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Breastfeeding Single Mom - Visitation Schedules

Louise - posted on 10/26/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Just looking for thoughts, opinions, encouragement....

My children's father and I split up 3 months ago and we are still in the process of working out a visitation schedule. My 7 month old son is still breastfeeding and I don't want to have to stop. He's starting to be ok being away from me for a few hours at a time now, so his dad takes him 2 evenings a week but I keep him still on weekends that my other kids go to their dads overnight.

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Elizabeth - posted on 10/30/2008

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When my husband and i separated our first was 10 months and still BFing. I talked to him about not having super long visits till she was done. He was totally understanding. I was also letting him see her without any court orders so that probably helped. He would take her on Sunday mornings while i was in church and then i would pick her up after and that was about the time she nursed for her nap,so it worked out pretty good.

I think what your doing is good for now. Hopefully hes an understanding man, that nursing is really important to you and your son and want to see it through till the end. The best thing to do it talk to him about it. Good Luck! I know how stressfull all the crap can be.

Love and Luck! Liz

Þórey - posted on 10/27/2008

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I think it is a very good thing you are wondering about this, because it means breastfeeding matters to you... Hooray! If I were you I´d try to work the schedule around breastfeeding times, but here´s a thought: When my baby girl was a couple of months old I had to travel to have an opperation, and couldn´t take her with me. Her dad stayed home with her and fed her breastmilk and SMA from a bottle. It didn´t mess with the breastfeeding at all, she drank like before when I came back. After that her dad fed her from a bottle every now and then when I was away, and it worked out fine. She was breastfed until she was thirteen months old and loved every drop.

My point is, maybe you can try giving his dad bottles of breastmilk to feed him and see how he responds (your son, that is). I think there are very little chances that it will interrupt with a continuing breastfeeding, but since every child is different it´s best to take it slow and see what happens :) right? I PROMISE he wont lose his appetite for the breast after one or two bottles :) This could ease things for you and his dad.

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