Is breast always best?

Gabrielle - posted on 09/20/2010 ( 83 moms have responded )

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Hello i was wondering is breast always best. For me i dont think it is as when my little girl was born she wouldnt take breast. I tried for 2 days and even though they wanted me to keep trying i said no, my baby needed to eat something and i didnt care whether it was breast or bottle aslong as she was eating something.

What are your opinions? Do you personally think breast is best and why? x

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Jennifer - posted on 09/20/2010

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i do feel that in most situations, breast is best. i think that most of the situations where mom feels it is best for baby to go on formula, could have been prevented with proper knowledge on the subject, and better support and encouragement.

i feel that the world, as a whole, would benefit immensely if we could increase the breastfeeding rate...if we could help women to feel more comfortable with their bodies, and its natural functions...if we could raise our girls to understand that first and foremost, our breasts are to feed our young, not please men...if we could teach women to TRUST their bodies to be able to do what it is supposed to ( a lot of women stop breastfeeding because they feel they can't make enough milk when in reality, only 1-3% are not able to).

that being said, the most important thing is that our babies have full tummies, and plenty of love :) we all do what we feel is best for our families.

Merry - posted on 09/23/2010

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The CDC, or center fir disease control and prevention says this is the list of who should not breastfeed. I've copied and pasted it here
An infant diagnosed with galactosemia, a rare genetic metabolic disorder

The infant whose mother:

Has been infected with the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)

Is taking antiretroviral medications

Has untreated, active tuberculosis

Is infected with human T-cell lymphotropic virus type I or type II

Is using or is dependent upon an illicit drug

Is taking prescribed cancer chemotherapy agents, such as antimetabolites that interfere with DNA replication and cell division

Is undergoing radiation therapies; however, such nuclear medicine therapies require only a temporary interruption in breastfeeding

So I'd say unless a mom or baby fits one of these specific reasons, breast is best. Any other medication or disease has compatible treatments while breastfeeding. Unless I faced one of these situations, I'd never use formula. Even if I couldn't breastfeed for one of these reasons I would find any way possible to feed human milk to my baby. Formula isn't an option in my mind, it's a last resort.

Mary - posted on 09/25/2010

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I dont think breast is best. Breast is the normal, natural, healthy, average, standard. Others ways of feeding are not. We are called mammals because we have mammary glands, being breast-feeders is what makes our species what it IS. Things that do not breastfeed in the world are usually considered lesser animals, look at reptiles, insects, fish, etc.

If you look at like a school grading system then A's would be breastmilk, B's would be mother's breastmilk from any other feeding item (bottle, cup, etc) C's would be another humans milk from his/her breast (yes, men can produce milk), D's would be any human milk from any feeding item & F's would be things other than human milk (Artificial feeding methods: formula, home made formulas(yes people try to make their own), other animals breast milk, etc)



Gabrielle, A baby's stomach when they are born is about the size of a marble. It takes less than 2 tbs to fill it up. Your breasts produce about 2 tbs of colostrum every 2 hours (on average) when in the first 3-10 days after giving birth. A newborn will nurse best 30-60 minutes after birth-birth is as stressful for them as it is for you so they are tired too. After that they hit a sleepy phase which lasts about 3 days, which is perfect because the days before labor starts (if started naturally) the baby stocks up on fats and calories from your system to keep them full for those 3 days. So babies won't starve in the first 3 days of life (if all circumstances are normal and natural) Its amazing how everything works so well in nature, I'm facinated by it all.

Your little one probably wasnt hungry at the time of birth, she was hooked up to a constant line of nutrition (umbilical cord) so more than likely she was just fine. I do understand your worry. I wish breast feeding and newborn education were more available. It would help a lot of mothers succeed.

Your baby was born to nurse. All babies are. I also believe there are no benefits to breast feeding, just risks of not breast feeding. Breast feeding is the natural way for mothers to feed and infants to eat, so therefore the positives that go along with it (for mother and child) are natural as well.

I also don't think formula should be taken as lightly as it is. People are always harping on the "mothers right to choose", but what about the infant's right to be fed the natural, correct food. No one ever asks the baby. Anyone who formula feeds deserves to know the risks, just like anyone who eats at Mcdonalds deserves to know the risks, or anyone who takes medication deserves to know the risks. It wouldn't be fair to you or the child if you were not informed.



You are a great mom for trying to do what you thought was best for your child! Kudos! You should not be ashamed. :)

Aryana - posted on 09/24/2010

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Breast milk is custom made for your baby. Your body will regulate the contents of your milk to fit the need of your child daily. It is filled with antibodies for the germs around you so baby has immunity, it has antiseptic qualities and the PERFECT regulation of EVERYTHING your baby needs in the first year of life. If I couldn't breastfeed, I'd get donated breastmilk before I'd ever feed my baby formula.

Andi - posted on 09/23/2010

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Human milk is definitely superior to artificial milk, hands down. It always has been and always will be. The fact is, no scientist could ever come close to replicating something that mother nature has given us. However, there have been the rare occasions that I receommended a mother not nurse or discontinue nursing for medical reasons. I still always try to get donor milk for the mothers before suggesting artificial milk. Unfortunuately, there are still doctors out there that are telling women that artificial milk is just as good or better than human milk, and I even have heard some docotrs in the local practice at the hospital I work for tell women they should not even initiate nursing because they are too young or too stressed out (BIG mistake on their part! ) I do not feel that the average woman is educated enough on the REAL facts of human milk versus artificial milk to make such a decision, but that is not the fault of the woman, but rather of the health care "professionals" that are failing them. In my job I work very hard to educate women from pregnancy on, and I can say that most of the women leaving my office can make an educated decision (hence why my county's breastfeeding rates have jumped higher than the national average in recent years!) I also teach them how to deal with common and not-so-common problems such as latching issues, incorrect latch and positioning, food intolerances (just FYI, NO baby is allergic to his mother's milk. There are some babies that are allergic to certain milk protiens, meaning they can have NO milk human or otherwise, but that is tested for in the newborn screen, and those children have a very tough road ahead of them), perceived milk supply issues versus true milk supply issues, etc. Any woman that has tried to nurse, but was unable to continue for one reason or another, should never feel guilty though. The most important thing is to try your hardest and then continue to educate yourself and surround yourself with the most supportive people.

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Ramona - posted on 03/14/2011

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It is best, but formula fed babies do fine! As long as she eats, it is just fine!

Janice - posted on 10/04/2010

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If you Can Not breastfeed then of course you feed your baby formula. It was invented for orphan babies. However, If you Can (which it does take workat first) why would you ever pay for formula? Breast is always best. It is good for mommies and babies in so many ways. Its soooooooo frustrating that people are convinced that breast milk and formula is equal.

Merry - posted on 10/04/2010

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i think its easy to tell breastfed kids and adults from formula ones, just looking at overall health, teeth, and attitude towards mom. Dr can for sure tell by looking at the body and health, because formula babies will have some side effects to the lack of milk. and emotionally, you can tell which kids were breastfed for 2+ years or so, they are just so bonded to their mom and sweet to everyone and overall just well adjusted kids. in my experience

Valerie - posted on 10/03/2010

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Everything I had read shows that breast is best. Breastmilk is the only thing that has exactly what your baby needs and it is designed for baby at each stage of his/her development. No formula can recreate what your body is making. Also, breastfed babies have fewer ear infections, may have higher IQ, straighter teeth, fewer speech impediments, it protects against cancer, diabetes, and respiratory infections. It also helps them respond better to vaccines, SIDS, and helps their immune system. It is also always the right temperature and they tend to not overeat when breastfed.

That being said, while the breast is best, it doesn't always work out for everyone that way. My friend couldn't produce milk and therefore had to bottlefeed which is fine. I think the message to be obtained here is that breastfeed if you can and don't feel guilty if you can't or don't. You need to do what is right for you.

Charlie - posted on 10/03/2010

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Yes Breast is best but formula is a perfectly acceptable alternitive .

I had no milk for the first week after birth , no colostrum NOTHING , i pumped and pumped like a demon all while supplementing my babies feeds with fromula until Finally my milk came through 7 days later , i am glad there was formula for him but i was so thrilled to have my milk come in , i was devestated when i was told he was severly dehydrated due to no supply .

I think possibly THE most important aspect of breast milk is also the one of the things formula cannot replicate and that is antibodies , there is so much to be said for nature seeing formula and breastmilk under a microscope also shows the huge difference between the two .

Michelle - posted on 10/02/2010

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I do personally think that breast is best for many many reasons, and I am grateful for the amazing bf relationship I have with my son...there are many factors that could lead someone to choose not to breast feed however, and much of these are valid and ultimately it is up to each mother to choose for herself and her child. I just wish there was more support and education for women in this position to make the most informed decision they can make.
Giving birth is an awesomely exhausting, spectacular event for a mothers body, as it is for the babe being born, and those first couple of days are often all about rest and sleep. The baby may want to feed ferociously, or they may not.
Minutes after my son was born he breastfed, over the next day he didn't feed very much though, as he was so exhausted and would just fall asleep straight away. He didn't seem distressed though, so I was not getting any signals that he was hungry, and the midwife reassured me that this was normal and he would settle into routine when he was rested.
This may have been the case for you and your little one (or maybe not :o)...It does seem that this happens to quite a few women and they get terribly discouraged and scared that their bodies can't provide what their child needs, or that their baby is incapable of breastfeeding, so choose to formula feed instead. This is not a failing of mothers but of the system in place that doesn't fully inform/support to anywhere near the degree to which it is needed.
Anyhoo, I hope you don't feel bad about choosing formula. Your choice was made completely out of love for your child and should be recognised and honored as such.

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Sharon, if you're responding to me, I was pumping and dumping. Child #1 nursed with supplement 22 months, and child #2 nursed without supplement 12 months. Both great experiences for all involved...just a rocky start! :)

Sharon - posted on 10/02/2010

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Breast is normal, not perfect or optimal just normal. Artifical milk has many drawbacks and side effects and women should be allowed to make an informed decision before choosing this for their babies. Artificial milk feeding will mean the baby will never reach their full potential as far as their mmune system or brain development is concerned. They are also at rish for many chronic and acute illnesses throughout their lives. There are breastfeeding specialists for these types of situations. There are many scenarios that might have helped. If the breast was being denied, the next best is expressed breastmilk fed by another method (bottle, syringe, spoon, cup, etc). I'm sure you did what you considered to be best for your baby. It is also possible to relactate even if has been a few weeks or a couple of months. If you are interested, seek out a lactation consultant or a La Leche League Leader.

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Tisa- I appreciate your comments. I don't think that ANY mother should feel inferior because of how they choose to feed their child. I'm a breastfeeding mother of 2 (of which my last has finally been weaned), but my first child was a NICU baby. She was preterm, and I spent 5 day in the ICU after delivering her, and there was no way possible for us to breastfeed. The doctors threw away both my collustrum as well as my breastmilk. What now? Let the kid starve? She got formula. Not my top choice, but the only option at the time. In the end, who cared? she was fed, took both breast and bottle (eventually pumped milk, but formula in the begining) and grew to a healthy 11 pounds by 2 months of age. She is now a wonderful, healthy, smart 4 year old. Was she harmed by the formula? NO. Did she benefit from the breastmilk? ABSOLUTELY. Everyone should just support one another, and the wonderful mothers that we are, and embrace a woman's right to choose! :o)

Tisa - posted on 10/01/2010

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Ultimately I think by the time the kids are 5-10 years old its going to be very difficult to tell the breast fed babies from the formula fed ones. Im pro both and I think there are more important things to consider like values and good diet. Its east to say no one can make you feel inferior without your consent but when the nurses at the hospital are all elling you that you are putting your baby in danger and they are likely to get very ill if you feed them formula it is easy to become depressed about it. I feel like I am the best mother I can be and have made the right choices for me, my husband and our little one. I think everyone needs to have the choice and not feel pressured either way.

Megan - posted on 10/01/2010

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I didn't post the link because I was trying to damn or condem anyone although I must admit I don't understand giving a child sub par food compared to breastmilk just so that they will sleep longer and make a parents life easier at the cost of the child. Like I said before, breast is normal and I do not promote the use of formula for any reason other than the three vary rare conditions that babies can have. I am a baby advocate and believe that babies have an innate right to be given breastmilk and only breastmilk, whether that be from their own mothers or a donor.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Tisa - posted on 10/01/2010

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Hi Megan, I only gave her one bottle which would be no different to a baby on formula. She is just a great sleeper and is now a very happy (very healthy 9 kg) 6 month old. If she woke at night (and this does still happen occasionally) I still breastfeed her and she falls instantly back to sleep. I think formula is overused, but at the same time we should not be condemed as we are for using it. Damned if you do and damned if you dont!

Amanda - posted on 10/01/2010

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I believe breast is best because it is the natural thing. My first couple months of breastfeeding were very trying. My daughter did not want to latch and was losing a lot of weight. I had people tell me to supplement with formula but my lactation consultant and Obgyn said not to and I followed there direction and now my daughter is a 19 month old thriving breastfeeding champ.

Tisa - posted on 09/30/2010

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I mixed both from week one. I always gave her a bottle of formula at night as it kept her full for longer and from 3 weeks she was sleeping through the night. I think you need to do whats best for you. People were telling me you cant mix the two but it gave me sleep and flexibility and she loves her formula! You need to do what suits you and your baby.

Kyrie - posted on 09/30/2010

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Breast is best all the time. Even if she wouldn't take a nipple, pumping was an excellent option.

Hillary - posted on 09/30/2010

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I think breast is best but I also feel your pain. The worst day ever for breast feeding is that second day before the milk comes down. That's when the baby is no longer satisfied with the colostrum and wants the real thing! The milk comes in faster the more they work for it. My 2 sons sucked and sucked until the milk came. My daughter absolutely refused and screamed for almost 10 hours straight until she exhausted herself. By that time, there was plenty of milk but I was upset and exhausted. The first few weeks of breast feeding are extremely difficult and time consuming. Breast feeding is a lot of work. Some people do not want to go through all of this. Believe me, there were times I seriously considered giving up--with all 3 of my children. As I said though, breast milk is best, and you can read about it on various websites. But everyone does what they feel works for them and their babies.

Caitlin - posted on 09/30/2010

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When my son was born he had a pneumothorax which prevented him from being able to breastfeed immediately. He was kept in the NICU for 3 days being sustained solely by an IV. On the third day when they treated his condition I was finally able to "try" to breastfeed. I was continually breast-pumping every day religiously and often times at night. When we first attempted to breast-feed it was the most frustrating thing I've ever had to do. I sat there crying because he wouldn't latch on and it just hurt so bad not only because I was sore but because it hurt that I couldn't feed my baby. The nurse finally insisted I give him formula (I was absolutely devastated.) I kept trying though day after day. It took two weeks for my son to finally latch on and figure out what to do. I had to use a nipple guard for the first 6 weeks. (UGH. SO painful.) Now he's a year and still breastfeeding. I never regretted going through the pain of getting to that point because he is as healthy and happy as I could ever imagine. Yes, you are right- she DOES need to eat but in my personal opinion I think you should keep trying, attend nursing seminars if you feel that is necessary. Breastfeeding isn't always smooth sailing for everyone. In the end, you know what's best for you and your baby! This is only my personal opinion. Good luck to you!

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If it works for everyone, then yes, it is best. There are some nutrients that cannot be duplicated for formula.

However--if it doesn't work, it doesn't work! It is hard at first, and if you can get past the first several weeks then great! But if it causes more frustration and upsets you then it might not be worth it. Babies are very sensitive and pick up on when mommy is anxious and then they get anxious and fussy, which makes mommy more upset...you see where I'm going with it. If you are in that cycle then you won't be able to enjoy the newborn days nearly as much, and they fly by so fast....

You will always have people judge you for not breastfeeding, but if it makes you and baby happier and allows you to enjoy your time with your little one while she is still little, then tell them it's none of their business. Because really, it's nobody's business but yours. As long as you are doing what works best for you and your baby, she is taken care of in every way and loved, so that's what is the most important thing at the end of the day.

Esther - posted on 09/29/2010

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i think breast is best unless the mother is doing drugs or needs to be on medications that help her mentally to take care of her baby. i think some moms need to be tested for drugs before they can be brestfed. i have had family members that have breastfed there babies and was doing drugs while pregnant. if they would have been bottle fed right away they probably would not have adhd and other behavorial problems.

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Its not really an "opinion" so much as it is a fact. Breast milk is far superior to formula. They are not equivalent as some people may think. This is a huge misconception. I know there are extreme circumstances, babies that have difficulty breaking down milk proteins, mothers who have had breast augmentation of sorts and had severed milk ducts, woman who ACTUALLY don't produce enough milk (not just THINK they don't produce enough), mothers who are on medications that are not safe. There are many problems that can arise. And for these, women/babies, formula is a wonderful, life saving thing. But it is abused, especially in our culture. I know breast feeding is NOT easy all the time, and it can be very isolating. But thats why we should be supporting each-other and helping each-other make the right decisions. For example, assuming you had your baby in a hospital, and had a lactation consultant as one of the people urging you to continue trying to nurse, did they mention to you that the milk can take up to 4 days in some instances to come in? And the colostrum that you are producing is enough food for your baby for the first few days?(not to mention it is an cocktail of all the immunities you have built up to help and protect your infant) I know the innate urge to feed our babies, but you were feeding her exactly what she needed, when she needed it.
Perhaps its education on the benefits for mother and baby that come from breastfeeding thats lacking. But I don't know how the information would get to all the will-be moms, if they don't actively seek it out...

Deborah - posted on 09/29/2010

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Yes! Breast is best. I suffered the same kind of problem with my daughter, she'd latch but she wouldn't nurse. Breastfeeding was not very successful with her, but with my son it's been a wonderful success. It's frustrating at times but it's cheaper (considering how much he eats, which is a lot) and it also forms a bond like nothing else can.

Also, breastmilk is designed for infants! The human race would not be here if it weren't for breastmilk! What did our ancestors do five hundred years ago when there was no such thing as formula???

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There are medical reasons in which a mother's breast milk is not the best for the child. If mom has HIV, it can be easily passed to baby through her milk, as can chemotherapy and other drugs. Some moms' bodies just won't produce milk at all, even after trying everything, like pumping regularly for weeks. Most women who get breast reductions also cannot nurse.



In most cases, breast is absolutely best. That said, don't feel guilty about giving up. Lots of moms feel like you did/do. It definitely helps to have education and support. In my son's first night of life, we struggled to get him to latch properly. I was tired and in pain, and the nurse convinced me that he was hungry and that I should feed him formula. For several days, I was worried he wasn't eating enough because of poor latch and his sleepiness. But I didn't give up on nursing because I have known the benefits and value of exclusive breastfeeding for years. To me, choosing not to nurse my baby would be failing him and myself.



It would take some time, but if you really wanted to try nursing, it's not too late. If you begin pumping, eventually you will start producing milk. You may not be able to get your baby to nurse now that she's used to the bottle (takes much less work to suck from a bottle than the breast), but you could still give her the nutritional benefits of your milk, and you personally may have some of the benefits of breastfeeding, even if you just pumped. You don't have to give her your milk exclusively, but some human milk is better than none. It just depends on how much you value the numerous benefits of breastfeeding and human milk for your baby.



http://kidshealth.org/parent/growth/feed...

Michelle - posted on 09/29/2010

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Breast is best if it's best for the whole family.
We breastfeed and will continue (9 months and counting) for as long as it's working for all of us. We never considered using formula, and luckily it wasn't an issue as after the initial problems things have gone smoothly. But that's not the case for everyone. Sometimes in spite of the best intentions it just doesn't work out and that's why formula was invented. (or why it should have been invented - I'm sure the real reason was much more commercially driven!)
I don't really understand people not even trying, but I think that's a whole nother issue!

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You poor thing!! It really sucks when your baby comes out and doesn't know how to eat. It also sucks that someone was pressuring you into doing something that you didn't want to do. I truely believe that breast is best... but who cares if the milk comes from the bottle or the breast? As long as the baby is eating, and its comfortable for you and your family- rock on! :)

April - posted on 09/29/2010

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hell yeah i think breast is best. some babies take weeks before they're pros at nursing. it isn't an easy skill for mom or baby...it's something that has to be learned by both mother and child.



why do i think breast is best? it's free. it's portable. it's got antibodies in it. it is better for their teeth than formula. it teaches babies how to self-regulate their eating instead of having something dumped into their tummies. breastfed babies are less likely to become obese children. the list goes on. and have you heard about that similac formula recently? about how it had insect parts in it. UM EW. I'm glad my milk is the sterile kind!!

Erin - posted on 09/29/2010

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"While breastfeeding may not seem the right choice for every parent, it is the best choice for every baby." ~Amy Spangler

Dawn - posted on 09/29/2010

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I absolutly feel breast is best. It is proven to be healthier then formula. I think that doctor do not do enough to encourage women and explain breastfeeding to them. I must admit I get a little irritated at the women who say "it's a choice" to breast or bottle. I think there is a difference between a choice (um..eggs or toast for breakfast?) and making an educated decision. Breastfeeding needs o be an educated decision. So many women decide without knowing ALL the facts. I do not understnd why anyone would decide on formula if they knew all the benefits of breastfeeding. Who doesn't want thier baby and themself to be healthier?? Who wants their baby to have an increased risk of allergies, obesity? Who doesn't want to lower their risk of breast cancer? I understand why you made the choice you made. But, I think it is sad that you orignally wanted to and was willing to breastfeed and didnt' get too. It sounds as though you did not have the encouragment and facts you needed to suceed at it.

Rachael - posted on 09/28/2010

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For many reasons, it is (especially medically and financially). Unfortunately, in my case, it ended up not being best. My little man was not gaining weight, then losing some around 6 months. We tried everything, but in the end, I had to supplement. He decided that the formula was better, and weaned himself off. After being on formula for a while, he gained weight, and although he is still small at 16 months (built like his mommy), he's been healthy and a much better weight since then. However, I do think that the few months that he was on the breast helped a lot. For instance, I wonder if it had anything to do with the fact that he has been around children, sick people (including myself), on airplanes, on buses, and living in the city, yet he has NEVER been sick. They do say that it helps with the baby's immune system greatly, so I think the breast helped.

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with my first i planned on BF, been around it all my life, was very comfortable with the idea, wanted to do it and formula feeding (in my mind) wasn't even an option. We had a very traumatic birth, i didn't even get to hold her until an hour or so after delivery because i passed out. we were both put on IV meds, very weak. we didnt' get that ideal start that i had dreamed of. She too refused the breast. after 3 days i had to yell at the stupid nurse for formula. (they were refusing because "breast is best" how about feeding your hungry baby being what's best?!!! i tried and tried for weeks, worked with two different lactation consultants. She was a strubborn thing. I pumped for 6 weeks and gave her that. I got a huge infection and had to switch to formula. And eventually soy. She actually did much better on formula. She is lactose intolerant. In our case, formula was best for us. with my second, we had a beautiful delivery, he latched on right away, we've had no problems, we both love it. He has reflux and i think breastmilk is what is best for him. same mom, different kid, and a world between the two. I got crap for giving my first formula and i get crap now for breast feeding. it just depends on who you talk to. Just ignore the negative comments. Do what you feel is right for you and your child, no one knows better than you!

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2010

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Iliana, I'm not sure where you're from, but I'm from Wisconsin the US, and there is a serious lack of pressure to breastfeed. In fact, mothers here are almost coerced into using formula, during my pregnancy, I never received one sheet about breastfeeding, it was never brought up unless I brought it up and the answers were short, uneducated and nearly always ended with, formula is the norm. I never got a pamphlet, a note or encouragement, but I did receive loads of coupons for formula and lots of "samples". I think part of the problem is that there is a serious lack of education and acceptance about breastfeeding (in the US that is). Formula is the norm here and breastfeeding is weird, outdated and hippy-ish. In my experience, too much pressure is definately NOT the problem! But again, I don't know where you're from or about your experiences, so your opinion and experiences may very well be valid for you!

Jenn - posted on 09/28/2010

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I don't think any informed person could say that breast is not always best. The World Health Organization states that mothers milk from mothers breast is best, Second is mothers milk expressed and given in a bottle, third is another mothers milk expressed and given in a bottle and *last* is artificial formula.



Breastfeeding is not always easy but just because it does not come naturally does not mean it is not worth it. It is the fault of our medical system and American culture that formula is encouraged and that nurses, obs and pediatrician are not trained in breastfeeding (or natural birth, but that is a discussion for another day : ). Mothers need to take it upon themselves to find the facts and create a community that encourages breastfeeding.



Here is an article that compares formula to breastmilk.

http://bellybelly.com.au/articles/pregna...

Kami - posted on 09/28/2010

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If baby will eat off the breast, then yes, it's always the best option. If they won't breastfeed, then second best thing would be to pump and put your milk in a bottle. The last resource should always be formula. Breastmilk is sooo much better for the baby.

Iliana - posted on 09/28/2010

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As my lactation consultant and pediatrician said, "Your baby needs to eat, bottom line." We had serious latch issues from the beginning so I pumped like a crazy woman and fed her a combination of formula and milk. She's getting lots of nutrients from both and is doing just fine. I was a formula baby (mom's milk dried out) and I turned out just fine.



I think people put too much pressure on women to breast feed. If it doesn't work for you, don't worry about it.

Janice - posted on 09/28/2010

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My daughter took almost 2 weeks to latch on consistently. When she didn't latch we did give her formula because her weight was a concern in the 1st week. Once she got the hang of it though it was great. By 2 mo. her weight was in the 70th %ile. Breastfeeding is NORMAL! I think it is so sad that people waste so much money on formula. I don't blame you for giving up after a week, formula has become normal in our culture. Breastfeeding my daughter has been great for both of us. At 11 months we are still BFing 3x per day. I'm so glad I stuck out that rough patch.

Megan - posted on 09/28/2010

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Breast is not best, it is NORMAL. Anything else is sub par by definition. We lack serious education in this country about the immense importance of human milk for human babies. Babies stomachs are the size of a marble at day 1-3, then a shooter marble, and at day 10 roughly the size of a walnut. Colostrum is power packed and the perfect first food. You don't need very much for babies to get all the nutrients they need. Unless your baby was taking absolutely nothing in, which meant she was having no wet or poopy diapers would she have had a problem. If they were encouraging you to still try and breastfeed, this to me means she wasn't in any danger of starving or having inadequate nutrition. If you were worried, you could have pumped and syringe fed her to help with her sucking reflex. The more drugs and interference you have during labor the more potential for problems with bonding and breastfeeding.

There are three vary rare conditions in which babies should not be fed breastmilk. Other than these three, babies should be breastfed, either with their mothers milk or donor milk. Formula should be by prescription only and hospital should have screen donor milk available as readily as blood from the blood bank.

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Breast has been best for me because I hate having to sterelise bottles and have lived in places without power where this was time consuming and difficult. I have been lucky have never had problems with feeding and find it relaxing and a good excuse to sit down and rest. Also apart from having to drink heaps of water do not have to heaps of crap around to mix bottles or worry about keeping things cold etc. But my sister was never able to feed and has always found bottle feeding easier. all personal choice and what you find easiest for you. No guilt in doing whats right for you and baby. happy mum, happy baby

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I thought breast was always best, but for very rare occasions (like mentioned in the other posts), until I experienced severe allergies with my second. He is now 11 months old and I am trying to wean him ASAP since my restrictive diets didn't improve his allergic symptoms, and I didn't succeed to find what in my diet was triggering his allergies (i've been trying for over 6 months now with no improvement, and he was tested positive for milk and egg allergies). I am off dairy (everything: milk, yogurt, cheese, butter, all mammals milk, beef meat, etc, even traces of these, much more complicated than it actually sound), soy and egg, but no improvements what so ever. I read a post where someone said babies can be allergic to their mother's milk. I don't agree: they can be allergic to something the mother eats and that passes through her milk, and when people don't find what that is (not easy to rule that out), they might conclude that the baby is allergic to her mom's breastmilk, which sounds like total non sense to me... Anyway, I am nearly totally done breastfeeding now and I hope that this will help find out what my son is so strongly reacting to. The older the baby gets, the more complicated it is since the diversification has started and he is exposed to more different food.

Jodi - posted on 09/27/2010

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Colic is not caused by formula. I was breastfed until I was 2, my sister was breastfed until 15 months, I was a normal happy baby, my sister was severely colicky. My child has never had a drop of formula in her life, she would scream, unconsolably, for hours upon hours, from about 6 pm until around 4 am usually. She was diagnosed with colic by her pediatrician. Colic has been around for as long as babies have been around, it is not caused by formula, although it can be worsened by formula.

I agree with the statement that breastmilk is natural and formula is "adequate" but by no means ideal.
Formula will keep your child alive (in nearly all cases that is) and basically healthy, but will not help a child thrive like breastmilk will.

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I think breast is always best, unless the mom is a drug or alcohol addict as that would pass through the milk. I also struggled with my son with latching issues. It took me a few weeks to get BFing to go smoothly. We used the S&S system, and I pumped like crazy to get my supply established. Breastfeeding is hard at first cuz neither of you have done it before, but it is soooo worth it!

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I think breast is best!!! Last week I had the flu, my older child had a cold and my husband had bronchitis....my 2month old baby didnt even get a blocked nose or a temp. I love the bonding process as well, but breast feeding showed me that it definetly helps with their immune systems. That is if u are fortunate enough to breastfeed...it is not alway possible for every one! If u can u must try...if it doesnt work...thats life!

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Yes, there is truly some cases of galactosemia, or true lactose intolerance in a baby. But usually it's called galactosemia as it's different from the commonly known adult lactose intolerance. So, I do understand you know! Just misunderstood. But I just wanted to make sure moms know 'lactose intolerance' in a baby is so very very rare, and always diagnosed within the first week.
Sorry for the confusion!

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laura, my sister in law was lactose intolerant as a baby. her mother tried to breastfeed her but she would get red all around her chest, her throat would swell up, she developed hives, and she puked it back up. so they had to get a really special prescription formula for her, which was the only thing she couls eat until she was 7 months old. it's really rare, and highly unlikely, but it does happen.

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I think that breast is definitely best! If anything, you should have pumped and fed her breastmilk from the bottle. I had to do that for the first two months or so at least half the time. The day she turned 8 weeks old, everything was fine. She's taken the breast only since then and started sleeping 7 hours a night that night.

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Yes breast milk is the ideal food for babys because we're mammals, that's what we do .That being said if it doesn't work for you and your baby by all means be glad you have the option nowadays of using formula. Back in pre-formula days you had to hope you were able to have a friend or hire someone to be a wet nurse for you if you were unable to nurse.

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As a first time mom who doesn't have any experience with breastfeeding & doesn't have much support or education in the matter, it's hard to know what to do when your newborn WON'T EAT. In my case, when my son was about 5 days old, he had jaundice that was getting worse and worse each day. He was so lethargic that I couldn't even wake him up to eat. He hadn't eaten in almost 24 hours & I was starting to panic. I didn't know what to do, so I took him to the ER at 2 in the morning. I didn't know any better...I was a brand new mom whose son wasn't responding!

Anyway, my son's blood sugar had dropped & his bilirubin level was high enough to have to keep him overnight in the hospital for light therapy. The whole hospital stay I kept trying to breastfeed with the help of the nurses & he just wouldn't latch. I didn't know anything about pumping & I didn't even own a pump, so I finally gave in and went to a little bit of formula. He took to it immediately & as a mother, yes I was VERY relieved that my son was FINALLY eating. He quickly started looking better & we were released sooner than I thought we would be. Once we left the hospital, I still kept on trying to breastfeed. I wasn't going to give up! But, after 2 months of trying, I finally went to formula exclusively. Did I feel guilty? You bet I did. I agonized over it for months & even now that my son is 12 months old, I still hate the fact that I gave up too soon. But, I can only go forward and learn from it. In a weird way, I'm kinda glad I struggled with breastfeeding. It has given me the drive to learn as much as I can about it so I can be successful with my next child. It has also given me empathy towards other women who are struggling with it as well. I hope to help others who have gone through the same things as me. Instead of telling moms that they are lazy & selfish for even considering using that horrid, poisonous formula, I will encourage them & let them know that I have been in their shoes before.

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