Maria - posted on 11/29/2008 ( 6 moms have responded )
I hope that some of you might have some advice for me. I have been very dedicated to nursing by most peoples standards from what I can tell and have some very conflicting emotions right now.
Some history: My daughter is 21 months old and has known nothing but the boobie...I even had to teach her how to give her dolly a bottle! :) She "needs" me to sleep and by evening when she's getting tired and hungry she will fuss a lot for me to nurse her. With the help of my husband we semi-successfully have night-weened and probably wouldn't have except that she became so dependent on me to sleep, I was having a hard time getting enough rest, even co-sleeping (which I said I would never do!).
The problems: First and probably foremost, we are currently in a very rough patch with her waking and crying repeatedly for "booboo" (she's in her crib now and not our bed). My husband thinks that I should ween and this problem will go away...I think she will still wake and just want me to snuggle her. I think we are just in a stage and also having teething problems.
Secondly, I have fairly strong feelings about child lead weening, but lately I am feeling that nursing isn't as cuddly as it use to be. She pulls on my nipple with her mouth more and she pushes on me and generally, unless nearly asleep, will flip and flop around but still want to nurse. I suppose I am pretty conflicted, but tending on the side of wanting to ween, and feeling a bit guilty about it too.
My question(s), I suppose are what are other people experience with child lead weening? Is there anything I can do to help her see the end? We are still nursing between 3 and 5 times a day (bed, 4 am and then sometimes again when she gets up for the day at 7:30, sometimes mid morning, nap, most evenings before I start getting dinner ready). I can typically distract her from the nursings other than the bedtime ones and that annoying 4am one, but fear a terrible shake up in her sleep routine if I stop nursing. I have tried to not nurse her to sleep and this results in TERRIBLE tears, even when we have tried to rock her or cry it out but she is VERY determined.
Sorry I am so long winded...I have been in turmoil over this for some time! Any advice is welcome, thank you in advance!!!