How do i wean my 2yr old from breastfeeding?

Courtney - posted on 05/06/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

2

3

0

My daughter is 2 and weaning her has been almost impossible! She only wants it when she gets hurt and at night. its more so a security blanket than anything.

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Chelsea - posted on 05/06/2009

1,046

12

162

I would suggest taking the cold turkey approach. Tell your child that you are not going to breastfeed anymore and that you don't have anymore milk. Let your child nurse for one last time and then have him or her say "bye-bye" to the breasts.

If you think that won't work with your child you can also try only letting your child nurse until the count of 10 at night and when he or she gets hurt. This approach is a gradual way to wean and you can begin by going from 10-5-3-1- no more nursing.

This most important thing is that you are consistent and don't give in no matter what the circumstance. Consistency is key!!! The theory is that children of this age are ready to begin handling frustration such as the frustration of not getting what they want and it's our job as parents to teach them this frustration and how to handle it. Don't forget to substitute something else that lets you and your child bond for nursing. I suggest a book and a cuddle. Don't substitute food because that leads to children filing emotional needs with eating. Good luck!!! If you have anymore questions let me know.

Allison - posted on 05/06/2009

906

20

158

It sounds to me like she still needs to nurse at those times, so I wouldn't force weaning until she was ready. Does she nurse all night or just before bed? If she's waking up to nurse in the middle of the night and that doesn't work for you anymore, you can talk to her and tell her that she can only nurse before bed and then when the sun comes up (that worked for both my kids). Most kids will gradually wean if given the chance somewhere around 3 or 4, depending on their needs. There's nothing wrong with her nursing for comfort at this age, unless she's nursing a ton and it's bothering you a lot. I'd suggest you check out the book Mothering Your Nursing Toddler by Norma Jane Bumgarner - I've always found it helpful in understanding what toddler nursing means to them as well as giving me ideas on how I can make it work for both of us, without sacrificing myself or forcing my child to do something they aren't ready for.

Good luck!

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

8 Comments

View replies by

Kara - posted on 05/07/2009

9

17

0

My daughter nursed quite a bit when i first had my son. She was pretty happy when my milk came in! But your right she went back to twice a day and now just once-usually. I'm sure it will all go smoothly for you. Such a special time for you! Good luck

Allison - posted on 05/07/2009

906

20

158

Quoting Kara:

I also have a nursing 2 year old, so let me know what works. I am nursing a 5 month old also, so I cant tell her its all gone. She's only nursing in mornings now, and she really wants that time with me. She pats me chair and says "c'mon mommy, pease". How do you say no to that? I really hope she can wean herself.


:-) I'm sure your daughter will wean when she is ready. It might be longer than you think, or maybe not. 



I'm planning on tandem nursing once this one arrives (due on Saturday), so it's great to hear that you're doing well with it. My son has been nursing a lot more lately, and I expect he'll nurse a ton after baby arrives for a bit, but I hope he'll go back to nursing only once or twice a day after he adjusts to the baby.

Kara - posted on 05/07/2009

9

17

0

I also have a nursing 2 year old, so let me know what works. I am nursing a 5 month old also, so I cant tell her its all gone. She's only nursing in mornings now, and she really wants that time with me. She pats me chair and says "c'mon mommy, pease". How do you say no to that? I really hope she can wean herself.

Emily - posted on 05/06/2009

1,163

13

188

If she only wants it at night and if she gets hurt I would stick with it at those times. It is a lot easier to wean a one year old or a child closer to three than a two year old! You've already phased out most of the nursing sessions.

Samantha - posted on 05/06/2009

54

12

6

yea me too my dayghters not that old but were in the same situation you guys are in

Barbara - posted on 05/06/2009

1

12

1

I don't know, but if you find out let me know. My son will be two this month and he always wants "babies" ( his name for boobies) at night. I was not planning to bf this long, and it feels like we are never going to stop. ( even though I want to)

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms