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Marie - posted on 05/02/2010

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At the point that a person is always concerned about what everyone else likes or wants, they have stopped being respectful - particularly to self. Just because I do not like low pants and short shorts does not mean nobody should be allowed to wear them. The only way everybody could feel decent is if everybody were only allowed to wear full bodysuits that were padded to hide body shape. I don't know about anybody else, but that sounds rather uncomfortable and unnecessary. I'll take seeing hairy ass cleavage over losing control over personal choice of clothing - and being able to breastfeed as my child needs it.

Len - posted on 05/13/2010

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Did anyone know there are 3.2 million bacteria per sq inch on a toilet? That's ALOT of germs!!!!!!! I think anyone who will nurses there baby in a restroom or who feels this is an ok place to nurse should be made to eat in public restroom stalls for a week, then ask them if it's ok to nurse in a bathroom. I LOVED the video. Also for the women who think that it's ok to nurse covered in public but not uncovered. Why does it matter??????? There breastfeeding and that's that!!!!!! I cover sometimes but other times my daughter will not allow it. When I'm not covered you don't see anything. I see more cleavage on women in tank tops and bikinis then I see with most nursing women. I don't want others to see my breast, but my babies have to eat. When my children (all 3) where little they where covered but as they got older they wanted to see what was going on while nursing, so I kept a blanket handy for when they let go but did not cover up. Would you like to eat in a hot tent in the mall??? Not me, I want to look around. I have only seen one woman actually "whip it out" in public and that I find offensive, but most women are modest. Any women who would show there breasts in front of my husband is looking for trouble but unfortunately that could happen whether she is BF or not, we have seen more breast in non BF mothers then ones that BF, so I think that's a moral standard to be argued about rather than a BF standard!!!!

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Yep, my main point is that women should not feel SCARED to breasfteed in public! I wish I felt as comfortable in public as I do at my breastfeeding support group. I think that women should feel comfortable to feed any where their baby needs to eat without feeling like someone, man or woman, is going to ask them to leave or be rude. It's ridiculous that feeding your child is so controversial.

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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I think most breastfeeding women have no desire to disrespect anyone. They just desire to feed their babies.

I don't understand how anyone could see a baby at it's mother's breast and find that in any way sexual, but then again, I can't see how anyone could look at toes and find that sexy! But, even as a modest woman, I will not wear a box or a garbage bag in some fear that some obscure part of my body will turn some man on. Just like I won't deny my baby his food because of the same fear.

I think it also shows my level of respect since I already mentioned that I cover, not for fear of turning some man on, but for fear that I will bother another WOMAN, but I kept the conversation going because I just think it's sad that I have to cover because we (women) can't support each other and our babies for fear that some men would see it as sexual.

Oh well....

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I don't think the word "judgmental" is being tossed around here. It's how some feel. I feel like as women we should encourage each other. I go to a breastfeeding support group and it's so wonderful there. Hardly anyone covers. We are all so comfortable because we know no one is going to give us dirty looks or tell us to cover. I've had so many conversations sitting right next to a mom and our babies would nurse and stop and look at each other. It's so cute. I've never liked my breasts. The only people who had seen them were my doctors and my husband. At this group I felt so comfortable and I loved it. If I saw another moms breasts it's not a big deal because we are there to *support* each other. Breasts are not there for sex. That's something that our society created. My husband doesn't think twice about seeing a woman breastfeed. In fact, he watched the breast crawl video with my because I want to do that with our next baby. I think words like "but i don't understand why pro-breastfeeding in public needs to be pro-flashing your boobies to the world." and "Heather, I might be in the minority too, bc it is annoying when I see women nursing and their baby unlatches and we see everything." are why we feel judged. And I cover most of the time! lol I just think that it's a woman's choice if she wants to cover or not.

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Brendalyn - posted on 05/17/2010

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LOL, wow i just did that this weekend, i was at a wedding and didnt want pple to freak out if i pulled my boob out, and my son has the tendacy to pull the blanket off his head and try tp sit up while nursing....i really dont care when or where i nurse b/c it makes him relax, but i just didnt want to ruin a friends wedding day..:-)

Stephanie - posted on 05/17/2010

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Great thinking! Makes people think! Do you really want children to eat in a public restroom? Or, better yet, think if we made any adult have to do that?

Amanda - posted on 05/11/2010

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For those of you arguing over being modest or not: shame on you! Instead of arguing, perhaps you should be more proactive in wanting to help other women feel they can nurse in public. Marisa, I sometimes go to my truck, depending on where I'm at and how much longer we will be. I was unsure of nursing in public in the beginning since my son was just getting used to it, but now I nurse in public without a problem. If it is very crowded, like a mall or a store I will be covered or have on a nursing shirt that allows me to be covered. If there are only a few people around, like at our riverwalk I will go without a cover. To each their own, I only hope that you will not feel the need to use a bathroom again. Ladies, this video is about our right to be able to nurse in public, to let our babies have the same rights everyone else does. http://www.ifbreastfeedingoffendsyou.org... http://i427.photobucket.com/albums/pp351...

Marisa - posted on 05/11/2010

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That's a great commercial to help bring some comfort to BF mommys like me. I always go to my car to BF. I have never had the guts to BF in a full on public place. I have only once BF in a bathroom stall. I felt so awkward and dirty. It was hard to relax and show my lil one it was okay.

Nicole - posted on 05/05/2010

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That really saddens me Tori!!! I am LDS and a lactivist, and that just makes me very upset! Deseret Industries will be getting some words from me and I will make it clear to them that I will no longer be spending any of my money on any of their products until they prove that they are more supportive of breastfeeding and working mothers. I thought Deseret was great. I guess you never know how great something is until you know their breastfeeding policies....

Tori - posted on 05/05/2010

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i love this comerical i wish it was directed towards a work based inviroment one thing that made me the angrest was the fact that back in december i worked for Deseret industries which is a LDS based second hand store. they made me go pump in the bathroom were one the outlet was on the other side of the sink on the other side of the stall and 2 there was no place for me to put anything down and feel i was giving my son a clean bottle.that and its really hard to pump when your listening to other people come in and out and flush the toilet YUCK! ultimitly it was one of the reasons i quit.

Nanette - posted on 05/05/2010

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Just so everyone knows. I would never go up to a woman nursing and tell her to go to the bathroom or to cover up!

I opt out of this convo now too!

Stephanie - posted on 05/03/2010

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LOVE IT!!!!!! I have fed my son just about everywhere we go with ni problems. Most of the time no one except for who I am with even notices! He has the right to eat same as the rest of us!

Heather - posted on 05/03/2010

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I agree, it is ridiculous that feeding your child is so controversial. But the reality is that we DO live in a society that has sexualized the female body to an insane level. I cannot put myself in a "breastfeeding bubble" and think that because I'm feeding my child it's not going to bother someone else. I believe in not "causing a brother to stumble", and if that means covering myself, going to another room (which I do often now b/c my little one is so distracible that she pulls off at the sound of any other sound/voice/etc), then I'm okay with that. I guess I just can't wrap my head around why it's such a big deal to cover oneself. And I think that I am perfectly capable of supporting other breastfeeding women (it's the whole reason I joined this community on COM, cuz I've experienced every challenge there is), without having to say I think it's great that you nurse in public without covering.
It's obvious we all have our opinions that are unlikely to change... so I guess I'll just bow out of the debate here.

Nicole - posted on 05/03/2010

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Marie, you have a point. I will say that if there ever comes a point when my son refuses to be covered, I will not deny breastfeeding because of it. I will just breastfeed uncovered. I just haven't really had a problem with any of my children refusing to be covered, but it is very common for a baby to hate covers. Any covers, not just blankets.

My husband was married before me and she was an insanely jealous woman. She would make his life miserable by getting mad at him even if they were in the presence of something that could be misconstrued as sexual. (I didn't know him during that time. I just heard horror stories from his family and friends. He refuses to talk about it most of the time.) We were also friends with a couple and the wife was insanely jealous like that, too. She would get mad at him just because some other girl in the room was dressed sexy, claiming that she knew he was thinking about her, blah, blah! He would just hang his head. It was insanity. I never saw any of the things she would be going on about. We had to stop hanging out with them because the hubby said it would give him "flashbacks". lol I am always terrified that I am going to encounter this type of woman when breastfeeding in public! Scary! Hence, the reason I cover.

Nanette - posted on 05/02/2010

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Yes that is true. I attended a school that did not allow toes to be shown because they thought it would turn on a male. But guess what just because I didn't think it was true didn't mean that I went ahead and showed my toes just because i didnt believe it. I respected them and wore toe covered shoes. I think the issue here is respect. Apparently people on here don't respect others.

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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I feel that breastfeeding is not "sexual content".

It is one's own insecurities or misconception that equals breastfeeding to something sexual. Before the age of formula helping the breasts to become something sexual by offering other options to breastfeeding, women breastfed their babies anywhere, anytime, uncovered. And most cultures in the world still do. I see breastfeeding as a natural act and so does my husband. I think we (humans) could make any part of the body sexual if we choose.

Nanette - posted on 05/02/2010

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So we all have to suffer just because women don't want to "cover up" and respect other people? I am not judging. I go to a breastfeeding support group too its all women there, who cares we are all nursing. My only problem is when there are other people not breastfeeding that don't want to see your boobs. Sorry this is such an argument I just wish I guess what women would think of others when they are nursing and realize that even tho you are comfortable with it, others are not. My brother was uncomfortable with his wife bf in general. Bc I know my brother is uncomfortable with women bf I respect him and I go into another room when I have to nurse. When I am around my dad or uncles or even aunts and neices and nephews and cousins and my husbands guy friends, I respect all of them enough to either make sure I am covered or I go into another room. Alot of bathrooms have sitting rooms, I even sometimes ask people if I am at a restaurant or a store if they have a room other then the bathroom that i could nurse just so i dont make people feel uncomfortable. Just be respectful of others is all that we are asking.

Heather - posted on 05/02/2010

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For me it's twofold- I have no desire to see other women's breasts or to have other women see mine. But I also have no desire for my husband to see other women's breasts either... not at all because I don't trust him, but because he shouldn't see anyone's body but mine. He works so hard to avoid sexual content on TV, movies, and internet, and he shouldn't have to work so hard all the time to divert his eyes because women choose not to be covered up (whether breastfeeding or not).

I'm sad that we toss the word "judgmental" around so swiftly these days... I am not judging anyone simply because I disagree. I wish women were more modest; that doesn't mean every time I see a woman wearing a shirt with a plunging neckline or a mini-skirt on I am judging her as a terrible person.

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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Nanette, I never said that I was okay with my husband just looking at other women's breasts all willy nilly. I just said that I trust him. He is a very respectful man and his mother did a great job of raising him to respect women and their privacy. If he saw a woman breastfeeding, I am sure that he would divert his attention. If I felt he was going to ogle at some woman's breasts while she was nourishing her child, I wouldn't be married to him. Yes, he is a man, but I don't automatically assume that he isn't going to control his thoughts or his behavior just because he sees a woman's breasts. If he was intentionally seeking out to see a woman's breasts for sexual purposes, that would NOT be okay with me! One of our great friends that we go to church with is a doctor and he regularly does OB rotations, does his wife get mad at him for seeing other women like that? No, she trusts him.



Oh, by the way, I DO cover when breastfeeding. It's actually my husband that tries to get me to relax a little and tells me that I am not showing anything when I am not covered, but I worry about being judged by women like you.

Nanette - posted on 05/02/2010

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Wow. It is sad that some people are ok with their husbands looking at other women's breasts. Im not ok with it, and to me I think women should respect other women's wishes that they don't want their men seeing other women's breasts. Idc if you say ur men aren't "oogling" over them, men are men and even if you don't think they are, they probably are. You see how modesty has changed over the years... soon it will be normal to walk around totally naked. Those who say they are Christian and don't have a problem with immodesty... didn't Adam and Eve hide themselves? Shouldn't we? Idc if u bf in public just don't flash the whole world. I love bf my daughter and im modest about it! It can still be a beautiful sweet and innocent thing without being immodest.

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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LOL Sheena! I feel the same way about lots of things I see in public! While, seeing a baby at it's mother's breasts is a beautiful, sweet and innocent thing (at least it should be).

Sheena - posted on 05/02/2010

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nicole when u said "What is so wrong with breasts? We all have them. Heck, we see breasts every time we get undressed and before we are dressed again." it made me time of when im at the swimming pool n an over weight guy comes out with no shirt on we see his breasts lol n i would prefer seeing a womens breast whos breastfeeding then an over weight guys hairy man boobs! hahahha

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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Wow, I haven't checked this thread in a while... I'm sorry if my comment come off argumentative. I must not have had any Mountain Dew that day or something! lol



I do have to say that seeing the comments about women wanting other women to cover while breastfeeding has kind of proved my husband's theory. As an LC, I am constantly complaining to him about how it bothers me that other women won't support other women with public breastfeeding. I am always asking "What is so wrong with breasts? We all have them. Heck, we see breasts every time we get undressed and before we are dressed again. What could other women possibly find so repulsive about breasts?" His answer, "You are missing the point! It's not about women seeing other women's breasts. It's about their fear that their husbands/boyfriends are going to see another woman's breasts."



I guess I am just jaded since I am an LC, because I don't care if my husband sees another woman's breasts while she is breastfeeding. Actually, I have tons of books, videos, pamphlets, etc. that show many breasts with nipples showing around the house, so I guess, if he felt so inclined, he could look at other breasts in our own home. But, really I trust my husband and I trust that he will respect a woman's privacy and the intimate time with her child by not staring while she is breastfeeding. There is a huge difference if a woman is breastfeeding in front of my husband and if she "flashes" my husband. And trust me, he sees the difference, too. Not to mention that if I felt my husband was ogling, I would be very mad at him for being disrespectful and not the woman breastfeeding her child.



I understand modesty. I am a very modest person. I attend church regularly and we are big on modesty. Actually, it is frowned upon in our religion for women (and men) to wear clothes that come above the knee, tanktops/spaghetti straps/strapless, anything that shows the midriff, two piece bathing suits, etc., and I think it is a good belief. I wish more women were more modest in general, but a woman and child being comfortable when breastfeeding is so important that even if it is uncovered, I am fine with that.



I live in Florida and I see more immodesty in everyday dress among women than I ever see uncovered breastfeeding. LOL Heck, you should see Daytona Beach during Spring Break!!! Oh my!!! Or just walk into the grocery store during the summer! These women just put on their flip flops and come to the stores in their bathing suits! It's crazy! And yet, these would be the same women who would have a problem with me breastfeeding my baby in public. lol

Nanette - posted on 05/02/2010

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I have taken my daughter to the bathroom to nurse, I just try not to touch anything. esh

Heather - posted on 05/02/2010

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Thanks, Nanette- glad someone out there feels the same!!! I'd definitely not take my little one to a bathroom to nurse, but there's a happy medium here that still allows for some modesty, ya know!

Sheena - posted on 05/01/2010

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omg this is sooo true! it reminds me of when im in school i go to the washroom to pump so i have milk for the next day... lol ill do anything to not give my son formula!

Nanette - posted on 04/30/2010

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Heather, I might be in the minority too, bc it is annoying when I see women nursing and their baby unlatches and we see everything. I have a nursing shaw too, and my baby hates it, but I still try to hide myself. I was walking into church one day and a lady was sitting there nursing her baby, which is totally fine, but then the baby wanted to see who was walking in... and yay nipples. Number one, I don't want my husband seeing some other womans breasts, second I don't want my sons seeing that either. I do think its gross that we have to nurse in the bathroom, but I still think women should cover up a bit to help people not feel so awkward. When my daughter is nursing I pull my shirt all the way to her nose and i keep my hand on my shirt so that if she does unlatch then i can just pull my shirt over my nipple. So Heather I agree with you! Also with the revealing cloths women wear today, but thats totally off the context. lol

Emmylou - posted on 04/30/2010

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love this, they should make signs that say breastfeeding zone critics will be prosecuted lol

Francesca - posted on 04/26/2010

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Someone asked me at the mall once if I would like to feed my baby in the bathroom. My Dh replied that we won't change her diaper on your kitchen table, and neither will she eat where you shit...



LOVE IT!

Heather - posted on 04/24/2010

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I don't recall saying that women are doing it "just to flash their boobies around". And I'm sorry if I sound "harsh and judgmental", but I think that modesty is warranted as women. You do not have to be staring in order to see more than you ought. I know what happens when my daughter suddenly unlatches herself- and a shirt doesn't always quickly fall to cover me up. My daughter hates having a blanket over her now, but there are other options (baby bond, peanut shells) that provide some covering for a woman without covering baby's head. In any case, there is nothing wrong, judgmental, rude, etc about wishing women could embrace modesty in all areas. I know I'm in the minority on this, especially as a woman. I don't think women should wear revealing clothing, plunging necklines, or tiny bikinis either... I'm not putting some separate stamp on people who breastfeed. Just saying that modesty is okay, too, and that it wouldn't be so bad if more people covered more of themselves up.

Marie - posted on 04/23/2010

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This ad forgot to mention the number of germs that get sprayed into the air with every flush.

btw, I have once been sent to a bathroom to nurse with the outright lie that it was an actual nursing room. I had asked a store employee if I could use a dressing room because the store was crowded and noisy and she told me they had a nice room for nursing. While the door was labelled "Family Services", all the room consisted of was a toilet, sink, and an extra chair. There was no division of the room and the room was downright nasty. I was pissed off but I refrained from chasing down the employee who gave me the BS that it was a nice setup.

Candise - posted on 04/23/2010

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That is a great video - and so true! I hate peeing in public toilets so would NEVER feed my child in one!

Nicole - posted on 04/21/2010

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I agree SO much with Sara on this one Heather. I think your comment is very judgmental and harsh to those that, frustratingly, have babies that refuse blankets over their heads. I have seen a great deal of breastfeeding women not use blankets while breastfeeding and I have never seen their breasts "just hanging there". I think that when we start telling women HOW to breastfeed public, it is just as bad as telling them WHERE to breastfeed. If anyone is bothered by seeing a woman breastfeeding, they do not have to look. I have never heard of a mother MAKING someone look. There are many things that I don't like to look at while out in public, but I look the other way.

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