I was confronted about breastfeeding in public by a stranger...

Tansy - posted on 07/14/2009

That is disgraceful! I hate how people can have a bad opinon on breastfeeding! it is one of the most beautiful most natural thing you can do! it also shows a hard workin mother who wants the best for her child! You never even see anything when b-feeding! But its ok for the sun to print nude wmen with their breast out! and for girls to walk around with it all hanging out is it? Makes me soooo angry! i breastfed my twins and often it was quite difficult to cover up when i was feedin both at the same time. most people praised me! people like that make me sick! If she had a prolem dont look! simple

Cindy - posted on 07/14/2009

Thank you for standing up to ignorance!

Amy - posted on 07/14/2009

Great response! Think about it this way... people have no problem with breasts ALL OVER TV, movies, and billboards...yet when a mom is feeding her baby they're offended?! That makes no sense. That's probably how I would respond if it ever happened to me. Keep up the good work!

Vicky - posted on 07/14/2009

These people are just ignorant and have nothing better to do with their time but to poke their noses into other peoples business. Stick to your guns!! You're giving your child the best possible start in life and no-one has the right to discourage you from doing that xxx

DeeDee - posted on 07/14/2009

Quoting Jessica:

DeeDee, can I borrow your exact words for when someone comes up to me?? LoL

I've never had someone ask me to cover up or stop breastfeeding; I've caught stares (which I ignore) though, which don't really bother me. The thing I find funny is that I get more questions from KIDS than anyone else. "What are you doing? What's it taste like? How long will you breastfeed her? Can I pat her hair while she eats? Does it hurt when she's on you?" Whereas my girlfriend's husband will IMMEDIATELY exit the room going "Oh God BOOB!" and we all give him grief for it. He doesn't mind me nursing, it's the fact that he's trying to be respectful and NOT stare LoL.

On another note... I make it a point to praise women for nursing in public when I see them. Previous generations of women have been raised to keep covered and modest and NEVER reveal any bodily functions to the public. I'm always called a Feminist for saying things like this but.... FREE THE TATA!!

You have my blessing to use those words if ever you need them. I got the bathroom line from my Aunt and I am sure she wouldn't mind either!

Funny that you are called a feminist. It's not a gender issue. Believe me, if my husband could breastfeed, I would certainly let him do it sometimes!

Beth - posted on 07/14/2009

that is crazy! at least you covered a lot of people don't! Its not like you were in a well lit place or you took your shirt off or something! You can hardly see anything with the baby in front anyways! Especially a 6 month old they cover anything anyone could possibly be offended by! Poeple are ignorant and I probably would not have been as calm as you described your reaction was!!!

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

DeeDee, can I borrow your exact words for when someone comes up to me?? LoL



I've never had someone ask me to cover up or stop breastfeeding; I've caught stares (which I ignore) though, which don't really bother me. The thing I find funny is that I get more questions from KIDS than anyone else. "What are you doing? What's it taste like? How long will you breastfeed her? Can I pat her hair while she eats? Does it hurt when she's on you?" Whereas my girlfriend's husband will IMMEDIATELY exit the room going "Oh God BOOB!" and we all give him grief for it. He doesn't mind me nursing, it's the fact that he's trying to be respectful and NOT stare LoL.



On another note... I make it a point to praise women for nursing in public when I see them. Previous generations of women have been raised to keep covered and modest and NEVER reveal any bodily functions to the public. I'm always called a Feminist for saying things like this but.... FREE THE TATA!!

Ronda - posted on 07/14/2009

I've been lucky so far (I have 3 & 1 is 6 months old still nursing) & have never had that happen. I feel sorry for the idiots like that lady. Like u, I'm not about to sit in a gross public restroom & feed my child. I don't understand why people have a problem w.a child being breastfed in public...especially when we cover up & they can't see anything anyway.

good luck 2 all of us nursing mothers!

Lauren - posted on 07/13/2009

I would tell her that it is absolutely NONE of her business. You don't have to answer to anybody. If they have a problem with it, then its just that, THEIR problem, not yours.



And it was totally inappropriate of HER to think she had the right to criticize you for feeding your baby. Breastfeeding does not mean Privatefeeding.



It makes me so angry that our society sees no problem with portraying breasts as sexual, cleavage and what not, but a mother feeding her child is considered taboo. To me, that is the truest sense of perversion.

Lauren - posted on 07/13/2009

I would tell her that it is absolutely NONE of her business. You don't have to answer to anybody. If they have a problem with it, then its just that, THEIR problem, not yours.



And it was totally inappropriate of HER to think she had the right to criticize you for feeding your baby. Breastfeeding does not mean Privatefeeding.



It makes me so angry that our society sees no problem with portraying breasts as sexual, cleavage and what not, but a mother feeding her child is considered taboo. To me, that is the truest sense of perversion.

Tracey - posted on 07/13/2009

that is terrible! in other countries women openly breastfeed without cover... in the US it's not like that and it's rare that mothers even breastfeed at all... I think as long as I cover up no one should be offended... I haven't had this type of experience but I think you handled it very well...

Mindy - posted on 07/13/2009

Good for you! Some people can be so rude. Breastfeeding is the more natural thing in the world. I know with my son at first I would go and hide away but once I got the hang of it I would do it anywhere. With my daughter, who is 5 months old, I will do it anywhere anytime. Thankfully no one has never done that to me. We were eating in a restaurant one time. My daughter was STRAVING so I ask the table next to me if they minded if I feed her. They were very nice and said no problem and so I went ahead and fed her. That was the first time I ever asked anyone if they minded and the only reason I did was becasue we were basically sitting at the same table.

Amanda - posted on 07/13/2009

In wisconsin they passed a law making it illegal to bother women nursing in public (basically, i dont know the specific wording)

Ashley - posted on 07/13/2009

First off, that woman was completely rude. Second, you have the right legally to feed your child even without covering up in public. Yes, we want to save all the other people from seeing our breasts but you were absolutely right to feed her and defend yourself and child. As a woman, she should have understood. Would it have been better if you let your daughter scream in the movie because she was hungry and the doctors do not suggest you sit in the bathroom because they are filled with germs. I have had other people look at me when nursing. Either you have supporters or the mothers and other people that don't agree with nursing at all. You can't always win but it's not about them...it's what you are comfortable with and what is right for your daughter

DeeDee - posted on 07/12/2009

Quoting Autumn:

I breastfeed too, so I know what you mean by saying that you do not want to feed your baby in the bathroom. However, if your child is only 6 months old, what was the point in taking her to see the movie in the first place? Theaters are so loud and the baby was too young to notice the movie in the first place. The theater employees should not have let you in. That being said, I exclusively nurse my daughter but I do it in private. Yes, we should all be able to eat where ever we want to but at the same time, the infant is eating from your BREAST. Some people feel uncomfortable seeing something like that, and I totally understand that. I prefer to take my child to the car to feed if necessary but I usually don't put myself in the position to where a public nursing scene will be necessary. You do have valid points, but so does the lady that confronted you. Remember, you were watching a family movie. People tend to choose those for the simple fact that they don't want to see breasts, and that is the only type of movie that doesn't showcase nudity/sensuality these days.

Autumn,

Maybe you didn't read my original post, so I will elaborate for you. My daughter actually watched the first 30 minutes of the movie (in silence) before she became hungry. She didn't even fuss for a second, since I knew as soon as she started to move around that she was hungry. I was COMPLETELY covered up before I even lowered my shirt and nothing was EVER exposed. While I do share the belief that I should be allowed to feed my child wherever I want, I always do so discreetly, as I am ever aware of the feelings of others.

As to your point that we shouldn't have even been allowed in the theater, that is the most absurd thing I have read on this post, so far. Maybe people with cellphones, kids who run up and down the aisles, people who talk through the whole movie, and all-around annoying people should never be let in. Not to mention, you pointed out yourself that it was a kids movie. When have you ever been to a kids movie where the children present stayed quiet the entire time? That would be the only reason for someone to deny me entrance, just on the basis of having a baby with me. They would never know ahead of time that I would possibly be feeding her during the movie.

DeeDee

Angie - posted on 07/12/2009

i dont cover in public but my boob is not hanging out eather my little girl would just throw it off i also am having twins so i dont know how i will be doing all that i have had 6 children and breastfeed every one maby i look intimadating but know one would dare to say crap to me and i laph when maby thay might i can now shop and nurse pushing a cart with 2 kids in it im a pro lol i love seeing people nurse in public it makes me feel that maby my children will see it and know that this is how its supposed to be and its not shamefull or wrong cuz you have to hide in a bathroom or back room. good job to all the moms who nurse even the ones who hide in a bathroom

Rhonda - posted on 07/12/2009

I had a similar situation happen to myself back in 1996, I thought that those days were over. It's amazing how many people still just don't get that breastfeeding is as natural as breathing. I handled the situation exactly as you did and when the Man heard my response he kinda huffed and walked away I couldn't believe the nerve of some people. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your baby.

Rhonda - posted on 07/12/2009

I had a similar situation happen to myself back in 1996, I thought that those days were over. It's amazing how many people still just don't get that breastfeeding is as natural as breathing. I handled the situation exactly as you did and when the Man heard my response he kinda huffed and walked away I couldn't believe the nerve of some people. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your baby.

Krystal - posted on 07/12/2009

DeeDee,
When I was able to bf my son, who is lactose intolerant, I did it in public very few times. However when I was in a bathroom or a private room of the sort I would still have people gawking or making rude comments toward me. I'm sorry if my son is hungry he will get food. I didn't care where I was. I never have taken him to the movies, for a lack of wanting to, but I would have done the same thing. Yes breast feeding is a natural thing and it is very sad that people are offended by it. For me, my son will never go hungry because someone is offended by something. I'm very sorry that you were treated that way, that women should have been looking elsewhere, but I can tell you that I have had it happen before. It's infuriating and I personally think that you handled it well, much better than I did. It's a shame that people are made to feel dirty about doing what is best for their child. My husband's family were very rude to me when I was feeding my son while everyone was opening presents on Christmas. That was worse than the strangers comments.

Shayna - posted on 07/12/2009

Oh for goodness sake, would you all please stop with "this is the most natural thing" nonsense and come up with some other reasons?? Yes, it is very natural, so is peeing and so is having sex. Are you doing that in public too? Women have been nursing for thousands of years, and only very recently decided that they should be doing it anytime anywhere. It became acceptable around the same time as many other great "inventions' of the late 20th century.

It's not about the right of your child to eat at all, it's about your behavior, but at this point, I am pretty much beating the dead horse to death.

Really, ladies, DeeDee wanted a debate. I offered a different perspective. Again, you have 145 posts saying the exact same thing. Not a debate per se, but who cares, as long as you all seem to be happy with it.

Nina - posted on 07/12/2009

Recently on holiday a woman did confront me about feeding my son in public (she had just been bottlefeeding her baby). I stated that I am proud of the fact that I breastfeed, also that I do it without any indecent exposure and I would be more embrarassed to stick a bottle in my baby's mouth. When she said that it was wrong to feed in public, I then calmly stated that I re-gained my pre-pregnancy weight within six months, and that if she had breastfed her child then maybe she wouldn't be morbidly obese. We should never be made to feel bad for doing something so wonderful, and well done for standing up to her. xx

Johnny - posted on 07/12/2009

Quoting Autumn:

I breastfeed too, so I know what you mean by saying that you do not want to feed your baby in the bathroom. However, if your child is only 6 months old, what was the point in taking her to see the movie in the first place? Theaters are so loud and the baby was too young to notice the movie in the first place. The theater employees should not have let you in. That being said, I exclusively nurse my daughter but I do it in private. Yes, we should all be able to eat where ever we want to but at the same time, the infant is eating from your BREAST. Some people feel uncomfortable seeing something like that, and I totally understand that. I prefer to take my child to the car to feed if necessary but I usually don't put myself in the position to where a public nursing scene will be necessary. You do have valid points, but so does the lady that confronted you. Remember, you were watching a family movie. People tend to choose those for the simple fact that they don't want to see breasts, and that is the only type of movie that doesn't showcase nudity/sensuality these days.

We are each comfortable with different levels of modesty and discretion.  Some women feel that they should always breastfeed behind closed doors in complete privacy, others will do it only around the home.  Some moms will do so in public, but only in a nursing room or in their car.  Other mothers may breastfeed anywhere their baby gets hungry,  but use a cover, others do so without, but discretely.  And some moms like to hang it all out because that is what they feel comfortable with.  Feeding our infants in with our BREASTS is normal and always appropriate and it is only in some backward parts of North America & the UK (parts of Europe maybe) where this is questioned.  It is up to each mom to individually decide what she is comfortable with and NO ONE, not a looky-loo or another breastfeeding mother has the right to question or criticize her. It would be wrong of another person to tell you to get over your hangups & breastfeed freely in public.  If you are not comfortable with it, you should not, and that is completely your right. But, breasts are NOT inherently sexual, they are only considered that way in a local cultural context.  They were designed to feed babies, we have just decided in the past 100 years to over-sexualize them to the point that it has become controversial to use them for their original intended purpose in a normal everyday setting.  We must stop expecting mothers to put normal life on hold for breastfeeding.  It is silly and for many, especially those with other children, completely impractical.

Autumn - posted on 07/12/2009

I breastfeed too, so I know what you mean by saying that you do not want to feed your baby in the bathroom. However, if your child is only 6 months old, what was the point in taking her to see the movie in the first place? Theaters are so loud and the baby was too young to notice the movie in the first place. The theater employees should not have let you in. That being said, I exclusively nurse my daughter but I do it in private. Yes, we should all be able to eat where ever we want to but at the same time, the infant is eating from your BREAST. Some people feel uncomfortable seeing something like that, and I totally understand that. I prefer to take my child to the car to feed if necessary but I usually don't put myself in the position to where a public nursing scene will be necessary. You do have valid points, but so does the lady that confronted you. Remember, you were watching a family movie. People tend to choose those for the simple fact that they don't want to see breasts, and that is the only type of movie that doesn't showcase nudity/sensuality these days.

Molly - posted on 07/12/2009

Quoting Saima:

Well, I feed my daughter with both breast n formula milk. It becomes very easy for me to feed her with a bottle whenever I am out n about, and I don't have to find a private n comfortable place. Maybe you should try that too.

There are those of us that believe that breastmilk, directly from the breast, is the best way to feed our children. That is what I believe, and I have never used formula or given pumped breastmilk in a bottle. We could get into a big debate about how breastmilk is far superior to formula, but we wont. Suffice to say that not everyone is willing to sacrifice nutrition for convenience. That is why we don't give bottles when we are out and about.

Molly - posted on 07/12/2009

Quoting Shayna:

First, I really don't get why anyone would take a 6mo old to the movies.
Second, I don't understand why you are all so proud of this. I would think BFing is such a sacred, personal time between a mother and a child that doing it in public would be the last thing anyone wanted to do.
What happened to modesty and wanted to keep things and your body private? A naked breast is a naked breast. Why are you so surprised that many people don't want to see it??

Breastfeeding is not a matter of modesty, because modesty implies sexuality, and breastfeeding is not sexual. It's feeding a child.

You must feel really privledged to live in an idealic fantasyland where your child only gets hungry while at home. For those of us who live in the REAL world, we breastfeed wherever our children get hungry or need the comfort of the breast, be it at home, at a movie theatre, or in the seats at a baseball stadium, which is what I did last night.

My son is nearly 18 months old, I have been breastfeeding since day 1, and I have breastfed him at nearly every place you could think of. I've never felt embarassed, because there is nothing to be embarassed about in taking care of my child.

Molly - posted on 07/12/2009

Quoting Shayna:

First, I really don't get why anyone would take a 6mo old to the movies.
Second, I don't understand why you are all so proud of this. I would think BFing is such a sacred, personal time between a mother and a child that doing it in public would be the last thing anyone wanted to do.
What happened to modesty and wanted to keep things and your body private? A naked breast is a naked breast. Why are you so surprised that many people don't want to see it??

Breastfeeding is not a matter of modesty, because modesty implies sexuality, and breastfeeding is not sexual. It's feeding a child.

You must feel really privledged to live in an idealic fantasyland where your child only gets hungry while at home. For those of us who live in the REAL world, we breastfeed wherever our children get hungry or need the comfort of the breast, be it at home, at a movie theatre, or in the seats at a baseball stadium, which is what I did last night.

My son is nearly 18 months old, I have been breastfeeding since day 1, and I have breastfed him at nearly every place you could think of. I've never felt embarassed, because there is nothing to be embarassed about in taking care of my child.

Molly - posted on 07/12/2009

You handled it beautifully. Thats what I would have done. The only thing I may add is some information about the benefits of breastfeeding. Try to educate the ignorant mASSes, LOL.

Im not sure where you live, but in most states there are protections for mothers who want to breastfeed in public. In my state, Massachusetts, if a stranger confronts a breastfeeding mother and either asks her to stop or harasses her, that stranger is risking getting arrested.

Louise - posted on 07/12/2009

This is absoultly discusting behaviour on her part, I feed my son whenever he is hungry no matter where we are! Good on you for sticking up for yourself and your legal right to breastfeed. I wonder what she would have said had you allowed your child cry from hunger throughout the movie.

Rebecca - posted on 07/12/2009

I had this happen to me at the mall. I sat down to feed my daughter(she was 2 months) in a chair at a local department store. One of the retail associates came over after about two minutes and asked me to leave. i asked her why, and she said that you aren't allowed to breastfeed in the store, but that there was a nearby restroom in the main part of the mall. I was completely covered and had a blanket draped over the head of my daughter. Needless to say, I was outraged, but politely told her that if there was an issue that she could have a manager come over to speak to me and ask me to leave. She stomped off and a couple minutes later I saw her looking very sheepish as a manager explained to her in hushed tones that what she did was inappropriate and that she would need to come over and apologize, or she could start looking for a new a job. I finished nursing my daughter and as I went to leave, both the manager and the associate came over to apologize... It was such a shocking experience to me that I really didn't know what to say either, but I did write a letter to their corporate offices explaining the situation. A month later I recieved an apology and a gift card from the corporate offices.

Twanni - posted on 07/11/2009

wow... The lady should have been watching the movie, not you! thats strange of her, it

makes me think someones gona be watching when im out feeding my daughter, im not always gona be at home when she gets hungry =0

Twanni - posted on 07/11/2009

wow... The lady should have been watching the movie, not you! thats strange of her, it

makes me think someones gona be watching when im out feeding my daughter, im not always gona be at home when she gets hungry =0

Mandi - posted on 07/11/2009

Quoting Saima:

Well, I feed my daughter with both breast n formula milk. It becomes very easy for me to feed her with a bottle whenever I am out n about, and I don't have to find a private n comfortable place. Maybe you should try that too.

although this may seem like a good idea, it doesn't work for many. I have issues with milk supply and if I do this my milk dries up the next day. Not only that but breastmilk is better for my baby, so i shouldn't have to give a bottle just so others are more comfortable. I am always very discrete and well covered.

Lee - posted on 07/11/2009

you did exactly what I would have done! You didn't pop your breast out for everyone to see you were very privvate about the whole thing and covered yourself. Good for you on standing up for yourself and your daughter!

Tisha - posted on 07/11/2009

OMG cant believe this, people are so rude, I think you handled it great. My husband doesnt like me to nurse in public and I get nervous too. But my child needs to eat and Im tired of going in the bathroom to feed her when Im out. I even thought of taking her to the movies also since its dark and yes everyone else eats. I worked soooo hard to get my child to nurse she took 6 weeks and still doesnt eat good, I was very strong minded even when 99% of ppl were telling me to just give her a bottle and formula. I have learned as being a Mom people like to say their opions to you. Mothers should stick together. Good Job.

Laura - posted on 07/11/2009

You go girl!!! I'm glad you stood up to her!!! Usually I am speechless and then afterward I always think of really good things to say when it's too late.

Cynthia - posted on 07/11/2009

great answer!!!!!

Alaina - posted on 07/10/2009

Unfortunately there are ignorant people in the world. I was at a local festival recently and received many dirt looks for nursing under a blanket. Check your states laws, but in my opinion, if they want to eat they want to eat, would they rather you nurse them or listen to the screaming of an unhappy infant?

Jillian - posted on 07/10/2009

i have no modesty at all, and i dont really care if anyone were to say anything to me, but it offends my husband when i bf in public. i know he just doesnt want any other man to see my breasts, but i just dont know what to say to him. "you can be modest when you need to feed the baby"?

Krystle - posted on 07/10/2009

OMG. I would have FLIPPED out. Props to you for being able to handle it was well as you did. I was at the fair this past month, and saw a woman feeding her daughter in the bathroom.. i felt terrible. I would have given her my peanut shell just so she felt like she could go sit at a table or SOMETHING! but at the same time, i didnt want to make her feel awkward. you bring up a great point though... that lady sure didnt eat in the bathroom. she should have been watching the movie not criticizing what you were doing. UGH!

Allison - posted on 07/10/2009

I have taken each of my 3 kids to the movies when they were BF age. I was able to feed them easily because of the darkness...I'm not sure anyone could have seen me if they wanted to! I have never had anyone approach me either positively or negatively about BF in public, but at this point I might be inclined to tell them "Too bad!" I am always covered up and very discreet. But if I can BF in CHURCH, I sure can BF anywhere else without an issue!!...getting late, and I feel a soapbox coming on...hehehe.



Don't let strangers bother you. It's none of their business.

Ashley - posted on 07/10/2009

People are so ignorant. You're feeding your child, there's nothing gross about it. She's lucky you were considerate enough to cover up. If she couldn't see anything, what is there to be bothered by? You handled it better than I would've. I haven't had anything like that happen. She was just an idiot and you're a good mother who's doing the best thing she can for her baby.

Karen - posted on 07/10/2009

I only had 1 person ever say anything to me. I was out for lunch with my husband, 4 yr old & newborn. My daughter was hungry & really starting to get fussy. While waiting for our food I took out my cover & started to feed her. A woman at another table told me I should not do that. She said I should give her a bottle. I told her that she did not get bottles. She said I should figure something else out. I told her her choice was to sit there & watch my covered baby breastfeed or listen to her screaming until we left. She sat down and shut up. The waitress & 2 other patrons, 1 a man, came over & congratulated me on telling her off.

Maddy - posted on 07/10/2009

In Australia, you're allowed to breastfeed anywhwere you want, and it's against the law for someone (like a resteraunt owner or shop manager) to ask you to stop. if they do they can be fined. however that doesn't stop the ignorant public sometimes. I'm lucky i live in a heavily baby populated area so everyone is very accepting, and we have excellent facilities. The only comment I have ever gotten while breatfeeding was in the bathrooms at a 70th birthday party, when a (drunk) lady wandered past and asked "is that your baby dear?" any witty comment i may have had completely escaped me at this point as sheer disbelief set in. at least she wasn't judgemental!!!

Mary - posted on 07/10/2009

i know what you mean. ive never had someone come up to me and say something, but i have heard comments that they say when they walk by. like "oh my god why would she do that in public," and "thats so gross!" im covered up everytime, its not like they can see anything. I also get the nastiest looks ever. i hate it.

Kerry - posted on 07/10/2009

Seriously, people are stupid! I feed my baby in the theater all the time. Well, when she was smaller, we can't take her anymore. But had someone ever come up to me about it I probably would have hit them. It's no one's business. For all they know you're covering them up to get them to sleep. At least you covered up and didn't flash them full out! Why are people so ignorant????

Kelly - posted on 07/10/2009

Quoting Saima:

Well, I feed my daughter with both breast n formula milk. It becomes very easy for me to feed her with a bottle whenever I am out n about, and I don't have to find a private n comfortable place. Maybe you should try that too.

We shouldn't have to resort to an artificial substitute for what is freely and naturally available to our babies because other people are uncomfortable.  A place that is comfortable to bottle feed is also comfortable to breast-feed except for the disapproving stares of a small minority of people who do not have to look if they are uncomfortable.  Don't get me wrong, if you choose to use formula, that is completely acceptable to me.  However, I don't think it is any easier by the time you lug it around, prepare it &/or warm it up.  Plus there is a cost associated with formula and bottles and some babies do not make the transition from breast to bottle very well.  So we are inconveniencing the breast feeding mom and baby in order to keep a small group of the unenlightened happy?? - I don't think so!

Jackie - posted on 07/10/2009

I think its gross and inappropriate that she said this to you! There are idiots every where you go and there is just no way to argue with an idiot and come out on top. she deserved for you to pull it out and squirt her with it LOL but yeah thats not reasonable either. Just know that you are doing what is best for your child and there is nothing more precious than that. Darwin will get her one day!

Anna - posted on 07/10/2009

I think I would have had a hard time not punching her in the face! People are so strange sometimes when it comes to breastfeeding in public! I think you handled it very well.....I don't know if I could have kept my composure as well as you did! Good job mama!

Jenn - posted on 07/10/2009

I am lucky, I live in Japan where breastfeeding is what you are SUPPOSED to do so it is widely accepted. In this culture everyone understands that it is how you feed your child. I have visited the states three times in the last two years and the only negativity I have experienced was there. Dirty looks and rolling eyes, those people are lucky I do not have a temper and that I have the ability to see the bigger picture. My son will be two next month and we are still going strong. He is way more important than some idiot that wants to force their misguided beliefs on me. Keep your head up and never feel bad about defending yourself. You are doing the best thing for your child. Check out http://www.llli.org/ for more support.

Stephanie - posted on 07/10/2009

I have never had anyone confront me, just stares from people, especially on airplanes. I've had people to stop their conversation with me.

I believe you handled it in the right manner. You were in a movie. Instead of starring at people (in the dark for that matter) she should have been watching what she went there for.