For Co-sleeping, Breast-Feeding Moms - sleeping question

Christi - posted on 02/19/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have a 10 month old who co-sleeps with me, and wakes up numerous times during the night to nurse. I was just wondering if any of the moms have older kids, at what age co-sleeping, breastfed babies start to sleep longer, and when and how did you transition them to their own beds? I'm ok with it for the most part but just wanted to see how other folks transitioned. Thanks for your comments.

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Rebecca - posted on 02/19/2010

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Hi Christi (and others who have the same question):

I only co-slept with my son until he was 6 months old, then moved him to a crib in an adjacent room and continued nursing him 3, then 2, then 1 times each night until he was 11 months old. So I can't really give you an answer other than to say a friend of mine is co-sleeping with her 14 month old daughter, and her daughter only nurses once each night, between 2-4 AM. She sometimes wakes at 10 PM but will go back to sleep after a moment without eating. She's been in the pattern for at least the last 2 months. My friend used Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Sleep Solution" and really found it useful. It's recommended by Dr. Sears and other attachment/gentle parenting experts.

I would recommend you all come over to the Attachment Parenting / Co-Sleeping Moms group on Circle of Moms -- I think you will find a lot more answers to your questions there.

http://www.circleofmoms.com/attachment-p...

Angela - posted on 02/20/2010

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I love co-sleeping but when the baby starts to try to get away from me in bed(rolling away, or trying to crawl away), then I try to put them back in their own beds. For my daughter it's 7 months but she'll be in my room for a while yet. Until she is only waking up once or is done breastfeeding at night. Our bed is just too high up for me to not worry about her safety. Good luck!

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I'll let you know when it happens..... My 23 month old son is driving me absolutely CRAZY right now. Not co-sleeping isn't a real option for us though. I've got nowhere else to put him......

Alicia - posted on 02/22/2010

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Hi. I ave a 22 month old and he would do most of his nursing at night. This got exhausting...now I am pregnant with my second, and he has weaned from nursing. Now he sleeps a good solid 8-9 hours straight....sooo nice. As far as co-sleeping goes, we have put a toddler bed right next to ours...and thats the only transition we have made. Good Luck.

Emily - posted on 02/21/2010

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have had all of my 6 children in our bed from new born i love the clossness of the babies beside me, im so tired some days because of it because of the constant feeding throughout the night i can feed at night then put in cot so i can have some sleep and s pace then when wakes after 3 hours bring to my bed the other kids slept in their own bed around 3 but start with their single bed in the room with us until they get used to sleeping by them selves

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2010

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depends on the kid really, they are all different.



for my 1st born, she was 3 before we could get through the night without nursing and 4.5 before she started to sleep through the whole night regularly without needign to come into our bed.



for my 2nd, he was 2 when he stopped night nursing and coming into our bed.



my current nursling is 8 months and she still spends the most of each night with me, nursing on and off. I don't really wake up so I have no idea how often.

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2010

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My 2 1/2 year old still nurses and co-sleeps with us along with my 7 month old who also nurses and niether one is ready to stop nursing or co-sleeping with us and I will let them until they are ready. My older daughter stoped at around 3 1/2 so if that helps any. I also second what Emily says "They are only young once" they grow up so fast and I enjoy this time with them

Emily - posted on 02/20/2010

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My 3-year-old son is still nursing and co-sleeping, along with my 5-month-old daughter. My son started sleeping through the night at around 11 months. He has been in his own bed off and on over the last 3 years, but for now he's not interested in moving out of our bed, and it's okay with us too so we don't push the issue. I'm pretty sure he won't still be there when he's a teenager ;) so for now we're just enjoying the snuggles. I figure we have the rest of our lives to have the bed to ourselves... our babies are only little this once.

Sarah - posted on 02/20/2010

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I co-slept until probably 17 to 18 months old. I started the night in my bed with my husband, but then after her first feeding we would stay in her room in the twin bed. She never slept well in her crib so we got a bed rail for the twin bed. I still nurse her laying down in there but get up after the feeding and got back to my bed. I think because I was leaving her in the twin bed it was easier to sneak out than if I had to put her back down in a crib. I highly suggest that. It's a really low platform bed that she can crawl in and out of herself. I know most recommend not going out of the crib until 2, but she was ready. Now as far as sleep through the night. I have no idea when that will happen. She still wakes 1 to 2 times, more often 2. More times if she is sick.

Amanda - posted on 02/19/2010

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I coslept with my second son till he was maybe 10 months that was the time when he started to sleep 8 hours a night, but he only woke up maybe 2 times a night and would fall right back to sleep when he co-slept. I nursed him till 19 months but @ 10months when I started to transition him I would take the pillow cover off of my pillow and put it in his crib so my smell would be there and started with nap times by putting him in his crib and eventually he slept in his crib. With my daughter she sleeps with me mon-fri and on the weekend I do the pillow case with her and she sleeps in her bed just fine she does wake up 3 times a night but I have a rocking chair in her room so I feed her there and she goes right back to sleep.

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Thanks for posting your question Christi!! I find all of the stories I have read are encouraging. I have a 15month old and he has been co-sleeping with us on a more regular basis the last 3 months. He nurses still through out the night. I tried transitioning him to his room and he woke up terrified!!! I didn't want to push him again. It broke my heart. So I figure maybe we will try putting his crib in our room and see how that works. Since we are in the middle of moving I won't be doing that right away; but once I do, I'll post the results. :D

Crystal - posted on 02/19/2010

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and oh ... i knew he was ready to not be in bed with me anymore because he always had a room of his own from birth, and he plays in there and what not ... eventually, when i said " ok babe, lets go lay down ... he went to his crib to wait for me , rather than to my room ... it was really quite devastating at first, as i enjoy cuddling with my babies , and i sleep better with them than without them , now we're just aiming for full nights

Crystal - posted on 02/19/2010

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my 16 month old slept with me until he was 11 months. He stopped doing it on his own, i never weaned him from my bed, or my breast, he chose to do so on his own. Unfortunately he does still wake up 2 - 3 times a night, as per what his feeding schedule was ... i have no idea how to stretch his sleep times. .. and ive recieved alot of bad advice that i refuse to even mention becuase its just unthinkable ... if u have any ideas that doesnt include let him cry it out id be glad to give it a try ..lol

Sherree - posted on 02/19/2010

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I'm interested in this answer too. So far out of the replies, I haven't heard anything actually telling us how it is going to happen and at what age. If I continue sleeping with my breastfed baby, at what point is she going to naturally and gently wean herself and/or stop waking up at night to nurse? I know it's got to happen some time, but I guess I'm just hoping it's going to happen by the time she's 2. She's 16 months right now. It's just hard to see the big picture when we've never done this before. Hard to trust that it's going to turn out and that she'll naturally transition. I've seen improvement for sure as she's gotten older, so I do have some level of understanding of how it'll work out.

April - posted on 02/19/2010

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my son sleeps in his crib in our room. i have a unique situation because i am hearing impaired and need him to be close. i have a special alarm that shakes my bed when he wakes to nurse (nurses at least 4 times a night).

because of my hearing impairment, i don't plan on transitioning him to another room until he is no longer nursing, i.e. sleeping a full 12 hours without waking.

i am assuming that because sleeping through the night is a developmental milestone, that sleeping in his own room will also be something he'll do when he's ready.

Minnie - posted on 02/19/2010

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I've found it goes in cycles. Difficulty getting off to sleep/frequent wakings for us usually involve a growth spurt, developmental milestone, teething, illness, some other sort of upheaval in baby's life. I find that while frustrating and tiring during the time, it helps to know it won't last forever.



My second went through quite a long stint of doing this from about eleven months to thirteen months. She would wake about every 50 minutes and have a very difficult time settling despite me lying in her bed and nursing her. I found that it had involved us putting her in a twin next to our bed. So back she went into our king. At 16 months she's sleeping much much better now, still in our bed, but typically wakes about three times a night, and goes right back to sleep within five to ten minutes of nursing. Sometimes she puts herself back to sleep if I just lie there and pretend to sleep myself.



I haven't been there regarding transitioning children into their own beds in a gentle manner. Our nearly four year old sleeps in our room, in her own bed, but I didn't know enough about cosleeping at the time to realize I could have slept with her longer and made the transition gentle.



We plan on keeping our second in our bed until she seems ready to make a gentle transition to her own bed.

Beth - posted on 02/19/2010

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we bougth a crib , and set it up tight to the bed,used bungies to tighten it to the frame, so it couldnt move , at the same height,as the bed then when she fell asleep , would slide her to the crib, still close enough and covered with the same blanket , but it took about a month or so before she would go to sleep in the crib she still fell asleep covered wiht our comfortor, but we worked away from that too

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My 14m old nurses on & off all night too and takes really long naps during the day. The more active she gets, the less she nurses during the day, so I guess she's trying to make up for it at night. I haven't tried to transistion her out of my bed yet. What I did with my 7 yr old, is I would put her down intially in her crib. Sometimes she would sleep 2 hours, sometimes 5 or 6. Whenever she woke up, I would bring her to bed with me. She self-weaned at 18 mos, but continued to co-sleep. Hope this helps!

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