't care where i'm at, if my child is hungrey then i'm going to feed and sorry but the bathroom is the worst place to feed. do you eat in the bathroom? I would love for a place to say somethig to me about me feeding.

Crystal - posted on 05/27/2010

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I once got told a story of a woman who was told off by a person at a football match for breastfeeding and her reply was "Sorry, I'll just go buy him a pie then!!" just thought I would share because it was hilarious!! And related to the toilet eating!

Delilah - posted on 05/27/2010

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gotta love how now they are backtracking and apologizing... to little to late in my book I still won't buy or read better homes and gardens again. wonder if that write still has his/her job??

Delilah - posted on 05/27/2010

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in the bathroom? do they eat in the bathroom? I breastfed 2 children, and am pregnant with my 3rd, and have never done that and never will. that is gross. I won't be reading their magazine again.

I don't see anything wrong with feeding at a table they have these great coveralls, like the one Michelle Dugger uses. and there are discreet ways to nurse at the table... if people don't like it, don't look. you don't HAVE to stare at someone breastfeeding, just look the other way...

Amy - posted on 05/26/2010

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Ladies i dont care how nice a restroom is. they could have gold toilets and cashmere for toilet paper. i am still not going to breastfeed my baby in the restroom. i have three children 7, 5 and 1. I breastfed my older ones until they were 18 months old and plan on doing the same with my 1 year old. i have never been asked to go to the restroom to feed my babies. i will never purchase better homes and gardens again. shame on them,!!!!!

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"Also, I have never went out to eat, and watched someone at another table. So what's the big deal."
Exactly, Jamie! Didn't these people's mom's teach them it's not polite to stare :)

Jamie - posted on 05/26/2010

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I can't believe that there are any breastfeeding moms that agree with this article. I nursed my daughter once in a bathroom at a four star restaurant, and afterwards I was so ashamed of myself. I would never eat in a restroom, yet, I forced my daughter because I was embarrassed to nurse in public. In my defense, I was a first time mom. Furthermore, my husband was frustrated because he ate an expensive dinner alone. It never happened again. I bought a wrap at "babiesrus" that covers you and the baby completely while you breastfeed. I am careful not to expose myself, and it made life easier. As far as people paying to eat in a nice atmosphere... breastfeeding moms pay as well. Also, I have never went out to eat, and watched someone at another table. So what's the big deal.

Erynne - posted on 05/26/2010

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I think women who're willing to go along with breastfeeding in a bathroom need to start eating their meals in there, too. Why not? I mean, if you're gonna force your infant to inhale particulate feces, why not let it land on your pasta primavera, as well? What's good for the gosling is good for the goose, right?

I'm offended by the article, and will never buy BHG. The end. They lost a potential customer.

Carrie - posted on 05/26/2010

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Although the breastfeeding rule was the most offensive, the whole list was rude and condescending.

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if anyone ever said this to me i'd say what a friend once told me. Do you like eating your meal in the bathroom? MY GOD people wake up!!!

Lisa - posted on 05/26/2010

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WOW. As a breastfeeding mother I feel like I should be applauded when I start to breastfeed my child in public. I am giving my baby the best possible nutrition and making her the healthy little one that she is. I've never seen anyone ask someone with a lot of cleavage hanging out to leave a restaurant...

Ashley - posted on 05/26/2010

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Let me just say WOW! I'm with Sara K on this one. But when I see Moms in public breastfeeding there babies. I get jelouse that I just cant. Half the time you wouldnt even know that shes doing it. The only reason I know is that now my brain is so BREASTFEEDING that I notice. I would point out a lady to my husband to see if he noticed and even when I point it out hes like were I dont see anyone bf. I think its fabulous the woman that can do it in public. I was at the DR office the other day and there was a lady there BF her baby in the waiting room and I'm like wow I wish I had the guts to do that. Any way I think this article is Dumb and I'm mad about it. Taken off or not the damage has been done.

Melissa - posted on 05/25/2010

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Would they eat their dinner in the bathroom??? I am disgusted that anyone would print something like that....

Carlita - posted on 05/25/2010

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Ugh, that makes me angry beyond belief. I wish more places would actually open up to nursing rather then making it seem as if its something perverted.

Calli - posted on 05/25/2010

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I don't understand why people are so uncomfortable with something that is so natural. There was a time when formula wasn't available and if you wanted your child to live you had to breastfeed. Why do women have to hide in a corner or restroom to feed their baby? I am a full time working mom and pump when away from my daughter. When I have the opportunity to feed her directly I will take it. It is my right (legally and naturally) and if people are uncomfortable they can move or look away. I work very hard to be discreet and don't believe most people would even know what I am doing. We all have many struggles as mothers and it is hurtful to know that something that means so much to me (breastfeeding) makes some people so uncomfortable that they feel the need to publish articles/blogs discouraging it.

One last thought...what makes breastfeeding in an upscale restaurant bathroom any better than bfing in a McDonald's restaurant bathroom? They are meant for excretion not feeding! I will say it is nice when a facility has a nice sitting room (not restroom) to breastfeed because they are calm and comfortable for mom and baby.

Geralyn - posted on 05/25/2010

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It was offensive. The apology is not enough. I imagine the apology was issued because moms are the primary readers of the magazine.



Janessa, that is your perogative to take your son to the car. I have done both - nurse at the table or take my son to the car - based upon my comfort level. That does not mean that I expect every woman to step away from the table based upon their comfort levels. People should just mind their own businesses and allow a mom to feed her baby. That is my opinion.

Tanya - posted on 05/25/2010

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Thats horrible! I cant believe they would do such a thing people like that don't have a heart. I don't think they would like to eat in the bathroom so why would a baby have to? They have to shame. Im so sorry to hear that no one should be feed in a bathroom. I think if they really think that breast-feeding shouldn't be public they should make a special place to doesn't include toilets for us moms to feed our children, or they can loose customers.

Janessa - posted on 05/25/2010

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I actually agree with this article. I am all for breastfeeding but if i am paying to eat at an upscale resturant i do not want to see someone breastfeeding their kids and i would do the samething for them. I have been to nice resturant with my son and when he needs to be breastfeed i took him to the car and did it there.

Francesca - posted on 05/25/2010

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Wow, I am going to write them tonight to let them know I will never read their magazine again.

Thanks

Sharna - posted on 05/25/2010

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a baby has to eat, just like an adult. If an adult doesnt want to see a baby feed, THEY should order their meal and eat it in the bathroom! how offensive!!!

Lea-Andra - posted on 05/25/2010

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I was directed to this by a friend.

I have been out to restaurants and although I do try and work feedings around the dinner or lunch, but sometimes it's not so easy. So I have fed at the table, I have a cover so no one sees anything. I have never come across disapproving glares and any sort of comments. I will do it again. I frankly feel that I have to feed my child, deal with it.

Virginia - posted on 05/25/2010

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I wonder if the author would like to eat his/her dinner in the bathroom... I bet they would be totally disgusted eating in a restroom, even a really nice one! And I read the Redbook article too and thought that it was terrible and truly discouraging for breastfeeding moms.

Amie - posted on 05/25/2010

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If I can eat at the table, then my baby can too! How rediculous. I never expected to get breastfeeding advice from a magazine dealing with homes and gardens...

Sarah - posted on 05/24/2010

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Michelle, you are so right. I have seen half-naked people come into restaurants before. Women who's boobs are pretty much hanging out of her top, because I guess she's trying to go for the "sexy look" or something. And yet, women who breastfeed in public are offensive? When will ignorant people get a clue?!

Michelle - posted on 05/24/2010

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People are just so ignorant it is not funny . I would love to see the writer of that eating her meal off the floor of a Mc Donalds in the ghetto !
Most women when breastfeeding, noone knows what she is doing. It seems that it is assumed we just whip it out , bare all and go at it with out a second thought . I have seen much more bared on how some people scantly dress, than a mother breastfeeding her child.
I hope she catches hell from everyone . It was totally rude and uncalled for and just shows how ignorant and anti-child/anti-breastfeeding she is.
And are you kidding me? To top it off they have stay at home alternatives? Like a new set of parents do not deserve to go out !
Better homes and gardens is now forbidden in my home !

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Suggests a lack of editorial control - or a definite lack of knowledge of their readers' attitudes! Yuk!

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