Kimberly - posted on 04/01/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )
My MIL's good friend's daughter had a baby in December and quickly gave up breast feeding because she thought it was too painful. I don't know this woman but I frequently see my MIL's friend and I was with both of them and they'd mentioned the baby was formula fed (this was when the baby was only a couple weeks) and they were both making excuses for the mother saying how painful and sore she was and that the midwife had told her she should give up breast feeding, which I don't think I can believe!! I have a friend who had a baby 3 weeks premature in January, because her daughter was premature they recommended she pump and bottle feed after she was at the breast to make sure she got enough...well now my friend continues to pump and bottle feed because she finds feeding at the breast "too painful." and now my SIL has just had a baby two weeks ago...my nephew had to be put in hospital last week because he'd lost too much weight and the hospital started formula feeding him. Now my SIL is continuing to formula feed (along with occasional breast feeding) because as my MIL says, "she was just getting so sore!"
I'm sorry, but when my daughter was born 19 months ago everything was fantastic for the first few days...then my breasts filled and oh my goodness...I cried tears of pain every single time my daughter started feeding, then after the first couple minutes the pain went away, but it was every feed for those first 2 weeks!! I never complained to anyone that I was in excruciating pain (except my husband of course, who held my hand every time!) and I never once felt like giving up! After those first few weeks the pain was gone completely and we carried on breast feeding wonderfully for the next 5 months, when my milk unexpectedly dried up :(
To be honest I've lost a little bit of respect for all these women...I completely understand quitting breast feeding because of latch problems, or supply problems, or anything along those lines. But to give up because you're in pain?? It doesn't last forever, and once you get through that it's the most enjoyable experience I've ever had! Am I just being horrible thinking like this or do others agree?