Does any mom's know how to get your breast milk back after you've dried up?

Britni - posted on 07/29/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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I haven't breast fed my son only pumped because my husband doesnt want me to breast feed. Now my son is 5 months old and I still have milk, but Im not filling up like I used to and I still want him to get breast milk for his development got any suggestions...

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Why doesn't your husband want you to nurse? Sorry, but you are a mom now, breasts are made for nourishing babies, you have a baby and your ability to provide your child with the needed nourishment without actual breastfeeding is diminishing... you need to actually breastfeed your baby. Nothing stimulates milk production like the sucking of a baby on the breast. Stand up for your child as his mother so you can do what is best, breastfeed. Educate your husband on the benefits of breastfeeding and thus why you must start actually breastfeeding so you can continue to do the best for your child by providing breast milk. I have never heard of exclusive pumping working for very long. Again, just nothing like the actual sucking of a baby to stimulate milk production.

Karen - posted on 07/29/2009

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When my birth control choice (Depo shot grrr) caused my supply to almost diminish completly I contacted a lcatation consultant. I personally didn't want to try the prescription drugs and she advised a few thing. Since I did them all lol I'm not sure if ONE worked or the combination but here goes: fenugreek caps,brewers yeast tabs, mothers milk tea (all at GNC) one serving of oatmeal daily and plenty plenty of water. I did it constantly for 2-3 weeks and have since just continued for good measure to eat a serving of oatmeal ever day for breakfast (buy the plain one-you can put different fruits in it to make it not so boring lol) and I keep the mothers milk tea handy and have one cup daily sometimes two. You can also find it online and I got a discount on www.TraditionalMedicinals.com for buying six boxes at once. But in the end the consultant also advised even though she recommended pumping between feeding your baby stimulates production better with the suckling action saying they can get way more out than a pump can. We worked through it and were fine. Side note- I HATE pumping and didn't stick with it after one week lol. The consultants actual words that made me laugh were "Nurse the crap out of her" lol. I did and we came out of it ok-shes thriving well. Good luck!

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Martha - posted on 08/18/2009

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nurse as much as possible! that will build your supply up in no time =]
and its your body so dont mind what anyone else says, YOU know whats best for your baby. :)

Britni - posted on 08/18/2009

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the last few comments thank you so much... i was looking for advice not to be cut down or have my husband cut down... Im glad that some of you moms understand where I was comming from... alot of men are uncomfortable with there girlfriends or wives breast feeding... its alot more comon then some woment think... I really appriciate you women who made it clear to other women to shut there mouths...

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I just wan to say how disappointed I am with the earlier comments from this post. Some of you gals came on here to make your self feel better about your silly lives. She came on here for help and many of you judged her and then tried to force her to take on your beliefs and then attack her hubby. She is giving him the same nourishment... weather or not the kid touches the nipple. And for the record for all you women who feel the need to push this topic more she is doing what is right for her and her family so if you can not offer help with out the peanut gallery then move on that goes for this post and others. I would not want your help on my issued and would advise you not to help others. The people who come on here want help to solve the prob and a few options. So get over your self. Oh and have a nice day.

Nicole - posted on 08/01/2009

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My boyfriend was comfortable with the whole idea of me breast feeding. thats only because he was raised with women breast feeding. by the way im 18. :) but i can understand why you bottle feed... breast milk is amazing and it doesnt matter how they get it. plus its a great joy when daddy can feed his baby too.. which my boyfriend cant do which is hard on him... enjoy your child and keep up with the pumping.. and who know if you have another child you and your husband will be open to you Bf and pumping... The only thing my Bf is uncomfortable is changing my daughter.which isnt an excuse not to do it but hes been raised old fashion were men dont deal with anything with there daughter.. only the manner of diaper changes ,,, plus it would cause problems if you do it behind his back.. maybe you could ask him if he would be more comfortable if he wasnt in the room or you did it private,,, good luck and some people on here think you not even giving breast milk.. people are dumb.... and rude..

Sunny - posted on 07/31/2009

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I don't think the negative comments help anyone nor make Britni feel better about her situation. I commend you on going to the trouble of b/f your baby through pumping, that would take a lot of effort for your baby. With your husband being uncomfortable, it's good that you have talked to him about it, often people are uncomfotable because they don't have a complete understanding about it, the benefits etc so it's great that he learn more about it because it is such a positive thing for your child. I don't personally think it would be helpful for you to do it behind your husbands back which could cause problems between yourself and your husband, clearly becuase the two of you make joint decisions on everything and it is something you yourself would feel uncomfortable with. I would suggest continuing to discuss it with your hubby- sharing info on the wonderful benefits of breastfeeding and how suckling stimulates supply and I'm sure he'll come around. All the best with it.

Rebecca - posted on 07/31/2009

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Shes just looking for advice for increasing supply ladies...not how the milk gets to the baby, just making sure there is enough for baby. Thats the most important part. I think some of you forget that not all people do what everyone thinks is right. But I think that everyone is entitled to get some support and advice when they are asking for it not judgement.



Britni to increase your supply try pumping more often and for longer periods of time if you can, also keep well hydrated. You can take Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle capsules to help increase supply as well. These can be purchased at any health food or vit. store. You can ask your dr for a perscription of Domperidone as well. Take care and hope your supply increases. I know how emotional milk supply can be, I went through that with my first baby. It can be so hard.

Kasandra - posted on 07/31/2009

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Wow!!! Negativity solves nothing. My husband is uncomfortable too! I see a lactation counselor and belong to a breastfeeding club. A lot of men are uncomfortable with it. Whether its from the pump or your breast its still your milk. Keep trying.

Pandora - posted on 07/31/2009

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It's true that a baby will stimulate your breasts better than a pump and they also empty the breast better.The more stimulation to the breast the more milk!! :-D That's why babies cluster feed..to make more milk.

As far as the husband goes...it's really not up to him,you're the mother so it's your choice.

Tari - posted on 07/31/2009

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Feed the baby! I was told if your milk supply is decreasing then feed the baby more often and drink plenty of water. Just keep feeding no matter what people say!

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Don't let those negative comments make you feel bad. It is great that you and your husband make parenting decisions together. Breastmilk from the bottle is fine, nursing is fine and formula is fine, it is your decision and neither one of them is wrong. My mom did not nurse me and I turned out just fine.

I went to a local hospital when I was planning to go back to work and talked to the lactation consultant there and she helped me a lot. You may want to see if you can rent a hospital grade breast pump, most hospitals will rent to you for a reasonable price. A hospital grade one will help keep your milk supply up, but I'm not sure for how long. I used a Medela electronic pump when I was away from from daughter for a while and that worked great for me but I've been able to keep my daughter nursing also so I have not run into your same issue. If I were you I would talk to a lactation consultant, they would be able to give you better information.

Britni - posted on 07/31/2009

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I came to this site to find out suggestions from other moms about their children, breast feeding ect...I didn't come here so women I don't know can bash my husband. If you are to post on my conversations don't bring my husband up. Thanks. Im not being controled. I didnt really care either way... like my ob had told me before I even had my son that it is very normal for fathers to be uncomfortable with it and alot of moms dont put baby to breast... because of that reason. 31% of women excusivley breast feed. Not too high of a number of women do it. Pumping is the same thing because they get it all the same. Just as long as they get it is what my doctor stated. My husband and I dont do certain things without talking to eachother about it first. With the decisions with OUR kids. He is not just my son with out my husband he wouldnt exist. We make the decisons not just him or I. He supports me in a lot of things we do as he's suppused to because he loves me. I stated before that he raises my 2 1/2 year old son that isnt his and he does do that because he loves us both not because he has to. He was man enough to raise another mans child as his own. It takes a real man to do that... not alot of men do that now a days. Controlling? Backbone? Sorry but I'm not as controlling as most of you women who can walk all over their husbands and tell them how it goes. My husband and I have a very open relationship when it comes to discussing things. If I don't like something he doesn't do it. To the comment about getting a backbone, don't act like you know me, my husband, our life, or our kids. I've been through plenty in my life and to have a women I don't know say something about my age and backbone is offensive. My husband is the love of my life and would never try to control a situation with anything. I have more respect for my husband than most apparantly, because I choose to talk to him about things when he feels uncomfortable with it. That simple.

Lauren - posted on 07/30/2009

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I would tell him that as a mother, you make the decision of how the baby is fed. Those are your breasts dang it!

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I wasn't going to even respond again, because I seriously get upset reading this... and was upset today by the "LET ME TRY". But, after reading Vanessa's update above I felt the need to second her reply above. I too totally do not want to be mean or hurtful and I commend you for at least providing your child with the nourishment and immunological benefits that come from the actual breast milk. However, I completely agree there is so much more to it than that and you are robbing yourself and your child of this simply for the comfort of your husband. My husband is my best friend too, we do everything together, talk about everything and compromise. We've been together for 17 yrs almost, married over 12 and were married for over 9 when we had our first. He would never tell me what I can or cannot do as a parent or with my body. Even if he weren't comfortable with breastfeeding, knowing it was best for baby and me he would never tell me not to do it. And my hubby LOVES my breast.
Best wishes to you and your family, I fear as I said before this is only the beginning and you are going to need all the positive thoughts possible.

Britni - posted on 07/30/2009

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My husband isnt selfish... He has been there for me when we lost our daughter... and he takes care of my 2 1/2 year old son who isnt his. I love my husband very much... He doesnt do things when im uncomfortable with them... Just like if he is uncomfortable with something I dont do it. We have a very understanding relationship. Even in baby books we read when I was pregnant it stated it is very common for dads to be uncomfortable with baby's attaching to there mothers breast.

Britni - posted on 07/30/2009

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My husband and I talked and he is going to let me try to actually put our son to breast. I have been giving him breast milk. He does know the improtance of breast milk He wanted to give our son breast milk for the fact that I have breast cancer in my family.. My grandmother passed away a year and a half ago from it. So it helps with that too... He is decideing to let me try it tho to see if because its me him and our son it might make a difference if its our son and the way he thinks about it. I dont feel comfortable doing things behind his back tho we have a very open relationship and tell eachother everything. Thank you guys so much for your support.. and suggestions

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Vanessa, I couldn't agree with you more! I seriously have to admit, when thinking about this thread, into the night even after I was off the computer, I was still so mad. To think a husband and father would be so selfish to deny his child the wonderful thing that is breastfeeding. It's more than just the milk... the connection and bond between mother and baby through the actual act of breastfeeding is priceless... both for mom and baby. And the bond that could be there with daddy being supportive too... this is just sad.

I seriously thought to myself last night, I WOULD FIRE MY HUSBAND if he were like this and did not support my right as a mother to feed my child in the best way possible. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband that fully supports me though, I guess I realize I am very lucky!

Britni, best wishes to you though. Please, reconsider being controlled by another human in this way. What will it be next? If he can't support you on this, he won't be supportive in other areas throughout your life, and your child's life. SO SAD!

Best wishes to you and your baby!

Jennifer - posted on 07/29/2009

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i just wanted to let you know, the fact is, breast milk has sooooo many benefits, and you should let your husband know what they are... there are so many moms on here that are supporting your decision to breastfeed, and in my opinion, the 2nd most important man in your life (ur hubby) should be supportive too... believe me, i understand what it is like to have a man who is freaked out by it, but i let him know that this was the healthiest choice for me and our son. he still gags when breastmilk drips out of a bottle onto his skin or if i leak (which is embarassing enough w/o him gagging in public) im 8 months in and he has seen how healthy our boy is and has grown usesd to it and can even come in the room while i am nursing. if u can, try to get ur baby to nurse when the hubby isnt around... remember, you carried that baby in YOUR body for 9 months, and they are YOUR breasts. just remember, any breastmilk is better than no breastmilk. keep your head up and trust your instincts. good luck. i support your decision to breastfeed

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Yes my hubby had a hard time with me BF but that was cuz he was on deployment for 8months. I was nursing the whole time he was gone but he came home he had a 9 month old who BF all the time no matter where we were... Target, Walmart, or even home. It was hard but the cost of formula was $$$, so he bit the bulet and let go on top of the fact that she was happiest nursing. Now look I am not here to judge you or the hubby. But the reality is pumping is not working, you can try and do drugs or even tea but if you go to a lactation specialest they will tell you the easest way and the fastest is eat healthy and nurse him. Now talk with the hubby and try this... " I will nurse 3 times a day just the minimum to keep nursing a bit longer." also tell him he probibly never see you nursing... and you will still pump. see how that goes I wish you the best and I am sure you will figure out what works for you

Stina - posted on 07/29/2009

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My husband is just very uncomfortable with having me nurse... We discused it when I was pregnant... So that is why I havent put him to my breast since we was born.. Even tho I would like to try it.. I dont want to make him uncomfortable.



Explain to your husband the benefits of breastmilk vs. formula. Explain that it will be sooo much cheaper- formula is expensive and so are extra doctor visits. Explain that in order for you to keep your milk supply up reasonably, you need to nurse your baby. Explain to him the extra free time there will be for him and you if you are not connecting to a pump several times a day in order to feed your baby.



And then, my advice is to nurse your child reguardless of your husbands uncomfortable feelings about it. He needs to grow up. It's natural to nurse your baby and will help you increase your supply.



As for upping your supply by pumping, when my son was in the hospital as an infant, they wanted me pumping every 3 hours around the clock untill my supply was established... then it was every 3-4 hours while I was awake.



Be sure you are eating a healthy diet- getting adequate calories... and lots of fluids.

Shannon - posted on 07/29/2009

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I am truly sorry your husband feels this way... my dh loves the fact that I am still bursing and encourages it.. but only at home. He is against the public feeding, however... I am too now seeming I have a modesty issue and my son is all about exposing thigs to everyone else!!

I agree with many others here though... to get your supply back up, you will really have to try to get your baby to actually latch on. Also.. it may not be that you are not producing as much... just that it is regulating more now. I know that since my son has dropped to only nursing about 3 times a day, and I pump about 3 times a day most days as well.. my supply all though I thought diminishing, seems better then ever. I was afraid I had nothing left, and looked in my freezer storage box to find that I still have 12 bags in there and 4 avent via cups as well.. so I am taking it a little eaier. I do recommend speaking to a lactation specialist... I do not recommend the prescription drugs for many reasons, anythign natural just seems better.. ohh, but please be careful with the fenugreek and mother's milk teas... if you have allergies to chamomille, golden rod (same family of plant BTW) or curry... do not use these as they will make you very sick!

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Wow, Britni. I am sorry but your child's well being is more important than your husband's "comfort". If nothing else, do it when he's not around to help get your supply up and/or to stay where it's at. Hubby needs to get over himself and do what is best for his child, or allow you to do what is best that is. That's just ridiculous in my opinion. The good news, he's not the one that has to breastfeed, so he shouldn't be uncomfortable w/it... it is natural and your body. Good thing you guys weren't born before formula and pumps, your son would be in big trouble. Sorry, I don't mean to be mean or rude, this one just seriously has my blood boiling. I think that is so selfish. Start another thread on the uncomfortable hubbies, I bet there are more out there. Not mine though, he's so supportive of me not only breastfeeding, but doing extended/full term breastfeeding. I am still nursing my 2yr 7mo. old son and 16week old daughter.

Britni - posted on 07/29/2009

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Is there any other moms out there who there husbands are uncomfortable with them breastfeeding?

Britni - posted on 07/29/2009

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My husband is just very uncomfortable with having me nurse... We discused it when I was pregnant... So that is why I havent put him to my breast since we was born.. Even tho I would like to try it.. I dont want to make him uncomfortable. With my eldest son I was a single mom at 17 and I breast fed him and my freezer was soo full I had to stop pumping I had way to much... But he didnt latch on properly that is why I pumped with him...

Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2009

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Mothers milk tea! Love it! But you'll also have to start getting your son to nurse. That will bring it back. Best of luck to you :)

Pamela - posted on 07/29/2009

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I'm part of a yahoo group for pumping moms and I have heard recently that Kashi makes an oatmeal chocolate chip cookie that has worked in increasing supply. Don't know from personal experience (yet) but it certainly sounds like a good thing to try and who can't use a cookie? :-)

Natasha - posted on 07/29/2009

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not sure why your husband doesnt want you to breastfeed? the only way to breastfeed without your milk drying up is to have your baby feed on demand which means latching on for as much as he wants. the sucking will will bring your milk back up.



unless there is some medical reason why you cant breastfeed then i say all the power to you. its not his body and it is your choice to breastfeed. it sounds like you really want to because it you didnt then you wouldnt be asking for advice.



maybe you could explain further as to why he doesnt want you to breastfeed. is he controlling or something?

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I know there are some women that have side effects, such as bad headaches, with Domperidone. Also, some use Relgan as well, but I just saw a commercial about a class action lawsuit on Relgan. So you really have to be careful about taking pills to increase milk production. Especially in this situation where simply actually nursing, instead of exclusively pumping, would increase supply.

You really need, IMO, to have a heart to heart w/your hubby and simply from what you are telling us, I think he needs to not be selfish or get over any stigma's he has around actual breastfeeding and you need to actually breastfeed. Or consider formula. Best wishes!

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