Cry It Out! The evidence!

Elissa - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

165

23

20

I keep saying this in different threads so here it is and I'm not writing it again because I'll get repetitive strain lol! Here is some of the evidence on CRY IT OUT.

1. It isnt evidence based, there is no research backing it up and was invented in the 50s by a man who did no studies on its effectiveness.

2. Cry it out puts physical stress on baby, producing cortisol which inhibits brain development, particularly in the areas of the brain to do with emotional development - i dont think its a coincidence that mental illness and behavioural problems have soared since this theory became mainstream in our culture.

3. Your body knows when your baby needs you and when they are just grumping and we have developed these instincts over millenia. Ignoring them reduces mums sensitivity and often real problems such as illness are missed because the biochemical signals have been ignored. You know when baby can cry and when they need you.

4. When you leave baby to cry they will stop crying quicker, they will go to sleep alone quicker and your life will become easier quicker. However this happens because you have taught them that they cant rely on you when they need you, that when they cry you wont be there for them. The damage this causes can be devastating - again there are links to behavioural problems, autistic and attention disorders and anti-social behaviour. These are all issues peculiar to western society in the last 50/60 years -in fact since babies began being left to 'cry it out' and rarely occur in cultures where babies are carried, cuddled and in contact with mum 24/7 for the first few years. No one could call Masai warriors spoiled yet they are in constant contact with mum up until about 5.

That said, you know baby, I dont. All I can do is give the evidence. It is a quick fix that can cause bigger problems (although not in all cases but I dont believe in the 'it didnt do me any harm' excuse with the levels of anti-social behaviour in our society).

Plus it is all part of your overall relationship which I'm sure is loving and attched all the rest of the time. Just be aware that this method has some nasty repercussions for many children and for your relationship - it isnt really a quick fix!

Good luck!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Melinda - posted on 01/07/2010

19

12

0

i tried it out and you dont let them lay there crying non stop for hours. we let her cry a few minutes and we'd go comfort her every few minutes. she sleeps through the night and is happy and healthy. its still parenting. you are no less of a parent and it doesnt make you a worse parent.

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

7 Comments

View replies by

[deleted account]

I'm personally not a fan of CIO. I tried it once even though I didn't feel right about it. My husband kept bringing it up. Honestly, it seemed like it made things more difficult for about a week after. I felt like I broke my son's trust.

Aside from that, I'm just curious where this information came from.

Amy - posted on 01/07/2010

221

36

24

I have herd both sides and I don't think Crying it out is so bad if its only for a few minits and you are tiring to get somthing done. Come on my baby can cry 30 mints to chruch and I can't get her out of the car seat while driving so I have to let her cry it out some times. I also think that if it does not work for you don't use the mentod. My baby holdy cries when she wants something. She know I am right there near her in the mornings so she just makes noses that I can hear. Since she sleeps in my room. I don't really let her cry it out very often because I can hear it an it give me a head ace so I would rather have a happy baby and mommy instead of a unhappy baby and a un happy mommy.

Elissa - posted on 01/04/2010

165

23

20

Quoting Elle:

This isnt evidence. #2 & 4 talk about mental illness and behavioural disorders increasing in the past 50 years but so much has changed in the last 50 years - women working full time, delaying childbirthing until later in life when egg and sperm quality decrease, preservatives in foods,etc- its unlikely CIO is the cause. #3 contradicts its self- you says a mom knows when a baby can cry and when a baby needs attention a sentence after saying a mother becoms desensitized to crying babies.

CIO has been updated and modified in the past 50 years. Moms need to not feel guity after coming home from a full day at work, feeding and bathing her kids to let a child (who is fed, dry, safe and not sick) cry for 2 minutes so she can make a sandwich. CIO doesnt mean leaving baby to cry so mom can catch up on some TV series.


I am well aware about the problems with studies and therefore carefully research everything before making up my mind on it, and i've been trained in how to assess methodology, results etc myself.  My work depends on me knowing and using best practice based on good evidence so I apply the same to raising my son.  I also have made it clear that I dont think parents who use this are bad parents - but I do believe they act on bad advice because their health professionals dont take the time to update their knowledge and pass it on.  I have said many times that we all do what suits us and our babies.  This is simply for information!



 



I have drawn a link with social disorders because nothing happens in a vacuum.  While it is unlikely that leaving a healthy, loved baby to cry would cause anything on its own, factors do not add - they multiply and cry it out is a symptom of a society that likes to average, quantify and control everything. 



 



I said that mums know when their babies need attention and when they dont and that ignoring these biological signals causes this to be lost.  There is no conflict - its use it or lose it.  Women who habitually screen out their babies cry have been shown to becopme increasingly less able to identify types of cry and provide the correct response.  This HAS caused serious problems to be missed.  Desensitization happens over time and is an unnatural response.



 



I dont think anyone seriously believes that cry it out is about grabbing a quick sandwich - this seems to me a blind.  It is about systematically ignoring a child for significant spells to acheive a goal that is solely to do with teaching a child to rely solely on itself for comfort.  Even if you dont believe the potential social or psychological implications ask a neuroscientist about the cortisol produced and the implications this has for brain development.



 



I know I will never convince anyone who thinks it works but if I wanted an easy, routine led life I wouldnt have had a kid.  When my child needs me I will always be there for him, thats what I signed up to when I got pregnant.  I'll say it again - cultures that address their babies needs immediately have less of the major problems in western society.  If you dont believe me, look at the evidence yourself, I spent hours doing it to make sure of my facts before I spoke.

Elle - posted on 01/04/2010

153

0

22

This isnt evidence. #2 & 4 talk about mental illness and behavioural disorders increasing in the past 50 years but so much has changed in the last 50 years - women working full time, delaying childbirthing until later in life when egg and sperm quality decrease, preservatives in foods,etc- its unlikely CIO is the cause. #3 contradicts its self- you says a mom knows when a baby can cry and when a baby needs attention a sentence after saying a mother becoms desensitized to crying babies.



CIO has been updated and modified in the past 50 years. Moms need to not feel guity after coming home from a full day at work, feeding and bathing her kids to let a child (who is fed, dry, safe and not sick) cry for 2 minutes so she can make a sandwich. CIO doesnt mean leaving baby to cry so mom can catch up on some TV series.

[deleted account]

Just wanted to say that you can find a study to prove or disprove just about anything you want depending on who is funding the study and what their motivation for making the study are.... Not neccessarily in regards to CIO, but w/ everything under the sun.

I am not supporting or condemning CIO in my response, but it is STILL parenting. Even if it isn't your choice of parenting. ;)

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms