Just been told my 3 month old little girl isn't putting enough weight on, still breatsfeeding.

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Had my daughter weighed this morning, and got told she isn't putting enough weight on. I am still breats feeding and feel awful as I feed her everytime she is hungry. She is otherwise a very happy and contented little girl, but this has made me feel awful. I have to go back next week to have her weighed again and feel under huge pressure to get her weight back up. She is only little anyway. She doesnt feed for very long 10mins max every few hours. I cant force her to eat and Im not sure what to do now. If anyone has had this experience or any help I would be very grateful x

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is she emptying each breast at feedings, or do you still have some left? if she's not eating as much as you have, try pumping a little bit out BEFORE you feed her. this will make sure she gets the hind milk, where the fat is. if she's always full before she gets to this, she's never getting the fatty part of the breastmilk. it will also keep up your supply.

Kat - posted on 09/03/2009

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Similar happened with us. If she is content, sleeping well & plenty of wet nappies then do not worry. Do not feel bad. Doctor is doing their job & being cautious. As long as she is growing along the curve & putting on weight & not losing then your baby is doing exactly as she should be. My girl is 11 months, still on the 5th percentile & has never had any formula. She is just a small build.
Your Doctor should also consider what you were like as a baby & your daughter's Daddy what he was like. If you were both small babies then that also plays a part.
Good Luck, don't stress.....

Bethany - posted on 09/01/2009

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Breastfed babies tend to be much smaller than formula-fed babies. And weight charts are based on mainly formula babies. Your daughter is probably perfectly normal for her age. If she acts healthy in other ways, isn't lethargic and doesn't act hungry, I wouldn't worry at all! My daughter is tiny, too, and it's never been anything to be worried about. I put much more stock in alertness and emotional development than weight. If her doctor is pressuring you to start on solids or supplement with formula, you should probably find another pediatrician who actually understands breastfed babies.

Maybe before your next appointment you could check out the WHO (World Health Org) growth charts for breastfed babies. They are way different than the ones peds use. This site has them cited:

http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/gro...

Above all, don't let the pediatrician bully you or scare you into supplementing if you know it's not necessary. If your baby is healthy (and you probably know better than anyone else), then you just keep doing what you're doing. :)

Beth

Brenda - posted on 08/27/2009

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Oh, and don't let them convince you that you have to supplement! Remember, docs get incentives most the time from formula companies,and often try to tell you that something means that you can't breastfeed when it does not! Most doctors, like mine, are breastfeeding stupid, and stuff like this is why moms give up or go to supplementing formula, even though there is nothing wrong. Once you start supplimenting, your chances of continuing to breastfeed successfully drop dramatically. Read up on the information I posted, and go back armed and ready to tell them the truth as you see it, and don't let them push you into thinking you're doing anything wrong.

Amanda - posted on 08/27/2009

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when I had each of my babies the lac consultant always told me when I left the hospital that if I had trouble keeping the baby awake for feeding try undressing her to kind of jostle her awake after she has fallen asleep, or gently apply a cool, not cold, washcloth to her face or belly to help keep her awake. I too have a small girl but they have always told me not to worry as long as she stayed on her own curve on the chart, it sounds like your little one might have fallen off her curve so you might want to consider offering her the breast more often [you cant overfeed a breastfed baby] or try the things I listed above to keep her awake while eating.

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Ashley - posted on 09/02/2009

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my friend has breastfed both of her boys, the first for 6 months and the second still going at 18 months, but both of her boys are small. in the same percentiles as your daughter. some kids are just smaller and some are larger. as long as your daughter is happy and healthy (enough wet and dry diapers) you are doing great. everything is guidelines to go by, not every kid is the same. if you are still feeling pressure try switching to a different healthcare professional

Ashley - posted on 09/02/2009

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My son didn't get enough from my breastmilk, he was still hungry when I hadn't "re-filled" yet. I still breastfeed him (he is 5 1/2 months) but I also use formula if it isn't enough and that was OK per his pediatrician. Talk to her doctor before changing her diet however. But I recommend still breastfeeding since it is best!

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Hi there, my daughter has ALWAYS been in the low part of the chart for weight and i breastfed her exclusively...never had formula...for 14 mos!!! She is 15 mos and just had her checkup and she is just under 17 lbs...not even the 3rd percentile for her weight!!! Don't worry...as long as she is still growing on her curve on the growth chart...ask your doc if you want to see it...and also if she is just nursing 10 mins every few hours...im not sure that is enough..i know they tell you to do 20 mins on each breast at each feeding..but my daughter only did one breast at every feeding..ever...and it was only 10-15 minutes at first...but she should start eating longer periods of time...what did your doctor say about it all??? I would highly recommend talking to a lactation consultnant..the hospital where i delivered my baby does it once a week for free and take appointments for free too....they can observe your breastfeeding to ensure the baby is having the prefect latch for the best milk flow, etc and also they can weigh the baby before and after you feed her then they can see how much milk she is actually taking in. hope that helps :-) how much does she weigh??

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Same thing happened with me...turns out I wasn't producing enough milk to feel my daughter up. Try pumping to see how many oz you're getting. You should get about 6 oz total. If you do not then try doing things to help you produce more milk. You can try pumping a lot to stimulate more milk and putting your daughter to breast as often as possible. Contact a lactation consultant to get more ideas. There are some supplements you can try. If nothing works you will have to at least start supplementing with formula to make sure your daughter is getting full. Good luck!

Tara - posted on 09/02/2009

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This sounds just like my ds#2. He never gained much weight and the doctors diagnosed him with failure to thrive at 6 months. He hit every mile stone and did everything he was supposed to to he just didnt weigh what they thought he should. Long story short he is now 3 years old and perfectly healthy. Dont let the doctors talk you out of breastfeeding you dd. She is just meant to be a little girl :) Good luck and dont get discouraged

Shaunna - posted on 09/01/2009

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I wouldn't worry too much. If she is hungry she will let you know and when she has enough, she lets you know that too. Always trust your gut and you will be fine.I also agree with switching doctors. You have to have a relationship with this person for your childs whole life, if you don't feel comfortable with them now down the road will be worse.

Angel - posted on 09/01/2009

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well sometimes with breast feeding a women wont produce enough cream(or end milk) and that can cause the child to not gain weight corectly but dont be discuraged and dont just throw her on formula call the lactation specialist irene at parish med. hosp. she is amazing and she can help you with the problems you may be having!!! eat fatty foods! it sucks but the more you eat the more fat and sugar the baby gets! also you may want to look into vitamins and tea remedies for the production of milk and it brigs the fat into the milk as well!

Laura - posted on 09/01/2009

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I had the same problem with my daughter at 3 months...it really made me feel like I was doing something wrong, or that there was something wrong with me (not making enough milk). Anyway it took me a while to realize that it wasn't anything that I could help or that I was doing wrong, so if you are feeling the same things please don't and in time you will realize that you are doing what is best for you and your baby. My peditrician had me start to give more bottles and to add cereal to them as well as starting her on baby food. I hated that I had to start weening her, but had to do what was best for her!

Megan - posted on 09/01/2009

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I must give you props for being so head strong about breastfeeding. It is really great that that is a priority for you. My daughter did the same thing while nursing. she only wanted to nurse for short periods of time then she would fall asleep. I was so worried because everything I was reading said they should nurse for 20 min. on both sides if possible. One nurse at the hospital told me I should get a wet washcloth so I could rub it on her head and feet to wake her up to nurse more. I didn't have the heart to do it more than once it just felt mean. Keep doing what you are love your baby and listen to your gut about supplimenting with formula.

Joanna - posted on 09/01/2009

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do not panic as long as she is gaining weight how ever slowly and is a happy contented baby you have nothing to worry about. my son who is now almost 20 months and i went through the same thing what i would seeing if you have a breast feeding group in your area as they will be able to relieve alot of your fears and you will enjoy talking to like minded mums good luck lol

Larissa - posted on 09/01/2009

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Don't worry about it. Trust that she knows when she is hungry, and when she's full. The doctors give me a hard time about my son's weight too (he is small for his age), but he is happy, healthy, and breastfed, so I just don't worry.

Anna - posted on 09/01/2009

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Oh and btw, there is a chart for breastfed babies - the WHO's European 2007 growth chart!! Ask them to go by that rather than the american 1976 chart!!

Laura - posted on 09/01/2009

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try feeding her on one side wen she is done wind her and put her on the other side if she falls asleep while you are feeding her put her back on the minute she wakes!! if all else fails they will just put her on formula aswell as breast milk its ok to do both and u have done it for 3 months now you have givin her a great start!!!

Anna - posted on 09/01/2009

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Had the same issue with my son - turned out he was almost anemic, and that slows their weight gain down... You can help by taking a lot of extra iron supplement, but also ask your doc for a bloodtest of your daughter to see if she might need some extra iron too. Has worked wonders for us, last time he was at the docs he had put on over a pound in just a few weeks!! Good luck!!

Chelsie - posted on 09/01/2009

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I was told them same thing for my 3 month old. He doesn't eat very long either. I started pumping my breastmilk and he takes that just fine. Babies often don't stop eating from a bottle until its gone. We also had about 1 teaspoon of baby rice in the bottle to add calories and give him 1 soy formula bottle a day about 3-4 oz. He's gained weight in just 2 weeks he's almost where he is suppose to be and MUCH happier!

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Thank you everyone, I am going down again on Thursday to see what they have to say. My partner is coming with me this work for some support, as he was very angry they had upset me so much! So I will keep you posted on what they say xxxx

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The funny thing is doctors are the first to jump up and down about overweight children, yet they want you to feed up baby. A recent study has shown that a roly poly baby can turn into a roly poly child. Being at the top of the chart isn't necessarily a good thing.

Anna - posted on 08/31/2009

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If she is happy I wouldn't worry about it. You shouldn't have to force feed her. Health professionals just sometimes think everyone has to conform to the graph - maybe you should go to a different nurse if yours is making you feel guilty.

Svetlana - posted on 08/31/2009

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When you are breastfeeding, the first 5 minutes you provide your child with watery milk. You need to excrete some milk prior to feeding your baby and than feed her- you will be providing her a "fater" supply of the milk. Try and see if this will help. Good luck

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PUMPING IS NOT AN INDICATION OF HOW MUCH YOU ARE PRODUCING OR HOW MUCH YOUR INFANT IS TAKING IN. THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW HOW MUCH YOUR INFANT IS GETTING AT A FEEDING IS TO WEIGH THEM BEFORE A FEEDING AND AGAIN AFTER. YOU HAVE TO USE A SCALE THAT IS MADE FOR AN INFANT FOR IT TO BE ACCURATE.

Angelina - posted on 08/31/2009

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my son was dehydrated a few days after he was born and he was readmitted to the hospital. they had me nurse him then pump every 3 hours to boost my milk supply. they were also supplementing with formula. you could try pumping to see how much she is taking in and supplement with pumped breast milk or formula to make sure she is getting as much as she should. you can also weigh her before and after she eats to see how much she is taking in. she might not stay on because she prefers a faster flow. pumping will boost your supplyto give her more with each gulp! My son is 3 months and only eats (breastfed) for about 5 minutes every 3-4 hours but he gulps the whole time and he is gaining fine. hope that helps!

Miranda - posted on 08/31/2009

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Haven't read the other replies but most dr's are not very educated on bfing. They constantly compare bf babies to formula fed babies, in fact the growth charts they use are made for formula fed babies so of course a bf baby won't be gaining 'enough' according tot hose charts. What you should worry about is diaper count. If your baby gets at least 6-8 wet diapers a day you have nothing to worry about. Her not feeding for long may jsut meant hat she's become better at getting it out faster. So just keep doing what you're doing, go to kellymom.com to find their bf baby weight chart, print itout & hand it to your doc at the next appt. or find a new doc. Good luck!

Angela - posted on 08/31/2009

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I had same 'problem' and come across it alot as a breast feeding peer supporter. Health professionals are so obsessed with weight as they are frightened of missing a real problem and having a very sick baby. Regular weighing of infants came after the death of a few babies due to lack of food when they were breastfed. This does not happen if you are demand feeding. Weight charts are also out of date so look out for new ones coming soon that more accurately chart BF baby weight. The best judge of whether your child is getting enough is his/her behaviour not weight. I have only met two 'underweight' babies in my time that truely were underweight. Both of these were not getting enough milk. They were small but also crying constanly and very very unsettled. Both mothers were smokers (which reduces milk supply) and both babies are now thriving on formula. My own daughter was underweight as she was born on the 91st and was between the 9th and 25th centile. She is now 10 months and on solids as well as breast milk. She is happy and thriving: walking already and saying mamma and dadda... and yet she is still only on the 25th centile. I say ignore the health visitors and go with your gut instinct as a mother... it is more accurate than any government weight chart. Good luck xxx

Kate - posted on 08/31/2009

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Hi sweetie! I have been going through the same thing with my daughter!! She just turned 5 months and has been continually in the 5th percentile. At first our pediatrician made us come in every week for weight checks and made us do a EGK and chest x-ray. Everything came back normal. She was eating every 2-3 hours durring the day for about 10 min. The dr wanted her to start gaining more or they were going to run more tests.

Now let me tell you some family history.... I come from a family of large babies. My husband on the other hand comes from a family of small babies and small children. All of his siblings and I think even his cousins were small and he was never on the chart. But he was always healthy. This dr wouldnt listen to his family history and was convinced that there was something wrong with my baby even though all of the tests and x-rays came back normal. She is a happy and good baby that also sleeps well.

Finally we had to switch pediatricians!!! We found one that looked over her chart and looked at our family history and determined that she is fine and is on her own chart. She is consistantly gaining weight and is doing well. He is supporrtive of me breastfeeding. If I were to give you any advice is to listen to your gut. If you know that your baby is going well and you want to breast feed then maybe you need a new doctor like I did. Our old dr was making me feel horrible, like I was a horrible mother. I hope that you dont feel that way and if you do you need to find someone that will support you!! I hope that helps!

Kiyomi - posted on 08/31/2009

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I will let you know that my daughter is also small. She actually didn't make it onto the charts until her 12 month check up a couple weeks ago at 18lbs! Now she is nearly in the 10th. My pedi. doesn't tell percentiles because he believes that they are not well rounded enough to fit most babies and that too many people put too much emphasis on what percentile a baby is in. His advice is if she is growing, happy and otherwise healthy why bother her. It is when she starts losing weight and seems unhealthy that is matters. I wouldn't worry too much. Good luck with everything!

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My daughter also was not "putting on enough weight". I would not worry about it. Seriously. If she is feeding normally, happy, still peeing and pooping normally, and content then you are doing a great job. The charts they use are for formula fed babies. These two sets of children gain weight very differently. My advice is to always weigh your baby on the same scale--EVERY time. When we are measuring ounces and tenths of ounces, one scale can be very different from another. Also, feed her VERY well right before you weigh her at the doctor's office. If they let you keep the diaper on, don't change it before the appointment. This stuff sounds sneaky, but if your baby is still gaining some weight and there is nothing wrong with digestion, then you are doing a perfect job breastfeeding your baby. KEEP IT UP! My daughter, by the way is still small for her age but is very advanced in gross and fine motor skills at 11months. She is still breastfed and loving it!

Dawn - posted on 08/31/2009

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I agree with all the other mommies that replied so far. Every child grows and developes at their own speed, and doctors have a tendency to jump the gun if any little thing varies from the "chart." My daughter is now almost 19 months. I breastfed her till she was about 13 months, when she decided to ween herself. She was always in the bottom 2 percentle, and she continues to hit all her milestones on time, if not early. She is just petite, just like all the other girls in our family. Her doctor and I knew that there was probably nothing wrong, but we still ran a full blood panel when she was 5 months old just to be sure (she was perfect)

Isn't it funny.... when we are pregnant doctors always push breastfeeding, talking about how it is the perfect food, designed specifically for our chilren, and full of the important antibodies. But once we succeed at it, they put the fear of God into us, making us believe that we are somehow harming our child because they are not OVER weight by the time they reach 6 months. Mommies know our children better than anyone, especially doctors (that's actually one of the things I like best about her doctor, he tells me the same thing)

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Yeah I really do need to sop worrying about reaching her 'goals' as I now know that the chart is unrealistic for breastfeeding. I am carrying on breastfeeding and she is still happy and sleeping well. x

Minnie - posted on 08/31/2009

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Quoting Joanne:

I know taht I have enough milk, when my breasts are full I can express about 3 ounce sin 5 min utes, the midwives at the hospital couldnt believe it.She feeds really well first thing in the morning and last thing before she goes to sleep for the night, anbd wakes up 1-2 times a night and feeds for about 15 minutes each. I want to continue to breastfeed and when I get her weighed next I hope she is putting on enough. I dont understand why they dont use different charts for babies that are breastfed?



But she IS putting on enough.  She's putting on enough for HER body.  It still sounds like you hope that she has gained enough to make a pediatrician happy.  That's something you need to forget.



I used to get grief from every nurse and the doctor when I brought my eldest in.  At over three years old she only weighs 23 lb.  That's under the 1st percentile for weight.  I ended up telling them that I wasn't going to supplement, I wasn't going to put butter in all of her food when we started solids, and that I felt she was fine, normal, and healthy, and that they needed to get over it.



 



So many mothers let their doctors intimidate them. 

Annabel - posted on 08/31/2009

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I had the same with my daughter! she didnt put enought wieght on untill she was 1yr when I stoped breast feeding. She was sent to see a specialest every month untill she was one. I felt so guilty for breast feeding, the health visitors ofter said I should just bottle feed! I also had to give her 1 bottle a day just to keep them off my back!

Then my grandmother told me she had hear on BBC radio 4 an artical about the weight charts. In the UK the weight charts are based on bottle feed babies! and are over 40 years old!



My daughter is now 2yr and is a very healthy and clever little girl, she is an ideal weight and I'm so pleased I carried on feeding her till she was one. Shes never ill, is always happy and very advanced for her age and I know thats all thanks to breast feeding!

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Joanne, I've had TWO babies like this. My first had a "blip" in his weight gain. He'd fallen a couple lines down the chart (he wasn't very high up to begin with) and unfortunately I'd taken him to the community nurse for that visit. By the time I got home, all I could do was sit down and cry because she'd made me feel totally inadequate... as though I were starving my son! She made me promise her that I'd contact my GP and make an appointment when I left her office and later that afternoon she actually rang me to make sure I'd done it!
So then I go into my GP, and she asks me what's my problem because his weight is fine. Breast fed babies tend to have "blips" in weight and as long as he was happy and healthy, there was no problem. After my visit with her, I made an appointment to our pediatrician (yes, I was a completely scared first time mum). He asked me what the problem was, since my son was perfectly healthy.
So, don't feel bad because you'd know if something was really wrong. If your daughter is content and happy, she's fine. I know exactly how you feel and it's horrible that you've had to endure it.
Incidentally, my second son fell off the chart completely. He had a couple downward "blips", so my GP said that I needed to bring him back for another weigh in a months time (since he was 6 months and starting on solids). A week isn't really enough time to judge weight gain, unless she's losing it at an accelerated rate. After a month I took him back and he'd put on twice the normal amount, so things were pretty much back on track.
One thing I used to do (with both kids) to make them feed longer was to agitate them so that they would get more food in, including the hindmilk. I would just gently move the elbow up and down (okay, and I used to sing out "chicken wing, chicken wing"), or tickle the bottom of the feet. I had been told by a midwife that I should try and aim for at least 20 minutes for a feed, just so that they get some hindmilk which is where the fatty goodness is found. Or, if they are intent on sleeping, feed from the same breast until it's empty before going to the next. I'm sure you know all this though.
Hopefully you can find a more breastfeeding friendly doctor that understands how breastfed babies grow, because there's no reason for alarm with one small downward tick on the chart.

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My first son came out long and skinny and now, at four years old, he is still long and skinny :p His first ped pushed a lot for supplementing and seemed quite glad to tell me breastfeeding wasn't enough. Best thing I did was find a new ped :p I called the local La Leche League and got some recommendations for breastfeeding friendly peds that the other mums used and we switched. The new ped agreed that he was on the small side--and so absolutely no problem with that. He was falling off the standard charts used by american peds but when we plotted him on the WHO charts (which are breastfeeding growth charts), he followed the curve, just in the lower spectrums. He was happy, healthy, strong, reaching milestones ahead of schedule. He was a very efficient nurser so his nursing sessions were only 10-15 minutes long but even before we had switched peds, I'd had pre- and post-feeding weight checks done and he was taking in plenty in his short sessions :) His diaper output was spot on. Some babies are just small or slow gainers. Unless there is some other sign that there is a problem, you have a happy but little baby :)

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The basic chart that American Pediatricians use is a formula fed chart. My pediatrician complains at me every time I take mine in. So long as she is healthy and at the level of activity appropriate for her age, she should be fine no matter what she weighs. One trick to get the pediatrician to let up a little is to feed her just before you go in to have her weighed.

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Please don't stop breastfeeding. You are doing a great job. God made your breast to feed your baby and not all woman are lucky to do it so count your blessings. Remember you are a great mother and you are doing the best you can. You must stay calm and don't let people at the Health place get you down. Your milk flows fast and that means that your baby has to drink fast. So the time she spends on the breast is enough for her if your milk flow is fast. Please do not give up. I had a lot of trouble breastfeeding my girl in the beginning and I wanted to stop, but my husband and my Pediatrician wouldn't let me. I had thrush om my breast and to top things off my girl had jaundice for 2 weeks because I am O+ and she is A+. My antibodies was attacking hers. So God was good to me, I overcome all that and my daughter is 9 months old and I'm still breastfeeding. Thanks to God Almighty. Remember that you are giving your baby the best that she needs, your loving touch and mommies milk! Blessings to you and your family.

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http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/gro...



That link has some useful information.



Whatever you do, keep nursing her! Ounce for ounce breastmilk has the most fat and calories. I just got the "too small" talk from my pediatrician at my son's six month appointment but luckily he seems to have a clue about nursing because he told me to nurse like crazy and not worry about if he isn't into solids!



Have you tried massaging/compressing your breasts as she nears the end of a feed? It helps release the hindmilk. Aloing the same lines, if you pump a bit (10 minutes or so) after you nurse you may not get much but it will be hindmilk and you can feed it to her from a cup or dropper. Keep up the good work mama!

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I know taht I have enough milk, when my breasts are full I can express about 3 ounce sin 5 min utes, the midwives at the hospital couldnt believe it.She feeds really well first thing in the morning and last thing before she goes to sleep for the night, anbd wakes up 1-2 times a night and feeds for about 15 minutes each. I want to continue to breastfeed and when I get her weighed next I hope she is putting on enough. I dont understand why they dont use different charts for babies that are breastfed?

Brenda - posted on 08/29/2009

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Another thing, timing feeds is never accurate to tell how much milk your baby gets. The only way to really know is to weigh before and after with a scale. The reason is some babies take thirty minutes to get the job done, while others are super efficient, so while ten minutes may not seem like much, if you have good diaper output, plenty milk is going in. Also the older the get, the better they get at getting the milk out faster.

Katie - posted on 08/29/2009

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i was told the same thing when my son was that age, they actually lose weight before they start gaining, a few weeks later he started to gain weight. sometimes the rich most nurtrious part of your breastmilk takes long to come in, that could be why. she'll gain weight eventually.

Marie - posted on 08/29/2009

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My goodness, your post bought back memories. I too was told by my doctor that my baby was not gaining the proper weight and that I should supplement. I felt absolutely awful and they had be worried that I was not feeding my baby enough. It was not until I saw a lactation specialist that my fears were alleviated. She told me that most breasfed babies weigh less than bottle fed babies and that the growth charts they use do not take this into account. If you baby is growing and hitting all the milestones, then there should be no problem. My baby girl is almost 3 now and weighs almost 30 pounds (the normal range.) I just hate that doctors now feel that if your baby does not meet certain standards then there is something wrong! It sucks, especially when you are trying to do right by your baby and breastfeed. Looking back on it, I realized I had to go more with my gut feeling (which was telling me that everything was ok) than a doctor who only sees my baby for a few minutes every couple of months and makes a "snap" judgment. TRUST that you are doing the right thing!

Jessie - posted on 08/29/2009

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I would also suggest seeing a lactation consultant. there are 2 women at my local hospital that I couldn't have done the first few weeks of feeding without their support and expertise! don't be embarrased ask a friend or partner to go with if you feel the need!

Heidi - posted on 08/29/2009

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10 minutes every few hours is not very long for a 3 month old to feed. Sometimes I feel like I'm nursing my 4 month old daughter most of the day and night. I know that's a little extreme, but my baby seems to want it and she is not too heavy. I suggest trying to nurse your baby for longer even if she appears to be done, say 15 minutes each side. Or if you want to increase your milk supply, try offering the breast every hour or two for a few days and letting her continue to nurse as long as she wants. When I was pregnant, I was advised by the "experts" that I only needed to feed my baby 15 minutes on one side every 2-3 hours. That was a bunch of B.S. and probably the reason my newborn contracted jaundice and had to be hospitalized because my milk did not come in fast enough. Breast feeding is a huge time committment, much more so than bottle feeding.

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does she spit up alot? She also may be getting to much air on her belly. try burping her more often to get the air off her tummy and she may eat more. I breast feed my son and I know when he stops eating at ten min. he needs to be burp. than he goes back to eating.

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I had the same problem with my son. My pediatrician recommended I change the way I feed him. I used to feed him on both sides at each feeding. He told me however to feed only on oneside per feeding because the milk at the end of the feeding is the fattiest. So if she doesnt feed for long at a sitting you can always pump an ounce or two and then breast feed her the fatty milk thats left.

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my son has the exact same problem. what i did was try to increase my milk by drinking tons of water before his feeding, also taking fenugreek supplements (homeopathic herb to increase breast milk), and figuring out how much milk i have by pumping. also at 4 mos our pedia adviced we start him on solids and its helped increase his weight.
i totally know how you feel bec i felt so awful after hearing this from my pedia also. chin up, it will get better!

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Maybe start supplementing with some formula like one bottle day or something? I did that with my Son and Daughter because I was afraid they wouldn't get enough or enough vitamins.

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The only reprocution could be if your infants fall well off the chart and you refuse tests to check to see that there isn't a problem. Refusing to give her formula or other things is legal and nothing can happen to you because of it.

Chelsea - posted on 08/29/2009

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Honestly Joanne tell the doctor that your infant is fine. If she isn't loosing weight and is waking up to nurse and nursing she is perfect. Doctors try to cover their asses from law suits by being overly cautious and honestly they don't know much at all about breastfeeding or breastfed babies. They only touch on the topic in med school and have a lot of wrong information. Listen to your gut and stand up for you infant you are her only advocate. Stand strong and demand that your voice be heard. Explain that the growth chart isn't accurate, that she is still finding her growth curve
(all infants are all over the growth chart in the beginning before finding a growth curve, my daughter was off the chart, in the 50%, 25% etc. before she settled around 10%) and that you are not concerned. If it makes you feel better do breast compressions while she is nursing to increase what she is taking in.

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If I do carry on as I am doing, and she is still putting on weight not loosing it, but still doesnt meet the statistics they want will they be any repercussions from the Health Visitors etc?x

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My second baby is 12 months old. I was told today at her checkup that she wasn't gaining enough weight, and they had also told me this at her 9 month checkup. My daughter has 3 fat rolls on her thighs! She has a great appetite, looks healthy, and has never once been sick! She was exclusively breastfed until 6 months when we started introducing solid foods. She is still breastfeeding at least 4 to 5 times per day. Her doc actually told me to fatten her up by giving her french fries, ice cream, and butter! It's no wonder why we have so many obese children in this world. If she was losing weight, I'd worry, but otherwise trust your mommy instinct. My kids are just short and petite like the rest of our family. They told me the same things about my first child, and I just trusted myself in judging her weight. She is now 5 and perfectly healthy . . . and eats very healthy too! Doctors know alot of stuff, but they don't know your child like you do. TRUST YOURSELF! Keep nursing. If your baby is happy and isn't losing weight, I wouldn't worry about it. Who are they comparing our kids to anyway? Each child is different and isn't going to grow and gain weight the same as the next child.

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