Breastfeeding...at 8.

Laura - posted on 01/05/2009 ( 74 moms have responded )

8

0

0

I'm sure this will inspire some spirited discussion. :)

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Melissa - posted on 01/06/2009

272

42

24

I watched the 20/20 special also and listened to the mother discuss her reasons for breastfeeding her child at the advanced age. She did not list nutrition as her reason, but comfort. Breastfeeding an infant has the dual purpose of nutrition and comfort as the infant adjusts itselfs to being outside the mothers womb. Doctor's do not feel that a school age child needs breastmilk for nutritional reasons as their stomachs are able to support solid foods and digest cow's milk like adults and older children. I do not agree with giving breasts or pacifiers for that matter to school age children in order to soothe them when they are distressed. In order to learn to function in society people must learn to find comfort from within themselves and how to have self control. Many adults need a mechanism such as cigarettes or alcohol to help soothe them perhaps because they did not learn to soothe themselves when they were younger and therefore need some type of crutch. Children need to be taught by practice and example how to handle their emotions. I think as a Mother hugs, kisses and words of encouragement are appropriate. Also knowing when to step back and let a child cry a little or be angry and learn to how deal with those feelings and then discuss them is also appropriate. Offering them a breast to provide a security blanket is crippling them in my opinion of the opportunity to grow into independent beings. It is hard to watch someone you love cry but it is for his or her own good that they learn to deal with these emotions. This is what I would say to the woman on 20/20. You did not list your reasons for breastfeeding at 8 or indeed if you are or just bringing up a topic for discussion. I will also say that while extended breastfeeding is common in other societies we must deal with the reality of our society in which breasts have a very sexual connotation and that we might confuse older children by continuing this practice once they are aware of it which thanks to tv, the internet, print media and billboards does not take long.

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

74 Comments

View replies by

Heather - posted on 06/10/2013

14

0

0

This is unacceptable. This is way too old to have your kid sucking on your tits. I believe in breastfeeding until it is no longer beneficial but I think the cut off is about 1 or 1-1/2. I understand in less fortunate countries where indiginous tribes breastfeed well into childhood to supplement nutrition but that's not the case here. These girls are making idols of their mother's breasts. Drawing pictures, fondling them, talking to them. What happens when these girls reach high school and discover that their breasts can be erogenous zones, but they still have clear memories of the feel, taste, etc of breastfeeding. That could really damage them. There is a reason children don't develop long term memories til about two or three. This comes down to the mother not being able to let go. There is just a point when you have to say NO.

Laura - posted on 05/29/2012

201

69

2

wow! I must be frank! this is really an ugly PERSPECTIVE,,,,,you have not ,it seems,experience in a nude family...weird, putting sexual connotations on the body.and seeing sexual thoughts everywhere...{.see the Teaching of Pure mind}.. let the poor little kids be normal,,,.you seem to have unfounded fears ...time to do a laundry job on your mind?.. maybe .time to start the healing process........i feel for you and your kids...please heal

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2010

152

67

5

my kids, by the way, are NOT insecure. They don't have social problems, developmental problems, or any trouble bonding. They and I are very close, and have never expressed any feelings of neglect.

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2010

152

67

5

Wow, what an incredibly wide range of responses here! Reading some of these, I began to wonder why some people, and I'm not talking about any of these responders, perse, feel the need to defend ANYTHING that is different. It seems that it somehow makes people feel better if they do something or support something extreme. As if being accepting of or practicing a unique, controversial lifestyle makes someone better or more well-adjusted.

The responses of, "Its not my kid, let her do what she wants..." surprise me. If you saw a mother beating her kid at the park, you would stop her! If you heard a parent berating a child, you would say something! I hope so, anyway!

I am a bf mother, and have three wonderful children, ages 3months, 21 months, and three years. I did not nurse my oldest past 10 months, due to their self-weaning. (I was one month into pregnancy when each weaned, and believe that the hormones must have affected the taste or flow of the milk) I hope to nurse my daughter longer, but I will NOT push her into breastfeeding longer to make ME feel better.

Studies DO show that children, especially boys, who regularly see their mother naked after age 3 can begin to develop early sexual feelings. this includes breastfeeding! Children who experience prolonged breastfeeding also tend to view their mothers, and often women in general, as mere objects who provide, not as people. Yes, it is our responsibility to provide comfort, as well as nutrition to our children. BUT it is also our responsibility to encourage independance and personal growth in our children. If your daughter were to carry around a ratty blanket or suck her thumb as she neared school age, you would encourage her to give it up? so why is it okay to encourage an older child to comfort from the breast? Privacy and modesty, too, are important values to teach our children. If its okay to see, touch, and suck mommy's breast, why can't i do the same to other women? And as they get older, why isn't it okay for others to do the same to me? And I know that girl said no, but If she loved me....Say what you will, It IS potentially damaging, and If its true that, as adults, you couldn't tell who was long-term breastfed and who wasn't, then why risk damaging a child?

And if it can potentially raise a child's IQ by a few points...honestly, does it matter? It seems to me that no one is okay with "normal" anymore. Our kids have to be better, better, best! I, personally, will be proud of my kids regardless of how smart they turn out to be. And I'm not going to drive myself crazy trying to figure out how to make them smarter, faster, stronger...

okay, I'll get off my soapbox.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,311824,00.html

Lyssa - posted on 01/05/2010

84

12

14

omg i completly disagree with this! I agree that we as parents cause our children to go to therapy and these children I feel horrible for. As a breastfeeding mother myself I find this very disturbing and would never do something like that to my son.

Rebecca - posted on 11/14/2009

71

11

5

wow...i have an 8 year old daughter..and she watched this..she asked why would her mom do that, I asked her what she thought and she said because she thinks the mom doesn't want the girls to grow up. She wanted to know if they had friends over to spend the night, and did they get made fun of from other kids. Then she gave me a kiss and told me she was happy that I didn't make her do that. lol..I just couldn't imagine..to each their own..but that just doesn't look normal..

Tangeria - posted on 08/30/2009

8

17

0

The following comments are personal opinion so please don't get offended.



8 years-old is too old to continue breastfeeding. There is no nutritional value to the child at that age. I understand the relation of psychological damage to extended breastfeeding to that age. thinking back to Freud's Oral Stage. I believe that if the children are old enough to understand and conversate to other children about bfeeding then there will be ridicule.



However, I support bfeeding 100%. I think back to a discussion I heard how humans are the only animals that do not use their own breastmilk to feed their children. Anyways. It does sadden me to say however that all moms are not allowed to breastfeed. I have a friend who recently told me that her dr said that her breastmilk was too acidic and was giving her son a rash. Poor baby.

Amber Kate - posted on 06/26/2009

2

6

0

I breast feed all three of my kids till they weaned them selfs at 18months, 8months and 12 months old but 8years old Yuk. Sorry but thats just how i feel!

Michelle - posted on 05/15/2009

71

25

6

Ok would all the mums here think it was still normal for these girls to be feeding if they still havent self weaned by 11....when there in secondry school. Im all up for breast feeding as a am still feeding my son who 12 months.......but is there any need for these girls to still be feeding as there is little if any nutritional benifit....it a comfort thing...would you still give your child a dummy at 8...? I very much doubt it.

Jennifer - posted on 05/14/2009

81

53

8

i think this lady is desperatly afraid of her children growing up. "big bad world" she says, "safe haven like mommy's breast"....hmmmm, a little sheltered i would think. She says they think they own her breasts. Who rules the roost here? I think its a contol thing, going both ways.

Louise - posted on 04/20/2009

46

11

3

I have 4 children and i breastfed 3 out of 4...i am still curently feeding my daughter who is just over 2.....i have a 8 year old who comes home after school and says she spoke to a boy today and he was cute ! now lets face it things can and might start happening around this age when girls recongnize boys ! they certainly shouldnt be sucking on mummys booby...whilst they are telling mummy that their friend told them that this boy likes me in class....mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm to weird for me !

Cynthia - posted on 04/06/2009

5

7

0

i breastfed all of my 7 chikdren-including twins. but i felt that 2-3 yrs.old was long enough and they were all ready by that time to move on...

Cynthia - posted on 04/06/2009

5

7

0

Quoting Laura:

Breastfeeding...at 8.

I'm sure this will inspire some spirited discussion. :)


 

Bonnie - posted on 03/22/2009

4

0

0

Clearly this is a radical practice that most of us feel uncomfortable with. However, I feel compelled to say that it is clear that she loves her children greatly and given there are so many incidences of violence against children in this world I think criticizing her seems trifling. Her children are and will be just fine. Let's put our energy behind helping children who are seriously in need.

Kendra - posted on 02/23/2009

7

44

0

Wow, this video was scary for me to say the least. My daughter is my 3rd baby and also still breast feeding at 3 and a half! So I do not want to be this mom! My mother thinks I'm crazy and she thinks it's disgusting that my daughter who is potty traine and speaks so intelligently and has a mouth full of teeth is still nursing. I have to admit that I'm torn. I am tired, I have contemplated putting hot sauce on my nipples to make her quit! I know mean mommy right! But on the other hand, like the mom in the video, I know my daughter does it solely for comfort. She likes it and uses me to go to sleep. I also know that breast milk is the best way to go. It's so good for your child. As for this 8 year old, I think it's not good b/c she needs, to not be so attached. I mean what is this going to do for her future. I just don't know. My mother also said that my daughter might grow up to prefer women over men b/c she breast fed so long. I dont' see that and I really hope that's not true. But looking at these girls at 8 yrs old! It crosses your mind and That's scary! and of course I don't mean to offend anyone. That's just me.

Danielle - posted on 02/22/2009

18

25

3

YEAH I HAVE SEEN THIS VIDEO BEFORE AND I AM PRETTY MUCH SCARRED... THOSE GIRLS ARE OBVIOUSY COO COO.... WHY WOULD THEY DRAW THEIR MOMS BOOBS ALL THE TIME ? GET MAD WHEN SHE PUTS ON A BRA? AND SAY BREAST MILK IS THEY BEST IN THE WORLD. UMMM WHEN MY MOM TOLD ME AROUND THE AGE OF 8 THAT SHE BREAST FED ME AS AN INFANT IT MADE ME KINDA SQUEEMISH, I MEAN COME ON THATS A BREAST, IN YOUR MOUTH LOL ... AND I WAS A GIRL SO IT JUST SEEMED GROSS.
BUT THESE GIRLS ARE GOING TO REMEMBER THIS FOREVER AND PLUS EVERYWHERE THEY GO THEY WILL BE RECOGNIZED AS THE WIERD KIDS FROM THE BREASTFEEDING AT 8 VIDEO

[deleted account]

I forgot to mention one other thing. With the touching, stroking and attachment of breasts, I kind of see this as normal when I think back to my daughter the other day. I tried to bf her as a prem-baby and had a hard time and stopped expressing after 4weeks. Now at the age of 4 and a half, she likes to look up at me and reaches up and my breasts are at that height, so she taps them. I tell her that it is inappropriate for her to do this in public.

[deleted account]

Wot's wrong with cuddling your child if they need comfort. Give them a warm cup of milk (expressed breast or cow's milk) while giving them a hug. My child sucked her thumb from 6mths and now at nearly 5yrs old only does it when she's tired. I sucked my thumb until about 11yrs old. I remember using it for comfort, when I was tired or for contemplation. I don't agree with pacifiers/dummies!

Clorisa - posted on 02/10/2009

1

8

0

If I relied on my sons to tell me when they were finished breastfeeding, I'd be in real trouble! You can't let an addict decide when it's time to stop! This has my weird-o-meter firing away. When you're child can describe in eloquent detail how your breast milk tastes, it's time to button up the girls for good.

Emily - posted on 02/10/2009

257

10

20

I completely understand that this wouldn't be everyone's choice and I don't think that it would be mine (my son's only 7mos) but I wonder what the downside is, objectively.  Are we concerned that these girls wont grow up understanding that breasts are really for selling beer or that they wont understand that breasts only have value when they're perky and clothed in lycra?!  Certainly the teasing would be an issue but I would imagine that children who were bothered by that would stop bf on their own! 

Kerstin - posted on 01/28/2009

26

37

0

I personally breastfed my first until he gave it up at 18 months (I cried), and I nurse publicly. I'm far from prudish. My mom was very all-natural, even taking me to the nude hot springs as a baby. I have no problem with breasts, breastfeeding, extended breastfeeding, etc. I do think we need to reclaim breasts in our society and put back on them the meaning they originally had--for nurturing and comforting our offspring.

However....

in the specific case of the girls in this video, I believe the breasts have become an obsession or a fetish. I f they can't get through their morning ritual without the girls being distracted by and fixating on their mothers breasts this does not seem "natural." In nature this would probably trip a mother up and make her less effective at survival, imho. I also don't think it's OK that they think of their mother's breasts as something that belong to them. Imagine if her husband said this. We should not teach children such disrespect for the bodies of others. The breasts are the mothers, but have become such an obsession that the girls have taken ownership--that is not "natural." And some of our basic instincts must be altered if we are to function in society. To say that we should let things just be and let nature take its course seems wrong here. Would you say the same thing about war/violence? It is in human nature to have physical conflict. Would the same "let it be" people also say to these same girls that it was OK to attack each other if they felt jealous, because it is simply "nature taking its course"??? We are here to teach our children boundaries and what is appropriate and what is not. I'm not saying that all 8 year olds who breastfeed are inappropriate--I don't know if that's true. What I'm saying is that, in THIS PARTICULAR CASE, the girls seem obsessed and entitled about their mothers breasts to an unhealthy point.

Krista - posted on 01/28/2009

5

32

1

Quoting Terese:



I'm sorry but these drawings are normal...  My nieces constantly drew pictures of ladies with breasts and nursed their teddies because there were two of us women breastfeeding their babies in the household.  It is mere role modelling.  Perhaps if there was more of this there would be more breastfeeding mothers.. Teddies and dolls should be breastfed not bottlefed....






Hmm, I never thought about it that way, Terese. I can completely understand the mimicking breastfeeding with teddies and dolls, although so many people think that bottles are the norm. I just cannot fathom young girls drawing breasts. Maybe it is due to my Catholic upbringing...not sure.



My mother breastfed all four of her children, but my mother-in-law bottle fed all four of her children. She said that bottle feeding was more acceptable at the time in the NE US. Although she did not breastfeed, all of her daughter-in-laws have and she is very supportive and encouraging. In response to your comment, I agree that there should be more breastfed mothers and it should be encouraged. I nurse discreetly in public and I love it. Thanks for giving me something to think about, Terese!

Terese - posted on 01/28/2009

5

0

0

I'm sorry but these drawings are normal...  My nieces constantly drew pictures of ladies with breasts and nursed their teddies because there were two of us women breastfeeding their babies in the household.  It is mere role modelling.  Perhaps if there was more of this there would be more breastfeeding mothers.. Teddies and dolls should be breastfed not bottlefed....

Krista - posted on 01/28/2009

5

32

1

I came across this video by accident on You Tube a few weeks ago. I was very, very shocked, but realized the nursing continued because of all the support in the family that encouraged it. The most daunting thing to me was the conversations and activities surrounding the breast. The kids are drawing the breasts (with one always bigger than the other). WTF!?! If you ask me, there is a little too much attention drawn on the breasts here.



My personal preference it NOT to breastfeed that long. I am thinking at or under a year for my kids.

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2009

36

13

1

Quoting Carrie:



My sister and I just watched this video and neither of us can even think of words to describe it.  It is just baffling.  That the children draw pictures of the breast and rub and touch their mother's breast as she dresses makes it seem like they are attached to them for more reasons than just nutrition.  I mean, my son touches them now (at 4 months) as he nurses but I doubt he will stroke a banana at the age of eight.  There are so many other reasons this is disturbing.  How will these children learn to self-soothe?  Wow.  I agree with extended nursing and probably will my nurse my son till the age of 2 and would love for him to make the decision to wean himself; however if he didn't make that decision I hope I would consciously start to aid the process rather than encourage him to stay attached to my breasts. 






With all due respect, I know you are just stating your personal feelings on the topic, but I didn't gather that the mom was Encouraging her youngest daughter to nurse at all.  She merely stated when they wean and they are done with nursing they are done.  Some children wean early around a year of age and others it may mean more to them and take several years.   Like it or not all children eventually wean and most lose the abiltiy at around 7 or 8 even if they would like to continue nursing..  I guess mother nature says that the cut off is around that age and that is why they physically lose the ability to nurse.  I wish I could understand why people are so against nursing a child until the child is done and ready to wean on their own... It is such a self sacrifice from the mother to nurse her child for even a year I feel and more than that should be thought of as a truly great self sacrifice to allow her child to become much more secure and independent in the end.  I have read many posts that moms state they are concerned about the child not learning to self soothe.   I feel very strongly that children that are NOT ALLOWED TO WEAN NATURALLY are the ones that are more insecure and do not learn how to soothe themselves actually.  I know myself.  I didn't nurse after 10 months and I always carried around a teddy bear and all for several years even into my early teen years and was extremely clingy to my mom and dad, probably because I was pushed away from my mom and breastfeeding to early.  It is just the way things are. 



 



We as a modern society have gotten to far from how things used to be as a human mammal society.  I have to add that as I do feel that this lady allowing her 8 year old to nurse is rare, but who is to say that what she is doing is right and what most ppl do of not allowing their children to nurse for fear they might be perverted or be tooo clingy is wrong.   I have to add for everyones knowledge that it is known that this girl weaned shortly after airing of this tape only because mother nature took over and she naturally lost her ability to latch and nurse... Mother nature takes care of sooo much in life if you just let things be!

Carrie - posted on 01/28/2009

31

24

6

My sister and I just watched this video and neither of us can even think of words to describe it.  It is just baffling.  That the children draw pictures of the breast and rub and touch their mother's breast as she dresses makes it seem like they are attached to them for more reasons than just nutrition.  I mean, my son touches them now (at 4 months) as he nurses but I doubt he will stroke a banana at the age of eight.  There are so many other reasons this is disturbing.  How will these children learn to self-soothe?  Wow.  I agree with extended nursing and probably will my nurse my son till the age of 2 and would love for him to make the decision to wean himself; however if he didn't make that decision I hope I would consciously start to aid the process rather than encourage him to stay attached to my breasts. 

Lidia - posted on 01/23/2009

45

25

4

Quoting Jacquie:



Quoting Anna:




I have to agree with Amanda about the negativity.  One thing I have learned since having my baby 3 1/2 months ago is that no matter what anyone says, I have the human right to raise my child however I see fit.  I thought I would only breastfeed for a year, but I am reading now about the nutritional benefits of doing it for 18 months or 2 years.  I'm sure if I decide to go over a year I will be judged by strangers.  It took me a while to be comfortable enough to breastfeed in public because of my fear of others judging me, and that's just my decision to breastfeed at all!  I pass no judgement on a mother who believes this is what is best for her child.  What I think about what she decides is irrelevent. 










As a mother of 4 I have been breast feeding for years.....practically nonstop for 5 now! (my 2nd, 3rd, and 4th child are spaced 2yrs 3 months apart each).  I rarely have issues with breastfeeding in public.  However w/ my youngest son, I was nursing downtown on a bench w/ my other 3 children there with me and this woman comes up and starts telling me I am being indecent....very nasty about how the breast is sexual and that w/ a son who is school aged I shoudn't be doing that ect....man did it tick me off!  I was like HELLO!  There is NOTHING sexual about BFing.....it's very natural and loving....well she complained to the merchant inside and an employee came out as I was actually strapping the baby back in the stroller (I was finished) and had the gall to try to tell me it was illegal!  I knew she didn't have a clue what she was talking about, but when I got home, I had to search the Virginia statute on indecent exposure, and sure enough, there is a section SPECIFICALLY stating that a breastfeeding woman would NOT be found in violation of the statute for nursing.  I felt like printing it off and going back to the store.






Not only should you print if off and go back to the store- be sure to bring all your breastfeeding friends and nurse your babies outside the store.  People who are that ignorant should not be permitted to continue to live in ignorance.  They need to be told that their views are not the norm and that their "opinions" are not based on facts.  Good luck!

Kerstin - posted on 01/22/2009

26

37

0

Quoting Melissa:

I watched the 20/20 special also and listened to the mother discuss her reasons for breastfeeding her child at the advanced age. She did not list nutrition as her reason, but comfort. Breastfeeding an infant has the dual purpose of nutrition and comfort as the infant adjusts itselfs to being outside the mothers womb. Doctor's do not feel that a school age child needs breastmilk for nutritional reasons as their stomachs are able to support solid foods and digest cow's milk like adults and older children. I do not agree with giving breasts or pacifiers for that matter to school age children in order to soothe them when they are distressed. In order to learn to function in society people must learn to find comfort from within themselves and how to have self control. Many adults need a mechanism such as cigarettes or alcohol to help soothe them perhaps because they did not learn to soothe themselves when they were younger and therefore need some type of crutch. Children need to be taught by practice and example how to handle their emotions. I think as a Mother hugs, kisses and words of encouragement are appropriate. Also knowing when to step back and let a child cry a little or be angry and learn to how deal with those feelings and then discuss them is also appropriate. Offering them a breast to provide a security blanket is crippling them in my opinion of the opportunity to grow into independent beings. It is hard to watch someone you love cry but it is for his or her own good that they learn to deal with these emotions. This is what I would say to the woman on 20/20. You did not list your reasons for breastfeeding at 8 or indeed if you are or just bringing up a topic for discussion. I will also say that while extended breastfeeding is common in other societies we must deal with the reality of our society in which breasts have a very sexual connotation and that we might confuse older children by continuing this practice once they are aware of it which thanks to tv, the internet, print media and billboards does not take long.



You said everything almost as I would have said it.  The only difference for me is in your last comment.  Our society DOES see breasts as purely sexual, but I feel it is our job to reinvent the status quo, rather than reinforce it or bow to it.  We need to teach our children that the depictions on TV are not the only say in the matter.  I think it is REALLY healthy for older kids to grow up seeing mothers nurse.  It helps to reinforce the facts about breasts, and to reduce the image of women as purely objects of sexual desire--an image that is waaay too common in our culture.

Terese - posted on 01/21/2009

5

0

0

I have a friend who breastfed her children until they were seven.  They are not psychologically damaged but normal functioning human beings. Oh and they are the top of their class at school....  



Jennifer I feel sad that you husband's mother was told she was unable to breastfeed.  It is unfortunate that a lot of women were given the wrong advice and therefore unable to 'trust' their bodies inate power to produce milk.  It is quite rare that women can physically be unable to breastfeed their babies.  But quite common that they don't know how or are too stressed over this doing this natural act.  Women quite often lack support and it is because breastfeeding is not seen due to high number of formula fed babies.  Sounds like she did a good job of raising your husband despite being unable to breastfeed :)

[deleted account]

Quoting Jennifer:

If anyone has any real scientific evidence to back up the notion that BF children leads to psychological damage then please could you post it. Many thanks.


I don't think anyone is saying that BFing your child, in general, leads to psychological damage.



 



In any case, to each her own. There are so many things that we can judge each other on, as mothers. For every finger you point at another mother, there are 4 pointing back at you.

[deleted account]

Quoting Jennifer:

If anyone has any real scientific evidence to back up the notion that BF children leads to psychological damage then please could you post it. Many thanks.


I don't think anyone is saying that BFing your child, in general, leads to psychological damage.



 



In any case, to each her own. There are so many things that we can judge each other on, as mothers. For every finger you point at another mother, there are 4 pointing back at you.

Jennifer - posted on 01/17/2009

1

0

0

If anyone has any real scientific evidence to back up the notion that BF children leads to psychological damage then please could you post it. Many thanks.



P.s. how many children and ADULTS did you see drinking calfs milk today?

Jackie - posted on 01/17/2009

15

11

0

Say when that girl becomes a teen in high school and somebody sees that video and everybody makes fun of them now they deal with all sorts of issues, you dont think that is psychlogically damaging? Have you not seen the news where kids are suicidal because they are made fun of?? It's a fact of life that people are mean I didn't make the world this way, this is just a fact of life, "REAL" life. And just because a kid is weaned doesnt mean they end up fat couch potatoes! My husband wasnt ever breastfed because his Mom's occupation was a professional ballet dancer and was told she could not breastfeed and you know what, he scored almost a perfect SAT score, went to one of the best colleges in Texas and joined the Military.

Terese - posted on 01/16/2009

5

0

0

'psychologically damaging'??? Anthropology studies state that children were weaned between 3 and 7 years.  I'm sure they weren't psychologically affected from this.  In fact most likely normal adjusted healthy children, unlike those of today who are formula fed, controlled cried out, fed junk food and raised on television and video games and far removed from their 'natural' environment.  You tell me whose' psychologically damaged...

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2009

36

13

1

Quoting Jackie:

I think a child breastfed at 8 years old will suffer from psychological problems not to mention harassment from other kids when they get older and happen to find out. I understand that some third-world countries do this, but it is accepted as the norm in their villages but here in the USA it is not, so for the child's sake 8 is overkill!



Jackie, I found it hard to believe that other children would that easily find out about a child nursing at this age because most ppl that breastfeed older children it is not all the time, but maybe in other countries like you said they do!  Either way, it only goes to show that kids or adults alike are ignorant and intolerant of others that do things differently.  If you did actually watch the video, the mom said as most educated ppl know that kids do not nurse forever, even if the child expresses that they would like to.  It is just nature, it  doesn't happen!  I do not believe that it damages a child psychologically and I would have to see proof if it does.  Maybe they will air a documentary in a few years when Eliza is all grown up and then we will see if she is mentally disturbed or a sexual perv. and we will know that breastfeeding till 8 years old is bad.  Until then, why are we passing judgement and saying that ppl are mentally off for breastfeeding for a long period of time.  Every mother does what is best or thinks best for her child..... If you don't want your own mothering style judged from other moms you don't even know why would you do this to this woman!?? 



All I am saying is that you can say that this isn't for you to do in your life, but to say that is causes psychological problems is just wrong when who are you?  Have you done studies about this and have outcomes for these kids that have nursed this long and how they turn out as adults????

Jackie - posted on 01/16/2009

15

11

0

I think a child breastfed at 8 years old will suffer from psychological problems not to mention harassment from other kids when they get older and happen to find out. I understand that some third-world countries do this, but it is accepted as the norm in their villages but here in the USA it is not, so for the child's sake 8 is overkill!

[deleted account]

I went to a La Leche meeting when I was pregnant and saw a 1 year old nursing and was a little weirded by it since I had never really seen nursing babies before. Now my son is 1, and I don't plan to wean any time soon. So, as others have said, now that I have a child, I am finding myself to be less judgemental of other mothers' choices.

that being said, I personally thought the 8 year old made me uncomfortable... the 5 yr old was kind of even making me a bit uncomfortable (my issue - nothing against the mothers).

Nicole - I love the Sushi Den! I used to live in Denver and miss it.

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2009

36

13

1

How can any breastfeeding mom make a negative comment when they might not have breastfeed even a toddler let alone an older child? My motto, don't knock it until you have even began to breastfeed a child over 18 months. One of my very good friends was breastfed until she was 6 and she is the most well adjusted, gracious, independent non perverted person you could ever meet. A child is a child and will wean when they are ready which is natural if allowed to do so!!! I feel that it does a child MORE DAMAGE if they are cut off too soon or early from nursing. A lot of children that I have seen weaned to early are very needy and clingy, I have not noted this behavior in children that have been allowed to self wean!!!!!!!!

Justine - posted on 01/14/2009

33

20

2

Before i was a bfeeding mom myself, i think i would have viewed this much differently, been much more judgemental. Now that i know how wonderful/loving it is, i can't be as harsh. I still don't think i could/would bfeed for that long - but, then again, i never thought i'd bfeed past a year and now i intend to. I know that many people will judge me for that and it makes me sad. So i wouldn't want to do the same to any other mother.

Jacquie - posted on 01/14/2009

8

26

2

Quoting Mary:



Well, I have to say that I think that self-weaning if a beautiful and natural way to break baby of the breast. We won't be practicing self-weaning because our society is so obsessed with the breast sexually, and I don't want him to be able to remember being breastfed, that could do some serious damage to a kid. I will probably pump and give it to him in a cup. My concern is not that the child has not weaned yet, but is that they have named them and that they draw pictures of them. This indicates that the mom is encouraging them not to wean, and to think of them as more than a source of milk, which what they are. They are drinking breastmilk instead of cow's milk.





I'd have to disagree about the naming thing.  We refer to them as Chi Chi's, and my sister's kids refer to them as num nums (Yum yum).....and since we nurse til 18-24 months they are able to ask for it by name.  My almost 3 y/o is still occassionally infatuated w/ them...he'll ask for them, but if I pretend to let him have it he'll just put his mouth on it for a second and look at me and laugh.  At this point for him I think its a reassurance that it's still there (especially w/ baby brother nursing now). 



Though if he were to really try to nurse I would pull it from him. 

Jacquie - posted on 01/14/2009

8

26

2

Quoting Anna:



I have to agree with Amanda about the negativity.  One thing I have learned since having my baby 3 1/2 months ago is that no matter what anyone says, I have the human right to raise my child however I see fit.  I thought I would only breastfeed for a year, but I am reading now about the nutritional benefits of doing it for 18 months or 2 years.  I'm sure if I decide to go over a year I will be judged by strangers.  It took me a while to be comfortable enough to breastfeed in public because of my fear of others judging me, and that's just my decision to breastfeed at all!  I pass no judgement on a mother who believes this is what is best for her child.  What I think about what she decides is irrelevent. 






As a mother of 4 I have been breast feeding for years.....practically nonstop for 5 now! (my 2nd, 3rd, and 4th child are spaced 2yrs 3 months apart each).  I rarely have issues with breastfeeding in public.  However w/ my youngest son, I was nursing downtown on a bench w/ my other 3 children there with me and this woman comes up and starts telling me I am being indecent....very nasty about how the breast is sexual and that w/ a son who is school aged I shoudn't be doing that ect....man did it tick me off!  I was like HELLO!  There is NOTHING sexual about BFing.....it's very natural and loving....well she complained to the merchant inside and an employee came out as I was actually strapping the baby back in the stroller (I was finished) and had the gall to try to tell me it was illegal!  I knew she didn't have a clue what she was talking about, but when I got home, I had to search the Virginia statute on indecent exposure, and sure enough, there is a section SPECIFICALLY stating that a breastfeeding woman would NOT be found in violation of the statute for nursing.  I felt like printing it off and going back to the store.

Jacquie - posted on 01/14/2009

8

26

2

Quoting Rachael:



I personally could not do this. I feel like if you want your child to get the nutrition and they are in school (kindergarten +) PUMP and give it to them in a cup. This is just my personal opinion and I did watch 20/20 and to be honest it disturbed me a little to see such an old kid coming up to the mom to breastfeed. I also noticed that the children seemed immiture for their age and used "baby" talk a lot....don't know if this is related to not having independence from mom by being weened or not, just an observation??? That whole show was disturbing to me from having an orgasm when you give birth to your child to breastfeeding at 8...and I think of myself as being open minded. 






I saw this a few months ago.  I couldn't do it that's for sure!  My babies are usually weened around 2.  But I would say that after the first year children are getting the majority of their nutrition and caloric intake from solid foods (at least in non 3rd world countries), and the primary reason to breastfeed after that is for comfort to the child.....so serving in a cup would defeat that purpose.

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms