How can I get my son to fall asleep and stay asleep without the breast?
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Amy - posted on 11/09/2008
When my son was 1 year old I decided that I needed to wean him off the breast at bedtime seeings how that is the only time that he was nursing. The only thing that worked for us was to give him a sippy cup of milk or water to drink while falling asleep. Let me know if this was helpful for you.
Tangela - posted on 11/09/2008
well, my son at 10 to 11 months old was still getting up about 3 to 4 times in the night. what you need to do is figure out if he is actually eating or if he is just using you as a pacifier! that is what my son was doing, so i let him take his sippy cup with water to bed and when he got up in the night, i would not nurse him. i would hold him to calm him down and then i would put him back in his bed. It also helps if you have him falling asleep on his own at night. This may involve quite a bit of crying, but i tried everything else and nothing worked, so i had to let him cry. My doctor told me at his age the crying would not hurt him.
Crystal - posted on 11/09/2008
i find after about 30 mins of nursing , if i change his diaper he wakes up, after that i give him his soother instead of giving him the breast back and he falls asleep .... mind u getting him to take the soother was something i had to keep at for about a week ... It was very frustrating at first but i kept at it and now he likes to have his soother after feeds!
Jessica - posted on 11/08/2008
You should read "The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley and William Sears" Or "The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers: Gentle Ways to Stop Bedtime Battles and Improve Your Childs Sleep (Pantley) by Elizabeth Pantley "It is a god send! It helped me with onver 50 Ideas untill I found the right one!
Hope - posted on 11/08/2008
Swings really help! My son is 17 months and sometimes still likes to fall asleep in his swing with a toy. I am still nursing but he hasn't needed it to fall asleep to for months. The bathtime routine works real well too. Depending on his age, he may still need to actually nurse at night but a "sucky" can help if u can find one that works. Ortho Pro (playtex I think) is a great choice!
Heather - posted on 11/08/2008
Well I just tried something a few mins ago and it worked. My 11 mo old son has had issues with his afternoon nap. I will nurse him and he falls asleep at my breast. I take him off put him in his crib and he wakes up. So today I let him be in his crib for about 20 mins - he was standing and playing in there etc, I took him out and popped his pacifier in his mouth and acted as if I was going to nurse him and within 5 mins he was asleep. Maybe he needed the skin to skin contact, or he could smell my milk...I don't know what it was but he is asleep! I am lucky he likes his pacifier. Good luck and God Bless.
Joanie - posted on 11/08/2008
Let me know if you figure out something that works. With my first child, she would be mostly asleep while nursing, but the older she got, the more awake she would be when I set her down. She was a thumb sucker though, so it was easy for her to put herself to sleep. Now my boy is 4 months old and I just assume that as he gets older, and I stick with the routine of nursing him before bed, he will know that it's time to sleep, even if he doesn't fall asleep during the feed.
When it comes to naps, I give him a pacifier and I rock him a little. Lately he has been stubborn with me, but he'll fall asleep for my husband easy. I'm guessing it's because he wants me to nurse him. Sometimes I can trick him by holding him up on my shoulder and walking around and he will fall asleep.
Sarah - posted on 11/08/2008
I also think it works to work out a step by step process. Making each step you are comfortable with until you are at the last step you are working towards. It may help to let them cry a little. I don't like my baby to cry it out either, but I am not opposed to testing them for about 5 minutes, then 10, then 15, coming in every so often to comfort him. If you can get to know their cries, you can tell if they are getting used to the new routine, or if they aren't going to calm down. I think babies can get used to new sleeping routines if they are done gradually and with love. Good luck.
Paula - posted on 11/08/2008
Our first son slept in the bed with us until he was 5 months, so we were prepared for a battle when we moved him to his own room! We spent about a month nursing him to sleep because we didn't want to let him cry it out at first. However, we somewhat changed our minds. We would read books, feed and then put him in the crib sleepy, but not asleep, and then I would move back to the chair he had nursed in with the light low and continue to read to him. Sometimes he would cry because he saw me there but i wouldn't pick him up, but it didn't last long. Then we did everything the same, but I would just read my own book silently in the corner...he could see me and was comforted by me being there, but also knew I wasn't going to pick him up. Next step was to put him down the same and sit just outside the room with the door open. Last step was to do the same but close the door behind us...as far as he's concerned, he probably thought we were there the whole night. It was only a 10 day process, spending about 2 days on each step. Worked for us, good luck!
Rebecca - posted on 11/08/2008
What's worked for us is teaching him how to fall asleep on his own. We did this by following the Eat-Play-Sleep principle. Nurse, then play, then bed. On a scale of 1-10 (1 being fully awake and 10 being fully asleep), you want to wait to put him to sleep until he's around 6 or 7. Like I said, it worked for us. I hope you are able to figure out what works for you! :)
Nicole - posted on 11/08/2008
Well, I have yet to really figure this out. My son at 22 mo. still nurses to sleep for the most part. My hubby can walk him (with my son's head on my hubby's shoulder), but majority of the time it is me still. We're doing child-led weaning, bed-share and are opposed to crying it out... so we haven't figure this out one. But, at 22mo. he hardly nurses through the majority of the night anymore. He usually sleeps from 11 or 12 at night until 6 or 7 am before asking to nurse again. You might consider the No Cry Sleep Solution book and/or check out this link on night-time weaning. It may not totally apply to you, but may still have some useful tips.
Best wishes, hopefully others will have some "pain" free suggestions, LOL!