How do i stop a 5 month old baby from being clingy and cryin every time i go out the room?

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My daughter is nearly 7 now. I had her in my arms until she started daycare at 9 months. It drove me nuts. All I could do all day (at home) was sit at the computer with her sleeping in my lap on a nursing pillow. I could not even put her down while she was sleeping during the day because she'd wake up immediately.
When she was 4, there was a report on the news about a new way of parenting called attachment parenting. You essentially wear you baby like an accessory which, unknown to me, was exactly what I did. It's believed to actually make your child more independent and less clingy in the end. It worked for her. Only 9 months old at daycare, she forgot I existed as soon as we arrived.
I now have a 4 month old, who is less clingy but who I end up having to leave cry more because of other issues. I'm fully expecting to end up with a horribly clingy toddler.
They need to know you're always there for them when they need you. It's not going to make you feel better now, but hopefully it'll actually make things easier in the long run.

Amanda - posted on 07/11/2009

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I agree with all these woman, pick the baby up and take her with you! It is the best way to "break" your childs clingyiness, ignoring the babys needs, or trying to "train" them will only make them even more clingy. At this age they are learning that mom will always be there for them, and once they learn this they will slowly learn to expore around mom. By age of one, if the childs needs for mom are met, they will be off and running and never looking back. LOL!

Karen - posted on 07/11/2009

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Easy - take the baby with you. Clingyness is a stage all babies go through as they learn that they are not attached to you but you are in fact a seperate entity. Leave something of yours with the darling if you can't take them with you and don't stay away for too long.

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Eejayfauzana - posted on 11/12/2010

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talk to your baby before you leave. make him or her understand that you want him/her to wait while you are out for a while. it is hard to know either they understand or not but believed me this is one of my best practice i used to make my little girl understand. one or two times he/she may not understand.but few times will make he/she understand what you are saying about.tips: while telling her/him talk to their eyes..

Amanda - posted on 07/13/2009

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My psychotherapist told me that a baby thinks of you as an extension of themself. When I used to leave on saturdays for about 4 hours, she'd wake up from her nap and just start crying while my grandparents were watching her. But for us to understand how they feel, its like waking up and realizing your legs are gone! Now I don't leave for as long of a time. I usually go to the store once a week. Takes about an hour. But she's okay then. :)

Natalie - posted on 07/11/2009

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My son is going through that stage too and i find that if i talk as i leave the room and keep talking he is ok. It is a stage they all go through because from birth onwards they think that you are one person. The clingy stage is when they realise you can leave and that is one of their biggest fears as they cannot fend for themselves.

Minnie - posted on 07/11/2009

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It is ingrained into her very nature to need to have physical contact with you almost constantly. Human infants are supremely vulnerable and it makes her distressed when she is not in the comfort and security of your arms. Get a soft baby carrier, like a sling, and strap her to your body. Take her with you wherever you go. Don't force her to cope with a situation that goes against all of her instincts.



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Vanessa - posted on 07/11/2009

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ever heard of mothers referring to their toddlers as "my little shadow"...?

soon she will be toddling after you everywhere.

enjoy the "in arms phase" while it lasts.

not meeting these needs will only make her more clingy.

Heather - posted on 07/11/2009

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that;s right Ladies. Babies NEED to be with their mothers. They were inside of us for 9 months..... it's all they know. Lucy.... just enjoy your baby. Soon enough they will all be rotten teenagers and want nothing to do with us

Vanessa - posted on 07/11/2009

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Quoting Karen:

Easy - take the baby with you. Clingyness is a stage all babies go through as they learn that they are not attached to you but you are in fact a seperate entity. Leave something of yours with the darling if you can't take them with you and don't stay away for too long.




i agree.




my 6 month old boy rarely leaves my arms. (i carry him in a sling or back pack).




my nearly 4 year old was the same, she is now a very happy, confident, independent 3 year old.




your baby doesn't want you to leave them anywhere.....they want to leave you where they are ready. it won't last long, she'll be crawling and walking soon and she can follow you.

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