Extended breastfeeding - do you mind telling people?

Hannah - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 109 moms have responded )

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I am just curious, I am bfeeding my 2 year old, something I never imagined I would be doing but I am fine with, but I surprise myself that I actually don't want everyone to know.
Some people know, some people assume she was weaned before 1 and I haven't corrected them (my own mum included!!)

I wanted to know, of all of you still bfeeding an older child, do you feel able to be upfront about it, or all we all victims of not wanting to deal with the comments and prejudice? I don't feel I should have to explain myself to people, so only those who need to know do.

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Maria - posted on 09/16/2011

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Delia- You're comments are ignorant and offensive. Yes statistics support saying fewer breastfed children than formula fed children have food allergies, but exclusive breastfeeding does not stop children who are prone to food allergies from developing them. My 18 month old never had formula, only breast milk, yet he has multiple food allergies. You have no idea what those children drank when they were little and to assume you are better because you breastfed?

To answer the question asked. My 18 month old is the size of a 2 year old and I have stopped nursing him in public. (Not saying I won't ever...) However, pretty much everyone who knows us, knows he is nursing. I think the only person who has commented about when will he stop is my mother, she just knows it's not the "norm". Everyone else who knows about it just minds their own business, they also know he's got food allergies and that was one of my main reasons for breastfeeding past a year. I guess I am blessed to have supportive friends who don't seem to judge for doing something "different".

Delia - posted on 09/15/2011

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Just attended back to school night. Hmmm, apparently 9 of the Kindergarteners have food allergies. What a great decision to keep that formula flowing in lieu of human milk, right? Uchhh!

Anna - posted on 09/15/2011

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I'm breastfeeding my 16 month old son, something I also didn't anticipate on ever doing, and I'm very upfront about it even though people look at me like I'm from the stone ages. I think you should be proud of yourself, not embarrassed. Who cares what people think? They're just uneducated enough about breastfeeding.

Aicha - posted on 09/15/2011

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I am still breastfeeding my daughter she is 2 but I only allow her to nurse when in private , it is just easier that way with her. I nurse her brother also he is 8 months he nurses on demand when ever and were ever he wants

Belinda - posted on 09/15/2011

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I am loud and proud about breastfeeding my first son until he was 2 1/2 and my second son who is still nursing at 21 months. I don't push it in anyone's face but I definitely don't hide it. If people ask I don't hesitate to inform or correct them. I know I am doing what is best for my children so I don't care what others think about it. Also, maybe if they hear about more women breastfeeding at this age they'll begin to realize how normal it is and be more supportive of women who do.

Katherine - posted on 09/14/2011

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my son is 2 years old and he also still nurses, i nursed through a pregnancy and am aslo nursing my newborn baby daughter. I usually don't bring it up, i play a don't ask don't tell approach. If someone asks me about it i don't lie, i tell the truth. But i get alot of complaints from my mom and my husbands grandmother, but that's why i log onto places like this, so I can see that i'm not alone. Other mothers are just like us out there :) and all the breastfeeding consultants i talk to about it are so happy that he has gone this long and that's all i pay attention to :)

Carlyn - posted on 09/13/2011

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My son weaned himself at 2 1/2 . A friend of my BF until her child was three. I would find women/ friends who still BF who share your bond of BF your child still. It is the best thing we can do for our children. Don't worry about what other people say, do what's best for your child.

Nicole - posted on 09/13/2011

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it's nice to see other people do breastfeed past a year! i don't really do it in public anymore (my son is 20 mths) but i dont lie about it either. I don't know anyone else that has bf'ed this long so I feel very alone at times. I believe it is best to give him what he wants because it is so good for him-especially on days where he hardly eats anything else! my husband has on my case about weaning since before he turned one but he grew up in a formula family and I wish i had more support! i am joining my local la leche league in order to find other moms that feel the same. We need to make breastfeeding more publicly accepted! I hate feeling embarrassed that I breastfeed when it's what's natural. Thanks to all you moms for sharing!

Delia - posted on 09/13/2011

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And just for the record, my youngest child who nursed until I finally helped his direction with the "self directed weaning" at 4 yrs of age, is off the charts intelligent and affectionate. I dare say it was really good for him!

When people remark "Wow, he has amazing things to say! He REALLY is smart, and he's so sweet!" I love to reply "yeh, he nursed until he was 4 and I think that had a lot to do with it (hee, hee, hee). They often look a little perplexed because what can you say to that - after the fact?

Kim - posted on 09/13/2011

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I do tell people, why, the benefits of extended bfing are enormous, not just for baby, but for mom as well. For each year you nurse, your chances of getting breast cancer other cancers drop dramatically. For me, I have that 15 to 30 minutes that my 1 yo nurses(many times a day) to relax, bond with him, watch alittle t.v. or even be on the computer. The rest of the time, I am really busy, cleaning the house fixing lunch for the other children in my home( I am a nanny to 3, mom to 3). I nursed my 5 yo son until he was 3, he weaned himself, and those three years were awesome. I was unable to nurse my now 10yo daughter, I could produce no milk. I cried everytime I had to fix a formula bottle for her. I missed that bonding that breastfeeding brings, with her. Bottlefeeding isn't relaxing and there aren't ANY health benefits for mom. So I will nurse my 11 month old till he decides he doesn't want to anymore, and I do not care about the naysayers, as their opinions really don't matter to me. i am doing what is best for my baby and myself!!!!

Katherine - posted on 09/12/2011

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Everyone knows I'm still nursing my three year old. I've gotten a few family comments about it, and my response is always (with a huge smile), "Oh, I figure if he's not done by the time he goes off to college, I'll just pump and ship it on dry ice!" At that point, people usually stop trying to bring it up. ;) I figure if they have a problem with it, they can suck it up and deal, just like I do when people do something I'm not thrilled about. :)

Caithlin - posted on 09/12/2011

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Jennifer- I think it is amazing that u are still nursing ur almost 5 yr old! Congrats and keep up the good work! Ur son is gunna be so smart as well as all the health benefits for both of u!!

Caithlin - posted on 09/12/2011

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Ashley P-ya I think its funny how many strangers will congratulate me on still bfing and some of my closest friends tell me that she is too old to still be nursing.
Ashley A-U should tell him that it is probably quite the opposite. I know alot of ppl who were formula feed that had and still do have drug problems. And actually allowing ur child to self wean sets them up better psychologically.

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I don't mind telling people and don't care what they think. Right now I am currently Breastfeeding my 3 year old daughter and my 9 month old daughter. I also breastfed my older children till they were ready, they were self weaned. So they were around 4 to 5 years old when they stopped Breastfeeding.

Michelle - posted on 09/12/2011

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My daughter in 2 years 6 months, and I don't have a choice weather I keep it quiet or not. When she wants it, no matter where we are she asks very loud, " mum can I have a bit of boob " Can be quite embarrassing . She is showing no sign of giving it up although or her sake I think it is about time as she suffers quite badly with separation issues. And she sees it as answer to everything.

Melissa - posted on 09/12/2011

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I think it is important to tell... yes, premature weaning is what happens the most, but breastfeeding is nothing to be ashamed about and the more people hide, then the weirder it seems when someone does talk about it...

Why people are people ashamed to do what is biologically normal?

I have two that weaned at 5 and one that weaned at 4 1/2... they all stopped nursing in public in their second years... they were just too busy to stop and nurse but if they would have asked, I would of nursed them...

I didn't hide it all from anyone!! I was in newspapers and our nursing story is in a book and I was a breastfeeding councillor. I Loved normalizing natural weaning!

My youngest is now 19 months and she nurses frequently, in pubic, at home etc... I hope to have a few more years of nursing ahead of us...

Tonya - posted on 09/12/2011

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I do not offer up the information. The only people who know are people who are around when she expects to nurse and that is now early morning, bedtime or if she gets a major booboo. I, like you, do not feel like getting in a discussion with judgemental people.

Heather - posted on 09/12/2011

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I'm still nursing my kiddo at 20 mos. and if his attachment to it is any indication, we'll probably be continuing with it a bit longer (yeah, mommy would be okay with moving on--lol!). I'm not sure how long I bfed in public, but certainly well after one year. Now it's mainly at home.I don't advertise the bfeeding, but if anyone asks, I answer.
My son asks for the breast in public if he's feeling shy or a little overwhelmed, but we've gotten to the point that I can say "later, before bed" and he'll accept that. Well, he'll whine a bit, but he's distractable. ; )

As for reactions from folks, some do a doubletake if I have to bfeed in public, but they don't say anything. I live in Germany, so the whole body-conscious thing is toned down here. The main negative reactions actually come from some friends and family (my mother thinks I'm nuts). They were all very pro-nursing in the beginning, but once we passed the one-year mark it was kind of expected that he would be "over it" by then. Anyway, I try my best to ignore the comments. My doc hubby's cool with it and he rolls out the medical evidence if folks get too mouthy on the subject. Honestly, if your kid's healthy and happy and growing, what can folks really complain about?

Tricia - posted on 09/11/2011

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I'm still bfeeding my son, he's 2.5. Mostly just at night & when he wakes up in the morning. The other day he looked up at me & said, "i'm nursing." It was funny. I work from home so that has certainly facilitated the extended bfeeding. My mom doesn't understand...i get flak from everyone I know except my sweet hubby. If someone asks, I tell them the truth, but don't broadcast it. It still seems so natural to bfeed him...he is a healthy smart boy & I just want to keep him happy! We are flying cross country soon & i'm a little anxious about that...i've bfed him on a plane several times before, but he was a baby. I have a feeling I will do whatever I need to do & just ignore the stares, if I get any. Glad to know i'm not the only one out there still bfeeding beyond 2! I'm just a mom that goes with the flow, doin' what feels right.

Phelicia - posted on 09/11/2011

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I BF my little until she was 2 years and 3 months old. It wasn't my goal but we were comfortable and it kept her healthy. I stopped only because I was pregnant again and was too sensitive to continue. I was not shy about it at all. There were lots of looks and comments but I hoped that in the long run I could help other younger ladies feel comfortable with extended nursing which is so healthy for both us and baby. It is really hard to go against social norms but know the time you spend nursing your children is so wonderful for them and for you. If you don't do well with criticism,don't worry...there are many of us who are, and w will try to make it easier for you next time!

Lisa - posted on 09/11/2011

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I'm sitll nursing my 19-month-old and I don't share it much because I get comments, like, you're still doing it? Why? It's just annoying. I didn't plan on nursing this long, but I am, and I'm comfortable with it. I don't feel like having the conversation with every person I meet. Most people won't bother me about it more than once though.

Marla - posted on 09/11/2011

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My daughter is 25 months old and loves nursing. She is small and eats food all the time and loves to nurse first thing in the morning and before naps/bed. I do feel self-conscious about nursing in public because of the looks. But my feelings are, she likes it, it is good for her, and there is no problems right now. Why should we stop at the moment. I am just scared she will be 7-8 expecting to nurse and I will be a granola woman with the big shirts to fit my kid under. (no offence to the granola type people out there) My daughter is brilliant and I am able to keep my weight at a respectable range... win win. I still get my close cuddle time, she gives be the most beautiful smile ans asks for milk and she tells me "Mommy milk Nummy" and signs dessert. She also cracks mommy milk jokes... not happy about that one. I found the following info that makes me feel good about still nursing and makes me feel guilty about weaning my son at 15 months.
"The World Health Organization recommends that infants nurse, here and worldwide, for a minimum of two years. According to an anthropologist expert in infant nutrition, the minimum weaning age for humans is somewhere between 2 1/2 and 7 years. Studies even show babies heart rate drop, their stress levels drop, and their blood pressure drops when they are nursing." Children Bfeed for more than 2 years have the highest IQ scores on average and there are so many more benefits... I don't know why people would stop before they physically had too.

Secretly I am hoping she will self-wean in the next year or so. I just hate to deprive her from something she loves and looks forward to.

Molly - posted on 09/11/2011

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I haven't stopped nursing for 5 years, with my 3 girls, so the first 2 i tandem nursed for a while, and weened my oldest at 2.5 years because i got an infection where my breast got so red and hurt so badly, i just had to stop with her so i could continue nursing my 2nd child in peace, and when my 3rd child came my second one weaned herself at 2 months shy of 3 years old, and i will probably keep that cycle until i am done having kids. I am not ever afraid of telling anyone i nurse, and i especially love to tell the ones who say eww all about my nursing, all i care is about the health of my child and i know breast is best.

Donna - posted on 09/11/2011

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agreed. my daughter is 23 months old and still breastfeeds. I keep it hush hush. Im ready to be done with it but shes not so right now i guess im just gonna keep going untill shes done.

REBECCA - posted on 09/11/2011

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Yes I'm still bfeeding my 30mth old daugther, but I am just in the last couple of days trying to wean her off. Going alright at moment

Delia - posted on 09/11/2011

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I do feel comfortable telling them.I consider it an educational opportunity! Few Americans know that The World Health Organization RECOMMENDS 2 years, and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends a MINIMUM of 1 year. I also know that the immunity benefits increase, the longer the child is breastfed, so 2 and even 3 years is terrific!

Let's just say that with those knowledgeable organizations supporting "extended" breastfeeding, combined with the fact that I am a Registered Nurse, the "uuu, that's weird" protestations quickly dwindle down to a whimper. Arm yourself with facts and confidence and others will not only back down......they may even become educated and inspired.

Victoria - posted on 09/11/2011

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I do have a bit of troubling telling some people. But I do tell people if they ask. Exp since my son thinks it's okay to take his babas out randomly in public. lol

Faye - posted on 09/11/2011

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i breastfeed my baby till she was 2 years and six months..as long as i have milk,i wolud breast fed her..its for the babies benifit and for us also..dont mind the people around you they didnt know the feeling of fulfillment we experience..

Michelle - posted on 09/11/2011

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Hi,
I am still breastfeeding my 3 year old. Not much mainly morning and evening and no I don't talk about it. When he was 2 all I got was he should be stopping so it's easier for me not to talk to people. Although I think this is wrong if you want to breastfed after 1 why should we have to hid it.

Rebecca - posted on 09/11/2011

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I am still breastfeeding my youngest who is 3 years. I am very up front about it as I want to help make this an acceptable choice in our society. As this is my third bub who is a long term breastfeeder I am less concerned about others prejudices. To support myself I have always read a lot of books and been a member of Australian Breastfeeding Association. This has given me the confidence to be able to share positive information with others, so often they come away from the discussion with something they didn't know before. But is it always harder with your first child as you are always second guessing if doing ok and more upset by others negativity. Don't feed much in public now since he was about 2 1/2years. Just as he doesn't usually feed during the day only at night now so really only have discussion if it comes up in conversation with other mothers.

Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2011

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My son turns 5 in a month and a half and still nurses at bedtime and in the early morning. I must admit that when I started to feel uncomfortable about public nursing, he was only wanting it at these times. The last 2 nights, he has fallen asleep during stories, but in the morning he is still all over it. I am not shy about talking about it, but it is not the kind of thing that comes up often. Last weekend, we were at a fair and he pointed out that a colt was nursing. The lady standing with us thanked him, because she said she wouldn't have noticed and I said, he only noticed because he still loves it so much. She just said, of course he does, that's the way it should be. It is really nice when people are accepting, and when they aren't I find that if I don't get flustered, it is usually the person trying to ridicule me who ends up looking silly. It helps that he is a boy, I say he is such a guy he won't wean until his girlfriend complains and I get a laugh that breaks the tension.

Candace - posted on 09/10/2011

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I am nursing my 32 month old daughter as well as my 3 month old daughter. My oldest only asks at naptime but sometimes still gets jealous of the baby and asks other times too. It is getting hard on me because I also do daycare and we just got a puppy. So too much at once makes me want to start weaning the oldest. Otherwise I think she would still nurse two or three times a day. As far as sharing the info with others…I am a little hesitant but only since my youngest was born. I never thought twice about it but now it just feels weird after nursing a newborn having a toddler on my lap nursing. So we definitely don’t do it in public and only fess up when asked. I even find myself making excuses as to why she is still nursing. I wish I were more confident because I believe she is benefiting from it and she definitely still enjoys it (I love her giggle every time I say “It’s time for num nums!). I just don’t think I will ever get over the look on the nurse’s face when she walked into my hospital room after delivering my newborn and I was nursing my 2 year old. She was appalled.

Misha - posted on 09/10/2011

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I nursed my daughter until she was almost 2 (and only stopped because I had to go out of town on business for a week), but I was proud to tell people I was still nursing her. It shows a tremendous amount of dedication to your child (in my opinion) so I was always quite proud to let people know that I was still nursing. Most people would react with a bit of surprise but i never felt embarassed. I say go as long as you and your child want. It only builds a stronger bond and I don't see how it could be anything but beneficial.

Melissa - posted on 09/10/2011

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I have a 3 1/2+ year old that is still nursing. Both of my boys nursed until they were 21-23 months, only weened them because I was due to have their sibling.
I only let her nurse now when we are home, I understand.

Cynthia - posted on 09/10/2011

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I nursed my kids for extended periods of time, 13mths, 3 to 31/2 years I also tandem nursed my second and third, and my 4th and 5th for a few months after the next child was born. I didn't broad cast it though its was fairly common knowledge among our close friends. by the time they were two we were only nursing at home not when we were out and about as I did when they were younger and by the time they were three or older only on rising or at bedtime. I found that weaning each child it ws easier to just let the next pregnancy take care of weaning since pregnancy alters the taste of breast milk making it more bitter than sweet, and in those cases were I tandem nursed, the child I was carrying was the same sex as the one I was nursing, In one instance where one child nursed into my fifth month of pregnancy my breasts were extra sensitive to nursing, and that was with a child who only ever nursed ten minutes tops! Later I put it down to the pregnacy being a male child which I didn't know at the time.
I did find it very reasurring when I got into conversation with a local professional woman that she had nursed her children until they were two or three as well, It affirmed my choices.
Extended nursing is not for everyone, but those of us who have nursed for longer that six moths or a year, have our reasons both for our selves and for the health physical and emotional for our children. I know I became a better parent because I nursed for so long, and I was more emotionally stable than I might have been if I had not been under the influence of the nursing hormones. I was fortunate to have had an excellent let down reflex. and plenty of milk. I know other mums were not or are not so fortunate, I was fortunate to have each of my children except my eldest with me almost constantly from birth, and I was out of hospital within 24 to 48 hours of giving birth, I was also fortunate not to have any negative attitudes around me for at least two to four weeks after their births, and lots of affirmative reading for all of my children. in the case of my first and second kids the more health nurses tried to influence my nursing experience negatively the more I dug in my heels and kept nursing even when my second child took two to three weeks to master the skill when she felt my ambivelance, having mastered the skill with my eldest I no longer had anything to prove but felt she deserved the benefits of nursing just as her sister did. When my mom arrived two weeks after her birth it made me dig in my heels again. I have never regretted it, I learned things I never knew about my self. and learned to appreciate my children as individuals from an early age, and to appreciate physical stages of development and how interchangeable physical development and individuality can be from child to child.
My kids are all grown up now and its amazing how certain traits hold true over a childs life, and how traits I thought were ingrained for life are'n't necessarily so!

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My 2-year old is a serious boobie-monster and makes it virtually impossible to keep it hidden. If she in any way senses that I'm reluctant, she'll scream even louder for it, so I kind of have to be ok with sharing. I'm in Ireland, where people don't tend to throw their opinions in your face, so it's alright. But I'll be visiting my folks in Germany in November, and people are not quite as sensitive over there... It's not that I'm embarrassed about it in any way, it's just that I couldn't be bothered having to defend something that doesn't really need any defending in the first place. I guess it's just annoying me that this is even an issue.

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2011

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I'm still nursing my 2-YO and will do so in public if she needs, though we do try to be discreet and find a quiet place if possible. Really, I don't care much what others think. I'm feeding my child. At this point, her teeth often get in the way and I'd like her to wean, but she's not ready and that's between the two of us and nobody else. For the nay-sayers out there, the World Health Org. recommends nursing at least until age 2 and to do otherwise deprives the child of custom-made nutrients and antibodies. If there are ignorant people out there who don't understand, that is their problem, not mine.

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I did the same, just weaned my 2 1/2 year old about 3 months ago. I had antoher baby and once i had recovered from the c section i decided it was time, and i didnt overly fancy tandem feeding. But yes - i was quite worried about people finding out! My parents knew but not my brother, and onlt a few friends. Even when i was preg the 2nd time i felt a bit funny telling the midwifes i was stillg BFing! I used to die if DD1 cried to feed when in 'public'thankfully she wasnt a big speaker so she didnt say anything so most people didnt click that it was booby she was after - just thought she was cranky! Most people were pretty cool about (well to my face anyway) if they did find out - but i still felt like a bit of a weirdo. Why i dont know - i am a rational women, who totally gets why BFing is such a positive and is so glad i did it for over 2 years, but i guess you cant help buckle to some extent under to peer pressure. A massive well done, you have done your baby soo much good, emotionally and physically. xx

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he said he read about some study that said that kids who breastfed for too long ended up growing up going from one thing to another to get their fix (like drugs, sex, alcohol) because they miss how they felt when they breastfed since they were old enough to remember it.

Moron.

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I don't tell people anymore...

When my daughter was 10 months old, my boyfriend's sister was 9 months pregnant and I was hanging out with her and her husband and she was thinking about breastfeeding so we were talking about it. Then her husband told me that I should stop soon because he said he read about some study that said that kids who breastfed for too long ended up growing up going from one thing to another to get their fix (like drugs, sex, alcohol) because they miss how they felt when they breastfed since they were old enough to remember it. I told him he was an idiot and never mentioned that I breastfeed anymore because it made me so unbelievably angry that he would make some BS up because he thought that breastfeeding for more than a few weeks is weird. /rolls eyes.

I just don't like getting upset over stupid people. lol

Krystal - posted on 09/10/2011

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I am currently nursing a 28 month old and don't mind people knowing at all. I wish it was more accepted. I do feel self conscious about nursing in public now that he is so old though...and this bothers me (wish i didn't feel this way).
I get alot of pressure from my mom to night ween him (he still nurses every 2 hours all night long). That is frustrating ...(not the nursing, but the constant pressure to wean).

Cher - posted on 09/10/2011

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I dont mind telling people but i wont just blurt it out,lol. If we are talking about it i will say hes still bf(hes 18mnths) and if people ask I will tell and if he wants to bf I will bf him in front of people. I could care less.Hes my child and he and I are both comfortable bfing still and if people dont like it they can not look.

Jenn - posted on 09/10/2011

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my daughter is gonna be 2 in a few months and she only feeds off me in the morning cause thats all she wants. I dont bring it up unless asked. I get told that she needs to stop even her doctor said she should be drinking milk (which both of my girls can not stand the taste of it no matter what i do) so its just not something i worry about. If my child wants it i am happy to give it thats the way i think. Good for you for still b/f its a wonderful thing :)

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I live abroad where it's not so uncommon to nurse until even 4 or 5 years old. So I wouldn't be afraid to tell anyone here.

If I still lived in the States, yeah, I wouldn't offer up the information, though I wouldn't exactly hide it.

Aleks - posted on 09/09/2011

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Since my daughter has turned 2.5 yrs old I don't generally offer up the info.. though if it comes up in the conversation I will not lie. I too have been kind of "forced" into breastfeeding for this long due to my daughters food intollerances (its a good thing for me too as it taught me all those wonderful things that extended breastfeeding brings, and why it actually is NORMAL as opposed to the poor substitutes we all have been lead to believe is how things should be or are the norm - they are not, though they are too common, but that is another argument all together...lol). I too had to really watch my diet, thought I have been able to be a little bit more relaxed with it. However, I have been thinking of going back to it to see if it makes any difference in my LOs sleeping (again, I digress, sorry). Given she mostly nurses at night/sleep time (though I wish she would feed more during the day rather than wake up min 2x each night, without fail and demands to nurse) I don't really have much of a problem with nursing in public since we don't do it. We haven't really nursed in public since she was probably 3mths old and discovered that there is a world out there and its more interesting than nursing. Though on occassion she has asked/demanded in public, even as recently as 2 evenings ago, I judge it case by case if i should let her or not. And for the record, I did not allow the nursing 2 nights ago, not cause of concern over the public nature of it, it was because I had a few drinks ;-)

Family knows and in-laws know about me nursing still. No one says anything, and we don't really discuss it (my family knows better not to, and the in-laws no better than be so rude ). They also know that due to her food intollerances (past and present) I kind of have to - there is no other milk substitute for her (discounting the super-hydrolised formula that is super expensive and super bad tasting and she probably would not have a bar of it).

I have learned to love this relationship. It has taught me a lot of very interesting things about bf and bm, and natural human feeding. And it taught me how & why nursing is such an important emotional and psychological aspect/tool in nurturing/raising ones child.

And I am glad for it :-)

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I'm still breastfeeding my daughter (22 months) and plan to keep going as long a she wants, for now anyways! Before I had children, I thought 1 was old enough but now that I have a child, I know the benefits and I am happy to continue till 3 at least. I actually feel quite proud to tell people I am still breastfeeding if they ask. The odd time I've felt funny but now as I become even more confident in our choice to continue, I enjoy telling people all the benefits! You shouldn't have to explain yourself but you should feel proud too, you are doing a wonderful thing for your child. And you'd be surprised at how some people even congratulate you on what you're doing!

Caithlin - posted on 09/08/2011

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My little girl just turned 2 and is still nursing about as much as she was a yr ago maybe even more, she still even cluster feeds and she almost always choses nursing over food. I kinda use that as an excuse with my friends who think she should have been weind a yr ago or even sooner. I try not to bring it up with friends bc then I get ridiculous comments and have to argue about how much better breastfeeding is, why I'm still bfing and what not. The family still knows except maybe some extended family on her fathers side who just assume she is weaned. But on my moms side I think most of them still know but they all breastfeed. My mom breastfeed us for awhile and loves that Aida is and wishes she would have had more support when we were all nursing bc she wanted to bf til we were all 4. But we don't typically nurse in public mainly bc we are too busy running around everywhere and my daughter is so distracted with everything to even ask. We've always been really open to bfing in public. We never use one of those cover ups or anything, I wish all moms who bf would go with out one of those cover ups bc It just looks shameful although I still congratulate them for doing it in public.
But I'm still open to telling anyone! Normally when the conversation gets brought up but sometimes I bring it up! I will admit I don't instigate the conversation as much as I use to but I'm still proud to tell ppl! And congrats on still bfing!
And I'm glad to hear so many moms who have made it to age 4! I think we might make it that far unless my daughter decides to wean before that but I doubt it! I think if she has her way she will be nursing til college lol!

Chris - posted on 09/08/2011

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I was good nursing my son in public until about 3 and now at almost 4 he has to wait until we are at home. I also don't lie if asked, since we need to normalize BF for everyone. I very very openly nurse and talk about my 19 month old nursling. They are supposed to be nursed at this age and I am proud to be meeting her needs!! Good Job for making it past 2 years!!

Christa - posted on 09/07/2011

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My son is almost 4 and still nursing. I don't feel weird about nursing him at all, but I do feel weird about it in public. I think it is the best for him - it seems to be a real comfort for him especially now that we have a 1 year old too. I do the same thing most of the Mom's above do - don't mention it unless someone asks and try to avoid nursing in public. It helps that my son seems understanding about me wanting to keep our nursing private.... Good luck with the extended nursing everyone! I wonder how long my nursing adventure will continue?....No signs of stopping!

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