how it stop my child from using me as a pacifier !

Amber - posted on 02/04/2013

I like the posts. I was kind of worried that my son actually developed a binky addiction (sounds harsh, but true). He loved his pacifiers. I tried cold turkey one time, but wow, talking about a major problem. My friend absolutely raved about the cut method, and all of the psychology behind it. She found it on www.bye-bye-pacifier.com. We went with it (dragging my husband along), but OMGosh... worked so beautifully and NO tantrums, not even one! Four days later he was completely done with his paci. What a relief to finally be done with those darn binkies. Highly recommended! I am also interested in hearing from others.... Amber

Leonna - posted on 03/25/2010

My daughter just went through the same thing. She is 20 months and nurses about 4 times a night anyway, but we co-sleep so it doesn't really bother me. But for about the last month she has been asking to nurse constantly, finally things are getting better. She just kind of got over it on her own. I will say that it did help to be more active with her, when she was playing outside or doing other activities she never thought of nursing.

Tara Lee - posted on 03/25/2010

Thank Allison.
P is 18 1/2 months old. I honestly don't really mind during the day too much as I can distract her or offer her something else such as food or juice/water, or just a book or toy(if she's just bored). It's at night when she can stay on forever...well it seems like forever...it's more like an hour or more...and if she falls asleep and I try to remove her she wakes and we start the whole process over again...I try just cuddling but then she throws a fit and makes it worse.

I will definately check out the the book...thanks
Tara

Allison - posted on 03/25/2010

"You are not a pacifier; you are a Mom. You are the sun, the moon, the earth, you are liquid love, you are warmth, you are security, you are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort.... but you are not a pacifier!" -- Paula Yount



You don't say how old she is. Is she teething? Getting sick? Hitting a growth spurt? All of these things make them want...no...NEED to nurse more. It's okay. They don't always need to fill their bellies, but fill their heart, if that makes sense. You can't overfeed baby while nursing as she can control how much milk she gets. There is such a thing as "non-nutritive sucking" when they suck for comfort and don't get a lot of milk. This is ok for her and for you as it helps your supply, too.



You don't want to deny her - it's confusing. If you know she's signaling to nurse, let her nurse. If you think there's something else, try other techniques. Have you read or seen The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp (book and DVD)?



Can you wear her in a mei tai or wrap? My kids often had fussy times and day and wearing them around the house or out on a walk was helpful for my sanity and seemed to calm them, too. Check out http://www.thebabywearer,com/ for info on proper wearing techniques, types of carriers (stay away from Bijorn and Snugglis as they aren't good for baby or for you), and other good babywearing info.



You'll get through this! :-) This too shall pass.