How do you know when to stop breastfeeding!!

Andrea - posted on 12/07/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Sometimes i want to switch my baby to the boddle, but then i never do, what do i do!!

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Caithlin - posted on 12/09/2009

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i think its great that so many ppl are going to let their children wein themselves! before i had my daughter i thought i was going to do certain things...i never though was going to breastfeeding past a year and although my daughter is still only 3 months i cant imagine only feeding her that long. her dad thinks its weird that i want to let her self wein herself but i couldnt imagine doing anything else! i also think i will cry when she decides that she doesnt want her mommies milk anymore!

Yvonne - posted on 12/09/2009

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I want to agree with other people who posted and say, you stop when the child is ready to stop. It's not something I think about because I know my daughter will stop when she's ready. No sense in stressing over something I don't need to. ;3

Hannah - posted on 12/08/2009

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Quoting Lisa:



Quoting Sarah:




Quoting katie:

ive always said when a baby is old enough to tell you what he wants hes too old but as of right now i want to do it as long as possible







It's funny how our opinions change as we gain more experience as mothers! When my girl was a baby, I wanted so desperately to make it to one year with breastfeeding that it carried me through some very difficult and painful months in the beginning. As she neared her first birthday, I decided that we could make it to two years, "and then we'll see." As her second birthday came and went, I decided that three was probably old enough. At three I decided she could choose her own time to wean. Well, she will be six years old at the end of December, and up until now she has regularly informed me that she will never stop nursing, lol!








I've been talking to her about weaning since she was 2yo, letting her know that someday she will no longer want mommy-milk. Last night we were talking about it again, and she has finally given me the first indication that she is beginning to accept the idea that she will not nurse forever. She knows that the vast majority of children don't continue to nurse as long as she has. Last night she told me, "I'm still going to want milk when I'm a grown-up, because some grown-ups still like milk, don't they?" I told her I was pretty sure they didn't. "Oh," she says. "Then I'll stop when [she rattled off a long list of potential stopping points]. Or maybe when I'm as old as Makennah (her best friend at school who is one grade ahead of her)."








Oh, and just so you know, having conversations with your child about their nursing experiences provides amazing insight to the personality of your child, so don't stop just because they can talk! I once asked my daughter what mommy-milk tasted like and, after considering the question for a moment, she told me it tasted like sunshine. I still get all teary thinking about it!








So, how do you know when to stop? I haven't the least idea. I guess I'll know when my daughter does. But I would just follow your instincts. If you never make the switch to the bottle, it will be okay. If you do, because you feel it is the right thing to do (and not just because society says you ought to), then that will be okay, too. I wouldn't stress over it.








Take care,








Sarah










Sara! Six years!  You are such a wonderful and sensitive mother allowing your daughter to nurse as long as she needs!





I agree!!! That's amazing! Good for you! When I first had Valerie, I said "let me make it to 1 year". And as year 1 is comming to a close, I am thinking year 2.... but since I've found this site, and especially this group, I feel encouraged to keep on going until Valerie decides to stop. Thanks to all you ladies for your encouragement!

Minnie - posted on 12/08/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting katie:

ive always said when a baby is old enough to tell you what he wants hes too old but as of right now i want to do it as long as possible





It's funny how our opinions change as we gain more experience as mothers! When my girl was a baby, I wanted so desperately to make it to one year with breastfeeding that it carried me through some very difficult and painful months in the beginning. As she neared her first birthday, I decided that we could make it to two years, "and then we'll see." As her second birthday came and went, I decided that three was probably old enough. At three I decided she could choose her own time to wean. Well, she will be six years old at the end of December, and up until now she has regularly informed me that she will never stop nursing, lol!






I've been talking to her about weaning since she was 2yo, letting her know that someday she will no longer want mommy-milk. Last night we were talking about it again, and she has finally given me the first indication that she is beginning to accept the idea that she will not nurse forever. She knows that the vast majority of children don't continue to nurse as long as she has. Last night she told me, "I'm still going to want milk when I'm a grown-up, because some grown-ups still like milk, don't they?" I told her I was pretty sure they didn't. "Oh," she says. "Then I'll stop when [she rattled off a long list of potential stopping points]. Or maybe when I'm as old as Makennah (her best friend at school who is one grade ahead of her)."






Oh, and just so you know, having conversations with your child about their nursing experiences provides amazing insight to the personality of your child, so don't stop just because they can talk! I once asked my daughter what mommy-milk tasted like and, after considering the question for a moment, she told me it tasted like sunshine. I still get all teary thinking about it!






So, how do you know when to stop? I haven't the least idea. I guess I'll know when my daughter does. But I would just follow your instincts. If you never make the switch to the bottle, it will be okay. If you do, because you feel it is the right thing to do (and not just because society says you ought to), then that will be okay, too. I wouldn't stress over it.






Take care,






Sarah






Sara! Six years!  You are such a wonderful and sensitive mother allowing your daughter to nurse as long as she needs!

Minnie - posted on 12/08/2009

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I believe in child-led weaning. That way, it's very easy to know when to stop; your child is the one who gives it up of his own volition. Otherwise, there is no way to know whether or not your child gained what he or she needed from the relationship.

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2009

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Quoting katie:

ive always said when a baby is old enough to tell you what he wants hes too old but as of right now i want to do it as long as possible


It's funny how our opinions change as we gain more experience as mothers! When my girl was a baby, I wanted so desperately to make it to one year with breastfeeding that it carried me through some very difficult and painful months in the beginning. As she neared her first birthday, I decided that we could make it to two years, "and then we'll see." As her second birthday came and went, I decided that three was probably old enough. At three I decided she could choose her own time to wean. Well, she will be six years old at the end of December, and up until now she has regularly informed me that she will never stop nursing, lol!



I've been talking to her about weaning since she was 2yo, letting her know that someday she will no longer want mommy-milk. Last night we were talking about it again, and she has finally given me the first indication that she is beginning to accept the idea that she will not nurse forever. She knows that the vast majority of children don't continue to nurse as long as she has. Last night she told me, "I'm still going to want milk when I'm a grown-up, because some grown-ups still like milk, don't they?" I told her I was pretty sure they didn't. "Oh," she says. "Then I'll stop when [she rattled off a long list of potential stopping points]. Or maybe when I'm as old as Makennah (her best friend at school who is one grade ahead of her)."



Oh, and just so you know, having conversations with your child about their nursing experiences provides amazing insight to the personality of your child, so don't stop just because they can talk! I once asked my daughter what mommy-milk tasted like and, after considering the question for a moment, she told me it tasted like sunshine. I still get all teary thinking about it!



So, how do you know when to stop? I haven't the least idea. I guess I'll know when my daughter does. But I would just follow your instincts. If you never make the switch to the bottle, it will be okay. If you do, because you feel it is the right thing to do (and not just because society says you ought to), then that will be okay, too. I wouldn't stress over it.



Take care,



Sarah

Katie - posted on 12/07/2009

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when you are ready. my sister stopped at about 2 years. i personally plan to breast feed to at least the reccomended18 months. ive always said when a baby is old enough to tell you what he wants hes too old but as of right now i want to do it as long as possible i love the bonding but i cant see myself doing it beyond 2 years.

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