Alexandria - posted on 07/31/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )
I'm a stay at home mom to my 2.5 yr old and I’m a military wife. My husband was deployed for a year, got back in Feb of this year, so I was all my daughter had while he was away. She is still very clingy with me and I know her nursing at this point is no longer benefiting her very much. I will say she's very healthy, has hardly ever been sick and her doctors always say she is ahead of the game and attribute it to her nursing, but still, I feel enough is enough. For my sanity and for her independence, I feel it's just time to stop nursing her. I have tries so many times to deny her access to it but she gets so pitiful that I start second guessing myself and thinking that if she wants it that badly, maybe she still needs it. I mean, most mothers dry up way before their children are 2.5 yrs old, perhaps there is a reason I haven’t, maybe she still needs it? She eats a very healthy, balanced diet, so the only benefit she's still getting is the antibodies I guess, which is great but obviously not needed since very few children nurse this long and still thrive. I am so use to nursing her that I'll be watching TV, or reading a book or even having a conversation and she will get in my lap and start nursing without me even fully noticing it.. Then several minutes later I'll gasp as I realize that I'm letting her nurse! How ridiculous is that?! The hardest part about weaning her now will be that she wants to nurse to fall asleep unless we are on a car ride or she simply gets extremely tire on a rare occasion and falls asleep without nursing and when she does fall asleep like that it’s never happened in her bed. At the end of the day, I’m so tired that I easily give in to nursing her to sleep because she falls asleep within 15 minutes when I nurse her at bed time. Not that society at large should determine how and raise my child, but it's embarrassing to me when she asks to nurse when we are out and about and starts pawing at my shirt. She's speaking so clearly now, I'm sure some people understand what she's asking for. I definitely don’t stop what I'm doing out in public and let her nurse, but if I'm at a friend or family member’s home, I often will go ahead and let her nurse rather than let her have a melt down. Some other moms I've talked to about this have made comments like, 'don’t worry, she wont still be nursing when you send her off to college.' But my goodness, when does it end? Do I have to just stand my ground and let her fall to pieces until she accepts that she's too old to nurse? Is that okay to put her through? I guess it has to be okay or she'll be 5 still wanting to nurse. I wish my milk would dry up so I had no choice but to stop nursing. At her last well check up, her doctor confided in me that her own son nursed until past 3 yrs old and finally gave it up on his own. That was reassuring but one size doesn't fit all and as attached to me as my daughter is, I wonder if I'll ever be so lucky as to have her opt to stop nursing on her own. My daughter never liked pacifiers and a bottle or sippy cup is a totally different think than nursing to her. I have tried many times to wean her since she was about 11 months old and she puts up such a fight, I haven’t accomplished it yet. Help!