help from mums with baby girls????

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2009

Masturbation is defined as to "stimulate sexually". When kids are learning and figuring things out - even if it feels "good" - it is not sexual ("Implying or symbolizing erotic desires"). Kids are hopefully not aware of eroticism at this age!

Justine - posted on 09/29/2009

boys do it too only earlier lol.

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2009

I wasn't trying to offend you Emma. I also didn't say that you were worried, I only stated that it is normal. And the proper terminology for "playing with yourself" if one is indeed touching their genitals is masterbation. I mean no offence to anyone by using proper terminology, I just believe in calling things what they are.

Emma - posted on 09/28/2009

well i wudnt exactly call it mastabating! an im not worried about her playing with herself! if she hadnt of been i wud never of noticed!

Sarah - posted on 09/27/2009

Girls absolutely SHOULD have an opening to their vagina. If this is truly the case, you definately should have her checked out at the doctors. As far as her masterbating, this is perfectly normal for small children to do and should not be discouraged, it can make them feel negatively about their bodies. What you can do is encourage her to go to her room in privacy if she wants to do it.

Reesa - posted on 09/26/2009

I'd just have your pediatrician take a look. My daughter has an opening that I've seen while changing her.

Chelsea - posted on 09/26/2009

No need to panic. Your daughter has a fussed labia. That is very common. Your doctor should prescribe an estrogen cream that will open it back up. DO NOT ALLOW ANY DOCTOR TO FORCE IT OPEN AS THAT WILL CAUSE SCAR TISSUE TO FORM AND IT WILL MORE THAN LIKELY FUSS BACK UP AND BE PAINFUL!!!

Misti - posted on 09/26/2009

My daughter had that problem too. We had to put estrogen cream on her for a little while and now she's fine and everything down there is as it should be. Just talk to your pediatrician and they will help you with it. It's nothing major to worry about, like I said, it just takes cream to fix it. And as for the touching herself thing, that is normal too. They are just exploring and feeling their body. it is a phase that will pass. I hope this helps you!! Good luck!! :0)

Carly - posted on 09/25/2009

My daughter had this with the cream where gloves if you are breast feeding the high estrogen can mess thins up like some pills

Emma - posted on 09/25/2009

thank you for replying you have been lots of help!

i wasnt worryed about her playing with herself! and if she hadnt i wudnt have noticed!

the only reason i havnt been to the docters yet is cus i wasnt sure if she was normal an id be wasting there time! my own mother tryed to tell me im being stupid and that we have only got 1 hole! an every1 else i spoke to either only had boys or didnt know!

i thought there should be a hole because some babys have a period shortly after birth! thank again for your help an il take her to the cods!

Rebecca - posted on 09/25/2009

The daughter of a friend of mine has this, it is not uncommon and actually happens to quite alot of girls. It is supposed to open right after birth but for some reason, in some girls it does not. Your Dr will just give you an estrogen cream to put on it to help it to open up, if it dosnt open on its own the Drs can help to open it. DONT worry!!! It is totally fine! There will be no lasting problems because of this. I am just shocked they never noticed or told you when she was born, or at one of her appts as a baby??? But definately go see your Dr so they can get you the perscription!

Jan - posted on 09/25/2009

you should consult your doctor, Ive got 3 girls & have never heard of this but dont panic, your doctor will put your mind at rest. Hope all goes well. x

Cecilia - posted on 09/25/2009

I work with a woman whose daughter had a labia that grew together a little bit. The doctor was able to do something to help her (probably open it with a small incision). Maybe it is something like that???
It sounds like a dr visit is in order just to make sure it is ok.

Fallon - posted on 09/25/2009

My baby girl is only 5 months old so this is the first I had read about labial adhesions or anything like that..good information to know..but I do know all of my boys have gone through a holy cow look what I got phase..and I don't see why a little girl would be any different.

Charlotte - posted on 09/25/2009

I don't have a girl (yet?) but I have heard of labial adhesion. Be careful, as some Drs realy don't know how to deal with this and might do more harm while trying to correct it.



http://www.askdrsears.com/faq/az56.asp

"This is called labial adhesions, and you don't need to worry about this unless the opening is entirely closed. These adhesions are thought to happen because of a NORMAL lack of circulating estrogen in a young baby. These adhesions almost always open up with time, but sometimes the Doctor will prescribe an estrogen cream to be applied for about two weeks to help the process"

Nicole - posted on 09/25/2009

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/labial_...

Here's a link that's got some good information. My daughter had the same thing starting at about 6 months, it's called a labial adhesion, and it still happens to her now sometimes (she's 3). She's never had an infection, I just help her wash and keep an eye on her. Of course if your baby can't urinate then you've got a problem. Good luck and don't worry. :)

Wendi - posted on 09/25/2009

My two older daughters had this problem. Take her to the doctor and they will give you a hormone cream to put on her. If that doesn't help they may have to open it for her.

Robyn - posted on 09/25/2009

i would say take her to the doctor..... but i also think that it may not be anything to worry about, because most doctors at check ups are supposed to check things like that to make sure they develope correctly and also to make sure that they are not getting yeast infection....stuff on those lines.....but you could takie her now or wait untill the next check up to ask the doctor to look and see what they say.... whatever makes you feel better

Stina - posted on 09/25/2009

She should have an opening.... check with her doctor.



Playing with herself is normal. She's exploring her body. b/c I didn't like my kids touching themselves mid diaper change for cleanliness reasons, I gave them toys before I started. My 3 yo dd sometimes explores her body in the bathtub. because she has a brother and a baby sister, the topic of differences between them comes up pretty frequently. I use it as an opportunity to teach them that these areas are private and that no one should be touching them accept them- (and then only when they are by themselves.) When my son was a baby, these teaching moments were short- He would reach for his penis, grin... I might say "That's your penis, that's private." other times, I'd say nothing at all- just finish the diaper change and move on.

Rikki Lee - posted on 09/25/2009

You should def take her to the doctor cuz she should have an opening. My daughter has just found herself too & everytime I change her pull up or diaper the hand goes straight there. I was told not to make a big deal about it cuz they don't know that it is bad by ant means. They are just exploring. If she does it in public you can tell her that is just something that she should do at home.

Jessica - posted on 09/25/2009

you need to get her to the doctor if there is no opening. I'm pretty sure every baby girl's got one or should have one. As far as playing with herself it's perfectly normal. She's just curious espessily with that because it has been covered for the whole 15 months of her life. Try not to act discusted by it. If you do it can lead to sexual problems and low self-esteem about her body later down the road. She dosen't know anything sexual she's just learning about her body.

Natasha - posted on 09/25/2009

ummm......i think there should be im a first time mom and my little girl has an opening. she has just recently started to realize that she also has one and as soon as i go to change her bum the hand goes right for it. it drives me nuts!!



im not sure if all babies are different be she def has one.

good luck:)