does anyone have a problem with their daughter wetting their undies after toilet training for a yr

Jessica - posted on 12/17/2009

thank you everyone for your great ideas and i will try them all

Marisa - posted on 12/17/2009

I have two that are in that potty training age. My daughter just turned 4 and my son is almost 3. We have started to set a timer in our house. Every two hours we make a potty break, everyone stops what they are doing and we all go to the restroom.. I know it probably sounds silly, but the dr's say everyone should actually be going about that much. Most of us Mommies hold it all day, but hey we should atleast try and teach the kids to go. It works for us because the kids know they wont "miss" anything while they are in the rest room. Boy I sure am tired of washing ten pair of clothes for each of them in one day! I don't punish for having accidents but I do make them clean up their wet clothes and wipe up any messes they have made. Best of luck to you!

Jessica - posted on 12/17/2009

my daughter is 2 turning 3 on 31st dec i left the decision completely up to her we brought her a potty as a way for us to get ready not to force her to use it at first it was a game for her but we left nappies on her and than she would take her own nappy of and go to the potty by herself and she was making it everytime than one day she decided it was time to use the big toilet she calls it and i only have the problem when we are at home i ask her all the time does she need to go to the toilet and she always says no but when we are out or at the shops she will tell us and i take her but at home it is a different story i have considered pull ups and put them on her but she hated them even tried putting a nappy back on her and she would whinge and take them as soon as she got away from me i have tried praising and even buying her a toy when she would make it to the toilet but my husband feels alot of time with her is missed when he is at work and buys her whatever she wants so buying her a toy was longer able to be used as a reward i even considered displining her but i thought that might make it worse insted of better i know have to do her washing 3 days a weeks as she wets all of her undies and she has about 12 or more pairs of undies and i am honestly desperate and at a loss as what to do

Sarah - posted on 12/17/2009

How old is your daughter? My daughter was 3-1/2 before she finally made the decision to use the toilet on a regular basis, and we've only had a handful of accidents since then. And they were truly accidents: twice she said she was dreaming she was on the potty when she wet the bed; once she simply tried holding it too long because she was at the neighbor's and didn't feel comfortable using their toilet; and once she was very upset and just didn't recognize that she needed to go until it was too late.



We tried potty training for about two weeks when she was 2yo, but she decided it was too much trouble. She liked wearing the regular underwear, though, and was upset when we switched back to pull-ups. I let her know she could wear the regular underwear when she could use the potty all the time. At 3-1/2 she just started using the potty one day and asked for her underwear back. I let her have them on the condition that she continued with the potty, and we've never looked back. We did continue to use pull-ups at night, but they were almost always dry. She finally asked for underwear at night, too, and have never had any problems (except when she dreamt she was on the potty...).



In my opinion, potty training is one of those things that is best left up to the child. Of course, if I have another, I'm game to try elimination communication (EC). I think that once the child is used to a diaper, it's really going to be their choice when they switch to the toilet. To me, it just wasn't worth my daughter's disappointment and shame to try to force her into something she wasn't ready for, all for the sake of saving a few diaper changes. We read books, we talked about it, we tried it a few times, she followed me to the bathroom every time I went -- she knew exactly what it was all about. She just wasn't ready 'til she was ready. And after that, it was easy.



The less stress, the better. You control just about every other facet of her life -- what she wears, when she sleeps, what she eats, where she goes, who she sees. Relax and let her have the say in this situation. She might just surprise you. And if not, what's a few more diapers between family?



Good luck,

Sarah

Nicole - posted on 12/17/2009

OMG YES!!! I have the same problem with my son. We started training almost 1yr ago and he still wets his pants and will blatantly do it after I ask him if he needs to go and will do it right in front of me. I had to get tough on him because praise was just not working, so now he gets put on the naughty chair for 5 mins everytime I ask him if he needs to go and says 'no' then within 5 mins he wets. This seems to be working because he would rather have the praise than punishment so i am now finding he will take him self to the toilet then come and tell me and he relishes the praise that is given.

Good luck.