I want to wean my breast but i need advice

Shekka - posted on 08/29/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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im ready to wean my breast what are some good ways to do it..and probably the fastest way lol

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Chelsea - posted on 09/01/2009

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Quoting Carey:

put salt or mustard or a sauce of some kind on your nipple before breast feeding, this will make your baby not want to latch on.


Your child trusts you and by doing that you are showing them that what they go to for food and comfort is not safe and therefore you are not safe.  Why would you want to make your child feel unsafe?  An infant nurses to survive and to feel as though they can't makes them panic and feel utter fear and frustration.  What you are purposing is cruel.

Chelsea - posted on 09/01/2009

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Quoting sharday:

yeah i know all the benefits and i wish i could continue to Bf but im a young single mother and i have to go back to work its been almost 3 months and thats longer than most women my age last..i have alot of breastmilk stored so she will still have the breastmilk but i know we're both goin to miss the bonding time..if i could be a stay at home mom i would most definetely continue bfing..i have 3 friends that are expecting and i try to tell them the benefits of breastfeeding and how wonderful of an experience it is but they dont want to go thru the part where the baby doesnt want to take a bottle when its time to work or having to breastfeed in public and what people will think of them


I am also a young single mother, that is no excuse to stop breastfeeding.  I think that you need to be honest with yourself about your reasons for weaning.  Pumping and sending bottles to daycare is work but did you become a mother because you though it would be easy.  When you say that you advocate breastfeeding you may think you are an advocate but you are only an advocate for breastfeeding  when it's easy and convenient.  If your daughter takes a bottle of pumped breastmilk why not just pump?  There seems to be no reason to wean.  

Laura - posted on 09/01/2009

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You can still nurse whenever you are home, and pump while at work, so the little one will still get breastmilk. You don't have to stop. Try checking with your local La Leche League for info on pumping and working, mine had some great ideas.

Sarah - posted on 09/01/2009

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I'm also 20! Lol... yet my husband is a gem (thank God or I wouldn't know what I would do) and I am able to stay at home ... well except for college at night... and I had to wean her enough so I could go to school.. So at eight months I would replace breastmilk with the bottle all day except at night. So, I currently still have the night bonding with my daughter!

Tara - posted on 08/31/2009

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Unfortunatly weaning is a slower than faster process... Start with skipping a feeding during the day and do this for a span of 3-7 days. Then skip another feeding and repeat this process. Wean the morning and night feedings last... If you try to abrubtley stop you will be in alot of pain and baby will be upset... Good luck!

Shekka - posted on 08/30/2009

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oh yes i have WIC!! formula prices are ridiculous..but they gave me a manual pump and even offered me the electric pump to persuade me to continue breastfeeding

and yes its hard taking care of my child by myself but im a strong woman and i live for my daughter and i know with the grace of God we are going to be okay and i dont like the daycare system either but sometimes u have to not worry so much..especially with all the crazy things thats going on in the world..i moved to a small town where everyone knows everyone so im not as nervous now

Stina - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting sharday:

yeah i know all the benefits and i wish i could continue to Bf but im a young single mother and i have to go back to work its been almost 3 months and thats longer than most women my age last..i have alot of breastmilk stored so she will still have the breastmilk but i know we're both goin to miss the bonding time..if i could be a stay at home mom i would most definetely continue bfing..i have 3 friends that are expecting and i try to tell them the benefits of breastfeeding and how wonderful of an experience it is but they dont want to go thru the part where the baby doesnt want to take a bottle when its time to work or having to breastfeed in public and what people will think of them


That is awesome that you have lots of milk stored up!  being a single mom is rough- I spent several months separated from my husband almost 2 years ago.  Picked up and left with my two children- I cried during my breaks the first few days 'cause I wanted so badly to be with my children and I didn't really like the daycare situation.  He and I have worked things out- but I still work and really miss how things used to be.



I don't know how it is where you live, but in my area, WIC is a great help.  They made an electic pump available for me to use.  If you haven't already signed up with your local WIC program I highly recomend it.  They will even help a little with formula.  I don't know how much though... I just know it's been a huge help getting the milk, cheese and cereal for my two older chidlren. 



I hope your friends will try BF because of your encouragement. 



 

Carey - posted on 08/30/2009

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put salt or mustard or a sauce of some kind on your nipple before breast feeding, this will make your baby not want to latch on.

Shekka - posted on 08/29/2009

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yeah i know all the benefits and i wish i could continue to Bf but im a young single mother and i have to go back to work its been almost 3 months and thats longer than most women my age last..i have alot of breastmilk stored so she will still have the breastmilk but i know we're both goin to miss the bonding time..if i could be a stay at home mom i would most definetely continue bfing..i have 3 friends that are expecting and i try to tell them the benefits of breastfeeding and how wonderful of an experience it is but they dont want to go thru the part where the baby doesnt want to take a bottle when its time to work or having to breastfeed in public and what people will think of them

Stina - posted on 08/29/2009

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The best way to wean is definitely gradually.  Take away one feeding at a time... Wait a few days to a week before eliminateing another one.  Otherwise, you can expect to be engorged.  Warm compresses are very soothing,




I can't imagine how hard it would be to continue breastfeeding with your friends and family making unsupportive comments and making you feel like you are "crazy"... But if you hate to give your baby formula, you really don't have to... It's totally your choice- your body- your baby.  Seems to me you know that this is good for her... you probably know all the benefits.  Ultimately this is your decision- but reading your reasons for wanting to wean to a bottle, I wonder if it would be worth it for you to persevere and set an example for other mothers you know. 



Good luck. 

Shakira - posted on 08/29/2009

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you're welcome hun...I also meant to say if you are engourged, get in a hot shower (as hot as you can take it) and massage your breasts to express some of the milk out. I know it can be painful, but that helped me many a days. Again, keep up the good parenting! Your daughter will thank you later :)

Shekka - posted on 08/29/2009

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thank u because my family do not encourage it they asked me a million questions and looked at me crazy all the time i just get tired of arguin with them because i kno this is whats best for my baby but thanks im goin to take this advice lol

Shakira - posted on 08/29/2009

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yep...you are right. That's gonna happen for a while until your body realizes that your baby is no longer feeding. You may want to pump just a little to relieve the engorging, but not all the way. Then gradually your body will sense that it doesn't need to make as much milk...the demand will be less, so the supply will reflect that. But you will have to go through a small period of time of your breasts becoming engorged :( . You're right though, especially in the African American community, breastfeeding is not really embraced as it should be. My family and friends looked at me crazy too...especially when they knew she was still at it at 2 years old! LOL. But it is what's best for your child and that's what matters...

Shekka - posted on 08/29/2009

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thanks.. im only 20 years old and people are so surprised when they find out im breastfeeding they think im crazy lol but i have one more problem when i dont feed my breast get so engorged and i think if i pump it would be the same as feeding and my milk supply is still growing..right??

Shakira - posted on 08/29/2009

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Well you're well on your way girl...Just be patient. Kudos to you for being a young breastfeeding mother!

Shekka - posted on 08/29/2009

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yea i breastfeed full time but about 2 weeks ago i start givin her a bottle every mornin or after every nap but i think just gradually stoppin may be better than jjust tryin to stop cold turkey because i enjoy that bonding time with her and i hate that i have to give her that formula

Shakira - posted on 08/29/2009

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If you breastfeed full time, you may want to gradually decrease your feedings. Consult your pediatrician or lactation consultant on what to supplement feedings with. It was difficult for me because my child would not drink formula, or regular milk at all. Once you get to the point of just a "before bed" nursing, you're almost there. Don't force the baby to stop breastfeeding because this is also a bonding time for your child. Once you both are comfortable with no more feedings, you may want to leave something that smells like you with your child in their bed or crib so that they can smell your scent frequently. I breastfed till 2 years old, but I really did want to for as long as possible. Good Luck!

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