in need of encouragement to continue breastfeeding

Danielle - posted on 10/13/2009 ( 94 moms have responded )

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My son is a little over three months old and he is exclusively receiving expressed breastmilk in a bottle. In the beginning he had a horrible time latching on and by two weeks old he had refused the breast altogether so I began pumping and bottlefeeding him. Recently I have become so exhausted with pumping and its timely and tedious process that all I can think about is giving it up and switching to formula. (*well I have literally over 1400oz in the freezer so he'd receive breastmilk until he was about 5months old and then receive formula thereafter*) So I'm really in need of some friendly words of encouragement! :)

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Colleen - posted on 10/13/2009

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Another thought, you could try and get a letdown happening with heat and massage before latching him on so that he doesn't get frustrated with it.

Colleen - posted on 10/13/2009

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Have you tried using a nipple shield? I've heard that some babies that prefer bottles will take to it all right, especially if you use a slow flow teat on their bottle before hand. Good luck and congrats for persevering this long :)

Kathleen - posted on 10/13/2009

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wow you are awsome to pump that much!!

i would see if he will nurse again so much less time consuming

you defianlly have enough milk supply

switch him back 1 feeding at a time, the oppisite you would do if you were weaning & pump one less

good luck it is the best thing for your baby!!!

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Breastfeeding should not be stressful. My sister gave a me a good peice of advice. Don't feel like it's all or nothing with breastfeeding. You can do half and half or any combination. Meaning have daytime feeding be formula and do a morning and nighttime feeding be breastmilk. That way you don't have to pump as much and you can start to wean down from pumping. Sounds like you have a ton of milk stored anyway so that is great. You're doing fantastic and it's great what you have done already. Do what feels right and enjoy this time with your baby instead of being stressed out about breatmilk versus formula. He'll be perfectly fine no matter what decision you make.

Danielle - posted on 10/13/2009

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I say you are great for having done how ever long you can. My oldest latched fine, my second never latched so he was strictly expressed with a pump for 6 months then had enough milk until he was 8 months. My daughter had a horrible time latching and we found these nipple shields by medela and that allowed her to latch on to me and so now she gets both straight from the breast and bottle. I wish you the best on whatever you decide and it is wonderful because however long you breast fed for is wonderful and a blessing and I am just amazed.

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J - posted on 10/21/2009

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What you have done so far is awesome! I totally understand the whole pumping inconvenience. I guess if you have that much milk stored up already, you certainly could cut back at the very least. Because by the time he is 5-6 months he will be starting solids and will require less milk from you. I am a big believer that mother's milk is the best and I would do whatever it took to keep him on it.

I would do what is best for both of you!

Dawn - posted on 10/21/2009

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The one thing I learned about BF is it takes time and patience, especially getting baby to latch on. Don't give up!

Jessica - posted on 10/20/2009

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Keep it up!!! It is well worth the hard work on your part for the baby's development and immune system. Think of the H1N1 going around and that is all the encouragement you should need. Plus the cost of formula is crazy. You can do it.

Danielle - posted on 10/20/2009

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keep up the great work!!! breast milk is the best thing for your baby, why stop now? do keep trying t get him to latch on though. ask your doctor if you need help, there are no stupid questions when it comes to babies.

Leah - posted on 10/19/2009

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i agree w the last post, keep offering breast first then bottle, he may accept your nipple now. id say hand express to get it flowing and dribble some on his lips from the breast to encourage a latch. breastfeeding is hard but very worth it! youre doing wonderfully, and the best thing for your baby! good luck!

Cara - posted on 10/19/2009

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Any breast milk is better than none at all so if pumping all the time is getting to be too much, Pump once in the morning and once before bed. If your up to it throw one in the middle of the day.

Christine - posted on 10/19/2009

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I would try to see if he will latch on, but if he doesn't keep on pumping but not as often. My sister-in-law had the same problem you did and pumped for a year. I know it is tiresome, and no one likes pumping, but think of what is the best for your son.

Marina - posted on 10/19/2009

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You deserve a medal for pumping thus far!
Formula is a perfectly acceptable alternative. Besides, starting from 6 months, you'll introduce solids and the amount of milk/formula will gradually become smaller.
I won't repeat all the other good advice that you've received.
Good luck, whatever you decide.

Jessica - posted on 10/19/2009

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Well I have been breastfeeding since mine was born and he just turned 8 months. My doctor said the age of 1 is a good age to stop breast milk and the longer I did it the smarter and healthier he would be. It also saves you money from buying formula. Trust me I feel tied down to feeding him and many of times formula would have been easier and quicker but I just think if it is good for my son I can deal with it. You can do it just hold on. Its all worth it in the end.

Linda - posted on 10/19/2009

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YOU ARE AMAZING AND SHOULD CONTINUE! MY MILK PRODUCTION HAS STOPPED AND I WAS DOING OKAY NOW ALL MY BAByGIRL GETS IS FORMULA MILK AND SHES ONLY 2 MONTHS OLD! ENJOY THE PRECIOUS TIME YOU SPEND WITH YOUR DAUGHTER DURING BREASTFEEDING AND CONTINUE..NOT ONLY FOR YOU BUT FOR HER AND BEST OF ALL FOR EACH OTHER!!

Shouneille - posted on 10/19/2009

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Wonderful, Wonderful Danielle.
You are an awesome Mom doing an exceptional job. In keeping with other suggestions-attempt to let your Angel latch on again-just trick him a little...let him attempt to latch on in the middle of the night while his eyes are closed. You might have to express enough milk to cover your nipple and then allow him to smell the milk before you place it in his mouth.
Good luck.

Rikki Lee - posted on 10/19/2009

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I just want to say that you are awesome for doing what you have done!! You should def give it a little more thought before quitting all together since you have put so much into it! You can try to see if he might latch on again, or you can reduce the times per day you pump because if you have enough milk to last him until he's about 5 months around then you might start trying baby food, so you wouldn't need as much milk per day! I hope you get to continue, but if you don't you did an amazing thing for your child! :)

Taylor - posted on 10/19/2009

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Whatever your choice never forget that you are a great mom and will always do what is best for your child. I don't know you, but I believe this to be true just by your previous efforts and your question. I am currently breastfeeding my 6 month old. I am hoping to make it the whole first year, but it gets harder as time goes by. Like you I have grown tired of pumping. In fact I dread and at times hate it. You already know that breastfeeding is best, but bottle feeding is ok too. I only breastfed my oldest for 3 months. I still feel guilty about that at times, but he is a healthy, brilliant and wonderful 4 year old now. Keep up the good work and above all enjoy the time with your baby. I'm sure you already see how fast they grow. :)

Christina - posted on 10/19/2009

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Hi Danielle, good job for pumping as long as you have. My 2nd son was the same way so I pumped for 12 wks but I was not getting anything else done. By the time I got done pumping,cleaning the pump and feeding the baby it was time to start all over again. I also had 2 step sons and my 2yr old daughter to care for. It was all to much. I put my son on Enfimil AR and he did just fine. I hope I don't receive alot of crap for telling you that you have done a great job so far and If you want to wean go right ahead a do it your baby will be fine.I'll also add that I think breast is best and nursed my 3rd son till he was 17 mo. and I was 4 mo pregnent with my daughter and my milk dried up. I am nursing my daughter as we speak and she is 6mo,I will nurse her as long as I can. It is a great thing we can do for our kids

Kim - posted on 10/19/2009

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even if you pump enough for 1 more month till he is on some solids that will do wonders for his growth and formula is so expensive. I get chronic excema on my nipples and have wanted to give up so many times i can only use creams but i won't come right until i stop feeding so YOU can do it!!

Elyse - posted on 10/19/2009

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I had a similar issue. I was breastfeeding for the first week and it wasn't working out well so I started pumping and feeding him through a bottle. Well by the time he was 6 weeks I was exhausted, waking up in the middle of the night to feed him, then pump (about 3 times a night), then repeating that all day long..ugh it was horrible. So I tried breastfeeding again....it was sooo easy. He latched right on, and because I had been pumping my nipples weren't sore at all. Try breastfeeding just a few more times...breastmilk is soooo much better...don't give up!!!

Yolande - posted on 10/19/2009

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Well well done for keeping up so long! Mine breastfed for 3 months then had to go to creche. I pumped and thought it was enough to send to school for a while and it only lasted 2 weeks :( Now hes part formula part breast. i just try my best to pump in a lunch break and in the evenings and he has 1 maybe 2 feeds at creche of frozen breat milk. After that i let them give him formula. I was so unhappy but the stress levels made my milk dry up even more. So id just suggest do what your up for just to keep that excellent immunity going but from there if you cant - dont feel guilty, youre only human and stress will just make it worse.

JaLorean - posted on 10/18/2009

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Breastfeeding is a great way for you to give your baby a healthy start in life. Studies show that babies who are breastfed up to 12 months generally tend to be more healthy than other kids who werent. As stressful as it may seem at times remember you are doing this for the health of your baby and you will also burn calories as he eats. Just continue as long as you can and once you get to the point you cant take it any more than just stop because your milk expression takes longer under stress. Good luck...you can do it!!!

Casey - posted on 10/18/2009

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I breastfed my first daughter until she was a year and a half, and am currently still breastfeeding my 14 month old daughter. I had to return to work when she was 3 months old so I brought a pump with me so i could express milk during the day. At first, my boss gave me an empty office to use when i pumped. I was in there pumping one day, and unbeknownst to me, someone had the security guard unlock the door while i was in there because they couldn't get in (I still don't know what they needed in an empty office!!) Even though I was able to quickly cover up, I was mortified! After that I bought a hand-pump and started just going into the bathroom stall to pump, which i still do to this day. It's not the most comfortable place to pump but I want to be able to continue doing this for my daughter. Yes there are some days when I do get frustrated and wonder if I should still bother...but you just need to think about your baby and remind yourself that you are doing it for them, to give them the best start possible. You have something naturally that no formula can compare to. Hang in there!! You can definitely do it, and your baby would thank you if they could :) !!!

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My suggestion...try the breast again. Put the bottle to his mouth and close to your breast when he is getting a good latch switch to your nipple. He will learn quickly that he can get food from there also. Keep pumping otherwise...although time consuming you are setting him up to be completly healthy. Stay strong you can do this.

Ginger - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Sierra:

My little girl is 19days..... So I tried to do nothing but breastfeed and there is no way I am giving her what she needs. Yesterday I breastfed her in the morning then again she started crying at 1 so I put her on. she was feeding for about 30 minutes and falling asleep so I assumed she was done she would wake up 15-20 minutes later crying so I would latch her on for another 30... this went on untill about 4pm... okay so I am breast feeding for 4 hours? Something don't seem right. So finally she goes to sleep. Then I feed her again about 7 for a loong time then she falls asleep. Then I was going to feed her before I went to bed which was 10... She ate untill like 10:30 - 10:45 and acted like she was done I layed her down, She got up SCREAMING so I put her back on.. ate for like 5 minutes then fell asleep so I put her back in the bassinet and 10 minutes later SCREAMING so I put her back on and 5 minutes later she was asleep... this went on untill about 12 midnight,,, Finally I gave her 2 pz of formula and she ate al of that and was out untill morning.. PLEASE HELP!!!!! I want more than anything to just breastfeed but I want to make sure she is getting what she needs.. what do I do?



sounds like she is just trying to bring in your milk.. as your previous post stated u had given her some formula at the end of a feeding.. she is trying to get ur body to produce more milk buy eating more often( as she demands more milk ur body will adjust and make more.. it just doesnt happen overnight..).. she should do a few days of that at least.. when your daughter goes to sleep get rest yourself and drink plenty of water.. if u can try side lying while feeding her so at very least  u can rest while ur feeding her.. it wont last forever.. it will be hard for a few days but after that ur body will have enough for her.. get mothers milk tea and it will help ur body produce more milk( it worked well for me)

Luciane - posted on 10/18/2009

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No matter what, you have given him the best thing ever, for 3 months or five months, it does not matter. You have to give yourself credit because many women just don't want to go through the hardship of trying to breast feed. If it's becoming hard for you, stop but don't feel guilty because you've only done it for three months and that is a lot. Just knowing that you gave all you got counts for something. I have been breastfeeding my daughter for 6 months now and let me tell you, the first two months was so hard,, i almost gave up but I kept doing it. It's great that you were able to do it for that long, don't feel guilty if you need to stop. You go girl!!!!!

Amanda - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Colleen:

Have you tried using a nipple shield? I've heard that some babies that prefer bottles will take to it all right, especially if you use a slow flow teat on their bottle before hand. Good luck and congrats for persevering this long :)



Nipple shield worked for me!! Not long to go before solids either and that'll cut down on how much breastmilk baby needs!

Brooke - posted on 10/18/2009

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My best advise it to not give up.... I nursed all four of my kids until about 18 months to 2 years. What a wonderful bonding experience, i wouldn't trade that time i spent with my kids for anything in the world. There is nothing like breast feeding your children. I agree with the other posts to try and see if he will latch on again and try several times a day to see if he will again. And you maybe pumping to much. Your breast will regulate to how much you pump, so it may be uncomfortable for a few days, but will reduce if you only pump like 4 times a day. I would pump every 4 hours and not at all during the night. Like 8am 12 noon 4pm and 8pm.... Good luck and keep trying :)

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i can only share my experience i have 4 kids all breastfed the last is now 7 months she was born at 36 weeks and not breathing correctly so she spent 7 long days in the nicu ihad to start by pumping my milk did not com in for 5 days and every 30 minutes i would pump most times nothin would come out. i understand ur frustration but please think of the benefits for ur little man they say u should at least do 6 months minimum.

Kimberly - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Sierra:

My little girl is 19days..... So I tried to do nothing but breastfeed and there is no way I am giving her what she needs. Yesterday I breastfed her in the morning then again she started crying at 1 so I put her on. she was feeding for about 30 minutes and falling asleep so I assumed she was done she would wake up 15-20 minutes later crying so I would latch her on for another 30... this went on untill about 4pm... okay so I am breast feeding for 4 hours? Something don't seem right. So finally she goes to sleep. Then I feed her again about 7 for a loong time then she falls asleep. Then I was going to feed her before I went to bed which was 10... She ate untill like 10:30 - 10:45 and acted like she was done I layed her down, She got up SCREAMING so I put her back on.. ate for like 5 minutes then fell asleep so I put her back in the bassinet and 10 minutes later SCREAMING so I put her back on and 5 minutes later she was asleep... this went on untill about 12 midnight,,, Finally I gave her 2 pz of formula and she ate al of that and was out untill morning.. PLEASE HELP!!!!! I want more than anything to just breastfeed but I want to make sure she is getting what she needs.. what do I do?


Sierra, you should probably find a lactation consultant who can find out EXACTLY wha tyou and your daughter's issues might be.  I had supply issues because I had a breast reduction surgery 18 years ago.  I had to give my son an ounce or two of formula at the end of every breastfeeding until I had pumped enough supply to have on hand.  Then when he was about 3 months suddenly I was producing plenty for him and he was exclusively breastfed until we started some solids at 6 months.  He's 18 months now and stiiiiillllllllllll nursing...  ;)  Good luck, but I'd highly recommend you find an lc near you who can help.

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009

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also, if you are expressing too much, he may feel more hungry after done, because he is not reaching the hind milk. but, be careful, as your body will only make what it needs, so you need to find a perfect balance... your body doesn't distinguish between him feeding, and the pumping, so... still pump if he is drinking more from the bottle when he is off the breast for that feeding... but, don't pump dry.

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009

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ok, i breastfed the twins for 18 months, and i did it for all the right reasons... i agree that you may be expressing too much, but that being said, i don't agree that you should do more but less often... this is because there are 3 parts to the milk, the foremilk, milk, and the hindmilk... it's the hindmilk that has the most nutrients (according to my specialist)... so, instead, pump the amount he is eating... and no more... you already have all the backup you need... definately try again to get him to latch... it is not easy... in fact, i'm surprised as many people get through the "ouch" period... but, try everyday, even when you think he's not getting enough, you can always supplement with the frozen milk... make sure you have a rotation, i think it's only good for 4 months (don't quote me) frozen... praise yourself for going this long, lord knows it's not nearly as much fun to have the pumps expressing... but your child is getting all the benefits that the other breastfed kids get... don't give up.. it is truly a beautiful thing to see mammals breastfeeding their offspring (like nature intended), but he may be more inclined to latch now that he has been used to your milk for sometime... remember it is a learning process for you and your child.. it takes time to get it right... and it's not very comfortable while trying to get it right... just know that if you do figure it out, it will have all been worth it... and if he never latches... it's definately worth it anyways... 12months - 2years (inclusive) use 3.25% milk, 3 years + use 2%... but when you start him on cow's milk, start by mixing it with your leftover milk, if you still have any... don't use formula if you can help it... you've gone this far... formula is man made, and your milk is full of everything little one needs. when he is 6 months, you can start to introduce solids 1 @ time (every 2-3 days) so you can recognize allergy issues... their is a schedule for the original introduction of solids, ie: the rice cereal.. once he is ok with the solids, use a blender and mix up the same wholesome meals you are eating

Lindsey - posted on 10/18/2009

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Keep it up! Congtats to you for doing it this long. It is much harder than I could ever imagine but support is helpful as well so way to go momma!! I have had a bad time as well, she would not latch on at all I have inverted nipples, so I had to start using a shield which is a pain in the neck and try every now and then to try and have her latch on. I got a yeast infection because she was not taching on as well and I was leaking, she got jaundice and I got such bad lumps it killed me to do anything. i tried pumping had hated it more than anything. But my suggestion is to keep trying, keep him trying to have him latch and he will get it, it may take lots of time. but pumping is such a pain and takes double time pump then try to feed her. So keep it up even if pumping it will be so great for him. Just think you made it over 3 months already why stop now?? You can do it!

Brooke - posted on 10/18/2009

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Wow! Three months! What a great momma you are! I pumped for each feed for 5 weeks. One day I was in tears (exhausted and over the pumping) I had my daughter on the boppy, she moved herself to me and latched on. All by herself. All along I had been shoving it in her face and pressing her head to it. Using a boppy really helped me. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2009

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I would try to Breastfeed him and don't give him anymore bottles! If you are home with him during the day. They get confussed if you do both. I encourage you to keep trying and don't pump more than 5 mins. if he doesn't breastfeed. He will be hungry and latch on, but the longer you wait the harder it will be. If you can't do it, 3 months is good for breastfeeding, then pump and frezze. I breastfed for 3 months with my first son.

Try a La Leache League meeting. Those were very helpful to me! There should be a meeting in your area! Good Luck!

Michelle:)

Carron - posted on 10/18/2009

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my goodness well done u i am breast feeding myself but dont think i could deal with expressing every feed thats really hard work and i know how u feel as i had 2 express for the first few months aswell as feed cause i had sooooo much but didnt want 2 run out or waste any so was basically just a milking machine lol
dont feel bad about going on to formula tho you have given him the best start u can and if u really want to do it for the nxt month then that is perfect for him :) just remember they wouldnt make or sell formula milk if it was going to be bad for them !!!
good luck and well done uve done really well xxx

Sierra - posted on 10/18/2009

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My little girl is 19days..... So I tried to do nothing but breastfeed and there is no way I am giving her what she needs. Yesterday I breastfed her in the morning then again she started crying at 1 so I put her on. she was feeding for about 30 minutes and falling asleep so I assumed she was done she would wake up 15-20 minutes later crying so I would latch her on for another 30... this went on untill about 4pm... okay so I am breast feeding for 4 hours? Something don't seem right. So finally she goes to sleep. Then I feed her again about 7 for a loong time then she falls asleep. Then I was going to feed her before I went to bed which was 10... She ate untill like 10:30 - 10:45 and acted like she was done I layed her down, She got up SCREAMING so I put her back on.. ate for like 5 minutes then fell asleep so I put her back in the bassinet and 10 minutes later SCREAMING so I put her back on and 5 minutes later she was asleep... this went on untill about 12 midnight,,, Finally I gave her 2 pz of formula and she ate al of that and was out untill morning.. PLEASE HELP!!!!! I want more than anything to just breastfeed but I want to make sure she is getting what she needs.. what do I do?

Jemma - posted on 10/18/2009

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well done!!!
there is nothing wrong with giving him formula after 5 months!!
once they are weaning the tend to only have two milk feeds a day! so theoretically your be pumping less!!!
good luck xxxxx

Susannah - posted on 10/18/2009

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If you can do it this long why stop now just think of all the good nutrition you are giving to your son..... you are only bettering is life.... Also remember the season that you will be stopping in (FLU SEASON) you emunities are built up in that breast milk to keep your child healthy Keep breastfeeding!!!!! Happy Mothering!!!!

Julia & Penny - posted on 10/18/2009

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Keep Going!! Have you tried breastfeeding him anymore? One trick they taught me is to make ure his lips are completely in a circle. (it's hard to explain without showing) When he latches on, take your finger and make his lips form a whole circle around and he will get better flow. You want him to press on the ducts that are on the outer rim of the areola. Keep trying. I have been bf my daughter for 10 months now. She's never been sick and It's the best bond ever. I wish you luck!

Brittany - posted on 10/18/2009

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breast feeding is great as long as you do it weather is for a month or for 5 months its so so good for him do it as long as you can if you can do it until 6 months even better thats how long drs really want you to anyways anything past is better but if you can make it to 5 or 6 months then you did good! kudos for you on punping for your little one as long as you have hes a lucky little guy to have a mom that cares so much! alot of woman would have given up and given him formula at two weeks when he wouldnt latch so you once again did great hang in there danielle!

Carolyn - posted on 10/17/2009

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Good for you for not giving up on providing breastmilk for your son. You are doing great.

I am not sure how to take your post though... do you want encouragement and suggestions on how to continue pumping, or how to re-initiate breastfeeding?

If its the latter that you desire, I have some suggestions that may work... let me know, and I will re-post.

There are mothers that only started breastfeeding (induced lactation) months after their baby was born, and were successful at breastfeeding their child thereafter. If that's not encouraging, I don't know what is!

Remember that while breastfeeding is natural, it is still something that must be learned by both mum and babe, and it takes time and patience to get into the groove of things.

Lindsay - posted on 10/17/2009

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I had problems with my son latching on at first. The lactation consultant suggested using the nipple shield and it worked wonders! Good luck!!!

Ginger - posted on 10/17/2009

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Quoting Sierra:

I am so aggervated.. I am pumping and only getting about an ounce total per pump. she was born sep 29th 09 so she's a newborn.... I know she eats way more than that.. I try and latch her on and she will feed for about 35 minutes then act like she is done.. then acts hungry again right after so I give her two ounces of formula and she just sucks it down, so I know she is not getting enough from me.. I don't know how to make my milk come in enough to acually feed her and make her full.. I would love to pump bottles at a time and freeze them but she is eating more than I am produceing... any suggestions?



first off what u pump isnt what ur baby is recieving.. babys are much more efficient at getting out your milk..your baby is probably going through a growth spirt.. I have breastfeed 3 children(still breastfeeding my 4 month old daughter).. I find that anywhere from 2-5 week they eat more often, it may last for 3 days up to a week.. as long as u feed ur daughter as often as she wants ur suppy should increase to what she needs( it is also better for ur supply in the long run to let her eat more often now).. dont give in and give her a bottle if u truly want to EBF.. if u want u can pump in between feedings to speed up the supply and demand process.. ur baby will not go hungry.. it is harder on u while ur baby eats more often, try to get more rest and drink plent of water and u should be fine.. I hope that helps

Cassie - posted on 10/17/2009

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Don't give up....ITs the best thing you as a mother can do for your baby. Yes I know it sucks pumping, but the motherhood. Sometimes you have to do somethings that are no fun and in general suck, but its the best thing that you, and only you, can do for you baby. Best of luck to you!

Jasmine - posted on 10/17/2009

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well honestly i was breastfeeding to, but also had a terrible time latching so i expressed for the first week but then my milk dried up, i was so devistated but then i looked up info on formula and its still really good for the baby, my baby is nearly 3 weeks old and couldnt tell the difference between breast milk and formula

Tracy - posted on 10/17/2009

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You are doing a great job! I agree with Teresa! You could try to get him to latch again. A great website I used was Breastfeeding.com. There are a lot of wonderful people on there with great advice! Good luck and if you want to continue then don't give up. :)

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Quoting Sierra:

I am so aggervated.. I am pumping and only getting about an ounce total per pump. she was born sep 29th 09 so she's a newborn.... I know she eats way more than that.. I try and latch her on and she will feed for about 35 minutes then act like she is done.. then acts hungry again right after so I give her two ounces of formula and she just sucks it down, so I know she is not getting enough from me.. I don't know how to make my milk come in enough to acually feed her and make her full.. I would love to pump bottles at a time and freeze them but she is eating more than I am produceing... any suggestions?



Give her one breast, then wake her up/change bum etc and give her the other breast too.  Newborns will usually take longer to feed, approx 20-40mins, but watch for the jaw movement to change, because she may just be using you as a soother after taking like a 5 min feed.  AS soon as the long drawn sucks finish, just nudge her a little and she should suck hard again.  Don't let her feeding time go over an hour. 



Drink more, more milk/water etc, and make sure you are eating well... you will need at least 500 extra calories per day...and this will help increase yoru milk.  Dunno if you are feeding on demand, I know this is world-wide recommendation, but keep count of how many times she is feeding from you.  If she is asking for food every hour and then not having a proper feed then its not going to help your supply, and she'll only ever be filling up on the watery thirst quenching milk, which will digest quicker and make her hungry again quicker. 



Try to avoid using a bottle, because she will get used to it, as its easier to suck from.  As she's only a few weeks old, I would recommend trying to leave her for say 2 hours before feeding her.  Give your breasts a chance to fill up, and seriously just eat tonnes and drink tonnes to give your body some fuel.  Am guessing she was a normal birth and was a healthy weight? So it wont harm her to leave her for a couple of hours between feeds, to give you time to fill up more and will still increase your milk supply if you stick to doing it regularly :-)  Obviously at her age, dont let her go over 4 hours.



Jo



(Breastfeeding mum to 6 monthold son)

Samantha - posted on 10/17/2009

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I am a bf mom who pumps more then direct nursing because my daughter was born with health problems. She was not allowed to be nursed for the first 2 months of her life and was in the NICU for 3 months. We have to monitor how much milk she gets during the day. I have frozen milk and would still like to breastfeed for the first year. Pumping does take a lot of time and you feel like that's all you get done. I just keep telling myself 'you are doing whats best for your baby right now, don't give up!' I tried (and still use occasionally) a medela nipple shield. It gets baby to latch on and it helps tremendously!!! I would recommend the shield to try and get baby to latch on. I hope this helps and good luck. Please let me know how it goes!

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Hi Danielle, you are doing a brilliant job feeding your son and you should be very proud of yourself! Unfortunately the bottle is soo much easier for a baby to suck from, and so if it is offered before breastfeeding is established, then it will be the babies preferred choice. Are you in US/do you have Tommee Tippee bottles there which resemble the breast? They might help his transition to breast.

I would recommend trying him at night time on the breast when he's really tired, just hold him close with no bra/top on, manually express a little milk and leave on your nipple so he can smell it and let him nuzzle in. See if nature takes over a little. Don't force him on. If he fights you or isnt interested, feed him his bottle and then try him again the next night. Keep doing it for a week or so and see what happens :-)

Theresa - posted on 10/17/2009

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my kids never had a problem latching on, but my friends baby did not do well with the breast and she used the nipple shields for a while, now he does ok without them, som maybe try those! BTW- that is awesome that you have pumped so long, it is very time consuming and not as rewarding as the bonding experience of actual breastfeeding!

Kelly - posted on 10/17/2009

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Just remember that your breast milk is what is best for your baby. You can do it! I had to allow my daughter's father 24 hour visits every other day starting when she was 6 months old. I was pumping ALL the time. Yes it is exhausting, but just remember who you are doing it for. That is your reward!

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Quoting Colleen:

Another thought, you could try and get a letdown happening with heat and massage before latching him on so that he doesn't get frustrated with it.



or pump a little to get it startede and then see

Lisa - posted on 10/16/2009

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All I can say is, it usaully gets easier. Keep trying to get him to latch on. Try contacting your local Le Leche League leader for support and also for some specifics that you can try to get your little guy to latch on better. I hope things work out for you.

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