help my 15 month old wants to nurse constantly

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Today was my day off and my 15 month old wanted to nurse constently she signs milk and will throw huge tantrums if i dont give in. I cant do anything with her cuz she wants to constely brestfeed i feel bad cuz i want ot play with her. She does not act up when she is with her dad she just does it when she is with me. Should i just let her cry out the tantrum or should i really wean her so that this is not an issue because i cant enjoy my days with her cuz she is constenly thorwing tantrums

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I agree with Lise. I am working mornings so once I'm at home my daughter nurses all the time, often just for a few seconds, sometimes longer. Some days she doesn't want to nurse much at all, but other - especially when she is tired - she just seems to need it so much more. You might want to play, but maybe she's played lots in your absence and now really just needs some cuddling time. I'd say hang in there, it won't be that intense forever.

Lise - posted on 02/02/2011

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Well, here's my two cents. I think if you wean her, it'll be worse. A lot worse. And not only will it be worse, but you will have taken away the best calming tool you have.

This age has a lot of big milestones, teeth are coming in, and toddlers go through a big clingy period (wary of strangers... Serious brain fart here on the word) around 18 months, so it's just starting. 5-10 minutes is not a long time to nurse at all, and in my opinion is a very short time to reconnect. Maybe your daughter feels your unwillingness to let her nurse as she wants and is becoming even more clingy as a response? A lot of moms I know with nursing toddlers say that the more they offer to nurse, the less the toddler asks and the less behaviors they encounter when saying no.

I come at this from a very attached perspective, so that may be different than how you want to parent - and that's okay of course. I'm just sharing my perspective. When I increased my time at work, my daughter nursed for HOURS when I got home. Was it a pain? Yes, ut got old. I caught up on my dvr shows, read, browsed the Internet. It got better. Six months later, she's down to about 15 minutes when I get home. We also co-sleep (again, works for us but isn't for everyone). Babies sometimes just need to have their needs met, even if it seems like a lot. You can play with her while she nurses. My daughter and I do high-fives, read books, etc.

If you want to wean, wean. But it really just sounds to me like your daughter misses you and loves you SO much, she just wants to snuggle and reconnect with you.

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By the way: my daughter displays teething symptoms all the time as well. Can't wait til she's got all her pearly whites!

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2011

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she seems to have teething symptoms all the time. My days off are quite separated i have Wednesday, and sunday and sometimes Saturday off and other than sunday she wants to do nothing but nurse i cant just sit there all day i want to play and do things with her. In the morning i cuddle and nurse her for about 5 to 10 min in the morning but it seems to make no diffenrce and when i complain to my husband about how she has acted he just says i should give up and it whould solve everything but i really dont want to do that

Lise - posted on 02/02/2011

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Could she be teething? When my daughter is teething, nursing is the only thing that really comforts her. We hop in bed, I put turn on the tv, and we cuddle and nurse all day long. She'll do it for a day or two, and then go back to every 3-5 hours. I have three days off a week with her, and she always is a little more attached that first day. If I cuddle with her/nurse her for a couple hours first thing in the morning really helps.

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