Amy - posted on 01/09/2010 ( 113 moms have responded )
Ok, now there are going to be some opions against this but I need to hear that I'm not a bad person for what I did in the situation I was in. My son was 4 months old and me and my fiance went out of town to do some shopping. Well, his sister lives close to where we were and we went over there because my baby was hungry and I wanted to be comfortable and be able to get him out of the carseat for a while. We went over there and while we were there his sister wanted one of the computers we bought that day because it was on sale. Well, the sale was only that day so my fiance offered to go get her the computer because she was unable to drive at the time and had a newborn. I wanted to go with him so I asked if she would watch my baby while we went and would be back within the hour so she said yes, and there was also another adult there, her mom who also said it would be ok. We leave and when I got back she was holding my son and had just finished breastfeeding him. My stomache sank when I found out and I left almost immediately. This is my sons aunt and my future sister-in-law. I didn't say anything to her because I was a little in shock but when I got home I wrote her a letter telling her she had ruined breastfeeding for me because that was something special I alone shared with my son. I was only gone for one hour and had fed him right before I left so I now he wasn't hungry. She said he was crying unconsolably and did what she knew to do. I'm still currently breastfeeding because I wasn't going to take it from my baby just because someone else made a mistake. Now I knew his sister was the kind of person that might try something like that but I knew she would come to me and ask me before doing something like that without my permission. But she didn't and it hurt so bad. I don't know why but I felt violated and jealous and so mad. I'm not ever taking my baby back over to her house again and I just can't seem to get over it. She still talks to my fiance also. He seemed to have forgot about it and moved on but I just can't believe he is just ok with it now. What would you do if someone that was babysitting your child for an hour breastfed your baby while you were gone without asking you first. Even though the answer for me would have been kinda obvious. Am I a terrible person for never letting her see him again, atleast if I know about it.