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Melissa - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I am so sick of people acting like im doing something wrong when i nurse my daughter. And having people tell me its dirty? Its freaking natural....and healthy. and im so sick of the judgements. When will people stop being so stupid, and realize that its natural??? And not something that i should be ashamed of?

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Kayleigh - posted on 05/23/2009

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Quoting Kate:

Us breastfeeding mothers should organise a world-wide public protest against ignorance and crappy, oppressive attitudes against breastfeeding. It'd be pretty easy to organise; we'd just have to choose a time and date, select a public place in each capital city and spread the word. Breastfeeding mothers can show up and feed, LOUD and PROUD!!!!


I agree, I love to feed my son, Why should i run to the washroom and hide it, Nobody likes eating on the toilet why should my son.  I feed anywhere anytime.



Its rewarding knowing that we are all doing the best for our baby's. They are getting the best nutrition \

Itsamystery - posted on 05/23/2009

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Us breastfeeding mothers should organise a world-wide public protest against ignorance and crappy, oppressive attitudes against breastfeeding. It'd be pretty easy to organise; we'd just have to choose a time and date, select a public place in each capital city and spread the word. Breastfeeding mothers can show up and feed, LOUD and PROUD!!!!

Wendy - posted on 05/20/2009

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I agree! I think you would LOVE the following article which is a section from her book(talks about evolution, if you are a creationist just ignore that stuff):



Katherine Dettwyler, P. (1997, February 10). A Natural Age of Weaning. Retrieved June 17, 2008, from Kathy's Commentaries: http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detwean.ht...



PS: My daughter turned 2 on May 17th, and she still nurses on demand. Good for you, keep up the good work!

Kristen - posted on 05/19/2009

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People are insane! Breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world! Here's a funny story for you and also proves that not everyone is so prudish. I was bf-ing my daughter the other day when the doorbell rang, my husband was in the shower and I knew I had to answer it bcz it was his paycheck and it has to be signed for. So I placed a burp cloth over my feeding daughters head and answered the door to the mailman, not realizing that yes i had (thank god) pulled up my nursing bra on the other side, but had failed to pull back up my tank top on that side! & not only that but shortly after answering the door the burp cloth of course fell off onto the floor exposing my nursing child! Thankfully she stayed latched on, he'd gotten enough of a show! I apologized and he very nicely said no problem, told me he could see i had my hands full, picked up the burp cloth for me and closed my front door. I think I'll make some sort of baked goods for him and slip them in the mailbox!

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how is breastrfeeding dirty? are these people crazy?
Breastfeeding is the most natural, healthiest choice for you and your baby! What on earth are these people taking! I would laugh if someone said that to me! Consider yourself lucky to be able to BF your baby!
WOW I seriously cannot believe the things that come out of people mouths, and they say kids say the darndest things ha!! Bravo mama!! :)

Cassie - posted on 05/13/2009

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Dani, just a fun little bit of information if you live in the US!! My husband is a police officer and we have actually discussed this topic because I am breastfeeding. It is absolutely NOT against the law for a woman to show her breasts whether breastfeeding or not (although I don't really condone showing your breasts if you aren't breastfeeding lol) I can't remember the exact wording of it but the chest of a person whether male or female is not considered indecent exposure so that officer had no right by the law to say something to you! I thought this was interesting and thought I'd share!!

Lisa - posted on 05/13/2009

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That's terrible! I've BF all 4 of my babies and sometimes in the strangest places. I'm in Australia, and BFing is pretty acceptable, at least as far as I've seen. I haven't had anyone tell me to stop doing what I'm doing. I don't know about where you are but around here there are usually baby rooms with a nice comfy chair and privacy, but if it's being used I've fed in the middle of the food court. I've fed sitting outside around a fountain. I've fed in various cafes. I think for the most part people can hardly tell, and those that can tell can bite me as far as I'm concerned. I BF at Parent's Club meetings at school, and now there's 2 other women doing it too LOL Maybe because the principal is female she doesn't mind, in fact she's there laughing at us all because it's turning in to a playgroup with all the babies LOL

Naureen - posted on 05/13/2009

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thats v rude and bad....we r bf our babies coz we care for them if someone has a prblm with it its their headache not ours...mothers milk is the best food for the baby and nothing can compere it.

Emma - posted on 05/13/2009

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i breastfeed anywhere and everywhere, lol, i still havnt had any1 say they dont like it yet, i get a lot of dirty looks. id like people to say something just so i can give them the facts of how wonderful breastfeeding is.

my daughter is a couple of weeks away from being 1 so someone is bound to say something soon

Reissa - posted on 05/13/2009

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I know how you feel. While pregnant, my own brother told me not to breastfeed because it was disgusting and "unnatural" - it's the most natural thing in the world! Since then 2 friends have told me that their husbands/boyfriends are grossed out by the fact that I breastfeed and asked their wives/girlfriends if they were going to breastfeed someday, to which they replied of course. In my experience it's the men who are creeped out by it, I can't believe some of the replies on here saying that a woman is uncomfortable with breastfeeding. Honestly I don't understand how anyone could give their newborn all the mystery ingredients in formula.

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009

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I guess its just hard for me to understand why its ok to see a half naked girl on a poster, but nursing is wrong? You see less skin nursing than you do on some women today. Im sorry, but I think its just gotten to be ridiculous.....I am only feeding her. Its not like Im putting up a sign and letting everyone know "HERE COMES MY BOOB". And I feed her and then snap up, i am not running around naked or leaving it out for air....AAHHH....it just makes me mad that people are mean, and just plain stupid about it. I swear there are days when I just wanna lift up my shirt and flash everyone and yell here....heres something to complain about....hahaha. Then they have a reason to be annoyed, and mad. but me feeding my kid is not a good reason.

Bethany - posted on 05/12/2009

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I had a neighbor tell me to tell her before I nursed so she could leave because it was 'creepy' and 'disgusting'. I couldn't believe it, she's a mother of two, I was shocked! Keep going, nothing more natural, you're doing great!

Sunny - posted on 05/12/2009

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I find all of these comments people make so strange!!! The world is so hyper-sexualised people try to make you feel bad or dirty for doing what is completely natural, healthy and one of the best things you can do for your child. I would just ignore it, you are doing a fantastic job, they need to be educated.

Chanell - posted on 05/12/2009

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Keep it up the great work!! Don't let the ppl's comments get to you. As long as you know your doing the right thing and that your being respectful to yourself and your baby than just smile at them and say "Thank you for your opinion". have a good day. Sometimes ppl are just mean and have to try and spread the negative energy to ppl.



I'll soon be in your position I just had my little baby girl a week ago today. (born May 5th) So we havn't had or first shopping trip/ feeding in public outting yet. But that is soon to come.

Emily - posted on 05/12/2009

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Seriously though...I got some sample formula in the mail yesterday. I decided to read the ingredients. There is so much crap in that stuff. People should keep their mouths shut. I wonder how many of them are ones that nursing didn't work out for...maybe it's more about their sadness it didn't work...

Stacey - posted on 05/12/2009

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I've said that I would gladly stop but they had to be willing to hear her scream at the top of her lungs because she's hungry

Dani - posted on 05/12/2009

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wait till you have a cop ask you to "please put that away!" i've never laughed so hard in my life...then told him no.... and said i had just as much right to bf my baby as a woman with a bottle and he said " well your showing yourself" i told him ((very calmly)) no more than a woman with a low cut shirt ((thats all you see if your doin it right is the top of the breast flesh)) he said welll....have a good day HAHAHA

Melissa - posted on 05/12/2009

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i started off with the first people being nice and appologizing if i offended them, then i realized that i shouldnt appologize for feeding my kid??? so i was less nice and told the next person if they didnt like it they could change seats or leave all together because i didnt give a damn what they thought. if they could eat in public then so could my daughter and if they had a problem with it being dirty then they needed to see a shrink! lol. I was a little hormonal....and well angry!

Amber - posted on 05/12/2009

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how rude! I bf my son whereever I am and luckily, so far, no one has said anything. What did you tell them? I wanna be prepared incase anyone says anything.

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