I want to take something to help me cope with my stress and anxiety that's safe for my 11 months old (I'm planning on bfing until she selfweans). Please help!

Holly Janelle - posted on 03/03/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

257

11

13

I'm currently taking zoloft 50 mg which I didn't want to take in the first place but I was incredibly depressed an my doctor told me it's safe and will do me more harm than good if I don't take it so I have been taking it ever since my 8 week post natal appointment. As of now I'm jut stressed and anxious and it seems as though everything bothers me which makes me naggy and just plain bitchy( not being rude sorry fir the language such being honest). I'm working on how i react to my stress because my mom god love her does NOT deal with stress well and I learned from the worst! I need something though to help calm and relax me. Natural remedies or prescription that you know is safe for my DD and help me? I'm currently taking pre natals, vitamins d3, and c also. It's really hurting ny relationship because I'm making big things out of stuff that I shouldn't even care about and it's causing arguments that should have never happened in the first place(it happens waaay too often)! Honestly my life is wonderful I have a wonderful man, 11 year old step son(my son in my eyes!), 11 month old daughter, I don't work I take care of our house kids, my man, cooking/cleaning ect. I have it made though honestly. SO doesn't go out with friends drinking he is here with his family it's wonderful. The little man is very difficult and it can be quite stressful and overwhelming for me, but it's part of my life. I'm 24 years old btw. I need advise anything you have to offer will help me I promise!! Thank you so much for taking your time to read this and help it means so much!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Lori - posted on 03/04/2012

1,487

9

639

Holly - I don't really have advice for you on this one... I just wanted to say you're doing a great job! I've read and replied to several of your other posts, and I know how much you do for your LO.



It is very tough being a Mom! Even when we've got it good, it's still a tough job and can be quite stressful. Taking care of a baby especially when you're home by yourself can make just about anyone go a little bit crazy. We all need support of others. Have you looked for a MOMS Club near you?



http://www.momsclub.org/



They're an international club for stay at home moms. I joined my local chapter just a few months ago and I am soooo glad I did. All the activities are scheduled during the day time - which is when most stay at home moms need/want something to do. Different chapters have different activities, but some possibilities would be play dates, book club, recipe club, garden club, lunch bunch, stroller work outs, etc. ALL activities (except Moms Night Out) welcome you and your children. When you join you get their calendar of events and you can go to 1 or all of the activities for the month. I've met some really great moms who have kids right around the same age as my kids, and now there's an excuse for us to get together and hang out. I'm an avid reader or used to be before having kids) so my favorite is book club. We all read the same book one month, then get together and talk about it while the kids play together. It's amazing the difference it has made to me having friends who can really relate to what I'm going through.



If there's not a MOMS Club near you, maybe check out your local library for story time - many have toddler story time and if not you can still bring your LO to the regular story time. My local library only does one story time and though the ages aren't posted for it - it's basically for ages 3-5. However I went several times when my oldest was only about 18 months because I just had to get out of the house. After I had my 2nd I found out that another library (fairly close by) does baby story time, toddler story time, preschool story time, and more for the older kids too.



Sorry if I'm a bit off topic here!

Ania - posted on 03/04/2012

703

25

52

You know what you should try? Exercise! and I'm deadly serious. 30 min a day just go for a fast walk when you are alone and get really tired. I'm a person who likes to freak out all the time about stuff in life, you know making problems bigger than they maybe really are. i go to the gym every day 5-6 times a week i get on a cardio machine, either treadmill or elliptical and I go. I get sweaty, tired and i think my issues out and I try to manage them come up with solutions. My mantra is that there is never an issue that cannot be resolved. It really helps, believe me. My opinion is that drugs - any drugs are slippery slope, it is an artificial fixer, of course some people need them and I understand, but you should try everything before :)

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

5 Comments

View replies by

Ania - posted on 03/04/2012

703

25

52

Good for you Holly! That's great! Working out actually makes me super happy and definately relaxes me. Lori mentioned something about how isolating it is to be a mom. She is right. I had a very tough time....possibly a lot of women go through phases like that. It is lonely and there are so many issues that you have to deal with. Currently I'm getting anxious because I have a second baby on the way and I'm worried about how I will deal with kids alone...and sleep deprivation, that really makes me depressed and negative. Good luck you are doing great!

Holly Janelle - posted on 03/04/2012

257

11

13

Thank you ania I have been working out a lot lately. Well running I bought a jogging stroller so I can jog with my 11 mo DD and it's fun and it relaxes me and makes me feel great about myself at the same time. I agree with you on the medicine. I have been taking zoloft because that's what every women in my family takes for their "depression" and I gave to be honest I want to stop that cycle here with me and for it not to be learned/carried down to my daughter. I want her to learn the m skills to cope with her feelings not try and numb them with medication it is a slippery slope. Now that's I recognize this is a fault of mine the next step is to unlearn these traits that have been handed down from my mother. I don't want to be naggy, I don't want to make a big deal out of nothing, I want to be relaxed and enjoyable to be around and someone my man LOVES to be around. So that's my mission. I need to train myself to be happy to make my brain think OPOMISTICALLY instead of being a pessimist which I have been for so long. Thank you again!

Celeste - posted on 03/03/2012

3,046

30

870

Most meds are safe to take!

Per Lactmed (which is a data base to find out if meds are compatible with breastfeeding)

"Because of the low levels of sertraline in breastmilk, amounts ingested by the infant are small and is usually not detected in the serum of the infant, although the weakly active metabolite desmethylsertraline is often detectable in low levels in infant serum. Most authoritative reviewers consider sertraline one of the preferred antidepressants during breastfeeding.[1][2][3][4] Mothers taking an SSRI during pregnancy and postpartum may have more difficulty breastfeeding and may need additional breastfeeding support."



http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/cgi-bin/sis/ht...



Or you can go here:

http://www.infantrisk.com/ They have a ph# you can call (if you're in the US) to see if a med is compatible with breastmilk

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms