Help!

Stacy - posted on 06/17/2012

Hi, so he is in his crib! He was not happy but his okay and i miss him but i know its for the best. Thank you to all you great moms for the advise. You all are amazing and have been a great support.

Stephanie - posted on 06/15/2012

I know how you feel! I finally tried the cry it out method when my daughter was four months old and it worked for us. I always said I would never do that, but it worked, and now she sleeps in her crib for naps and at night. She is also fully breastfed and she wakes up to nurse at night like your baby. Some one told me they started putting baby in the crib for naps, but that didn't work for me. Before I started her in her crib, she slept on me and nursed, sometimes for up to 3 hours. She doesn't nap for nearly as long now, which is the only down side, but it's worth it to get my bed back.
The cry it out method sounded so mean to me, and I didn't want to wound my baby psychologically. But, I reassured her every 5 minutes or so, I realized that if I went in the room and rubbed her back, it made her more upset. Instead, I just stayed at the door and said a few quick "it's okay, shhhh, and go to sleep" She did fuss for about 45 minutes the first night, but she wasn't really crying, only fussing. The next day, all her naps were in the crib and from then on she goes to sleep no problem in the crib. She is still so happy to see me in the morning and she gets a better night sleep, too. And when she wakes up at night she just eats and goes back to sleep, not needing to nurse to sleep.
Also, I tried at first having her crib (cot) in my bedroom and she woke up about 4-5 times at night. When I moved her crib to her own room (still I can hear her if she wakes up) she only woke 1-2 times a night. I knew she could smell me and the milk, that was the issue.
I hope it goes well for you! Be strong and know that she will not be 'different' the next day, she will still love you.

Thamar - posted on 06/15/2012

My son also wanted to sleep right next to us at that age and was very upset when we tried to move him to a crib. We moved his crib next to our bed with one side down like a sidecar instead. He was much happier this way. He would start out the night in the crib and often come closer during the night. I continued to breastfeed as I felt that this was reassuring to him that we were still there. By 1 1/2 or so he was pretty comfortable staying in the crib. By 2 he was able to sleep in a bed in his own room. Although now at 3 1/2 his bed is next to ours because he still wants to be close at night! We figure that sleeping comfortably alone is a longer process! Don't worry, do what you feel is right.

Terra - posted on 06/14/2012

If you have a crib, sidecar it next to your bed like a co-sleeper. No need to end co-sleeping just a need for extra space for the both of you. It gives mommy room and baby a place to sleep on their own. It will also get your little one used to the crib if you'd like to eventually transfer to their own room. Just take it slow and don't think anything will work over night. Your baby has known nothing but you for his entire life and if you are suddenly just no their any more it can be really terrifying.

Here's a great how to for sidecaring a crib.... http://www.freewebs.com/sidecarcrib/inde...

Stacy - posted on 06/13/2012

Thank you, baby steps. Lol, i feel like im the one hurting more! I love to snuggle him and it makes me feel like he is do safe. Last night i cried because i just wanted to snuggle him but i think im doing the eight thing for the both of us. Im really glad i joined the net work of moms!
Stacy :)

Michelle - posted on 06/13/2012

It is not a camping cot it is a normal baby cot, try googling baby cot, it is bigger than a bassinet... Eating at night is normal, breast fed babies apparently don't stay as full as long as bottle fed babies. from the sounds of it you have the feeding down pretty well. My daughter is 2 I still sleep in the same bed as her but am currently kicking the habit (or was till she got sick then all my work came undone) Carolines method is the one that I am also using. It's a great method I have found. Keep at it :D

Stacy - posted on 06/13/2012

Hi, thank you soooo much for helping me out. I just need to clarify a fee thing. What cot?? is this a camping cot or is this a bassinett. I am a new mom and i am blonde so i need red crayon, LOL!! Does your little guy still eat at night? mine wakes up between 12-2 for a quick feeding and then 4am. how can i help him sleep through the night as well or is that just the way breast feeding is??
Stacy

Caroline - posted on 06/13/2012

hi Stacey, i understand how u feel, i have a 11 moth old that i am still breastfeeding n he like sleepin with me too, try to put him in his cot when his awake stay with him, then start 2 move closer to the door, if that dont work feed him then put him in his own cot, if he then wakes just put him back in his cot, stay with him till he falls asleep, it worked for my other son it wont happen over nite but if u keep at it, it will eventually get easier. hope this helped. take care caroline