Breastfeeding Baby Doll

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I was just wondering if anyone has heard of this baby doll sold in Spain. It has apparently caused a great debate here in America. It's a baby doll that comes with a halter top. The girl puts on the halter top and then holds the doll up to it and the doll makes sucking sounds and moves it's mouth a little as if the baby was breastfeeding. People are saying that it's too sexual, but I think the point was to show that breasts are not supposed to be sexual, they are used to feed your baby. What's your opinion on this baby doll? Here is a link that show's a demonstration on the doll:

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/blogs/sfmo...

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Minnie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Eeeyup. I got chewed out in the debating mums forum for not having an issue with the doll. Lol.

I DON'T see what the big stink is. Seriously. The purpose of childhood is not to walk around with one's head in the clouds and be clueless. Childhood is for observing adults and practicing what they do.

Breastfeeding is not sexual. Breasts are not inherently sexual- they have been made that way by western culture. There is nothing wrong with a girl pretend breastfeeding a baby doll. It doesn't lead to 'early adultification' of children.

What's sad is that in our culture, girls don't see breastfeeding enough because women either don't breastfeed (the majority) and the rest either hide at home to nurse and bring a silly bottle to feed their babies in public, or they cover up with a cloth. Then these girls get a huge reality check when they go to have babies of their own and are clueless how to breastfeed. THAT is why we get "my milk dried up," "I didn't make enough/any milk," "my baby didn't want to nurse." "It hurt too much," "he wasn't ever satisfied."

Because girls don't have any experience of it.

There is nothing wrong with the doll. If the baby looks creepy, great. If you hate plastic, fine. But don't freak out simply because it involves a girl putting a doll to her 'breast' and acting out breastfeeding.

I think we should do away with baby dolls that come with bottles, personally.

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I think its perfectly normal and healthy.Not sexual in any way.Even without the halter, i have seen my niece who was b/f for 2 and a half years but her dolls to her chest.A bottle fed child like my two girls will put an object to there dolls mouth like shes feeding them there bottle of milk.So i buy them bottles for there baby dolls etc

.Its natural for my children to bottle feed there baby dolls, so for many b/f children this toy would be natural for them.However i feel there is no need for the halter tops.Again i don't have any problem if children were to use the halter tops.They will naturally do whats normal and how they were fed, without having to buy this b/f doll.They will do it with there dolls at home.So you save money there lol.

Kathy - posted on 08/14/2009

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I agree with so many of the other moms here. I am BFing my fourth child and all the older ones have seen me breast feed around the house, in the car, in the backyard, etc. I have seen my girls BF their baby dolls. My daughters also give their "babies" bottles. It is natural to pretend following real life examples around them. That's how kids learn. I don't know about buying a doll that has to make the sounds or to wear a special shirt to BF the doll, but I guess that would be up to the mother shelling out the money to pay for the doll.

Rebecca - posted on 08/14/2009

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Quoting Sara:

I'm not sure why I am a little creaped out, but I am. I breastfet both my kids, and my daughter also played with her dolls and "breastfed" them. I think maybe it's the idea of the sucking sound when she puts it up to the flowers.
Again, intellectually, I feel like I should be ok with the doll...but realistically it weirds me out a bit.


I agree, I'm currently breastfeeding as well and still I am little creeped out by the doll too. Having said that, I believe that if a person wants to buy such a thing for their child, they should be able to. I wouldn't, but then I am old-fashioned - I grew up with baby dolls that do nothing we had to use our imaginations that the baby was crying/hungry/sucking/ehatever and I will be raising my daughter the same way.

Ashley - posted on 08/14/2009

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i think it is a little crazy!!!! but i dont see anythink wrong with a child pretending to breastfeed there dolls i just dont think they need the little halter tops to do so. i come from a family with seven girls i remember my mom breastfeeding one day with her boppy and then my little sis going and getting the other one to for her to breastfeed her doll. its so much better then them using a bottle thinking breastfeeding is wrong.

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Quoting Alicia:

Although I don't find anything wrong with the doll or the concept of the doll, I don't understand why they need a special doll that makes sucking noises. I did find it comical that the little girl in the video has to put on a shirt to feed her baby. I think the controversy re: this toy is silly. I don't find it any different than playing dress-up or make believe. What I do find offensive is the people who say breastfeeding should be hidden or is sexual. IMHO I think bottle feeding is offensive and formula should only be available with a doctors prescription - like a drug.


I totally agree with you Alicia!



We don't need fancy toys, where does imagination come into it? Can't a little girl be a ballerina without a tutu? I think a big movement for breastfeeding itself would be to ban the bottle from dolls and to get rid of those silly weeing/pooping dolls. We once imagined as kids, 'ooh but you have a poopy nappy Betsy' without expensive fake poop and disposable nappies.. I didn't even know about bfing when I was a kid, the bottle was what came with the doll and I was shown roughly how to feed the doll (by my very anti-bfing aunt) which was 'normal' for her. I never tried to imagine breastfeeding until I was pregnant at 22 and was utterly shocked at how little I knew.



I wish we'd just accept and teach what has worked for millenia, not promote every 'scientific advance' as a truth. I wish people who had no medical reason would just own up to not wanting to breastfeed, which should be a choice, though the best choice for bubs is the breast.
For formula to be perscribed would be more reaslistic in my opinion, but firstly mums need more support to learn how to breastfeed and feel confident in doing so, feel that they are making enough and that it's good enough.



I think some mums feel inadequete 'not being able to bf' and so are very negative towards it or like me never really learned (until now!), so don't take it to heart.

Claire - posted on 08/14/2009

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i have 4 kids and the middle 2 have watched me breastfeed their younger siblings. they have also pretended to breastfeed their dolls by lifting their tops and placing the doll against their chest. they told me they were giving their babies milk, even though the dolls bottle was right next to them. i don't see the problem with a doll that allows children to do what comes naturally.

Kimberly - posted on 08/13/2009

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I don't see the big deal really. My daughter Navadia sits around "nursing" her baby dolls all the time now and sometimes will make them a bottle to feed them just like she sees her parents doing. It's all about practicing what they see and trying to be "grown up".

Katie - posted on 08/13/2009

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Okay so here is my thoughts on this, I have breastfed my children and my daughter has pretended to nurse her little baby dolls. I'm fine with this. However does the little apron that comes with this baby doll need to look like a play pasty. Take the baby doll out of this picture, Would your five year old want to wear the arpon to the store? I'm sure my daughter would want to. It would become a dress up item for many little girls. Strap on pasty i mean blossem top,lol. They could have had one solid print for the apron, little girls don't need huge blossems to figure out how to nurse, especially in a home where nursing goes on. As for people not knowing exactly how to nurse it's not easy and if it were more people would do it. Giving a child fake blossems and a sucking child won't make the adult experience any easier. Having a mother who nurses openly and talks with their children about how special nursing is will have a bigger impact.

Sharon - posted on 08/13/2009

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not seen anything about it here in the uk but my little girl pretends to bf her dolls anyway so really no problem with this doll. it's ok to sell bottle fed dolls so why not a bf doll.

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It is not sexual it is natural. I would rather my girl play with breast feeding baby than bratz baby

Annette - posted on 08/12/2009

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I think that's pretty neat. my friends who have older kids that see them nursing their new babies often pretend to nurse their babydolls. It's a great idea for encouraging an early mind set on the best way to feed a baby verses a bottle.

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Although I don't find anything wrong with the doll or the concept of the doll, I don't understand why they need a special doll that makes sucking noises. I did find it comical that the little girl in the video has to put on a shirt to feed her baby. I think the controversy re: this toy is silly. I don't find it any different than playing dress-up or make believe. What I do find offensive is the people who say breastfeeding should be hidden or is sexual. IMHO I think bottle feeding is offensive and formula should only be available with a doctors prescription - like a drug.

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Is this the doll w/ the attachment of fake 'nipples' for the child? I think it is absurd and a complete waste of money. And yes, I breastfed/feed... twins for 15 months and currently nursing my 16 month old son. When my girls were little they used to pretend to nurse their dolls all the time (their friends were getting baby brothers/sisters). That is cute and totally appropriate. No special doll or 'accessories' required.

Sara - posted on 08/12/2009

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I don't think thats sexual at all. I think she is just mimicking something that she sees in everyday life. Some people just take things wrong. Especially in America where BF is not the norm and people that BF in public are always given dirty looks and asked to stop or leave.

Stina - posted on 08/12/2009

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My 2 1/2 yo dd and my 4 1/2 yo ds pretend to nurse thier dolls and stuffed animals. I'm sure my girs would get a kick out of a doll that moved and sounded like a nurseing baby... but I don't see the need to spend the $$ on one since they're already "nursing" the dolls they have.



Breastfeeding is not sexual.

Sara - posted on 08/12/2009

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I'm not sure why I am a little creaped out, but I am. I breastfet both my kids, and my daughter also played with her dolls and "breastfed" them. I think maybe it's the idea of the sucking sound when she puts it up to the flowers.

Again, intellectually, I feel like I should be ok with the doll...but realistically it weirds me out a bit.

Minnie - posted on 08/12/2009

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My three year old today drew a picture of a momma breastfeeding her baby, and drew boobs on the picture. Hehee. Except the momma was a chicken. Hmmmm.

Bridget - posted on 08/12/2009

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I don't see a problem with it. When I had my second daughter, my 3 year old would walk around with a baby up her shirt. (this is not exactly the best thing when you are walking around the grocery store) I would have loved to have had this doll for her. I believe it would have helped her to feel closer to me, and might also help her to feel more comfortable with breastfeeding her own children (in about 30 years).

Kelly - posted on 08/12/2009

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I cant see a problem with it, my nephew used to put postman pat up his top when his sister was being nursed, I think its just as important for boys to be around breastfeeding women so they understand it to be the norm when they are older. I know that when i have my next child i will be feeding in front of my daughter so that again she sees this to be the norm, this new doll is just educating the next generation about feeding a baby, why should all dolls have a bottle? Bring this to Britain!!!

Kesha - posted on 08/11/2009

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I didnt have time to watch video... but i have 5 children and have breastfed them all. All of them have at one time or another 'fed' their or a babydoll...even my boys. I just laid down earlier tonight to nurse my 2 month old and not even a half hour later my 2 year old boy ( who is totally boyish) was laying in the same spot on his side with a babydoll.. i thought it was to funny... in other words they do it with or without encouragement.. i think Spain idea is harmless...

Adelia - posted on 08/11/2009

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Well if breastfeeding makes me an ape put me in the zoo! I breastfeed 5 of my 6 children and wish that I had the first. Totally agree with all of you!

Minnie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Well Amanda, didn't you know that we're 'civilized and advanced' now? Don't compare us superior humans to animals! LOL.

Totally agree with you.

Sabrina - posted on 08/11/2009

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After seeing how they created the doll and the way the top looks I say yes it should be here. I would most definately buy one for all of my girls. They already pretend to breast feed their babies. Maybe this would keep their tops down from now on. They will lift their shirt up and hold their doll to their little bumps and feed their babies. I think it is cute and educational at the same time. I'm sure its the formula feeding woman out there that are causing a stir about the whole thing. Its not like the top has a set of fake boobies attached to it. It just mimics what to do. Is there a way to order from spain?

Amanda - posted on 08/11/2009

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Seriously? "Breasts are not toys?" Give me a break, neither are bottles, they make baby dolls with bottles, neither are vaccume cleaners, my daughters favorite toy is a pretend vaccume, why? Because she wants to mimick her mommy thats why, are ovens toys? of course not but I have seen tons of toy manufacturers making tons of money on these play kitchen sets, why? because children want to mimick their parents.Good Lord. Mimiking adults is how children learn to be resonsible adults themselves [or not depending on the example that the adults they are mimicking set]

Good grief is right Lisa those women in the other forum have no idea what they are talking about.

The only way that young learn to be adults are to watch and mimick, that is how tiger cubs learn to fend for themselves, they "play hunt" they mimick what they have seen their mother do. If they did not have this play acting they would never learn how to hunt for themselves properly. the same with our children, that is why my son gets an allowance, he has to learn, to save, tithe and then spend.

I need to get off my soapbox, but this is just ridiculous.

Minnie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Sara, the response to my post in the debating mums forum was "Lisa, come on, seriously? We're not apes, and we're not bushpeople, we're advanced and civilized and things are different in our culture." And "breasts are not toys! Girls should not be doing this, what's next, play-acting having sex?"

Good grief.

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I agree. Someone asked me if I would let my daughter have one and I said yes, of course! Even without the doll I'm sure she will do what I did which was sit down beside my mom and pretend to breastfeed with a 'regular' doll while my mom was breastfeeding.





I'm wondering what the response would be in a non-breastfeeding moms forum...

Emily - posted on 08/11/2009

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I just dont see the connection to sexual. If they sell bottle feeding babies then why not bf babies. It's the same thing!

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Kudos Adelia...couldn't have said it better!!! Breastfeeding a doll isn't any different than bottlefeeding a doll; except for the fact that it is what mother nature intended. This SHOULD be available here. Our culture should embrace breastfeeding and definately encourage it. Our society/mass media, etc has sexualized everything, everywhere, and I see it targeted at young children, and I wonder why these parents choose to conform, follow blindly, and buy in!! We need to start nuturing our girls so they may see themselves as more than sex objects, and we need to teach our boys to appreciate, love, and respect women.

Adelia - posted on 08/10/2009

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Okay here is what I think. Showing a young girl how to breastfeed is considered to sexual, yet in the US our children are bombarded on a daily basis with sexually explicit material. This material ranges from clothing styles to advertisements, no one seems to voice an opininon loud enough to change these things however when it comes to the natural way of feeding a baby it is too sexual! I wish people would get their priorities straight, after all how do women think babies were feed before formula or bottles were invented and mass marketed. Is it the public that finds breastfeeding offensive or is it the formula companies? I wish that this doll was sold in the US, when I was breastfeeding my son, my older daughters used to pretend they were feeding their dolls.If I could have bought this doll for them I would have. Why is it wrong for little girls to mimick breastfeeding, but okay for them to wear clothes that show off their rear!

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