Family thinks that bf my 14mo is 'weird'

Tammy - posted on 09/03/2010 ( 51 moms have responded )

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I come from a family that either has bottle fed or only breast fed their babies for a few months...my son is 14mo now and I am proud to say we are still breastfeeding. Unfortunately, I have been starting to get comments from, including my husband, that 'its starting to look weird' , 'you're going to have fun trying to wean' 'you shouldnt breastfeed while being pregnant because you wont have enough nutrients' etc. We are going to start ttc #2 next month and I dont plan on weaning my son in the next few weeks! Any tips on how to deal with this and to prepare my body for breastfeeding while pregnant?

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Once your period has returned and is not irregular than you are fertile and can get pregnant. I got my period back when my daughter was 11 months, but it was irregular for a few cycles. Now it is normal and I'm back to full fertility. I know this because I chart. You could try charting so that you can see when you're ovulating and know when to try. I use this website to chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ They have a basic free membership that gives you tons of info and helps you determine when you ovulate. My husband and I are thinking of TTC #2 (we have a 16 month old). I would recommend checking out the book "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower. http://www.amazon.com/Adventures-Tandem-...



It has great info about how to continue breastfeeding during pregnancy and tandem nursing both. As for others, it's hard, but just ignore. I would talk to your husband though because his support would be helpful. My husband was unsure of nursing this long too, but I have talked to him about the benefits for my daughter and myself. He also thought we couldn't get pregnant again until she weaned. When he found out that we could he had no issues with me continuing to nurse.

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2010

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while the decision to continue breastfeeding should only be between you and your son, i do think it would be helpful to at least have your husband on your side. have you shown him all the material on why extended breastfeeding is so beneficial, and recommended by the WHO?
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/in...

your body is fully capable of producing milk, and growing a new baby at the same time but if you are not getting all the nutrients and calories needed through your food to support both, your body will start to take them from your stores so it is extremely important to make sure you are eating healthy.

Jeany - posted on 09/11/2010

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I was still breastfeeding my three year old while pregnant with my second. My husband tried to convince my daughter that she would need to stop breastfeeding when the baby came, but she was smart enough to point out to him that there were two boobies, so the baby could have one and she could have the other. She continued breastfeeding until just before she turned five, so I was breastfeeding two girls for 16 months. Siblings sharing breastfeeding is a wonderful experience for all concerned.

Noel - posted on 09/11/2010

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women around the world (not just in third world countries,but also in industriualized countries ie many countries in europe) breastfeed their babies much longer than we do here in the united states.i have heard up until the age of 4-7.breasts were made to feed our babies but because our society says breasts were meant to be a mans play toys we are shunned when we instinctively feed our babies.i got pregnant with my youngest son when my older son was only 7 months old(which i do NOT reccomend) and i continued to breastfeed throughout the whole pregnancy and in fact am still breastfeeding both of them, my older son is 20 months old and still nursing.i too have heard comments from my family,i stood my ground and took the opportunity to educate them about the benefits of breastfeeding.as far as having enough nutrients, my doctor reccomended i take in 3000 calories a day to make up for what was being consumed.and my baby boy was very healthy when he was born weighing in at almost 9 pounds.i will tell you...it is a LOT of work.in preparation for my new baby i did wean my older son at night so their would be no competition for nightime feedings.that took only two nights and it wasnt easy but i still allow him to nurse during the day which he gladly accepts.immediately after the birth of my youngest son it felt like i was sitting all day nursing and that can be trying to say the least.but if it is something you choose to do,as i have, the benefits greatly outweigh any negativity around it.god bless.

Melissa - posted on 09/08/2010

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When I was eight mos along with my second, my oldest was interested in nursing again. I let her. When my youngest was born, I often had both on me and I loved every moment of it. I didn't stop until I dried up from probably not drinking enough during the summer. My oldest was five years, four months.

I miss it something awful. I also miss the wonderful side benefit some moms enjoy.

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Hailey - posted on 12/17/2010

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Your body will make enough nutrients! If you couldnt breastfeed whilst pregnant your body would just not make any milk. Dont let any member of your family put you off feeding if you are still enjoying it. I fead my daughter right through pregnancy till my sons birth, them tandem fed them both. I kept it a secret though, didnt quite know how to explain that one to the inlaws and to be honest....its none of thier business! And yes they are right, you will have a hard job weaning because they love it :) I found it hard to wean, so i didnt, i let them wean themselves

Lucia - posted on 09/11/2010

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The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding till 2 yrs and the USA has one of the lowest rates in the 1st World economies, I am proud of you to set example. I understand you because my husband family has the same position: thinks is weird, needy, dependent and clingy...all things that are social misconceptions since is proven breastfeed babies have Higher IQ's, human interaction and luv of a mom is never clingy and creates dependency, all the contrary prepares your child reinforcing the idea that he is loved , lives in a secure world and his family loves him, promoting more self confidence in the future ;)
MMMM dunno what you mean prepare your body to breastfeed but breast-milk changes flavor and composition when pregnant, is not contra indicated at least for my doctor and midwife, take supplements, I used fenugreek herbs to boost milk supply, for what I know from my sister and midwife most toddlers wean themselves when mommy becomes pregnant, but is possible and go for it!!! :D

RACHAEL - posted on 09/11/2010

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My daughter weaned herself off the breast at ~15 mos as a result of Baby Led Weaning and being ~8 weeks or so pregnant with baby#2. It has been estimated that 2/3 of BF babies wean themselves when mama is pregnant. Theory is that the taste changes. There are plenty of great books out there for mamas that do BF while pregnant and mamas who have plans to tandem-feed tot and babe. Dr. Sears, The Breastfeeding Book; Kathleen Huggins, R.N, M.S., The Nursing Mother's Companion and La Leche League International, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding.
I had full intentions of allowing my daughter to BF up to her second birthday, if she so pleased (my husband and I came to this compromise together), so I totally relied on these books to give me all the information I needed. It also helped that there is a "Boob Guru" on the island of Oahu who could help me had I needed it. Many programs, such as WIC, often have lactation specialists who you may want to talk to as well.

Its not weird you want to BF your child as long as they need/want it. It is something totally between you and your babe when and how you wean.

Liz - posted on 09/11/2010

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14 Months is NOT that old! I say ignore those comments.
I don't know what to say about nursing while pregnant though. When my 1st son was 6 months old, I became pregnant. My midwife said it was fine to keep nursing. However, I had a very severe miscarriage and almost bled to death. (Sorry for the gruesome-ness). Had to be rushed to the ER and the Dr. told me I should not have been breastfeeding and she indicated the miscarriage may have been caused from it. Supposedly, while you're breastfeeding, it helps your uterus to contract. While you're pregnant, your uterus is trying to expand for the growing baby. I've since heard from both dr's and mid-wives that it's not good to nurse while pregnant.
I don't know how I feel about it. I'm nursing right now and don't think I would stop if I became pregnant. I don't believe the miscarriage was caused by it. Especially since I had 2 other miscarriages after that when I wasn't nursing.
So, I guess just go with your gut and remember that just because a dr has a PHd, that doesn't make them an expert on YOU and it certainly doesn't mean they know everything there is to know about medicine.

Heather - posted on 09/11/2010

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I bf my baby she's 14 1/2 mos. I don't care what others think they aren't her Mom I am and I know what's best for her! I got those comments with my son I bf him tell 15mos when he decided he was done. I kept having to defend my self then this time I made self clear..I don't care what they think!

Sidra - posted on 09/11/2010

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its good to breast feed till 2 years! so the longer the better, and 14 months is still a little baby! if you're worried about breastfeeding while being pregnant and dont want to stop breasfeeding right away cuz obviously it takes time, then just hold up on getting pregnant, waiting a few more months to get pregnant isnt a big deal, get pregnany when ur ready too!

Christina - posted on 09/10/2010

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Its not harder to get pregnant while breastfeeding it actually increases your chances for having twins

Hillary - posted on 09/10/2010

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I am a huge breastfeeding advocate and I say you should absolutely continue breastfeeding if it makes you and your baby happy--even if you are trying to get pregnant. This is perfectly normal and healthy for both you and baby. I come from a family that's somewhat disapproving of breastfeeding, too. I didn't pay attention to any of their comments or innuendos. Instead, I attempted to educate those who would listen. Fortunately, my husband is from Russia where breastfeeding is the norm and he was the most supportive of my decision to breastfeed all 3 of our kids. Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 09/10/2010

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Oh, I dealt with the opinionated family too! However, I felt and feel very strongly about putting baby first. When my daughter was ready to wean, I let her. She was 20 months old. And she quit because I was pregnant and the hormones changed the milk's taste! Her abrupt halt in nursing is what alerted me that I might be pregnant.

My family slowly began to hold their opinions to themselves because I never gave them a reaction other than to smile and say baby and I were happy and healthy. My second baby nursed till nearly 26 months old! And she weaned herself as well. Of course you don't need to breastfeed a baby over a year "on demand"...you can take some control over when and where. It is a bond that no one else will ever have with your child. Not even their father. So embrace this gift you alone can give your child!

Jessica - posted on 09/10/2010

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Well keep taking the Prenatal or Brestfeeding Vitamins for one. And tell them to screw off its what's best for your child and he will wean when hes ready. My son was 14 months when he weaned because he was more interested in "real" Food. So good luck

Virginia - posted on 09/10/2010

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I am currently 8 weeks along and my 29-month-old DD still nurses 1-2x/day. I had no problems conceiving and as long as you take in enough calories, your body will have no trouble producing milk and growing new baby. As for your relatives thinking it's weird that you're EBF-ing, that's their problem and they can shut up and deal (IMHO). Really, it's a personal decision when to wean and no one has any right to tell you any different. Good luck to you!

Smith - posted on 09/09/2010

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as long as you both are enjoying it, it is perfectly fine. I wouldn't go past two years old myself but the longer you feed during those two years the less health problems they will have in the future. Just let them know that and that you don't care Yay! for breastfeeding :)

Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2010

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Tell them if it looks weird, they should stop looking. Tell them that you are sure he will wean when his girlfriend complains. That ought to bother them enough to shut them up. Have your husband read some of the posts on this site from women who nurse their preschoolers. It is possible that men are not natural experts about breastfeeding.

As for child #2, eat healthy food and get enough sleep. And if you want your oldest to like his sibling, let him self wean. Don't let them bully you. You are the mommy and it is your decision.

Malina - posted on 09/09/2010

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i say to hell with their comments. YOU are her mother. YOU are raising her. i get the same from my family and friends and my son is almost 8 months. keep it up mama! not only is it healthier, you're walking around with free jugs of milk lol

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Keep eating healthy, drinking enough water and getting enough rest. (Although I'm not sure how to do that last one with a kid.) Many breastfeeding women conceive, are pregnant and then tandem nurse. Others find that their milk dries up during pregnancy or their nursing kids self-wean for whatever reason. Occasional nursing has been linked with increased fertility in some cases. It is considered a risk factor for conceiving twins. Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 09/09/2010

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i dont have anything on the weaning...as i cant wean mine that is 16 months old. but i do have a similar situation, my family and fiances family always say when am i going to stop breastfeeding and say wow ur STILL BREASTFEEDING? i am pregnant with my 4th child 13 weeks and still breatfeeding, my doc tells me all the time not to b.f. and eat this drink that keep up with the fluids and nutrients but i am confident enough that i am just fine. people have done it for years and i am just going to do what i want to with my own life and kids. i never b.f. past 3 months with my 1st 2 children but wanted to try it with my last one then found out we were pregnant but i am trying to wean him its just super hard. my cousin told me all her babies stopped on their own by 20 months. we'll see! good luck with ur situation. glad i am not the only one.

Heather - posted on 09/09/2010

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I am also breastfeeding my almost 14 month old, and people can kiss my butt. It's my decision, not theirs. Try not breastfeeding your 14 month old around other people, including your husband. That should stop his comments. Maybe too, your husband wants his boobies back already! :)

You can breastfeed while pregnant, nothing wrong with that at all, your body will get plenty of nutrients if you eat right. Check http://www.kellymom.com/ for more information. That website has lots of information on breastfeeding while pregnant, etc. Good luck. I am proud of you! Stick with it and what feels right for YOU and your child. Don't give in to what other people think, that's nuts. Children around the world are sometimes breastfed until they are 5 years old, or longer. I don't plan on doing it that long, but my regular doctor is letting me do it until my daughter and I want to stop. It's no one else's business but yours. Don't discuss it with other people when they ask you about it. Tell them that it's none of their business and to please keep their opinions to themselves.

My almost 14 month old has only had one earache her whole 14 months and no colds. Yes, I do party contribute that to her nursing! We have had a few colds go through our family and my almost 3 year old son, and my baby girl never caught anything but that earache!

Melissa - posted on 09/09/2010

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...and I think as long as you have a healthy diet, taking necessary vitamins, you should be all set. Our bodies are AMAZING

Melissa - posted on 09/09/2010

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My son just turned 2 and we both still enjoy nursing. Some people have their opinions, and I just ignore them. He is still a baby and getting all of the beneficial anti bodies etc. BF beyond one year seems "strange" to our American culture, but only because Americans consider the breast "sexual". MANY other cultures breastfeed well beyond 1 year. As long as you are both comfortable with it (and good about brushing the baby's teeth) there is no harm in this. They will not be going off to Kindergarten nursing :)

Lizelle - posted on 09/09/2010

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I don't know how often you still feed, but at this stage I was down to 2 feeds per day with my eldest. So I simply didn't tell fools like your family that we were still breastfeeding. He was 16 months old when I got pregnant the second time and I breastfed him till his little sister was 9 months old. The first trimester was the toughest. I was tired and had bad morning sickness so didn't always feel like breastfeeding. But after that I went well. Often babies will stop breastfeeding once your colostrum comes in. Usually around 4/5 months, but in my case 12 weeks. My son however loved it. Because you're producing colostrum you don't need much more nutrients/food than normal pregnant women. It really was a very special time for us 3 and I would do it again if I had to make that decision again. The first few weeks after our daughter was born it took a little effort to establish a drinking routine that worked, but it was much easier feeding her then it was my son. I struggled less with painful nipples, engorged breasts and all of that. And because of my toddlers help it was so much simpler to establish a good milk supply. The only downside was that I really struggled to lose weight (when ever I tried I wouldn't have enough milk), but seems like this is a common problem second time round even for mums that don't tandem nurse. Best of all was the amazing bond that formed between my two kids. It's so precious.

Things you need to consider:
- Tell your midwife/doctor that you are still breastfeeding. In higher risk pregnancies it is not advised to continue breastfeeding.
- Some women tend to go into early labour, especially when they breastfeed too often. So don't try to feed 6 times a day for 30 minutes. (Nipple stimulation can induce labour, but studies show this to be true when it's done for about 3+ hours daily)
- Visit http://www.kellymom.com/bf/tandem/index.... for some great tips and advice. It helped me a lot. Especially with some worrying questions.
- Some women find it harder to conceive while breastfeeding. So if you do find it's takes longer than a few months consider weaning. We however fell pregnant the very first month of ttc.

Good luck. Hope you can get better support from hubby. Maybe let him also research tandem feeding and extended breastfeeding. This just might change his mind (and pre-set ideas)

Krystle - posted on 09/08/2010

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My son is 14m too and my Mom always mentions something like "you're still bf?" "Are you going to do it forever?" "Shouldn't you stop now that he's so old". I tell her, over and over again, "The current recommendation is 2 years and beyond". And ignore the rest.

Julie - posted on 09/08/2010

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I agree, it does not matter what others think. I bf all during my second pregnancy without any problems. My first was only 12 months when I got pregnant. Read what La Leche Legue says about it and know BEFORE you go to the doctor the first time.

I had my midwife say well I recommend you stop to which I responded there is not reason if there are not problems, she only said it that once.
As for how long she was bf, she was 2 yrs, 5 months when I weaned her.
You can do it however you want to and I do understand a husband who is not totally on board, you are the mother and know best.
good luck

Rachel - posted on 09/08/2010

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i bf my oldest until i was 3 months pregnant with my second so my oldest was 16 mo when i stopped. the only thing is you have to make sure you are getting enough calories for you and your baby and your toddler... The only reason I stopped when I did was so I would give my body time to stop producing toddler milk and start infant milk and colostrum again. Good luck!

Valerie - posted on 09/08/2010

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It's perfectly natural and normal in most of the world to nurse past one year. I am currently nursing my 3rd and she is 21 mo. My other two self-weaned around 2 years, one at 22 months, the other at 26. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends bf'ing until at least 12 months and the World Health Organization actually recommends bf'ing until age 2. While mother's milk isn't necessary for baby's nutrition after 12 months, it is still technically better for them than cow's milk... it was made specifically for them! Baby will also continue to get immune support from you as long as you nurse. None of my kids were ever sick enough to need antibiotics (no ear infections, no respiratory infections, nothing) until after they stopped nursing and were about 2 1/2 or 3 years old. Sure they got a runny nose or two, but it lasted maybe a couple days and was gone. I think it's great you are still nursing, you know what's best for your baby and as long as you feel you are doing the right thing, stick to your guns and tell them you are just giving your baby the best shot at a healthy childhood!
One thing you might prepare yourself for is that your baby might self-wean if you get pregnant because your milk will begin to change. I have a few friends that successfully bf'ed through pregnancy and then tandem nursed their newborn and toddler. Your body will always make milk for the younger child so sometimes the older one will decide they don't like the taste anymore, but for the most part if you eat well and stay very hydrated, you can nurse through your pregnancy. Hope that helps, and good luck!

Dora - posted on 09/08/2010

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Tell them to mind their own business. You are doing what is best for you and your child. I do recommend contacting your doctor and just make sure it is okay to breast feed while pregnant. I have heard from different people that the nutrients aren't enough when breast feeding and pregnant at the same time. I don't know how true that is but definitely look into it before you start trying.

Natalie - posted on 09/08/2010

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Same thing happens to me, WHO (World Health Organization) recommends breast-feeding until age 2, and that has been my plan since I was pregnant and I would cahnge it for the world, right now I TRY to breastfeed only at home, in private but if I have to BF in public and people give me a weird look or make a comment on it, I just ignore them or reply on how smart, healthy and loving my daughter is! Good luck.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/08/2010

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Mine is 15 mo. and I still breastfeed her. I tell my family to just mind there own business. When that doesn't work I tend to ignore them which is hard for me to do because I do not like to be told how to raise my child. I like advice just as much as the next person but breastfeeding is up to the mother and no one else.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/08/2010

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Mine is 15 mo. and I still breastfeed her. I tell my family to just mind there own business. When that doesn't work I tend to ignore them which is hard for me to do because I do not like to be told how to raise my child. I like advice just as much as the next person but breastfeeding is up to the mother and no one else.

Maggie - posted on 09/08/2010

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I've been getting that since my son was 6 months old, but do whats right for you and your baby, I am!

Tine - posted on 09/07/2010

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I'm breastfeeding my 22month old (while I type actually!!) and we're just about to ttc as well. I feel totally at home about the whole thing, largely because I have a supportive group of like minded women around me, and because I have read some good books!
I suggest you read 'Mothering your Nursing Toddler' by (someone) Bumgardner (weird name great book!!), and 'Adventures in Tandem Nursing' put out by La Leche League. The Australian Breastfeeding Association website is full of great advice and will definately have advice to help you deal with the family!! Just google it. These 3 resources also have accurate info on what changes may or may not happen if you breastfeed during pregnancy (perfectly safe!) and really the only thing you need to do to prepare your body is to eat a variety of good healthy food and get enough rest and excercise - I know LOTS of women in this situation, and it truly is fine!
You are absolutely doing the best for your child and yourself! If all else fails tell the family about the World Health Organisation recommendations to breastfeed at least 2 years .. pretty hard to argue with that! :-)
:-) Tine

Alisha - posted on 09/06/2010

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I am running into the same problem but it is just because of our society in any other country women are encouraged to breastfeed for at least two years and in England it is common to find mothers breastfeeding until their child is 5. Do what feels right for you and as far as breast feeding while pregnant just make sure you take your vitamins and eat very healthy for all of you!

Merry - posted on 09/06/2010

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Tanya, its a shame that theres drs like that ........and a shame we arent taught to question their orders. Im glad you didnt 'obey' his orders :)

Tanya - posted on 09/06/2010

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My DR told me to wean my son when I got pregnant because he was too 'old' to still be nursing. At that time my son was not even 2 yet, I was so angry that he had even suggested that to me. And my DR said that he supports all information by WHO ...

Merry - posted on 09/06/2010

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April, only if you are extreme high risk do you need to wean during a pregnancy. A normal healthy mom is always able to nurse through pregnancy. Many drs don't know the facts so it's best to make them explain the decision and look it up online. I'm sorry your dr told you that, unless you truly were high risk. I hope more drs will start educating themselves so they don't give bad advise.

April - posted on 09/05/2010

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I also came from a family that looked down on breastfeeding, but I breastfed my son until 15 months. I just let any comments go in one ear and out the other, just like any unhelpful "advice"; I couldn't even tell you now what they had said. As far as nursing while you're pregnant, my doctor said that I needed to wean my nursing baby when I got pregnant. I would suggest talking with your OB about that.

Merry - posted on 09/04/2010

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Just tell them god/ mother nature never intended children to be drinking cows milk, or weaned so young. 14 months is sooo young! Really, don't cut him short cuz of bad advise, he is supposed to be nursing now, weaning would be weird.....biologically speaking. I mean just tell them point blank that you have no reason to short change him on nutrition so why would you? I'm nursing my 1 1/2 yr old son and am 6 weeks pregnant. Weaning plans for me are 3-4 years.....

Tanya - posted on 09/04/2010

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My son was 27 months when he self weaned and I was pregnant with number 2.
I just had to make sure I was eating enough and drinking more than I thought I would need.

I would talk to your husband one night once you son is in bed, and find out what it is that he doesn't like about you nursing your son still. Don't let him give you the excuse of you son being too old, find out the truth.
You could give him all the stats that WHO puts out, but I don't think that will help much.
As for the rest of the family, good luck with that. I was dealing with that with my family until the day my son stopped nursing. I am not sure what to say to them to get them to stop other than to get a very hard shoulder.

Ashleigh - posted on 09/04/2010

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Its not wierd,Its normal.You need to make sure you are taking you vitamins.Eat well and drink lots of liquids.There is NO reason you can't BF your son through out a pregnancy.I've done it up to 7 1/2 months pregnant at which time my son who was 22mo decided he didn't want to nurse anymore.He has however in the last few months started nursing again.He'll be 3 in Dec.My youngest is 8 months old.You can do it.You just need to inform the ppl who discourage you that you know what you're doing and you have support and resources that tell you its fine.Good Luck and have fun Trying for #2!

RaeAnne - posted on 09/03/2010

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I have a MIL that tries to convince me it is time to stop BF. My LO will be 2 years at the end of the month. I have told her I would stop if she was willing to take my LO over a weekend strech so that the out of sight out of mind would work. she laughd and said she couldnt handel that. I also told her that our family Dr. said he wont give me advice on how to wean until she was over two. My MIL thinks the world of this DR so that also helped. As far as my husband I guess Im lucky. He says to BF as long as our LO wants. So as I see it we will be BF for a while longer if thats what still works for us.

Jamie - posted on 09/03/2010

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Well, I have a 14 month old who breastfeeds, and I am 5 months pregnant. My midwife just said I had to take my vitamins faithfully, and to make sure I eat an extra 300 calories a day without fail. In fact, this pregnancy is going so much more smoother then my first! As far as, your family member's comments, my mom always says "if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen." You have to get stubborn and strong about breastfeeding if you want to make it! I think it is great what you are doing! So, I hope you keep it up! I agree with the woman who said that you need to get your husband on your side. There are plenty of sites and research to prove to him that you are doing the healthiest thing for your child.

Danielle - posted on 09/03/2010

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you can still breastfeed while pregnant! you just need to make sure you eat a very healthy diet and take your prenatals while doing so so your body is at optimal health! and my son just turned 12 months and is no where near done breastfeeding..your doing a great job. stand up to your family , including your husband, tell him and them that you are being a good mom and you'll nurse until your both ready to stop!! its none of their business, including your husband, its a bond between you and your son and he is still getting lots of nutrients, way more than cows milk from you...your doing a great job! keep up the good work!

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I am a breastfeeding mother of a 14 month old too. I've had my share of rude comments from many people, family & friends of the family. I think the decision to continue breastfeeding is between you & your son. Ignore peoples opinions, or you could try telling them about the benefits of extended breastfeeding.

I'd definitely talk to your husband about the benefits, its important for you to have his support on this.

You're doing a great thing for your son, keep it up!

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2010

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Don't worry about what other people think/say. My family/my hubby's family have thought I should've quit breastfeeding my son long ago. He's 17 months old now. My menstrual cycle returned when my son was 11 months old and yes I am 5 months pregnant right now. I am pregnant and breastfeeding. It can be done! You'll need extra calories from the beginning of pregnancy, extra calcium and protein, and extra fluids.



Make sure you are taking your prenatal vitamins now and your folic acid. Eat a good diet and exercise. If your menstrual cycle has returned, I'd recommend taking your basal body temperature. And good luck ttc!

Mary Renee - posted on 09/03/2010

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I think it's harder to concieve while breastfeeding. It's not impossible, but more difficult (although I'm sure you're not exclusively breastfeeding, so you're probably ovulating again)

As for everyone else, tell them "I think it's great I'm still breastfeeding." and then change the topic. Or get really graphic haha, so they want to change the topic (sorry, that might just be my personal silly sense of humor way of doing things)

I too am tired of my mother-in-laws comment about breastfeeding (she's been trying to convince me to give my daughter rice cereal since she was 4 weeks old!) and I know, it's totally annoying having to defend yourself all the time. Blah! I hate it! I will never tell a mother how to do anything unless asked because I know how obnoxious it is.

Sara - posted on 09/03/2010

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i agree. don't let anyone else tell you what to do, do whatever feels right, i know people that are still breastfeeding and their kids are over 2 years

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