I don't know if I can do this anymore :(

Jessica - posted on 06/24/2011 ( 80 moms have responded )

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I really want to quit. I originally commited to this for 6 months and I am really discouraged, this morning my son woke me up at 5 and has been nursing on and off since then (7:30 now) and is still crying like he is starving. I started taking fenugreek when he got his ear infection because I could tell my supply was tanking and now I wonder if I even have enough to feed him. He just started nursing well again yesterday afternoon (he is just now feeling better I think) So IDK if his wet diaper count is where it should be, it was low while he was sick (5-6 a day, normally its anywhere from 8-12) I just really need some encouragement because I feel like I am starving him. He is 2 months old.

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If he wasn't nursing well for a while... that's WHY he's nursing like crazy right now. He's just trying to help you build up your supply again and refueling himself for whatever he missed.

I KNOW it's exhausting, but just keep telling yourself.... I only have to get through today. Tomorrow will be better. Even if it takes you a couple of weeks of saying that.... it WILL get better. Just get yourself through one day at a time. Also remember to take care of yourself. Nap when you can, etc....

Hope - posted on 06/25/2011

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I remember very well being strapped to the couch going "Je*us, child, aren't you full!?" But it does get a lot better. Yogi makes a nursing support tea that tastes kinda funky but I drank it every day for the first couple of months and I think it really did help out. Also, as other ladies have said, his constant nursing will be what increases your supply. Pumping can actually be detrimental to your nursing supply so as tempted as you may be to pump try to keep nursing him naturally. Also, I would recommend letting him comfort nurse. The books call it "nonnutritive nursing." Letting him nurse when he isn't feeding will help increase your milk supply as well and can help baby get some sleep time in not to mention you. When I was going through this period with my daughter (now 8 1/2 months and still nursing :)) I set up shop in my family room which has a kitchen and a bathroom close by and I set up her pack and play right by the couch. For the first 2.5 months my daughter and I lived on the couch and while in retrospect I think I must have been crazy at the time it made things so much easier. There was no going up and down stairs no getting in and out of bed, no worries about her getting to used to cosleeping. We just hung out. It gave me a TV to watch, access to food & drink whenever. I would really recommend it. Once my daughter started sleeping through the night was when I started working on putting her down in her crib and sleeping in my bed. Your main job right now is to take care of you and your little one. If nursing is too difficult for you emotionally don't feel bad about stopping. It is better to stop and maintain a healthy emotional outlook on life than continue to nurse and sink into a deep depression. I'm not saying you should give up right now I'm saying don't be upset if you need to. It isn't just about what is best for baby it is about what is best for you and the baby.

Oh, and the best peice of advice I got was, sleep when the baby sleeps. Don't worry about laundry or dishes or anything. A new mother needs rest in order to develop a proper milk supply AND to properly heal from the birthing process. Take it easy, eat what you want, and let someone else care for the rest. :) Hugs & Love

Jackie - posted on 06/25/2011

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I see where you bought a manual pump, that will only discourage you even more. I struggled a lot with my supply in the beginning and went through multiple pumps before landing on one that actually works and is very efficient. I recommend investing in a double, electric pump such as the Medela Pump in Style. Expensive? YES. Worth it? So very much. It will help you get your supply up so your little one won't feel like nursing ALL day long. Also, if he continues to nurse often, it might be a growth spurt. You're pretty early in the game and you'll have a lot of those for a while. The struggles of nursing are all natural and your not the first person to tackle them and you certainly can. Don't get down and just push through the rough phases. You'll feel better about reaching your goal and doing the very best for your little one. Good luck.

Amy - posted on 06/25/2011

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It's great what he's doing! As people mentioned, the first 3 or 6 months may contain many growth spurts or extra comfort needs. It can bring you all sorts of doubt, but never fear - baby knows how to get what he needs - by demanding (nursing) more. Try to remember your body and your baby are made to work together. Enjoy his sweet company, take as much down time as you can to snuggle, sleep together, nurse a ton, drink lots of water or mama's milk tea, kick back and watch some movies or find a shady spot at the park to nurse and people watch. It's a very special, very short-lived time, and you're doing fine mama!

Lise - posted on 06/24/2011

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Hug, hug, hug! Please remember that there are SO MANY growth spurts between birth and 6 months old. This could be a growth spurt, teeth, mental growth spurt. I do promise it gets better, but I also understand how you feel. I remember saying I had a love/hate relationship with nursing - that I loved to hate it! For me, it got better around 3 or 4 months old. Do you co-sleep at all? I learned to sleep while nursing sidelying, and that was a huge help.

It will get better!

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Betty H - posted on 08/03/2011

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Hi Jessica, I have moms who are discouraged to breastfeed everyday. You are a wonderful mom because you have breastfed your baby this long. Put a warm wash cloth on your breast before you breastfeed. You milk will come out better. Please visit my website at http://www.breastfeedingwithlove.com Have a blessed day. Betty H Greenman BS,CLC,IBCLC International Board Certified Lactation Consultant

Tina - posted on 08/01/2011

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Just keep to it! You can do it! It is very very hard at the begining, but it is worth it. I know that I felt the same way at time, that my son was constantly hungry and that I wasn't making enough milk. But that is part of the feedback process that governs the milk production. You son will go through growth spurts and demand more feedings, and it will seem that you aren't satisfying him, but your production will increase to meet his demands. Then it will seem that you are he are on the same page, until the next growth spurt. But stick with it.. after the begining you will love your special time with him. I am still breast feeding on demand and my son is now 15 months old. Here are some things that will help: WATER.. make sure you are drinking a ton of water.. it make a huge difference. EAT.. you can't make milk if you aren't eating enough.. don't worry about calories or anything.. breasting feeding will burn a ton of calories; Feed on command, every time he wants to nurse, do it. this will regulate your milk production to his needs. Sleep with your baby, that way you and him and both get the rest you need while still feeding at demand. (I start my son in his crib, then when he wakes up to nurse I bring him to bed with me). I hope this helps.. here is an awesome site to help http://kellymom.com/

Lindsay - posted on 07/29/2011

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The first 3 months are the hardest. It does get easier. Some days when they are growing through growth spurts, it seems like all the do is suck. One thing I can promise you is that I've never heard or said myself is that someone regrets the time them spent with their child. I know the feeling of just wanting a break but 1 yr from now that precious little angel won't want you to hold them.
To get milk supply up drink more water and my doctor/lactation consultant told me to use soy protein. It comes a powder form (choc or vanilla) and it sells by the health food drinks in Walmart. Cheap and it works for most but make sure to ask your doctor if you have diabetes or any health problems. It is high in calories and I noticed a difference asap.

Lindsay - posted on 07/29/2011

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The first 3 months are the hardest. It does get easier. Some days when they are growing through growth spurts, it seems like all the do is suck. One thing I can promise you is that I've never heard or said myself is that someone regrets the time them spent with their child. I know the feeling of just wanting a break but 1 yr from now that precious little angel won't want you to hold them.
To get milk supply up drink more water and my doctor/lactation consultant told me to use soy protein. It comes a powder form (choc or vanilla) and it sells by the health food drinks in Walmart. Cheap and it works for most but make sure to ask your doctor if you have diabetes or any health problems. It is high in calories and I noticed a difference asap.

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2011

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He was taken to a doctor before this was posted. This was several weeks ago.

Keely - posted on 07/25/2011

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I can definately relate girl! KEep your chin up, you are doing the right thing by keeping track of dirty/wet diapers. Secondly the moms are right in saying that because he hasnt been able to nurse for a while...he will be attached. The more he nurses the more milk you will have, i know it feelsl ike all you are doing is nursing but it does get better! I had no problems nursing my first son, but my second son sucked me dry the first nite home. He cried and cried all nite, there were no wet diapers and he wasnt not swallowing. My husband went and got formula for me and i had to supplement. THat broke my heart and i sat down and cried. After that i contacted someoen from the La Leche Legue and they are a GREAT resource!!! The lady was SO helpful and encouraging. My son nursed every 30-45 mins for the next several days and my milk supply did come in and has stayed steady since. He is now almost a month old and goes through nursing more frequently some days than others. ALso if your lil guy is two months he is about ready to hit a growth spurt, and before, during and after (for a bit) they will nurse more. Keep an eye on things and keep smiling. I would DEFINATELY recommend finding a La Leche League consultant and see if they have a support group in you area.

Keely - posted on 07/25/2011

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I can definately relate girl! KEep your chin up, you are doing the right thing by keeping track of dirty/wet diapers. Secondly the moms are right in saying that because he hasnt been able to nurse for a while...he will be attached. The more he nurses the more milk you will have, i know it feelsl ike all you are doing is nursing but it does get better! I had no problems nursing my first son, but my second son sucked me dry the first nite home. He cried and cried all nite, there were no wet diapers and he wasnt not swallowing. My husband went and got formula for me and i had to supplement. THat broke my heart and i sat down and cried. After that i contacted someoen from the La Leche Legue and they are a GREAT resource!!! The lady was SO helpful and encouraging. My son nursed every 30-45 mins for the next several days and my milk supply did come in and has stayed steady since. He is now almost a month old and goes through nursing more frequently some days than others. ALso if your lil guy is two months he is about ready to hit a growth spurt, and before, during and after (for a bit) they will nurse more. Keep an eye on things and keep smiling. I would DEFINATELY recommend finding a La Leche League consultant and see if they have a support group in you area.

Keely - posted on 07/25/2011

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I can definately relate girl! KEep your chin up, you are doing the right thing by keeping track of dirty/wet diapers. Secondly the moms are right in saying that because he hasnt been able to nurse for a while...he will be attached. The more he nurses the more milk you will have, i know it feelsl ike all you are doing is nursing but it does get better! I had no problems nursing my first son, but my second son sucked me dry the first nite home. He cried and cried all nite, there were no wet diapers and he wasnt not swallowing. My husband went and got formula for me and i had to supplement. THat broke my heart and i sat down and cried. After that i contacted someoen from the La Leche Legue and they are a GREAT resource!!! The lady was SO helpful and encouraging. My son nursed every 30-45 mins for the next several days and my milk supply did come in and has stayed steady since. He is now almost a month old and goes through nursing more frequently some days than others. ALso if your lil guy is two months he is about ready to hit a growth spurt, and before, during and after (for a bit) they will nurse more. Keep an eye on things and keep smiling. I would DEFINATELY recommend finding a La Leche League consultant and see if they have a support group in you area.

Keely - posted on 07/25/2011

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I can definately relate girl! KEep your chin up, you are doing the right thing by keeping track of dirty/wet diapers. Secondly the moms are right in saying that because he hasnt been able to nurse for a while...he will be attached. The more he nurses the more milk you will have, i know it feelsl ike all you are doing is nursing but it does get better! I had no problems nursing my first son, but my second son sucked me dry the first nite home. He cried and cried all nite, there were no wet diapers and he wasnt not swallowing. My husband went and got formula for me and i had to supplement. THat broke my heart and i sat down and cried. After that i contacted someoen from the La Leche Legue and they are a GREAT resource!!! The lady was SO helpful and encouraging. My son nursed every 30-45 mins for the next several days and my milk supply did come in and has stayed steady since. He is now almost a month old and goes through nursing more frequently some days than others. ALso if your lil guy is two months he is about ready to hit a growth spurt, and before, during and after (for a bit) they will nurse more. Keep an eye on things and keep smiling. I would DEFINATELY recommend finding a La Leche League consultant and see if they have a support group in you area.

Lisa - posted on 07/25/2011

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There is a good chance that he is just trying to get supply back up by nursing frequently because he was sick. There is also a very good chance that he is having a growth spurt on top of that. When my daughter was 2 months old there was a very noticeable increase in her nursing when she had her growth spurt and she is now 9.5 months old and we are going through another one. Give it some time. Do not give up. They say as long as babies are having 5-6 wet diapers a day they are getting enough. I am sure if you just nurse on demand and as hard as it can be, try to relax, things will get better. You can do it!

Billie - posted on 07/23/2011

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i actually started losing my milk supply when my son was that age i tried everything pumping whenever or feeding him by breast but but it was never very much i was heartbroken so i had to start on formula i did breast feed whenever he would take it but by the time he was 3 months he would not take my milk i was so upset i felt like i let him down,,,, an yet life went on hes about to turn 1 an healthy as an ox. so ur not alone an u do what u can an if ur really worried ask ur doc if he thinks hes not getting enough i am sure they will help fix the problem but believe me i thought the same thing an really theres u can do so what u can do dont be so hard on urself!! believe as long as ur trying an consulting with the doc then ur being a great mom!!

Billie - posted on 07/23/2011

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i actually started losing my milk supply when my son was that age i tried everything pumping whenever or feeding him by breast but but it was never very much i was heartbroken so i had to start on formula i did breast feed whenever he would take it but by the time he was 3 months he would not take my milk i was so upset i felt like i let him down,,,, an yet life went on hes about to turn 1 an healthy as an ox. so ur not alone an u do what u can an if ur really worried ask ur doc if he thinks hes not getting enough i am sure they will help fix the problem but believe me i thought the same thing an really theres u can do so what u can do dont be so hard on urself!! believe as long as ur trying an consulting with the doc then ur being a great mom!!

Kasie - posted on 07/23/2011

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As long as you have wet diapers every day you are totally fine. You're son is getting what he needs. If you really have an issue, i'd try pumping, that helps bring in more milk with a lot of women. My son was up every hours for up to 3 months or more wanting to eat and would eat for about 45 minutes each time, they're growing boys they eat a lot. I think you are doing a wonderful job and I'm proud of you for choosing to bf. It could be he's going through a growth spurt also, my son would scream his head off even after he just ate a tiny bit ago to eat again and after the spurt was done things went back to normal. You aren't starving him at all, but if you need more encouragement, if you haven't already, I would see your doc about it, or his ped.

Mindy - posted on 07/20/2011

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Not to be negative but breast feeding isn't for everyone. You need to do what makes you happy to where you can enjoy your time with your baby while they are small. I started breastfeeding myself but wasn't able to keep up with how much she needed and eventually my milk supply just stopped outta no where, She is almost 10 months and is a very healthy baby. I have no regrets what so ever and I enjoyed her so much more without her hanging on me to eat. But you have to choose what makes you happy and don't let anyone pressure you into continuing it if you are unhappy. Good Luck!

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I just wanted to say I read your last update. I'm so glad things have worked out. I went through the same thing and felt defeated. I over came that and now know weather it happens again or not I'll get though it. Keep up the wonderful mommy work.

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I have a 3yr old I nursed for over 2yrs and stopped while pregnant with my now 10month old. Nursing is the hardest job I've ever had to do other than being a mum of course. My 1st born was easy compared to my 2nd, who couldn't even latch on. He came out and started sucking his fist!!! I ended up with numerous split nipples, mastitis twice, had to express (which I did by hand rather than my pump, as my breasts were so sore I couldn't even stand in the shower let alone get the pump to them) and bottle feed him one side and breast feed the other while the split nipple healed, then the same happened on the otherside. He then had nipple confusion!! I saw my midwives numerous times, and a breastfeeding consultant about 3times and also spoke with the nurses from the breastfeeding association.This went on for 12weeks. I wanted to give up so many times and cried through many many nights. My poor partner would wake up hearing me crying because of the pain and the lack of sleep I was getting and tell me I was doing a great job and was so supportive. I ended up getting some nipple shields to help him get back to the boob from the bottle and it was this, as hard as they were to use, that helped him learn to suck and gave my nipples time to heal. Funny thing was about a month later he started to bite me!!! and he still does, now with a cheeky grin!!!! My 1st born did none of this so you never can tell. Just over a month ago my 10month old wasn't interested in the boob but it was just a phase. The last few days he's pushed my boob away!! and today he doesn't want it at all, except for first thing in the morn. As mother's we give and give and give and get little in return. We hope what we are doing is the right thing, but we never really know. It is hard to enjoy the moments when you are in pain or worried. Nursing is not easy and does not come naturally. We work hard to get it right and then nature takes over as in my case, but it does get easier and you forget about how hard it was. The months go by and all of a suddenly their birth date comes creeping up. Lie down as much as you can and breastfeed, this worked for me, and rest or sleep with them. Put them down to sleep awake and let them self settle, less work for you later on. Be gentle and kind to yourself and go out and have a cuppa. Find a good mother's group. Take a break from mothering and get a massage, by yourself. And know some things get easier and some harder. My motto "it's just a phase"!!! Good luck V

Savona - posted on 07/16/2011

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yeah, sometimes rhonin would want to eat EVERY half hour o.O I felt like he was permanently attached to me sometimes heh, it gets better! Youve gotten him to latch and he knows how to do it, thats the hardest part in my opinion. =D Dont worry fellow momma! If hes eating, peeing hes good, and if youre worried, talk to a doctor and get a breast pump =) xoxo

Cordelia - posted on 07/14/2011

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I lived in my lazy boy chair because I could nurse and sleep there. My pediatrician would ask if he was spending 20 or 40 minutes nursing and I was like, try hours! Now at 5 mos it is around that time. Just find somewhere comfy for you both and do your best!

Kelly - posted on 07/12/2011

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Nursing can be so frustrating and can make you feel like you're at your wit's end. Just keep telling yourself you are doing what is best for your baby. My son ate constantly and I would sit and cry sometimes. It got so much easier after several months and I was sad to wean him at a year. I just kept telling myself that in the grand scheme of things, a few stressful months are nothing! You are not alone!

Marie - posted on 07/04/2011

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I hope you will stick w/ nursing, and I hope things have gotten better since you posted this. It really is normal for babies this age to seem like they are nursing a lot. Try not to get stressed about it. If you really are worried, see if you can bring him to your doctor's office for a weight check to be sure he is gaining weight. I'm sure they won't mind doing that for you. Nursing on demand every 1 to 3 hours around the clock is what is necessary. Aroun 4 months, you will notice him getting into a better feeding routine. Mine is 5 months and nurses every 3 to 4 hours now. He might go 4 to 6 for one stretch at night, but not always. Learn to side lie when you feed him and put him in your bed at night if you're not already. And I know you said 6 months is your goal, but as someone else said, you probably won't see any reason to quit once you reach that point! It will be so simple then. Trust that your body was made to do this! I hope all of the replies help encourage you to keep with it, you will see that it is worth it and certainly easier that bottlefeeding in the longrun. =)

Janice - posted on 07/01/2011

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I know with my daughter that there were times during the first few months in which she was on the breast non-stop for a few days. It was tough sometimes. Just keep going and it will get easier. I originally said 6 mo. too and at 2 months I still said that but by 4 mo. there was no way and I happily BF my daughter till 17 mo. (we were down to only 1 feed by then). It was so tough in the beginning I never, ever thought I would BF for that long but I'm glad I pushed through because it was the best (and eventually easiest) thing to do. Good luck momma!

Lilliana - posted on 07/01/2011

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Don't give up mama!! It's so so worth it, the benefits today outway the hardships in the end! Keep going! Your baby will thank you in the end! You CAN do it! I believe in you!

Karina - posted on 06/30/2011

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First of all your doing a great job!! My son is 4.5 months old and he went from 8 wet dippers to 4-5 and he is still gaining weight. Does he burp after each feeding? My son was the same when he was going through his growth spurt. He wanted to feed ever 1.5hrs from 3 in the morning until 8am every night. But it will pass and he will get back in a routine. If your worried he's not getting enough try expressing in between feedings. This will give him a bit more if needed and it will also increase your milk supply.
Hope this helps and no matter what you decide you tried and that's all that matters.
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Melanie - posted on 06/30/2011

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they go thru a growth spurt around that age. it may be hes not feeling well and really just wants to use you as a pacifier. i think we mommies must feel and smell nicer than a binky. also somewhere in there some babies bodies mature a bit and the dont need to go as often. just keep doing your best. this will pass.

Jessica - posted on 06/29/2011

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lots of women only feed for 2 months 6 is best but you can always try suppimenting with formula. breast first then bottle.

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When babies are sick or going thru a growth spurt or have been sick, they will nurse more often and for a longer and/or more often while your supply increases to meet their needs. There is no need to be discouraged. You are doing a great service to your baby nursing him. Don't feel like you are starving him. This is a natural process and what your body as a woman was made for after having a baby. Just make sure you are staying hydrated. During the summer your body may need as much as 12 glasses to stay well hydrated when nursing. :)

Andrea - posted on 06/29/2011

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hi nursing is not easy i felt like giving up alot but im glad today i never did (my baby is 7months) and im still breast feeding i realy enjoy it now its our time and it makes me feel like a good mother and that my daughter needs me its our time and i look forward to it every day! but your milk might not be strong anough for your little one so id say go to doctor and have it checked up for a professionals opinion. just remember once you stop you cant get it back. and you WILL regret it

Lucie - posted on 06/28/2011

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I went through something like that around 2 months with my 2nd -seemed she was going through a growth spurt and it took a while for it to subside (hair-pulling weeks). She's now 4months and is starting to sleep through the night. Is your son's weight on track? If it is, then something else may be the issue. Really bad gas? Needs to be burped a lot? Has colic? My 1st pregnancy I had 2 terrible breast infections, my baby had awful latch-on, and my nipples were in extreme pain for almost 6 months. It was so bad I had to use a nipple shield for 5 months. But then as the baby got older he got good at latch-on and things smoothed out. He started sleeping through the night at 3 months, and after that when he woke up I rocked him back to sleep w/o nursing, because I knew he didn't need it and I wanted to enforce sleeping through the night. I thought after going through all that with #1 that #2 would be a breeze, but it hasn't. She was awful at latch-on, I got cracked nipples, and all she wanted to due was nurse. But now she's a fat chunk so I know she's eating enough. My biggest mistake the first time was not drinking enough to have enough liquids to produce milk. I now drink one tall glass of liquid for each breast drained, when it's being drained. Works like a charm. Keep doing it. It's good for the baby. Even after all the pain with #1, I ended up feeding him for 1 1/2 years until he decided to wean. It definitely gets easier as the get older (and have bigger mouths). I even worked through his teething (and biting) stage!

Mellissa - posted on 06/28/2011

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Keep faith. My experience after nursing two into toddlerhood is that they go through regular periods of intense nursing. This is usually before a growth spurt in order to build up your milk so there is little worry about them not getting enough. You are a strong, amazing vessel and you can do this. It can be irritating, frustrating, discouraging and plain depressing but all of this will pass in a few days or couple of weeks. If you are very concerned talk to someone but be careful who, a lot of health care professionals have little to know training regarding breast feeding. Sometimes it helps just to talk to someone who has been through it. LLL meetings can be a good way to meet others. Be proud of yourself and hang in there, but most of all trust your body.

Andrea - posted on 06/28/2011

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Something that someone told me when I was feeling like you were, just around the same age of my daughter - you are always making enough to feed them - because you are his mother and your connection is in sync. As long as he eats when he is hungry, then that is enough! There is no certain "amount" that babies are "supposed" to have, there is only an average, and every baby is different. Even if you don't "feel" like there is milk there, there is! The more you nurse, the more you will make! Let the baby guide your milk supply, and you will always have enough - that's how we were created :) You are doing great!

Monica - posted on 06/28/2011

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I felt the same way, as far as that I didn't know if I was feeding my daugter enough and she would just nurse and nurse and I would get more and more tired and I also have a 3 year old that I have to wake up for so I can't sleep when the baby sleeps as I did with my 1st. I however have started pumping and feeding her by bottle, it's easier, faster and my boyfriend can feed her as well which helps a lot. By doing this since also allows me to store (freeze) excess milk, so when I thought I was producing enough was not true I actually have more than she actually drinks and by pumping prevents engorging. I hope this helps, pumping may seem scary trust me it saves time and so much money I also pumped with my 1st. Good luck!!!!

Nerina - posted on 06/28/2011

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My son is 20 months old now and until today I am still very upset with myself for not trying harder to breastfed him. I also did not have a lot of milk and struggled a lot. I then gave him formula with the breastmilk but little did I know that he had an allergy for milk. Long after I completely stopped breastfeeding we did some tests to see why he was constantly crying and having stomach pains. He was put on neocate which we could not afford for long and which he did not want to drink. I then wished that I could get my breastmilk back but it was already to long after I stopped. So what I'm trying to say is that you should really think very hard about stopping - I had a hell of time and wished my baby to grow up quicker. Last night was the first night he slept through.

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eat.. eat .. eat.. and lots of sleep. everytime you can.

ive been having that trouble too. first when she was a couple months old and now that shes 19 m.o. she sleeps from 8 pm to 8 am but lately shes been waking up in the middle of the night as if shes very hungry. i know its my milk so i drink lots of water. but still she wakes up. so i think its not just water you have to take but also eat as in eat food that you know will help you produce milk until the next time you can eat. i hope this helps. goodluck!

Jessica - posted on 06/27/2011

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I have updated a few times, they seem to get a little lost. We are doing much better. We are gonna stick this out for now :) and ya'll were right, my supply hadn't tanked, I just felt that way because of him nursing so much and me feeling discouraged plus lack of sleep for us both.

Delia - posted on 06/27/2011

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Jessica, how are things going?? You've got a lot of support and many good suggestions here, and I'm wondering if things are starting to improve and you're starting to feel better.

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Oh honey! It's okay. Just know that. Know that it's okay to start integrating formula in a bottle now. I did that with my son (he's my 2nd. I nursed my daughter til 10 months). But my son was different. I was afraid he wasn't getting enough too, like you. So I decided to integrate the bottle at 7 weeks old. His life has never been better!! Mine either for that matter! You need to do what is best for you and your child. I felt guilty for quitting early, but I got over it after I saw how much he was eating!!! And how happy he's been since! ;-)

Tia - posted on 06/27/2011

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It sounds pretty normal to me. He may just be going through a growth spurt and that is why he's eating more often. If you are really worried, contact a lactation consultant and I'm sure you will feel much better. Hang in there.

Kara - posted on 06/27/2011

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Also, try sidelying. My daughter is about 8 months old and still wakes 2-3 times a night when she's learning something new, sick, or just having a rough time soothing herself. I learned with her big brother (the reason I went back to school for my CLC) the only way to get any punt of rest is sidelying. My oldest never slept through the night until he was 11 months. Hang in there!!!

Kara - posted on 06/27/2011

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I'm a lactation consultant in LA. When babies get sick they lose they're appetite just like we do, so I wouldn't be surprised if your milk went down a bit, but it shouldn't have tanked completely. It can seem that way becausinghes nursing like a fiend now, but he's making up for all those calories he didn't get while sick. Kind of like the growth spurt at 2-3 weeks old. They nurse like crazy for 2-3 days to get your milk supply where it needs to be and then they go back to their normal routine.

Also, keep in mind that if your supply did go down, baby is your best bet at getting back up. I know it canbe exhausting and overwhelming, but babies are the best pumpswe have. Let him have free access for 24 hours and you should notice a big difference. Hang in there!!!

Alyssa - posted on 06/26/2011

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hang in there! i read several good suggestions here. have you tried nursing while lying down? that saved me with my dd! i could actually fall asleep & she would just latch & nurse while i napped. we also co-slept, which made that a viable option for us. i don't know what you do, but that's my suggestion.

believe me, i was ready to quit more than once, but i had a very good friend who was a former la leche leaguer, & she was able to boost my confidence & encourage me to keep going. do you have a buddy near you? i also broke down & cried with dd on more than one occasion. it can be very frustrating & heart wrenching at times, but it's so worth it in the end.

around 2-3 mos is a very common time for any infant to amp up his feedings b/c a growth spurt is typically right around the corner. he has to get your supply up to meet his soon increasing demands. also, if he was sick, he'll increase nursing, if for no other reason than comfort. he's still making wet diapers, so he's ok. if possible, weigh him & make sure he's not losing weight. that will make you feel better.

you're gonna be ok, & ds is gonna be fabulous. hang in there!

Dayna - posted on 06/26/2011

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Try relaxing and enjoying the cuddle time with your little one instead of looking at it as a chore. Stress can cause limited flow. Cool showers and staying hydrated help. Most importantly...relax. The baby is not starving. The weigh ins at your doctor visits should put your mind at ease and tell whether or not the baby is getting enough. Aside from the health benefits, Breastfeeding saves money and certainly beats having to make (and warm) several bottles in the middle of the night.

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If you are worried about your supply dwindling: pump, pump and pump again!!! It seems slightly counter intuitive but they supply will not go up if the demand does not. If I were you I would be pumping every 2-3 hours for at least 20 minutes, even if nothing comes out! The unfortunate part of this is that you will need to also do this at night... I wish you good luck and just remember that whatever you decide to do will be the right thing for your family :)

Brigitte - posted on 06/26/2011

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It will get easier. This is my third child and I nursed all 3 :) my daughters seemed easier then my son and I honestly almost stopped with him, but I much like you was determined to breastfeed. If you need help contact a local lactation rep. I did with my son and she really helped me and gave me the support to continue. My son is now 11 months old and happy and healthy breastfeed baby. You are doing a great thing keep up the great work.

Kristi - posted on 06/26/2011

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My little boy was a nightmare to feed, he didn't even learn to latch on until he was 9 weeks old, I was within a whisker of quitting, I was also supplementing him with formula because no matter how long i spent on the couch, he always wanted more. I would feed him everything I had and then top him up with a bottle. I never really caught up with him until he started on solids which was at 4 months, and then I could drop off the bottles, i then continued to breast feed until he knocked it off at around 13 months. Please know that you are doing the best for your baby, the nazis will carry on about exclusive this and that, but there is no need for guilt and confusion, do what works for you and your baby, if supplementing works yay, it is not cyanide.my other tip is if you need professional help, contact tresillian, they are amazing and there is not anything that they haven't heard.

Sarah - posted on 06/26/2011

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He may be going through a growth spurt and just wants to nurse more. He also may just want more time with you. Nursing is comforting to him. Don't give up! As long as he's putting on weight and seems healthy you've got nothing to worry about. I'm assuming he's seeing the doctor monthly still so maybe move up the next appointment if you can or call anyway to ask to have him weighed because of your concerns. And if you pump at all DON'T go by how much you can pump out. Pumps cannot suck out the actual amount of milk you have like a baby can. And, your never truly out of milk as your body is constantly making it. Last, if you really feel like your supply is down then pump a little more during the day to help up your production. We are here for you so don't give up!

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Could he be going through a growth spurt? Have you tried breast compressions? Can you get in touch with a BFC to speak to - they will be able to come and see you and make sure everything is ok. Remember you are doing a fantastic job.

Suzie - posted on 06/26/2011

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they do this at diffrent times just stick through it he may be going through a growth spirt and may just need to build up mommis supply there are going to be days like that but rember they are few and far between

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