BF myth: Breastfeeding past a year – what’s in it for bub?

Kathy - posted on 10/30/2010 ( 248 moms have responded )

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This is a subject on which there are vastly differing opinions, some mothers very much against the concept, some very enthusiastic.. I want to make it clear that I’m not talking about when to wean your child – that is completely up to the mother. I’m talking about the benefits provided by breastmilk should the mother decide to breastfeed into toddlerhood.



I think we’re all in agreement about the benefits of breastmilk. But do all these benefits just stop at 12 months (or whatever age?) According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, increased duration of breastfeeding confers significant health and developmental benefits for the child and the mother, especially in delaying return of fertility (thereby promoting optimal intervals between births).

http://www.naturalbeginningsonline.com/b...



In Australia, 21% of children are still being breastfed at 12 months. (Donath and Amir, 2000, quoted in an article published by the Australian Breastfeeding Association. http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/t...



This same article also provides the following information:



Breastfeeding your toddler can provide:

31% of his daily energy needs,

38% of protein requirements,

45% of Vitamin A requirements, and

95% of Vitamin C needs.

Source: WHO/CDR/93.4



What the research says –

The Australian Breastfeeding Association has provided some more detailed information, discussing the benefits if extended breastfeeding in terms of:



Immunological effects

Goldman and Goldblum (1983) showed that immunologic components of breastmilk are maintained into the second year of lactation and are still providing protection to the infant. The data showed that the production of IgA antibodies operates throughout lactation

Cognitive development

Enhanced cognitive development has been shown to be positively associated with duration of breastfeeding

Obesity and nutrition

Kries (1999) in a cross-sectional study found a clear, inverse, dose-response relationship between the duration of breastfeeding and incidence of obesity and overweight. Longer breastfeeding duration was a significant protective factor, attributed to the composition of breastmilk rather than other lifestyle factors which were adjusted for. In a study of affluent United States infants, those who stopped breastfeeding before 18 months gained more weight from 12 to 24 months, but were the same in length, in comparison with the infants who breastfed for longer than 18 months (Dewey et al 1995).

An interesting fact is that another study of mothers who breastfed for 12 months or more showed a more relaxed attitude to feeding their toddlers and they were less likely to exhibit high levels of control over when and what their toddlers ate and drank. The increased intake by toddlers of a variety of foods as well as the fact that these toddlers were leaner but taller was attributed to the maternal style of feeding which accompanied longer-term breastfeeding (Fisher et al 2000).

Bone density

Researchers have found that the greater the amount of breastmilk infants receive, the greater bone mineral acquisition in the long term.

Dental

The research in this area is incomplete and contradictory, and is ongoing. . Nevertheless bottle-fed babies are significantly more likely to develop caries. Further research is required into all the risk factors for dental caries.

Effects on the mother

Sustained breastfeeding also provides many benefits to the mother including lower risk of anaemia, longer periods of lactational amenorrhea, reduced risk of osteoporosis and breast cancer, promotion of postpartum weight loss and sense of personal achievement



This is a very rough summary of some of this research.. You can read more at http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/s...





What’s in it for mum?



I’ve mentioned the health benefits, but some things are hard to quantify. Norma Jane Baumgarner, author of “Mothering your nursing toddler” writes: “Nursing is not only a pleasure, but also quite a convenience. A major task in mothering is helping your child several times daily to overcome fears or hurts or exhaustion. There are various ways to comfort a crying child - walking, rocking, singing - but none is easier or more efficient than nursing. It has been described as a little bit of magic on your side: presto, a fussy child is happy again.” and “Being very close to a warm, cuddly child is the advantage mothers like best about extended nursing. “ http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/norma_...



Breastmilk is best for your child, but it doesn’t have to stop until you and your child are ready.



As well as the Australian Breastfeeding Association site I’ve used, Kellymom also has some great information and links on this topic:

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/in...

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Bridie - posted on 05/06/2011

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I don't understand why some people find breastfeeding a toddler unnatural. Nothing is ever mentioned about a toddler with a bottle or a dummy which are both man made substitutes for breast. If society accepts a dummy or a bottle for a toddler it should have no issues with breast feeding a toddler. I am aware that this article was not critisising or siding with either methods, it's just a thought I felt like sharing.

*Fluffy Bunnies - posted on 04/27/2011

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Sarah, Just follow her lead. You may begin to notice that she doesn't ask for a certain nursing session or she only nurses for a minute. As her need/want to nurse decreases she will gradually drop feedings. You may also have times where she nurses more (if she gets sick or is teething). The best part of child-led weaning (I think) is you don't really have to do anything. You just follow their lead. The less she nurses the more compacted the nutrients in your breast milk becomes. So even if she goes down to once a day (or every few days), she will still get great benefits. Many moms who let baby self-wean barely notice the weaning. One day they realize that their child hasn't nursed in several days (or longer). The process is that slow and easy :).

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2011

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What to do after a year?

My baby just turned a year and I plan to nurse until she weans herself and is ready. I'm just not sure how the schedule changes. We gradually went from nursing every 3 hours to a (1) morning feeding....(2)before she lays down for her nap....(3)when she gets up from her 3-3.5 hour nap which is before she eats her lunch (because I believe she should feel up on breastmilk before she eats solids) and then (4) sometimes before she eats dinner and (5)then before bedtime. So usually about 4 times. Sometimes 5. So what should change after a year if I am going to continue to breastfeed. I know that most of their nutrients should come from breastmilk the first year...but was just wondering what will change after she turns a year. She is a great eater! She loves veggies, fruits, meat, cheese...well everything that I have given her! Thanks in advance!

Joanne - posted on 04/25/2011

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My LO who was only having the breast at night before bed weaned herself at 14.5 months & out of all the bubs in my mothers group, was bf the longest & still doesnt get sick like the others do & she's now 18months old. So I agree bf as long as you & your bub wants:)

Rachel - posted on 04/24/2011

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Kathleen Kendall-Tackett recently held a class in my area on breastfeeding. She is a researcher, as well as so much more! Here are some of the points she covered:
Mothers who breastfeed get more sleep, but also better quality sleep.
Stopping breastfeeding before a year increases your risks for cancer, diabetes, depression, inflammation, stress, heart disease, metabolic disease.
Mothers who had traumatic events, sexual assault, rape, etc., had less instances of depression when they breastfed, as well as a better outcome, more empowerment, etc.
Stronger bonds between mother and baby.
For me, breast is best. But it is also normal and good and right. :-) Thanks for posting!

Teresa - posted on 04/15/2011

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I'm impressed Sara. I couldn't even understand that post....

Still nursing my 3 year old. It has nothing to do w/ 'keeping him a baby' cuz he will ALWAYS be my baby no matter what. Heck, his 9 year old sisters are still my babies and I weaned them at 15 months. ;)

Mandie - posted on 04/12/2011

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i really try not to judge, i believe everyone is entitled to their own opinions and desires. but i have a hard time when women (or people in general) have a place they can go to get support, advice and encouragement from LIKE-MINDED people and that place becomes tainted by people who think their way is the only way, and proceed to belittle or downgrade the very people there for SUPPORT. as with any group of people with having a common interest or belief, the world is full of people who will tell us we are wrong, that it is gross, or what ever mindset they have taken on the subject should be our way of thinking also. even among friends and family we are not always accepted, so having a place that is safe to go, away from judgment is important. if you are against breastfeeding past a year, start or find a chat with other like-minded people and have a blast talking to them about why you feel that way.

Audra - posted on 04/11/2011

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I agree with Mandie and Sara - there are many reasons why Moms choose to nurse beyond 2 ..... the health benefits are proven, and it seems to be a personal decision:)

Mandie - posted on 04/11/2011

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i don't understand why people set limits for other people. setting limits for yourself is fine, its your own business, but why is it certain people believe they are so far advanced other people or so much better that they have the right to decide for them? shameful.....

*Fluffy Bunnies - posted on 04/11/2011

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That may be your opinion, Crystal, but there's absolutely nothing worng with nursing past 2. Everyone is different and what works for you may not work for another nursing pair.

Crystal - posted on 04/10/2011

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u and the child sould stop by atleast 2 before that the actural mom to tot shold stop but pumpping has nothing wrong with that, i stoped publicly feeding at 9 months i pumped till 15month them switch. hes done fine with out e but i do miss the mom baby and mam time but do get more slep now and more time with the huddy. but dont take what ppl say if its not what u want but dont take what u want into what ur kid need to grow into mind,

Kristie - posted on 04/10/2011

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i bf my daughter till she was 3.. wouldn't thave changed anything.. we both enjoyed that bond.. :-) i had so many people telling me to quit.. glad i didn't listen to them.

Audra - posted on 04/04/2011

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Mandie, Celeste, Kathy .... I agree with you. The reason why I am still nursing my son have nothing to do with keeping him a baby. My little guy is extremely independent, even at 15 mos. He has virtually no separation anxiety because he's taken care of by grandma and grandpa, who have been in his life since he was a newborn. Although he is super excited to see me after I get home from work, he is not one of those little ones that is clingy. And even if he was, it would not have to do with breastmilk. I think that is more a personality difference in children.



I'm trying hard to balance the time and effort it takes to pump at work and be available 24/7 on weekends for my toddler and the demands of working full-time. Is anyone else having a hard time balancing these things? I feel that society has set up huge roadblocks for women. Once you go to school and get a degree, are you supposed to just stay home and care for the babies, and then re-enter the workforce a few years later at a much lower-paying job? We have it tough all the way around. Those of us who do work, it's hard to balance baby, nursing and work.... those of us who choose to leave the workforce, or are lucky enough to be able to pursue family financial goals by surviving on a single income are lucky, in the respect that they are able to spend quality time with their babies. Yet society does not see it this way - they do not value the sacrifices that Mothers make on an everyday basis for their little ones.. If we don't take care of our children.... what would the future of the world be like? Maybe employers should think about that the next time they make their company rules about how many days/hours we are allowed to take off to attend to "personal needs." They are less personal needs, than taking care of other people, i.e., our children. Having time for ourselves is a whole other ballgame,.... one that I won't even get in to ..... but I'm struggling managing workplace responsibilities with those of raising my baby boy.



I think to start with, employers need to be more flexible with flex time, working from home as well as extended maternity leave policies in place for working mothers. All of the cards are stacked against us.



Does anyone else have any help/advice/input on this? Thanks for listening.

Kathy - posted on 03/30/2011

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I agree with Celeste - I am SO tired of the old bromide that it's thw mother who wants to keep her baby a baby!

Celeste - posted on 03/30/2011

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Jess, that is not the norm. Usually by the time a child gets their adult teeth, they are unable to nurse. And I would imagine, by 11, they would have most of their adult teeth.

Honestly, I'm getting quite tired of the argument that the mother wants to keep their baby longer. That is NOT the case. You can't make a child nurse. It has NOTHING, I repeat NOTHING to do with making a child a baby for longer.

Jess - posted on 03/29/2011

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i still think there is a limit to extended breastfeeding. having known two mothers personally who continued untill their daughters were in my opinion far too old. (one was 7 the other was 11). I have breastfed both my children past a year but wouldnt have gone much further simply because i found it too limiting re work, life and intimacy with my partner. i did not want to share my breasts when they were food for my children, with my husband. with the mothers who continued extended breastfeeding it seemed unnecessary to continue so long as we are not in a country where the water is unsafe to drink and they were more than able to get enough nutrition from food. they were actually called in by the school because the children were boasting about sucking their mummies boobies.
feeding them till they are 2 or 3 is fair enough as a comfor thing or even a habitual thing, but then you have to wonder who it is that doesnt want it to stop? and why? for the child is it the power over their mother as they know she will not resist or for the mother is it simply a way of keeping their child as a baby for longer than is strictly fair on either of them

Mandie - posted on 03/29/2011

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Audra- i agree you do not need to defend yourself, but if you feel better about listing reasons, there are plenty. first and foremost, the health benefits are shown to be longer lasting when baby is nursed for 2 years. not only for baby, but for you. you can always inform them that you don't suggest they stop taking vitamins, and that is essentially what your son is doing. my son is 16mos, and barely eats solids. he nurses on demand as a newborn does, and is at a great size and weight. nursing also provides emotional and mental wellness for you and baby. the comfort and closeness that the bond provides is a natural stress reliever. extended nursing also gives mothers a new aspect of it. newborns nurse seriously and focus on it. older babies social nurse, so it can be fun and playful time too. the most important thing, however long you nurse, is that when you or baby decides to stop, it is a choice you feel comfortable with. knowing that it is the right time for both of you will help ease the "letting go" process. trust me, giving in to others' opinions will not help that process at all. i hope all goes well, and anytime someone says something negative, feel free to message me and i will gladly keep it balanced with encouragement!

Audra - posted on 03/29/2011

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Hi Kathy, thanks for your reply, and for your encouragement:)

Kathy - posted on 03/28/2011

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You don't have to defend yourself. Just tell them it's a mutual decision, then let their comments flow over your head. If they keep going, just smile smugly!

Audra - posted on 03/28/2011

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I am still nursing my 15-month old son, and some family members and others are starting to hint to me that I should stop. My baby boy loves to nurse, and I believe that nursing helps us to maintain a good relationship of trust and closeness when I am away at work all day. He also prefers breastmilk to juice or any other liquids (he is sensitive to cow's milk). Any advice on what I should tell family?

Holly - posted on 03/27/2011

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So I was concerned because *my* 16 month old grabs breasts on a regular basis... until I was with my friends 13 month old.. who was NEVER breastfed.. formula from birth.. who reached down my shirt and grabbed my breast! It's not just boys and its not just breastfed kiddos:)

Cathy - posted on 03/27/2011

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YaY!!!!! for extended breastfeeding. The relationship between a mother and her child is precious. Weaning has only to do with the mother and her child. Wean when you and the baby decide it is best, hopefully after 1 year.

Ashley - posted on 03/27/2011

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I don't think a little boy breastfeeding until 2 has anything to do with him grabbing women's breasts. I know little boys that never breastfed that grab women's breasts. I think it has more do do with the ladies having something different so they want to figure them out.

Ashley - posted on 03/27/2011

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I have heard that for every 2 years that a woman breastfeeds it cuts her chance of breast cancer by somewhere between 25-75%

Sebrina - posted on 03/20/2011

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Thanks for posting this. With my first son I had allot of pressure to stop Nursing him, But now with my second I believe I will stick with it much longer. The first time I stopped about 14 months this time I think I will wait till hes closer to two years old.

Holly - posted on 03/19/2011

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will do thank you :)

Naomi - posted on 03/19/2011

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no worries im not sure about the link im not very good with computers but i just type in extended breastfeeding on the youtube site and it comes up as the third one its great isn't it

Holly - posted on 03/19/2011

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Naomi!!!!! I LOVE IT!!! Is there any way to link to it?? I would love to share it with a few friends:) (ones who will appreciate it greatly!).. How awful are those comments but how true are the facts! :) Beautiful :) THANK yOu so much for sharing it :)

Naomi - posted on 03/19/2011

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the more you no the better it doesn't matter how you choose to feed your children just thank god that you are able to as a lot of children go days without food or water

Holly - posted on 03/19/2011

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Jessica, I would say that the grabbing of a woman's breast is an immaturity thing, boundaries issue or a cry for that bond that the child misses. :( I have breastfed six children now (even as I type one is nursing lol).. and I have to say.. even though I am still VERY close and VERY bonded to my other five children the bond changes (in a not bad way.. it's just *different*) when you stop nursing. I would say that the child was weaned before he was ready and wants that bond and comfort back.. that or is just curious as they all turn at that age.. or one of the reasons above. It isn't a mental issue from being breastfed for too long.. if that was true then there are a LOT of folks out there with major mental issues because the median *worldwide* weaning age is between 2.4 and 7 :) That's a lot of messed up little kids running around in other countries... :) LOL :)

Naomi - posted on 03/19/2011

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i am bf my 7 month old and my 19 month old still because the benifits of breast milk doesn't just stop at an age i will continue to bf my youngest 2 untill they decide to wean themselves i think its between a mother and her child to decide when the time is right to wean

Holly - posted on 03/19/2011

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I just had a message from a mom in my inbox asking me to stop advocating to moms to breastfeed past a year. That only 5% of moms are breastfeeding at 18 months and 17% at six months.. so *I* am the minority and need to shut up... *sigh*.. I told her it would NEVER happen that I *shut up* and stop advocating and educating! :( Then had another message saying thank you for changing my profile pic because the old one had me breastfeeding in it and she didn't wish to see my breast.. this was from a MOTHER.. how incredibly sad huh?

Nikki - posted on 03/17/2011

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I am a breastfeeding mum to a 19 month old, we both really enjoy the experience and hope to continue until she decides she wants to stop. It certainly wasn't easy at the beginning but once we got settled it has been one of the most rewarding experiences.

Emily - posted on 03/15/2011

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I breastfed my fist born until he was 17 months. He quit by himself. It was made easier by the fact that he would take a bottle and he wanted a bottle before bed until he was 2 1/2. But he had to have a bottle because I went back to work part-time when he was 5 months old.

I am having difficulty with my second child now. She is 31 months old and still wants to feed. She never had a bottle. We tried to encourage it, but as I did not go back to work, it wasn't has urgent. She just refused. Therefore, I am still her comfort, her dummy so to speak. I don't mind, but part of me feels a bit uneasy and wonders when it will end. My husband wants me to wean her off the breast and our family agrees. They aren't the ones that have to deal with her every day though. I'm not sure what to do.

Alisha - posted on 03/15/2011

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I have a son who is 7 months old and won't even drink formla. The only thing I can get him to drink out of a bottle is water.

Melissa - posted on 03/14/2011

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i stopped nursing when my daughter turned 2. it was hard on us both. but made the right choice. i was blessed to do it for so long!

Carol - posted on 03/02/2011

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My husband went to his mom, who I swear should start a new/ already a mom support system in our county. He asked her if i should stop breastfeeding our duaghter by 8 months, she told him no, because the longer i do it the more healthy our daughter will be, he thought he was going to win.

Susan - posted on 02/24/2011

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My Mother-In-law and Hubby's cousin harrassed me about breastfeeding as soon as he was a few weeks old, and never let up for years until he had stopped! I got so fed up, when he was 2 and they asked yet again "When are you going to stop breastfeeding?" I matter-of-fact blurted out "Before he starts High School" My Dad cracked up!! My husband didn't think it was funny, because he was getting grief from his family, but I told him it was none of their business. They are hundreds of miles away, and it doesn't affect them, so they need to stop asking. (they always will find something to harrass me about, if not this, something else)

I went back to work after a year, then pumped for another year, then nursed just mornings, nights and weekends until he was 3 changed to bedtime and when he needed comforting. He finally stopped asking at 4.
I am glad to see other mothers nursing for a long time too, since I didn't have a network of nursing mothers around as support, I felt so alone!
I usually nursed him at home or in the bathroom of a public place because so many people would stare.
BF Moms, be encouraged and don't let the naysayers get between you and your baby!

Kelley - posted on 02/18/2011

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Great information! Makes me more determined to keep going with my daughter until SHE is ready to quit

Jessica - posted on 02/18/2011

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I do want to say I am a breastfeeding mom or at least was, I weened my son off at 1year+15days old. so two months ago. I miss the bonding in it but he weened very well. Though he still wants to knead them while falling asleep, I'll have to ween him from that also I think.

I changed him to Toddler formula once a day. Now he has vitamins prescribed to him so no more formula but he is still getting nutrients.

Jessica - posted on 02/18/2011

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I know a child that breastfed for 2 and a half years and he is 5 now and grabs women's boobs intentionally al the time thinking it's alright. It might be helpful vitamin wise but what about mentally??

Alexandria - posted on 02/18/2011

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my lo is 19 months and still nursing and we love it im so glad we are so close and the bonding is the best

Angela - posted on 02/14/2011

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Wow i am so pleased to read your post as am a huge believer in breastfeeding and have fed my 2 children to the age of 3 yrs. They both self weaned and are very happy confident children something many told me they would not be. Feeding my boys has been the most amazing experience i have ever had and what is wonderful is that even my 9 yr old remembers feeding with fond memories of snuggling up on what we called the big chair. Reading positive things about breastfeeding always brings a tear to my eye as if people get all the right info to make an informed choice i strongly believe many more Mums would do it for longer. x

Lori - posted on 02/12/2011

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With my first daughter I read up some on benefits of BF and knew I wanted to BF for 1 year. When she turned 1 I was almost in tears at the idea that it was time to wean her. My wonderful husband made the brilliant comment that just cause she had a birthday doesn't mean we have to stop BF TODAY. I nursed her until she was 23 months. I now have a 2 month old baby and I intend to nurse her past her first birthday as well.

It is harder when others start asking "well how long do you plan to continue nursing?" and the other moms I know that did nurse quit after 6 weeks. But I know I'm doing what's right for my child. And it's not just coincidence that my child is hardly ever sick while others have constant ear infections and colds.

Mandie - posted on 02/09/2011

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it really is fantastic to have a group that supports breastfeeding. i am lucky enough to have a husband that supports my need/desire to breastfeed my son until he weans himself. he is my fourth child, and for various reasons, all of my other children weaned before 12mos, and i am thrilled that he has continued to 15mos and shows no sign of stopping. because of his "social nursing" and people's general opinion of eww gross, we stay at home most of the time. i would love to see a revolution of breastfeeding. open the eyes of the public, remind them that we are not weird for providing what was intended for our children. why are WE strange, and not the people that seek synthetic bottles created to mimic breasts and lab-created milk?

Suri - posted on 02/08/2011

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Hi, I am new to this group. My name is Suri, I have three boys, almost 5, 3, and 1 (just last week!). I nursed my two older boys until they were 15 months old, they stopped on their own; I taught them the sign for "milk", so after 12 months I stopped offering and only nursed when they asked for it; it made stopping very easy because I knew they were ready! I am still nursing my 1 year old and have already started incorporating the same strategy (he only asked for it twice today).

Emily - posted on 02/07/2011

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Also I watched a fascinating documentary called "Amazing Breastfeeders" last year. It said that the average age for weaning off the breast is 21/2 in affluent Western cultures, but that in most other cultures it happens around age 5! It also featured a mother who was still feeding her younger daughter at the age of 8! It would seem that it is possible to feed your child until 9 or so, when they lose the ability to suckle. Some might think that is a little weird, which I expected to feel too, but on seeing her feeding it actually looked really sweet. Don't let anyone bug you about feeding for as long as it works for you both. I believe that children get an enormous amount of comfort from breastfeeding, as well as its nutritional benefits. According to the ABA, if you feed for a total of 3 years, you have 100% protection against breast cancer.

Emily - posted on 02/07/2011

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I am still breastfeeding my son Samuel, who is 18 months. He has my milk every morning when he wakes up. I think it has made him a happier baby and toddler as he starts the day with something so peaceful and relaxing. It's also the only way I get to cuddle him now that he's so active!

Ali - posted on 02/04/2011

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this just gives me one more reason to keep nursing my daughter thanks for posting this!

Chani - posted on 02/02/2011

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Kem: I'm glad you found support from us :)
Alicia: I too had BF jaundice with our little man, but was told to continue nursing as well. It didn't last too long. A mistake I did was to call the health link hotline, they made me so worried! But ten months or three, you did an awesome job with your little ones.