Kristy - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 184 moms have responded )
The story goes a little something like this.
He didn't let his ex-wife breastfeed. Fine and good, I guess, because she was a push over. (and I dont mean that in a hateful way... Me and her are actually friends now). She didn't breastfeed their son because he didn't want her to.
I'm more upfront with what I want and am going to do. I have already informed my finace that I WILL be breastfeeding.... And he's kinda accepted that fact.
However, he does not want me ACTUALLY breastfeeding. He wants me to pump and feed thru a bottle. He has no reasoning behind this besides that he doesn't want the baby to grow up and be... quite literally... a "titty baby." He doesn't want her growing up with an unbreakable attachment to me. Or something like that.
I feel like, I will be doing what I want, with the breastfeeding... and that's GREAT. And I feel like I should be more considerate because I AM breastfeeding when he doesnt want it at all. I feel like the "right" thing to do would be compromise... I've mentioned ACTUALLY breastfeeding for the first 3 (or so) months and then weining over to formula (i know i know... i hate it.) But he says that he's okay with me using breast milk for as long as I want (or can) as long as its not baby-to-breast breastfeeding...
Where would you go with this? I mean, would you insist on ACTUALLY breastfeeding the whole time, would you compromise (and if so then how)... just let me know what you'd do...??