Mixed emotions...

Chelese - posted on 01/22/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Well the time has come and it's been a bit of a process to ween Caleb. He is now 14 months and about one month away from being totally off of nursing. He just has a few night time nursing times to go. I feel torn because part of me is happy to have my body back but the other part feels sad because it will be over soon. I know he is getting older every day and it's in our best interest to do this. But sometimes I wish he was a new born all over again just so I could have that time back. *sniffles*

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Lori - posted on 08/02/2013

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Talisa - If you've not been around other breastfeeding moms, it's normal that you are uncomfortable with it. I'd suggest you try to find a La Leche League group or other breastfeeding moms group in your area and start attending meetings now. The meeting are free and you will get a chance to start to get to know some of the breastfeeding moms and maybe start to feel a bit more comfortable with it now before your baby arrives. You can search on line for a la leche league, or you can ask your Dr if he/she knows of any breastfeeding support groups, or ask if he/she can get you in touch with a Lactation Consultant. An LC will be able to let you know what resources are available to you in your area.

Also - keep an open mind about it. What seems strange in theory and what you can't imagine yourself doing may just be the best thing you ever do. For me, I wanted to nurse my baby... but I knew the recommendation was to nurse for at least one year. And oh my goodness!!!! I couldn't imagine nursing a baby for that long. It just seemed so strange. No one that I know around me had nursed more than just a few weeks. However I'd read how important it is and how it's the healthiest thing for a baby so I was determined to do it. By the time that one year mark rolled around I just looked at my baby who I'd been nursing for the past year and knew I'd done the right thing for her, and couldn't imagine having not nursed her.

Talisa - posted on 08/02/2013

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IM 22 weeks and I am having mixed feelings about breastfeeding. I know it's the best thing for him but I feel terrible because I just feel uncomfortable almost feel that it's wrong. Are these feelings normal?

Janice - posted on 01/23/2012

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Oh, ok that makes a lot of sense :) The night nursing was the first that I cut so I didnt have that issue.

Chelese - posted on 01/23/2012

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because at 3 or 7 am he doesn't wanna really wake up to take a sippy cup I do give it to him in the daytime but night is a little different. I got the gerber trainer cup that has the valve on it and he totally hated that one so I switched to The Mighty Grip trainer cup by munchkin and that one is a lot better for him. But since he is sick with this cold getting him to drink anything is a challenge. Almost like i'm struggling with an 18 wheeler truck.

Janice - posted on 01/23/2012

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Chelese, I'm just curious, Why are you giving him a bottle? When I weaned I just gave my daughter milk or water in a sippy cup. I've never heard of starting a bottle after a year so I'm very interested :)

Chelese - posted on 01/23/2012

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Thank you Janice. For some reason I have a feeling that Caleb is going to really going to not like giving up his 3 am and 7 am. He is so set in what he wants so I'm already knowing that it's going to be a bit of a challenge. He's so much more head strong than my first son Kaden. He's very feisty. But I think once he accepts this is how it's going to be he will just say okay looks like I better just take the bottle and deal with it. Even if it's a crappy replacement.

Janice - posted on 01/22/2012

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I was the same with my daughter. I weaned her super slow too. When we stopped at 17 months she was only nursing before bed. I thought we would continue that last feed for a few more months but it didnt happen that way. They sure do grow fast! :) Congrats on going for as long as you have.

Ania - posted on 01/22/2012

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I think every mom feels the same way, no matter when she weans her baby. My son weaned at 21 months and I was sad....

Chelese - posted on 01/22/2012

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That's a reason also I am still breast feeding Caleb is because of how good it is speaking health wise. I got a tweet about all of the advantages of nursing and it's defiantly good to not stop too early. So many can say "why are you still doing it?" And I say "i'm doing it for him. I put his needs first and whats going to benefit him."

Lori - posted on 01/22/2012

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Oh yeah, when I sit back and think about it for only a moment, I know why I"m still doing it. It's healthy for her, it's healthy for me. One big reason I want to make it to age 2 is the decreased likelihood of both obesity and of type 2 diabetes - which runs in my family on both sides. Then of course there's the big main reason. There is a special bond that only mommy and baby share, and nothing in the world can replace that. There's just days when I'm sooooo touched out I have to remind myself that I'm doing what's best for my baby.

Chelese - posted on 01/22/2012

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I think asking yourself why you are still nursing her is okay but I have a feeling that you do it because of that special bond that only mommy and baby share. And the part of us that wants to hold on to that for as long as we can maybe is the reason why we dont do it sooner rather than later. Thats just my thoughts though I could be totally wrong.

Lori - posted on 01/22/2012

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I think that weaning at any age gives us mommies mixed emotions. It's the end of a chapter of our babies lives. It's an indication that they are getting bigger and growing up. And yes it is sad. I had mixed emotions when I weaned my older daughter at 23 months even though I'd only planned on nursing for 12 months. At 12 months I just knew neither of us was ready for her to wean. With my current little one, she is 14 months and I decided I wasn't even going to attempt to wean at 12 months. There are definitely days when I wonder why in the world am I still nursing her, and other days when I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Chelese - posted on 01/22/2012

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Yes you are right. I started around 11 1/2 months with Caleb and with every feeding i took away stretched it for 2 weeks or so. With my first I did it at 4 months so that sadness I have now i didn't really feel. For the most part I feel good about it. I'ts just when I think about it I get tears because it's being taken away.

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