Crying it out someone help

Alexis - posted on 11/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Someone help me. My daughter is 5 months old, she has always woke up throughout the night to eat then would fall back asleep. About two months ago she has developed this routine of waking up in the middle of the night and she is wanting to stay up. I think she likes the attention she is getting from mama when I am snuggling and trying to rock her to sleep. She is sleeping in her crib. It is so nice when I am breastfeeding for her to be near me, but I am losing my mind because I can't get more than an hour sleep. She is waking up every hour, then it takes me 2 hours in the middle of the night to get her to fall asleep, then she wakes up the next hour....so on. She has two long naps during the day so I know she is not over tired. She eats a jar of vegetables and cluster feeds before going to sleep. I do not know what else to do. I tried the "Ferber" method, letting her self soothe herself to sleep. But she cries for over an hour and then is wide awake after being almost asleep when I put her down everyone keeps saying she will cry for 20-40 min, she will cry for way longer. Do you guys have any advice? HELP

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Hello, Alexis, I"m Erin, mom to one and one on the way. My son is almost 11 months old and still breastfeeds. He was waking up every 2-3 hours through the night 3 months ago, and I and my husband were going crazy. A friend of mine recommended a book called GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT. It is broken down into chapters for the different age groups, (which makes it easy to read) and it's designed to allow you to follow GUIDELINES (but the author makes it clear that you are free to deviate at your discretion) to help you to be consistent in helping your child learn to fall asleep by him/herself, and to stay asleep throughout the night. The book focuses on the baby's entire sleep schedule, including nap time.



As I found out, keeping to schedules and routines is a big deal for babies. My son began sleeping through the night after 1 1/2 weeks of actively following the Sleep-lady shuffle program. This was unusual, and so was our way of following the program, but the basics remained the same for us. A week before we started the program, I started watching for Anthony's sleep signals, and my husband and I began to "wean" him off of the "sleep crutches" of falling to sleep while being rocked or nursed. As we began to understand Anthony's needs, we were able to meet them. He naps well during the day and is in bed between 7 &7:30 every night, waking at 7 in the morning. Occasionally he has a lapse of night feedings (once during the night) during a growth spurt, but other than this, he is a happy, healthy, well rested baby. It takes discipline and watch-fullness on our part, but overall, it's worth getting the book and being consistent with our children. My friend began working with her son during nap time first.

I hope this is helpful information for you and I hope you get a full night of sleep soon!

Peace,

Erin

Brielle - posted on 11/12/2009

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We never did the CIO method. Even if they are crying for comfort I always just thought if I wanted a snuggle from my husband or someone I would hate for them to just let me cry. So I havent gotten much sleep. With our first this wakinga nd playing ended about 1 -1/2 yrs old.

Minnie - posted on 11/12/2009

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I know that when my daughters were both going through this at the same age your daughter is CIO seemed like a good idea. However, this time won't last forever. I found that whenever my girls went through a time of frequent waking, long nursing sessions, and not wanting to go back to sleep they were going through a growth spurt, teething, reaching some developmental milestone, or some other upheaval was going on in their lives.



When you're in the thick of it it can seem as if it will be this way forever. But it won't. Babies change their sleep patterns all the time, all the way through toddlerhood.



The problem with CIO is that it isn't sensitive to the baby's needs. Documented research shows that infants crying for extended periods of time have their brains awash in stress hormones and exhibit brain patterns that are the same as they would be if the infant was in physical pain. In this community mothering at the breast is supported.



Have you tried bringing her into your bed, latching her on, and seeing if she'll drift off to sleep? Even if she won't sleep while nursing, at least you'll be lying down. Or you could lie down with her, nurse her to sleep, and then roll away from her. With my first, I would nurse her on a towel, and then I could use the towel to scoot her away. And in a week or two she may begin sleeping much better, which may last for a month or two, and then she'll be up frequently again. Such is life with a baby.

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