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Laura Zoey - posted on 05/22/2010
Christy, just so you know for the future. At 10 months a baby can't wean itself. It's actually called a nursing strike. Weaning has to be after 2 for it to be child led weaning. Especially if under a year you have to give formula, it's not weaning. If you call your local LLL leader she can give you tips about nursing strikes. Not that it is bad that he isn't nursing anymore but it's not ideal. I know it must be nice to have a rest between babies, I think I will be nursing for years without a break and I wonder if it will be hard. Goodluck with your new baby! I hope you have an easy delivery and a wonderful breastfeeding relationship with your new little one!
Christy - posted on 05/21/2010
my original goal was 6 months, then i would go from there. when 6 months hit i moved it up to a year. Then my son self weaned just a few weeks ago at 10 months. :) i am currently 4 1/2 months pregnant and am glad my breasts are getting a break before i have to nurse another baby. It is such a gift and an honor to be the reason your lil one is alive. :) its your prerogative. go as long as you wish!
Laura Zoey - posted on 05/21/2010
I predict Eric will nurse at least 2.5 years. But we are ttc now and when baby 2 comes along Eric will probably not want to wean while baby is nursing! So Eric might end up like the 5 yr old in the previous post. Because I will homeschool him and I won't stop before he refuses it. The health benifits are lovely and I say bring it on to the nasty comments about nursing a big boy. He is about the size of a 2 yr old at 1yr 1 mo and I just nursed him in my local mall and no one even stared!!! I plan on having a baby every two years so we will see how many I can nurse together!! Anyone nursed three different aged children at once? (twins not included)
Jessica - posted on 05/20/2010
I had such trouble at the start, my goal was a week at a time! But since about 10 weeks it's been a breeze, she is almost ten months now and still going strong. My goal is to let her self-wean.
For mums who are worried about their babies being less interested or their supply dropping before 1 year, kellymom.com has some great info.
Reissa - posted on 05/20/2010
My goal was 12 months with my first child, but she sort of weaned herself off at 9 months . . . due again in November and hoping to go a full year this time . . .I really enjoyed the bonding with my daughter, felt that breastfeeding was much more convenient than bottles, and saved a bunch of $$$ :)
Maria - posted on 05/19/2010
My goal was 12 months, but my son is now approaching 8 months and I think I want to breastfeed for longer. maybe 18 months, maybe a bit more. I am sure he will also let me know when enough is enough.
Natasha - posted on 05/18/2010
My goal was 12 months. My son is now 14 months and is refusing to take a bottle. He eats solid foods drinks juice and water from cups, but no milk. I've slowly tried cutting down feedings during the day, but I have to pump because I am getting engorged. Basically, it's up to him.
Rosie - posted on 05/18/2010
I was going to quit last month, i wanted my bed and my body back, but i just couldn't. My son was a stuggle, but my daughter has just been a breeze, i guess i will try for 1 year or until her teeth make it impossible.
Sarah - posted on 05/18/2010
My original goal for my son was 12 months. At six months I was so tired all the time I didn't know if I would make it, but I pressed on and as he slept more through the night it became easier and we ended up nursing a little over 17 months. I became pregnant again when DS was 14 months and he self-weaned very easily right around the end of my first trimester. My goal will be the same with baby #2... hopefully this one weans just as easily when he/she wants to!
Sarah - posted on 05/18/2010
I really never understood the logic of weaning a baby at six months old only to then get them onto a bottle of formula! When I was pregnant with my son I thought 1 year to nurse would be good. Then as others have said the one year mark came and went and then I though 2 years and that came and went too and so did the three year! We're still nursing (only once per day sometimes none in a day) and he can continue with that if he likes....In the meantime I've gotten pregnant and had a baby girl (all while nursing my son ....yes you can get pregnant when you're nursing!) She is now 14 months and still nursing a lot everyday and it works for us.....not to mention the $1000.00's of dollars I've saved on formula, bottles, etc..The world health organization says it's best to nurse for two years and then however long after that if desired by mother and tot!
Cindy - posted on 05/18/2010
Our goal is a year. My husband is diabetic and increases her chances by 40% that she won't develop diabetes. Plus, the overall healthy aspects of it keep me going, even though I'm sleep deprived getting up twice per night to pump. But ultimately, it's her decision to make when she is ready to stop.
Rebecca - posted on 05/18/2010
I've read some random posts after I wrote my post & now I have to say that Im 31 & I would like another baby & would like to have a rest before I conceive, ideally I would have liked to breastfeed for longer also, it is truly bonding but also soooo soooo beneficial for baby's health.
Rebecca - posted on 05/18/2010
My goal was to fully breastfeed, without supplementing with a bottle until 12mths. Unfortunately life is to stressful & I had to supplement with Goats Milk formula from around 9 months, I am still breastfeeding and only 2 wks off 12 months....
Mhairi - posted on 05/18/2010
It started as just get to 3 months (I had a lot of pain at first) then 6 months, then a year. Now we're still going strong and I'm hoping to make it to 2 years. But I'll let him self wean so if we don't make it that far then so be it.
Luschka - posted on 05/18/2010
World Health Organisation says 2 years, so I'm hoping for that, but we also do baby led weaning and I think we'll go till she is ready to stop, or it just becomes weird! I might express beyond two years though - it is also worth noting that sometimes they tend to wean themselves, but come back again later!
Trista - posted on 05/17/2010
I don't have a goal. I love the bonding. Although I have had a traumatic experience of seeing a neighbors child just climb into her lap, lift her mother's shirt and start eating. Might not be scary to some, but it was to me.
Jennifer - posted on 05/17/2010
My goal was until at least 2 years old, which I'm so excited to post that I attained!! He's now almost 30 months old!
Question for you though, I have PCOS so I have to use meds to get pregnant so our Fertility Dr said that I will have to wean him off because the meds arn't safe for him...we really want to add to our family, so I guess it's what we'll have to do. We co sleep with him, and he mainly nurses before bed and gets up at night to nurse also...any ideas out there for me??? I was realy hoping that he would self wean and feel sad to push it when he doesn't seem ready.
I appreciate any tips or ideas! And thanks for your time!
Jessie - posted on 05/17/2010
well I started with 12 months and then battled with us both having yeast infection (in my breast and on his tushy) when he was a few weeks old (OUCH) and it took several creams, prescriptions, and home remedies to get rid of it... so for the 1st 6 months I made one-month-at-a-time goals. we are at 10 months now with no signs of stopping soon. I would like to go through the next flu season so that would prob be another 10 months. we shall see :)
Alanna - posted on 05/17/2010
I knew I wanted to breastfeed without a doubt for at least 1 year. It was so hard at first but I stuck with it and made it past the first 3 difficult months all the way to 15 mths. It was definitely worth it. No ear infections and was hardly ever sick until she started going to daycare. It was hard to wean and afterward when she was sick I wished I was still nursing b/c I knew it was the best thing for her to have. Will probably try to nurse the next one longer.
Jenn - posted on 05/17/2010
I first hoped to make at least 3 months. I'm now at 9 1/2 months. She only nurses 2 or3 times a day and I supplement a couple of bottles. She'll probably be weaned by the time she's one. I know breast is best, but I had a rough time keeping up my supply. I think I did the best I could do and I have a very happy baby. To be honest I'm surprised I made it this far.
Leslie - posted on 05/17/2010
My real goal is until I get the go ahead from the doctor to start him on homo milk, but I keep saying one more month, when I make it to that month and say one more. I don't want to pressure myself. I know personally I won't be doing it after 10-12 months. Thats just me though. I say stop when you feel comfortable to stop.
Amber - posted on 05/17/2010
My son is almost 9 months old. I didn't have a goal starting out, but I just assumed I would nurse as long as we both wanted to. When I started looking for work we found out that our son would not take a bottle, period. One day we tried a formula bottle and he accepted that with no problem but he still refuses breastmilk from the bottle. Now that he is almost 9 months we supplemement him with one bottle a day but it seems like he is starting to prefer his bottle to me. So we will see how long he nurses, I guess it will be up to him now
Gina - posted on 05/17/2010
My goal was 12 months only because I was having an operation when she was turning one and thought I had to stop because of the procedure. But there was no need and she's still feeding twice a day at 16 months. I would like to get to 2 years now, it's so easy, and she doesn't like milk of any other sort, so she needs breastmilk and loves it. (She has loads of dairy though). So that's my goal and I'm so proud because with my poor firstborn I only lasted 3 weeks due to major problems with b/feeding. The main thing is they're both happy and healthy and if I can continue a while longer and she wants it, I am happy to.
ps - Dawn, as was already stated, it will improve and there will come a time when you will forget the pain. It took me 2 and a half months with my daughter to finally feel no pain. I think some of us take longer than others due to more sensitive nipples, etc, as some friends of mine have said they've never felt any pain at all. (I had pain even when docs, nurses, experts, paediatricians agreed that she was latched on perfectly). So hang in there if you can, it's worth it, even if only for a few months.
Audrea - posted on 05/16/2010
My goal was 1 year but here we are at 8 months and he has 4 teeth and is not afraid to use them! We do co-sleep, but he will only stay asleep if I give him a bottle before we put him to bed of 6-8 oz. I feel kind of bad if I don't at least reach my goal, but for future children's feeding sake, I fear I'll have to soon wean him. :(
Kelly - posted on 05/16/2010
mine was at least a year and guess what my son is two and is still breastfeeding. he seems happy and very healthy never anything but a common cold and even that hasn't happened for about 6 moths. he very much loves it he will point at the place next to him on the couch and say boob. it is so cute it is unreal, he is not ready to quit but i have noticed that on his own he is gradually needing it less. i do feel weird in public sometimes when he demands it and he is like a huge kid on my tit but that's ok there are worse things im sure.
Amy - posted on 05/16/2010
three years. I breastfed my oldest for three years, my middle child self weaned (much to my dismay) at about 13 months and I am currently nursing my happy healthy 10 month old and hoping for a long nursing relationship with him!
Elysia - posted on 05/15/2010
my son is now 14months old and when pregnant my goal was at least 6months and 12months would of been great. I stopped at 9months as i was 3months pregnant with our 2nd baby and a growing belly and growing infant was becoming difficult. I do miss it though and when i have this bub i will go as long as possible. i think bf is a wonderful thing and nothing beats that bond with your baby. I actually really miss it so i try to cuddle with my little boy every chance i get :)
Amy - posted on 05/15/2010
My first was only able to nurse 2 weeks due to a major illness, my second was 13 mo, my 3rd was 18 mo, and my 4th is still nursing at 23 mo. I always had the goal of 1 year in mind, but just went with what felt right. I'm pregnant with #5 now and hoping my little one will nurse through the pregnancy to help out with that wonderful engorgement period that I struggle so much with in the beginning after this one is born. I've never tandem nursed and would love to try! Here's praying she doesn't self-wean before she turns 28mo!
Kristin - posted on 05/15/2010
My goal is child-led weaning, but I really hope to not be nursing an 8 yr old!! I do however wish to promote this type of bf-ing (I like the term "full term") as more and more normal in our messed up society. I had lots of problems and pain with bf-ing for the first 10 weeks! But she is now almost 26 mos and going strong! I cannot even imagine having an arbitrary cutoff date planned and then sticking to that! That would be a nightmare for us! I love that there is always a perfect snack available or her any time, anywhere, and it keeps her from getting sick most of the time too. So many benefits!
Diane - posted on 05/15/2010
2 1/2 - 3 years probably till I'm pregnant again. I get very sick during pregnancy (HG) so I will probably stop by the time I'm 8 weeks along, that's when I had to stop nursing my daughter when I was pregnant with the twins, she was one week away from her second birthday.
Debby - posted on 05/15/2010
I never had a goal with my first, and he self-weaned at 21 months. When I had my daughter I felt I had to give her the same as her brother so I was aiming for at least 21 months, but here we are at 31 months and still going strong even though I've since had another baby. If the changes to my milk in pregnancy didn't put her off I'm not sure what will! I'm thinking if we get to 3 I might start trying to encourage her to stop, but that will be hard when she'll see her younger sister still feeding so maybe not. Perhaps they'll both self wean at the same time, but as my younger daughter is only 8 months that means I could going for a long time yet.