i feel like i'm disappearing

Lisa - posted on 07/18/2012

Check out your local library! They ones in my city have lots of different mums and baby or toddler programs... I meet lots of mums there! Also check out... www.meetup.com find your city and u will be able to find mums groups in your area, an excellent way to meet stay at home mums.

Jana - posted on 07/18/2012

thanks everyone, these are some wonderful ideas. I just tried to find something on meetup. There is apparently a small group of parents with little ones in my area. I'm going to try to reach out to them. I have made it a point to have a very full schedule to keep my head on straight and keep a predictable element in my 2 year old son's life. Everything has been turned topsy turvy for him too. We have lots of fun together, but sometimes I'd like actual adult conversation to be added to the list of daily activities. :)
Stephanie- I feel like my garden is my outlet. I'm taking care of it and exploring my limits. I miss working, and this is kind of my "job". I can see it coming alive and it has made a huge difference in my morale. I highly recommend it. Although, its really quite depressing when I can't find the time in the day to get out there and tend it. I think posting a blog about my progress and trials will add another element to it too. I hope you keep reading :D

Stephanie - posted on 07/18/2012

Hi Jana, I am reading your blog and I wanted you to know that I feel somewhat isolated, too. I am a stay at home mom of a new 6 month old girl and I moved up here to NH when I got married about a year and a half ago. I don't know many people in my area, either. I love gardening and have had a few in the past, but not started one here yet. I have, however, started a compost pile. I have a large hole in my front yard that was there when we bought the house and I am using that as the compost site. I keep a 5 gallon bucket with lid on the back porch as easy access. It is not good to put any animal products in the compost, but only veggies. Also, you can put shredded paper and dryer lint! Who knew! Well, I wanted to share with you, I had been using the hole as a compost site and just dumping stuff in there evry night. So, racoons, foxes and other critters soon found it and made a huge mess, plus it started to smell bad, I mean bad! And so many bees and flies, yuck yuck! Lol
I read that covering the pile with 8 inches or more of dried leaves works, and it has for me. I just use the bucket (which btw is super smelly) as a place to dump the stuff each night and keep the lid on tight. It keeps the critters away. Then when the bucket is full, about a week and a half, I move the leaves, add to the pile, and cover it again. It has worked great! Good luck!

Lori - posted on 07/18/2012

Try looking for a group like MOPS or MOM'S Club. You can google them, and get to their main home page and then look to see if there is a chapter in your new area.

MOPS is Moms of PreSchoolers: and is open to anyone with kids under age 5 I believe. They are a Christian organization and include Christian values in their meetings and activities.

MOM'S Club is Moms Offering Moms Support. They are open to moms of kids of any age who either stay home, or work only part time. They are not religiously affiliated.

And there may be other options or groups in your area too. Your local library may be a good place to either meet other moms at story time, or to check out the bulletin board and see if there are fliers posted about groups looking for new members.

Maura - posted on 07/18/2012

I understand. I am in an very similar situation. I try to reach out to family & friends over the phone as often as I can. I also make myself leave the house every day, even if we just go to the park. Some days are better than others. We have moved a lot, it gets better.

Celeste - posted on 07/18/2012

I'm sorry. I can relate! Have you researched to see if there's a mom's group near you? Maybe a MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) group? Try meetup.com?

I found a local mothers of multiples group (I have twins) and have found wonderful ladies that keep me sane LOL