Cluster feeding at 9 months?

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/13/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I'm honestly still new to the whole breast feeding thing since my older daughter is 7 and never successfully breastfed past 3 months. So I'm curious if my 9 month old's cluster feeds (sometimes she can eat off one breast for 20-30 minutes) are normal.

She's never been much for sleeping and napping 2 weeks ago I thought she'd gotten the hang of sleeping through the night (10pm-5:30am for me is a record and she did that all week 2 weeks ago) But then last week she started only sleeping in her crib for 2 hours then wanting to breast feed nearly every hour the rest of the night which takes a toll on me since she won't take a bottle. And it takes a toll on my husband because she screams if he tries to let her sleep with him. She won't even allow him to hold her in the morning when I'm getting my 7 year old ready for school.

The nightly lengthy feeds and the refusing to sleep even when co sleeping (which has been the norm for her since she came home) are the worst. I really need help.

Before I forget, my 9 month old does get baby food- she'll eat at least a jar a day sometimes more and finger food. But I don't feel this has any bearing on her sleep patterns since she's always been a terrible sleeper.

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Mia - posted on 12/18/2011

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Hey Megan, sounds like you're trying all the right things. My first was a terrible sleeper, although once he got to around 9months but he was a bottle baby by that age. I knew he was getting enough during the day so I had to do some controlled comforting as I refused to feed when he constantly woke. They do have seperation anxiety beginning at that age plus teething so it's all happening for them! But i'd try not to feed if you know she's really had enough for the day & as Renee suggested offer water. Good luck, we all dream for that brilliant sleeper wonder who gets them lol!

Renee - posted on 12/17/2011

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Try giving a bottle of water at night... After while she might realize that is what she will get if she wakes up and might start sleeping again... Keep trying

Ashley - posted on 12/13/2011

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the clingy mommy phase does go away eventually. Love it while you can :) Both my sons went through it between about 7m-12m my youngest still gets a bit attatched but only if he is sleepy.
As for sleep with my oldest I just about got into an accident b/c I was so sleep deprived and behind the wheel. I know some moms are against CIO but it was that for me or never drive again. It took 3 nights of crying and some crying on my part but now he is a little sleep angel. However I did it in the most trying of circumstances for myself.
Good Luck with everything

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She sounds totally normal. That is exactly how my first was. We didn't co-sleep. Oh, I wish I would have. I researched and looked and asked everyone and all I was told was let her CIO which I would not do. I used a white noise CD to help block out outside noise. That seemed to help. I also started co-sleeping with her in the guest room when she was a little older and that worked wonders. No daddy snoring and rolling around. She sounds like she's attached to you and that's normal too. My daughter was that way. When she hit about 12 months she started getting really close to daddy. Now, at 2.5, daddy is the only one who can put her to sleep. And she sleeps well now and has since about a year.



You're not doing anything wrong. Some kids sleep well, others don't. Are you a SAHM? If so, then nap when she naps or at least put your feet up and rest a bit. This phase will pass. I know it's a long one! I was right there too.

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Chelsie - posted on 04/26/2014

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I think giving water is a horrible thing to do , u don't just punish ur baby for waking up wen they r hungry it's not their fault

Renee - posted on 12/17/2011

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Try giving a bottle of water at night... After while she might realize that is what she will get if she wakes up and might start sleeping again... Keep trying

Terra - posted on 12/15/2011

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It could have also been a growth spurt as there is a big one around 9 months. What she is doing, as others have said, is perfectly normal. Have you tried sidecaring your crib next to your bed? It might help for both of you to have a little more room to spread out but to also give her that closeness that she seems to really need right now. She's just going through a lot developmentally and this is how they process it.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/14/2011

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Her first two teeth came through back in October at 7 months. She may be getting her 3rd and 4th. Thanks for the support.

Amy - posted on 12/14/2011

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Megan is it possible she's teething? My daughter was and is still the worst when it comes to teething and sleeping through the night. Typically she sleeps through the night, she now 21 months old but at 8 months she started getting her first teeth but we didn't know it. After a week of her progressively getting worst waking more frequently (almost every 30 minutes) and only settling back down for me we took her to the doctors. He didn't find anything wrong with her about two days later she got her first tooth and she returned to sleeping through the night.

She's teething again, the dentist says she has 4 teeth about to come through and it won't be soon enough for me since I work full-time outside of the home the sleep deprivation is killing me. The other night it was so bad we just curled up in her brothers bed, she doesn't want to feed she just wants me to hold her, if my husband goes in to get her she'll scream MAMA till I go in and rescue her, lol. Good luck, I hope things start looking up soon!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/14/2011

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Thanks for the support. The ironic thing is every time I complain about her waking up all night she sleeps through the night! She actually woke up once, took an ounce of milk from a BOTTLE (:D) and went back to sleep with help from daddy and didn't wake up til 6:30am.

I did finally read up on what happens during her 9th month and she is at the right time frame for being clingy for just me and even daddy can be a problem. This is what happens when your kids are 7 years apart, you forget things.

Sara, yes thankfully I am a SAHM and my husband's last day of school before the Christmas break so he has 2 weeks where we can switch off on sleep and next weekend we're at his mom's for a few days so if we need sleep she'll watch the girls. I don't know how I got through this when I was a care aide back home.

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