Breastfeeding help especially at night!

User - posted on 03/28/2012 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Need advice! I posted before but forgot to mention that my daughter still waked up every hour or 2 to nurse. That's the only way shell go back to sleep! I tried holding her instead but doesn't work. Any advice? Can't let her cry it out b/c u don't have the heart and my husband needs his sleep for work so any other ideas or when nursing is this normal at night????? Hope it is, I'm exhausted but her waking up to kiss me or hug me at night before I nurse her is soo worth it!

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Sally - posted on 04/10/2012

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Learn to nurse lying down and bring her to your bed. Despite the hype (when done properly) co-sleeping is safe and with a little practice neither you nor she will need to fully wake for her to nurse. Sadly, I didn't learn that until my oldest was 6 months old, but my youngest has been sleeping with me since birth.

Good luck

Deidre - posted on 03/28/2012

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I nursed all 3 of my boys. What I found EXTREMELY helpful was co-sleeping. My boys barely made a peep because we were so in tuned with one another. The actual smell of our chest is soothing to the baby. Our sleep wasn't necessarily disturbed because I slipped them the booby before they could even make a peep. Burping them was more of a disruption if you ask me.

Co-sleeping is a form of attachment parenting. For me it was worth it. Especially, realizing it was setting them up for success. They learn to trust and to not be afraid of abandonment. We're giving them the foundation for their future.

I also assumed she is younger than 1 year old. I apologize I didn't ask what age she is. I'm guessing you aren't asking advice on weening her, right? I would think you would have specified that. Anyway, I hope that helps you :)

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Laura - posted on 05/08/2012

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hmmm that is really often.....how old is she?
my 4 month old still wakes up twice and he always has but i just nurse him whenever he wakes for it. If theyre hungry, theyre hungry. could be a growth spurt, could be feeling poorly, teething....has she always woke as often as that? x

Stephanie - posted on 05/06/2012

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My 17 month old baby usually wakes once or twice in the night for a feed, he never sleeps through to the next morning. He used to be like your daughter waking up frequently, then one day hubby just said "maybe he is hungry that's why he doesn't sleep, why don't you give him some supper?" and ever since then, I gave our little guy supper( unless he is going through a teething period where he prefers to nurse to sleep.) Helped alot, from waking up frequently, he started to sleep longer at least 4 hours or so. Worked for me, maybe you might want to give it a thought. According to our doctor, his weight is normal, not on the overweight or anything with the suppers, so I guess it should be alright.

Stephanie - posted on 05/06/2012

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My 17 month old baby usually wakes once or twice in the night for a feed, he never sleeps through to the next morning. He used to be like your daughter waking up frequently, then one day hubby just said "maybe he is hungry that's why he doesn't sleep, why don't you give him some supper?" and ever since then, I gave our little guy supper( unless he is going through a teething period where he prefers to nurse to sleep.) Helped alot, from waking up frequently, he started to sleep longer at least 4 hours or so. Worked for me, maybe you might want to give it a thought. According to our doctor, his weight is normal, not on the overweight or anything with the suppers, so I guess it should be alright.

Michelyne - posted on 04/12/2012

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Try keeping her awake longer during the day, especially in the evening. GL

Ronda - posted on 04/11/2012

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My baby is JUST like yours! I am serious! I have not slept more than 4 hours in a row since I was pregnant with her. Everything you mentioned, she is like. The way I took care of the problem was to bring her to my bed :) I nurse side-lying and sometimes I do not even wake up, and she does not even cry! She just finds the breast and away she goes :) If she is not on a lot of solids yet, maybe try some just before bed, and that will help you sleep more than two hours. Message me if you want. I am here to help you :)

Angie - posted on 04/10/2012

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I think that at 15 months she is old enough to know that she gets what she wants by crying. She knows that you will do anything to keep her quiet so her dad can sleep. In my opinion, you might have to "cry it out" for a week or so, but then she will learn. I like the "super nanny" method of keep putting her back ( I /always/ give a hug and a kiss and say i love you, good night, we'll play some more in the morning). I think it is important for them to learn to calm themselves and fall back asleep. That may include her waking up, coming over for a snuggle and falling asleep next to you. This will be tough on your and your husband... but, the change to longer sleeping will be worth the couple of tough days, imo.

My 3 year old and my 9 month old both did that... woke up every 2 hours to nurse. But i believe it was for comfort. Sometimes my son gets into a cycle of waking up every 1.5 hours! I just can't do it. So when he wakes up i put him in a sling and get him back to sleep with cuddles. After 2 nights of that, he goes back to sleeping in about 4 hour blocks.

Tammy - posted on 04/10/2012

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Every child is different and so are the Moms my first daughter was born at 36 weeks,this make me very over the top kind of mom whan't her to me with me all the time. Now the best part was that she was a colick baby for almost 6 months. The only thind that helped her to sleep was to sleep with me in bed. She nursed until she would fall a sleep. But most night she wanted to be atached to me all night. If she let go she would wake up crying. So i keep her in bed every night. That way we both got sleep. Some people think that co-sleeping is wrong, but i think it saved me from going crazy. When your a first time mom it's hard to know what is right or wrong, people will tellyou all kinds of things to do. But here it is "do what feels right for you and your family" some baby just need to be that close to their moms all the time. Enjoy it, it goes by fast. The best of luck to you! And remeber being perfect doesn't make you a good mom, doing what feels right for you and works for you is that right thing".hope i helped. Tammy C

User - posted on 04/02/2012

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I'm with her full time! I love it. Usually she wakes up wining and grabs me to nurse her and sleeps... Sometimes she'll wake up crying see me and come and sleep on my chest. Nothing else I'm aware of. She's super hyper like her dad lol! Let me know any suggestions!

Aleks - posted on 04/01/2012

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My under 18mth old did that but it was because she was suffering from silent reflux. However, she would wake up crying or sometimes screaming. How is your daughter when she wakes up?



Also what is happening during the day? Are you with her, or do you work and she is cared for by someone else? Frequently working and nursing mothers find that their children want to make up for the time lost during the day at night.



Appart from just the night wakes you haven't mentioned anything else so its hard to know if this is just a pattern or is a symptom of other things... so these two are the only ones I can come up with...

Lori - posted on 03/31/2012

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That does make for one sleep deprived mom. Co-sleeping is probably the only way you'll get your much needed rest.



And on those good days that I actually do get a 5 hour stretch it is very nice. I'm just looking forward to the days that those happen on a daily basis... and hopefully even longer stretches sometime soon.

User - posted on 03/31/2012

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No usually no more than 2 hours! 5 hour sleep that must be nice! Don't know why though but doctor said its normal. I just want to make sure with other moms.

Lori - posted on 03/30/2012

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Does she ever sleep for a longer stretch than 1 or 2 hours? My 16 month old wakes every half hour to 2 hours when she's teething or going through growth spurts, and even on a "good" night she still wakes twice wanting/needing to nurse back to sleep. But usually there's one 5 hour stretch of sleep.

User - posted on 03/30/2012

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Yea she's 15 months and haven't slept in crib in a long time! She kept climbing out and getting her foot stuck. So she sleeps on a queen mattress.

User - posted on 03/30/2012

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She's almost 15 months but no I don't want to ween her off me. I do sometimes co sleep with her. Actually every night when I sleep in my bed it's like something is missing so I go sleep in her room. She's so adorable even at night!

Heather - posted on 03/29/2012

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My 10 month old still gets up at least twice at night--on occasion three times!--sometimes to fully nurse, sometimes to just comfort nurse. Up until a week ago, he was getting up every 1 1/2 to 2 hours for about 2 weeks. Growth spurt..not that he has ever been a real good sleeper...but we also co-sleep. Co-slept with our other two as well. Once he turns a year, we will begin the transition to his own bed/room. We have tried to get him back to sleep by just holding him...but he just wants me--and of course the comfort of my breast. So yes, there are days where I am exhausted...but if possible for you, I tend to go to bed by 9--the latest 10. That way I get a good 2-3 hours of sleep before he wakes up, between 11-12. Then he gets up again around 3-4...as exhausting as it can be, I do enjoy those quiet moments together...it only lasts so long!

Ania - posted on 03/29/2012

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A lot depends on how old she is. If she is 9-12 months you can just keep her in the crib when she wakes up and definately do not pick her up, if she stands up put her down again and again no matter how many times, comfort her with words and patting and singing, and she will get it. Don't leave her alone in the room. It will take awhile I would say 2 weeks and total and you will have better - not ideal nights. If she is younger I would do co-sleeping...and relax it is ok for BF babies to wake up a lot even after they turn year.

Mandy - posted on 03/29/2012

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my theory is i need my children to sleep more than i need them to sleep in their own bed. i do tent to be careful about who i tell about cosleeping becasue there is still alot of negativity, but i have done it with all of my children and will do with the one that is due in 12 weeks.

Ju Lee - posted on 03/28/2012

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My son will be 8 wks on Monday and the past week or so he's been really fussy at night, keeping me awake until all hours. Like Deidre, I co-sleep with him when he gets this way. Last night was the first time neither one of us was disturbed all night. We lay on the couch b/c it's a flat surface and easily fits the both of us without him getting squished and I tend to not move if one of my children is sleeping with me. I lay on my side and he simply nurses whenever he feels like it and never a peep from him all night. I get some much needed sleep, he gets to stay close to Mommy's scent and warmth and is comfy. And certainly don't feel like you're being lazy when you do this. You're no good to your baby if you're tired and frazzed out from lack of sleep. Trust me, there were days he and I both cried because we were both miserable b/c I was stressed from being tired. But if you are too tired, I suggest not doing the co-sleeping, you might roll-over and not wake. Not to scare you or anything, but it is something that can happen.

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