Crib vs. Co sleeping

Shelbi - posted on 03/06/2010 ( 163 moms have responded )

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Now before I open this can of worms, let me say that I have read books and magazines on the topic. I am more than aware of the pros, cons, and risks of cosleeping. I don't want to be chastised for my decision any longer - I just want to know what other mothers do, especially those who nurse.



My baby sleeps in my arms, in my bed, every night, without fail. I was tired of having to wake up every 2 hours. Its much easier, convenient, and I enjoy sleeping so close to my little one.

How does your baby sleep?

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Leslie - posted on 03/07/2010

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OH yes!!!! BTW, I have always used an allergen barrier (not the plastic kind either) on my bed AND the manufacturers of crib mattresses lobby the AMA to keep babies in the cribs. Honestly, if doctors encouraged putting the baby in the bed, crib mattresses wouldn't get sold.
I think its as easy to roll over your baby as it is to roll off the edge of the bed. If you've not done it in your last 20 years or have ever slept with a pet that lived to see the next morning or if you don't roll over on your spouse, there really isn't that much to worry about. Keep the airway unrestricted. :)

Michelle - posted on 03/13/2010

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Your child and Your decision to make. My son who is breastfed went back to hospital at 1 month for obs after a few stop breathing episodes which had absolutely nothing to do with co-sleeping. At home he would sleep in his bassinette or Cot throughout the day and early night hours but in the am's he wouldn't sleep at all unless he was in my arms or lying next to me. ..so it was natural that i would co sleep with him and allow both of us some much needed sleep that we otherwise wouldn't have had.

The hospital tried to enforce their no co-sleeping "sids danger" policy and feeling pressured I tried to persevere with keeing him in the cot , but he just screamed relentlessly until this also made him stop breathing.

In the end I put him in my arms and slept sitting up in the chair and nursing staff made me sign a waiver absolving them of any responsibility then lectured and berated me as if I was a dumb child. In the parent lounge posters with phrases like "had a big night"? been on the grog?..remember don't sleep with your baby, sleeping with your baby can cause suffocation..etc were up on walls advertising the dangers of co-sleeping using images of aboriginal women. Not only offensive to aboriginal women but to anyone with half a brain really. Who the Hell do they think they are?

I have two grown children and I co slept with them also, attuned to their every breath and movement in a way that you can't be when your both sleep deprived and miserable.

At my next GP check I asked my doctor to give me some figures on deaths related to co-sleeping and he told me "there are NO PROVEN DEATHS" from co-sleeping at all only falls from beds, suffocations and SIDS deaths which no-one could explain the cause of ..that nursing staff and health clinics are trained to warn us against them because the incidence of cot death(SIDS) was proven to be less when a parent is more attentative to their childs waking and sleeping habits although (SIDS) was still a big killer of infants even when infants were given the most attentive parenting.

All I know is there are times when I've found my babe asleep and not breathing and the damn monitors have failed to register that fact, so I'll sleep with my boy for as long as he needs me and these quacked up experts can go jump. I'm doing whats best for US

besides ..I love the closeness it gives to both of us :)

Traci - posted on 03/09/2010

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Every time I read one of these threads, I want to ask the following question:

Have you ever rolled over on your husband? Your cat? Your dog?

What makes you think you would roll over on a child?

I, for one, have never rolled over on another sleeping body in the bed, and as long as there is safe sleeping conditions, I think that co-sleeping is just as safe as putting your child in a crib.

Leslie - posted on 03/07/2010

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My daughter is about to turn seven in April. She was a breast-fed, co-sleeping little girl. She moved from my bed at about 2 or 3 then to her toddler bed in my room. Around her fourth birthday, I set up her big girl bed in her room and started making remarks about how big she was and how little her toddler bed was. One day, on her own, she decided to sleep in her big girl bed! She's independent (I always heard different from everyone in the cio community) and is close to me but not in a clingy way.
night time feedings help stimulate your hormones to produce milk. Keep that baby close. You are not in a deep sleep either, notice how you begin to wake as your baby does. Right before your baby wakes up hungry you can just pop in the boob and the baby nurses as you psuedo sleep. :) I will never forget waking up one night when my dd was about 3 months to her breathing awful. I simply used the snot sucker and removed the obstruction. If she were in a crib, I may not have detected that.

there is a popular book called "On Becoming Babywise". There are numerous doctors that have lobbied for its removal because a fair number of babies have DIED from the "advice". Follow your intuition and keep that baby close!

about 2-3k babies die of sids each year in the crib compared to (no sufficent data) in the bed
about 70 babies die a year of suffocation in the bed

Sheena - posted on 03/13/2010

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i was really against having my baby sleep in the bed with me but when he was born (he's 2 months old now) he would eat every 1 to 2 hours and still does and sometimes he'll eat for over an hour. I swear i got the hungiest baby in the world! and he doesnt have those so called deep sleeps everyone talks about cuz if i try and put him down he well walk up right away! ive tried so many things to try and get him to sleep on his own but nothing works. So now i go to bed at 6 or 7 at night and he sleeps right beside me with my arm under his head and my boob in his face. if i try and more he'll grab out for my boob and if he doesnt find it he well wake up! the little bugger! i was always so scared of rolling on to him but im actually very aware of him and when my fiance starts to roll over i push him and he goes the other way. I know in a few months my baby is going to have to learn to sleep with out mommys boob in his face but for now i love how close we are and on the plus side i can bug him about this for the rest of his life! hehe

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Simone - posted on 03/13/2010

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my 6month old boy has slept with me since coming home from the hospital. i love it so much!!!!!! he cuddles right into me & we both have such a great sleep. its also so convenient when he wakes up for a feed because my boob is right there. ill be cosleeping forever hehe

Abby - posted on 03/12/2010

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We have done both. My mom had my daughter sleep on her chest the first night home from the hospital...she slept ALL NIGHT. I was frantic in the morning, but it started Abby sleeping through the night from the beginning. I don't sleep well when Abby is in bed with me, so it became essential to start using the crib. With a few exceptions, we all have our own sleeping areas...sickness, etc. I wouldn't have had it any other way. ♥

Nikki - posted on 03/12/2010

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I too sleep with my little man in between my husband and myself on a pillow. He is next to our faces and higher up than we are if that makes sense! We make sure no blankets are near his face and that he can't move from side to side on the pillow. The pillow makes a u type shape that cups him, but not too much that his face would be smothered by it when he looks left or right. Then, when he wakes up to nurse, I just slide him down and let him latch! It's so convenient and I love it! There are risks, but I think a lot of risks are especially important to consider if you and/ or your partner are large people. That increases the risks obviously. Anyway, I hope this was helpful and that you and your baby sleep well together!!!

Liane - posted on 03/12/2010

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My 8 month old is exclusively bf and sleeps in his own crib and has since he was born. He is my third child and all three were bf and slept in their own cribs in their rooms. I think you just have to do what's best for you. I could never sleep with the baby in my bed. Plus, I personally didn't feel it inconvenient or too much trouble just to get up and nurse the baby and go back to bed when she/he finished.

Jennifer - posted on 03/12/2010

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My dd is 2 months old and has been co-sleeping since day one. The nurses at the hospital never told me anything. Whenever we do try to put her in the bassinette, she will only stay there for 30 minutes to an hour tops, even for naps during the day. I breastfed for the first month but unfortunately it didn't work out and I had to switch to a bottle. My dh is a truckdriver and so I am basically a single mom for most of a week. We have a california king and dh sleeps on the far edge anyway,when he is home, I sleep with her head on my arm. Once she is sleeping through the night I plan to move her to her bed and hope she stays there. But for now I enjoy snuggling with her as she is the last baby I will ever have and they are only little for so long.

I also co-slept with my other 3 children until they slept through the night consistently. I love it, but there are times when I just want to snuggle with my hubby and not have to worry about where the baby is.

Anakarine - posted on 03/12/2010

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I believe mothers have to do what is best for them and their babies...I wanted to co-sleep with my daughter more but I had to stop when she was 8 months.

Anakarine - posted on 03/12/2010

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I believe mothers have to do what is best for them and their babies...I wanted to co-sleep with my daughter more but I had to stop when she was 8 months.

Tori - posted on 03/12/2010

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My daughter had horrible acid reflux when she was a baby and would only sleep longer than 10 minutes if she was in our arms till she was 2 months old. Then after that while breastfeeding I didnt want to get up and out of bed all the time so she has slept with my fiance and I. His whole family is very against it and so he thought he would be too but he loves it and so do I! I love waking up to her smiling and grabbing my face talking :) Now that she has stopped breastfeeding she is starting to sleep in her crib a little more.

Samara - posted on 03/12/2010

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I live sleeping with my daughter of 3 months. I too have had all the criticism but over all I don't really care what anyone thinks ay, I know what the risks of sleeping with her are but she has one whole side of the bed to herself as it is only her an I in a double bed. It does make life aloy easier espscially if your are nursing your babies. I do also agree with Sarai Schuler : It is only our culture that thinks it is bad. How do they think they care for their babies in other countries where everyone sleeps communally. Its your baby you care him/her however you feel is right for you!!

Lindsay-Grace - posted on 03/12/2010

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the same as yours. I'm exactly the same. Often my little boy feeds while i sleep , i'm not lazy just dont see why i have to be over tiered and force my baby in to a cot when he settles better and we both sleep better when he's lying next to me. I did the same with my first child (although i did at first try to keep him in his cot) i just found it easier to be so close to them. both my boys now sleep well, my 1st has been in his own bed all night everynight no worries since his 2nd birthday. at first i was worried about co sleeping but we dont smoke or drink or on strong medication, our bed is plently big enough for 2 adults and a baby and all hanky panky is NEVER in the same room as the kids (even if they're sleeping).

Lyns - posted on 03/12/2010

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The best decision, is what you feel most comfortable with. We had all 4 of ours in bed with us, my youngest is now 15, they all eventually went into their own beds!! I felt I had an inbuilt monitor and always had their faces up near mine and I never rolled on any of them. So easy for the middle of the night feeds, especially when it's so cold. They grow way to fast.... enjoy the closeness....

Emily - posted on 03/12/2010

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Co-sleeping is a natural, wonderful bonding experience for both baby and parents, if it works for you. Just be safe, that's all. In my experience, babies who co-sleep are much more connected with their parents and tend to be happier in general!
This article is a good one...
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t10220...

Beth - posted on 03/12/2010

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co sleeping and nursing go , hand in hand.... dija know bf babies are less likely to have sids? my twins share our bed, otherwise i would never sleep

Angie - posted on 03/12/2010

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My daughter sleeps in my arms in my bed too, I also nurse. It's just so much easier since I work so I need all the sleep I can get. It makes nursing that much easier too, I'm half asleep and feeding her lol!

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In the crib...definitely. I will say that my daughter's first month she slept on top of me while I laid on the couch - it was the only way she'd sleep at night. She had severe acid reflux and would scream from about 9pm-1am (my husband took this shift). When I would take her at 1am she would sleep on me until about 6-7am.



Once she got through this stage, she slept in her swing for a few weeks and then it was onto the crib. I was up every few hours but I was fine with that. I did not feel it was safe to have her in bed with my husband and I. I've heard of way too many accidents resulting in the baby's death due to this...wasn't willing to risk it.



Like you said, though, you are educated on this topic and the final decision is yours and only yours. Just keep in mind that the longer you let your little sleep in bed with you the longer it will take to get him or her to sleep in their own crib or bed on their own!

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2010

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I co-slept with my baby from birth to 15 months. She decided to move to her own room. Yes, she make the decision, she help to move some of her toys, books and dummies to her room. She still need me sometime during the teething night, but transtition is great. So if someone told you don't co-sleep because of the difficulties in getting rid of them, think twice. Every baby is different, you do what is best for you and your baby.

If you worry about the dust mite in your bed, get it professionally clean. Honestly, I didn't. She is fine so far. One thing worth to mention. most co-sleep baby cry less even later in their tantrum years( 18 months onwards) and you will find it eaiser to resaon with them.My baby would cry 5 mins max. , then she would stop , listen and tell me what she want (she is 21 months now). I think the logic behind it is that these babies don't used to cried long for attention. And they are more certain that their reasonable request will be met most of the times, (pcs of advise, I would try change the unreasonable demand to a resaonable one, sucessful rate, well 8 out of 10). It is just my observation, hope it helps.

Bobbi - posted on 03/11/2010

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My son is 6 months old and he sleeps in a little bed right next to ours also. He's still breastfed, but he has always slept thru the night. Like some of the other post, he wakes up very happy in the morning. Right now he is teething, so he actually falls asleep next to my husband and sleeps great. I beleive it is your choice and only you know what is truly best and what works for your child.

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2010

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co- sleeping! It makes life so much easier on us especially since my husband used to work nights till about 3 weeks ago.

Nicole - posted on 03/11/2010

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We now cosleep with our two month old daughter & this is the reason we started. She still nurses every couple of hours & in the middle of the night she always falls asleep while nursing so I would put her in her bassinet & anywhere from 5-15 minutes later she would wake up wanting to nurse again. I would change her diaper, tickle her, do everything possible to wake her to nurse on the other side but she would always be out cold. But then wake up after realizing she was sleeping alone in her bassinet. We would do this routine anywhere from 3-4 times each feeding which was exhausting with each time her waking in her bassinet crying. Finally I was just so exhausted that I started to fall asleep with her nursing. And now I keep her sleeping with me all night. It's just so much easier. Now with each feeding every couple of hours we only nurse the one time & fall asleep together. It's just so nice having her near & we both sleep much better.

Dena - posted on 03/11/2010

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My boy who's almost 6 months old, is a huge suck, he also nurses, and he slept with me until he was 2 month, then we got him into a bassinett, then crib, and when he turned 4.5 months old and was still waking up every 2 hours and getting progressivly less unless he was in my bed, i was sold, I would like to be able to function again so, in bed he comes, spends the whole night cuddled right up to me, and i wouldnt change it, sometimes i'm a little sore from keeping my body so still, but that makes me happy i'm young and bounce back (hehe) So in my opinion, only change what your doing if your unhappy! because i'm sure you baby is happier cuddled up to you, and when they are ready they'll let you know they need there space :-D good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 03/11/2010

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My little one sleeps in her own crib until about 4:00 a.m. That is long enough to have her sleeping with me now that she is all over the bed. I secretly love it though. She has to have 1 hand touching me, I love the closeness with her. It is sort of our time.

Flor - posted on 03/11/2010

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my little five month old girl has been sleeping with me in bed since she was born=) i totallly agree wit you

Kira - posted on 03/11/2010

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I totally Agree!! Co-sleeping is by far the best for not only the bonding but to get more sleep! I co-sleep with my current 2 month old and did so with the other two! It is so much better to have my lil men with me in my bed. Although we are having a hard time with my 4 yr old sleepping in his bed now (which he was with us since he was born) My 2 yr old has no problem sleeping in his bed! But I have to say I love waking up and seeing all of them in my bed in the morning b/c my hubby goes to work soo early, it is nice to have a full bed when he leaves!

Lindsay - posted on 03/11/2010

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Above all, if you co-sleep with your baby and others don't approve then just don't mention it to them. How will they know?? You'll be happier without the conflict. Whenever my Dad brings it up ("you'll never get them out of your bed!") I just dance around the subject. He's from a different generation.



When I came home with my first one we went right to bed together, and that's how it stayed. Tummy to tummy on our sides for ease of breastfeeding and comfort. She's now 2 1/2 and still likes to sleep in bed with us and her little sister, who is 7 months. I know nothing of those sleepless nights that other parents talk so much about. Just when the kids are sick do they keep us up.



Our bed is a cotton futon with a memory foam topper, and is pushed up against the wall (which is pine, so it's not too hard). I'm on the wall side with the baby, and the toddler is in the middle with Daddy on the outside. No problems so far. Only when my oldest sleeps on the outside does she occasionally launch herself off into oblivion. Luckily oblivion isn't that far and is carpet. When she was learning to crawl she'd wanted off sometimes. Or zoom around the bed when we were trying to get to sleep! Or wake up at 6am, and I am not a morning person. But now I get up early while everyone else sleep so I can get to the gym and grab a shower. It really starts my day off nicely. Once everyone else is up it's hard to get anything done! She got me started on a good schedule that way. *^_^*



My husband doesn't mind cuddling with babies at all! I don't think he wants to see them go actually. Whenever I bring up getting a toddler bed he doesn't seem too interested. Our queen bed it pretty full now. Not a lot of wiggle room. Climbing over kids to get out is interesting. My toddler will likely get her own bed for her 3rd birthday though. I miss cuddling with him!

Marilu - posted on 03/11/2010

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My baby sleeps in my arms every night or if not right next to me on my bed I'm a very light sleeper so I'm not nervous about rolling over on him. I do nurse as well and its soo much more convenient to nurse on my side and then both of us just going right back to sleep versus having to go all the way to his room nursing him and then having to rock him back to sleep which sometimes can take 30 minutes in the middle of the night. I have co-slept with my son since the day he was born, and well it won't last forever and he will only be a baby once. I'm sure I will miss it once he's older.

Daniela - posted on 03/11/2010

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i co slept w/ my son for a long time i didn't like it much but he did and i wasn't w/ anyone so it didn't matter to much to me, but w/ me girl i didn't want to do the same thing. i'm married and didn't want to have a baby in the bed w/ us but after like a mo i tried it w/ her and she slept so much better! but know at 9mo it is half and half she sleeps in her crib tell about 6am then my husband gos to work then she comes to bed w/ me (if she wakes up). so im ok w/ co sleeping and if you like it thats fine and if not thats fines too. i think it is up to you and w/ your baby likes.

Ana - posted on 03/11/2010

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I'm the same like you. It's great to have your baby with you at night. Even when you are very tired to put her back on the bed. I know that is lazy way of say it. But I think child need to bond more with you when it is wake and sleep to smell your scent and to know they are safe in your care. So why not? Keep your child near you and you feel at ease.

Naomi - posted on 03/11/2010

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I did the same thing with my little one...plus my midwife told me that it is good for your baby to sleep on your chest because they learn a breathing pattern from you...also they are used to being with you because you carried them for 9months so they will sleep better with you then in the crib. Now that she is 3 months old now we are putting her in her bassinette (that is right next to our bed), because she likes to toss around and it was getting a little too dangerous for her to sleep with me anymore ;(...I really think I enjoyed it more then she did. So in my opinion...no I dont think there is anything wrong with Co Sleeping.

Erica - posted on 03/11/2010

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Our son started out in a moses basket the first week but every time he moved the rocker stand would move and he would startle, wake up, and cry. Into the bed he came. We placed him on his sleep positioner between our pillows. We have a king size bed so there was plenty of room. He stayed there until I went back to work.

At that point we bought an Arms Reach Co-Sleeper so he was right beside me. This was so much better than the moses basket. He slept in that until he could stand up. Now he sleeps in a pack n play beside my side of the bed. He usually sleeps there most of the night and will wake up before his 5/6am feeding to come into bed with us. Growing up my parents did "family bed" in the morning. My husband and I did get flack for him sleeping in our bed but it worked for us and we really enjoy family bed.

Shauna - posted on 03/11/2010

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my daughter was with me the frist few months and then i had to think of what might happen in the long run for her slepping habits and how it would effect mine and my husbands slepping. i slowly helped her go from slepping with me to sleeping in her room and i also put something on the crib like a bear that plays music. she likes the felling that she is not alone and that helps her sleep in her room.

Whitney - posted on 03/11/2010

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My son sleeps in bed with my husband and I too. I have a co-sleeper and had moved him there around 8 wks old but then he got sick and wouldn't/couldn't sleep because he was so congested. So back into the bed he came and he's been there ever since and my husband and I love and prefer it anyways. Makes nights easier-esp. since he's been teething he wakes up every couple of hours. And actually the SIDS % goes DOWN when you co-sleep. http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/11...

Here's tp happy sleeping with our babe's in our bed.

Breanne - posted on 03/11/2010

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My son is 16 months and I still cuddle and nurse him to sleep and have since day one and will continue to do so until my son wants to stop. It's the best way ever!

Cat - posted on 03/11/2010

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We've been cosleeping since my daughter came home from the hospital (she's now 10 months old). I have to admit, I LOVE it. It's made nursing SO much easier at night and she sleeps so well when she's in bed with us. I think my favorite part is waking up to that big toothless grin every morning :-D

Jenn - posted on 03/11/2010

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I am all for co-sleeping!! I have also read and researched a lot before I made my choice. I asked friends, family, and my doctor. There are many factors to look at and decide on first but I believe there are so many benefits to co-sleeping.

I would love to expand on this a bit more but nap time is over....of course. Hopefully I can respond more later.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/11/2010

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Oh you bad mommy! LOL Please both my kids slept on my chest EVERY night :D and both still cosleep my son is 4 and my daughter is 18 months and still nursing at night.I get alot of flack for it too, but I just dont care. My LO's are happy. When Mady was a newborn I did have the cosleeper thing for in the bed which was cool, but for 90% of the time she was on my chest. I used a big body pillow under the sheet at the edge of the bed for extra no rolling off issues. Honestly there are so many crib deaths too.

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2010

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I do the same thing! We both sleep more sound and secure this way. I love having my children in my bed, it gives me a sense of security and I know if anything goes wrong in the night, I can scoop them up quick. The bad side of it is, we are just now breaking my 8 yr old son of sleeping in our room. I nursed him until he was 18 months and by then it was nearly impossible to get him to sleep in his own room. My husband and I can't be intimate at night and it's turned into a family room instead of our bedroom. It's difficult to break children of the habit of sleeping with mom. I support it but at times feel like I need alone time with my hubby. All the advice in the world won't change how you and your baby decide to sleep. Do whatever feels right for you!

Alison - posted on 03/11/2010

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At first I was dead against co sleeping, but with breastfeeding it is in fact easier to co sleep. However, I don't co-sleep with my two month old all night. I have a bassinet next to my side of the bed, I also went out and bought the mommy teddy that mimicks the way your heart beat sounds in the womb. He sleeps soooo much better with that on! I have also found that using a pacifier at night helps a lot as well (as long as he doesn't spit it out before he is all the way asleep). My son suckles his pacifier until he is asleep at night, and then he'll wake up when he is hungry. I generally don't let him co-sleep until about 3 or 4 am- when he wakes up and wants to be up during the day. I have found that if I lay with him on my chest and let him fall asleep, I will fall asleep as well, and that makes it so that I can get a couple of hours of sleep. I plan on allowing him to sleep with me when he gets older when he is sick, but still enjoy being able to move around while I sleep.

Tara - posted on 03/11/2010

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I think the decision is totally yours and as a mother youy know whats best for you and our child. :) my daughter sleeps in a bassinet/playpen beside my bed. She is 2 months old and I will start incorporating her crib into her sleep times soon.

I started her on a schedule that when daddy leaves for work she gets his spot in the bed. :) I think this works for us. And when she has an upset stomach or can't sleep or if mommy just wants cuddle time she gets to sleep with us.

Do what works for you and that's what's best!

Sandra - posted on 03/11/2010

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We do both co-sleeping and sleeping in her crib beside the bed. I, like many others, am BF and find it much more convenient and restful. She generally starts the night in her crib. When she wakes I bring her into the bed to feed and after she is finished I put her back in the crib if I am still awake! Sometimes, I get sore from sleeping in one position so long with her beside me.

Vicky - posted on 03/11/2010

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I did with both of my babies. I was against it at first, read all the stuff against it, but my daughter was so colicky it was the only way I could sleep. Then I loved it, the cuddling and how sweet they look when they sleep. My son now sleeps with me, and wakes up with huge smiles. When you think about that the fact they were inside of us all snuggled, it seems cruel to just throw them in their own bed and let them "fend" for themselves. Babies thrive on touch, so do it as long as you want, they are only babies for so short of a time.

Erynne - posted on 03/11/2010

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We co-sleep. Have since he was a newborn. When he was really small, we used a Supreme SnuggleNest to keep him safe. Now, he's 11 months old and nearly 30lb (he's a big baby!) and he sleeps either between us or next to me between me and the mesh bed rail.



I can't advocate using a crib, especially when "crib death" carries its name. And especially since I've studied the biological and developmental needs of infants and have seen research studies across the board showing that infants need body contact. So.



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I have tryed it with both of my children but it did not suit me because I would wake up every time they moved or made a noise!

The only important thing is to do what suites you, your husband and your baby best!

Enjoy!

Laticia - posted on 03/11/2010

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Our daughter is 16 months now and she still sleeps with us. She still nurses before going to bed. I love having her beautiful face to wake up to every morning. My husband loves it because he gets to curl up to her for a few minutes every morning before he goes to work while she is still sleeping. If she slept in her crib he would wake her by going in to see her and then I would have to try to get her back to sleep. It is so much easier.

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ALL of my babies were co-sleepers and when my next baby is born, she'll be with us in our bed just like the other 4! If someone were a heavy sleeper I would strongly suggest that they NOT make that decision because it could become a serious issue. I feel like it made my children a hell of a lot friendlier than some of the other children I've met, that i know were crib babies. I've gone as far as telling off a maternity ward nurse who thought I was being reckless, to protect my right to have my baby with me after birth.

Melissa - posted on 03/10/2010

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We bedshare from the day my daughter came home, and still now that she's 18 months. I works great for us, she nurses still, however I have cut her off at night. She nurses down and then cuddles back to sleep when she wakes, if she wakes in the night. My husband and I couldn't be happier with our choice.

Maia - posted on 03/10/2010

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Its great to hear about all the family beds! Plus it makes feeding during the night, especially nursing, much easier and you can get more rest if you don't have to physically get up multiple times!

Courtney - posted on 03/10/2010

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This is something that each family has to decide for themselves. We prefer cosleeping and until about 1 week ago our 4 year old slept in a toddler bed against one side of our queen and our 2 year old slept in a crib against the other side of our bed. We just moved them both into a full size bed together in the other room. I am still nursing the 2 year old (actually 31 months) and nursed the 4 year old until he was about 18 months and decided it didn't taste good (changed to colostrum while pregnant). They slept in our room within in arm's reach since birth, but they have their own distinct space. We did not plan it this way but our first child wouldn't let us do anything else.

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