moms who breastfeed older kids?

Laura - posted on 05/09/2012 ( 41 moms have responded )

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Hi I .this is mom Laura,,...I am a Naturopath, child counselor ,& lactation consultant;; and we have now 9 children;.nursing full to part time

.......every child is UNIQUE AND WITH DIFFERENT EMOTIONAL NEEDS..we home-school,co-sleep,,( easy for bf , ).........we teach our children not to be ashamed of their bodies....but they know that human body is BEAUTIFUL! we try to live with understanding ,Love,service, compassion and respect for the little one's....

Now.many moms have been taught by our decrepit social paradigm,that breasts mainly are for sex,and and as such,obscene(,so extended breastfeeding poses questions because of that ignorant concept.

But we moms heart leads and refuse to be dictated to by the ignorant. every child is unique,has different emotional needs....we in our circle do extended bf,when BOTH mom and child wish extended nursing....in some countries moms nurse to ,6 and 7 year old...in America some do too ( very PART TIME ) for bonding ,affection,& emotional needs..( as i do )...all this is totally up to the mom and child. NOW,The old ways,,,,of shame ,. saddling moms with a lot of programming about some parts of the body being obscene ...We must not put shame and guilt upon our children,but have understanding,love and compassion..( one mom reported that her friends and relatives wanted her to switch the the cow milk...because her baby was " too old "---the baby was 5 MONTHS of age !...{ the .~World Health Org ., recommends bf to at least 2 yrs.Also note that it has been discovered by medical science,a long time ago,that cow milk is the # 1 cause of type 1 DIABETES,& has other serious health concerns....as HORMONS,PUSS-POCKETS OF NASTY BACTERIA,and the fact that the HUMAN body cannot digest it,esp. infants,and even its own digestive enzymes,are destroyed by heating.

....Please .. feel free to be part of our "Nature Moms " circle we communicate honestly and candidly concerning ANY problems , also may send me a PM

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Nicole - posted on 05/14/2012

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Squeamishness about full term breastfeeding is a western piece of idiocy. I like this article a lot: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/breastfee... I am currently nursing a 3.5 year old. She will wean when she weans. As long as nursing is mutually accepted between mother and child, go for it. It is nearly impossible to force a kid to nurse. Fun milk fact: the milk mothers produce for toddlers is more nutritionally dense than infant milk. It is effectively a superfood. A little goes a long way. The brief drinks bigger nurslings take still kicks up their immune systems.

Joy - posted on 05/12/2012

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Emily, she sounds like she needs it. I'd not bring it up around family unless needed. Its what I do. ;) If they insist tell them how well your daughter's doing. You're her mom afterall, not them!

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You changed your OP. How long you nurse is up to you and your children. As long as it works for you then the opinions of others don't matter :)

Patricia - posted on 07/05/2012

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i think what you are doing and believe in is wonderful thing i have the up most respect and and admiration for you good on you Laura and to all other mums who do this as well

Celeste - posted on 06/14/2012

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Jenny, I wouldn't worry about it. My kids weren't holding their sippies either at that age. I'd just keep offering him but I wouldn't stress. He'll get it.

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Norma - posted on 06/22/2014

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Dear mom,it is legal in all states to bf in public,be strong,hope you like child led weaning.......good luck in yor independence

Laura - posted on 07/06/2012

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Sheree,get an MD.s STATEMENT ....the fed. gov.& the constitution guarentees this right,even in public.....see my post here.

Celeste - posted on 07/03/2012

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Sheree, who told you this? You probably don't even need to pump and dump. You can call Infantrisk, who's run by Dr. Thomas Hale who is THE expert in mother's milk and meds:
http://www.infantrisk.com/
(806)-352-2519.

Sherree - posted on 07/03/2012

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just wondering... is it against cps regulations to order me to stop nursing my two year old? I'm on some medication but I pump and dump and nurse when I know it's not in my bloodstream anymore.. and some medication I take is actually compatible with nursing... it's been a week and I'm dying to nurse him and so is he.. She flat out said, you cannot nurse him anymore.. isn't that against my rights as a mother to choose to do so?

Heather - posted on 06/23/2012

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I nursed my daughter till she was 22 months old. I weaned her because I was done. But I enjoyed it while it lasted, and missed it when I weaned her. This is probably why I am pregnant with our third child.... I will nurse her till she's older than 2, or longer. We will see how things go. But I enjoy the bonding and nursing. She is an easier going toddler and much more relaxed then our son, who weaned himself at 11 months old, ever was.

Rebecca - posted on 06/22/2012

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Still breastfeeding my youngest child who is nearly 4 years old. It has been great as kids still piggy back off your immune system while they are feeding. Bubs expose you to the bugs they pick up by feeding and you make antibodies in your milk. This is great as he has been in childcare since 15 months and has not really been sick. We haven't really feed in public since he was about 2 1/2 years. Not that I was particularly uncomfortable with it. It just happened that way. This was pretty easy as he didn't feed in the day when at work so was usually to busy to feed in the day if I was with him. If he did ask, I would usually say when we get home and he was happy to go back to other things. I would if we were out and he was really tired or distressed and really wanted too.

My eldest now 21 years self weaned just before she was 4 years. My middle son weaned himself off the breast to the bottle as he had it a lot as I had to return to work before he was 1 year. My 2 long term breastfeeding babies never had a bottle as I did not return to work until they were 15 months.

Jenny - posted on 06/14/2012

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hello, my name is jenny ,Im new to this site...I have a 9 month old and I am still bf him. I dont see him wanting to quit yet and I dont want to either, but i was wondering if anyone else has had trouble with their child not holding or drinking from a cup? he wants nothing to do with it!! any suggestions?? thanks

Laura - posted on 06/08/2012

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hi Faye ! Yes this is so true about a lot of the public in America....i have been in many places in the world,Europe 5 times...where the populace doesn't have such a decrepit,filthy mind-set.
...the World Health Org recommends ......AT LEAST 2YRS....every child has different emotional needs....some may need pt bf,,,for that..and bonding for at least 3,yrs or more.....
there is fed. law that allows bf in all public places in the country.........so stick by your rights,,,,,,no use to go hiding in rest-rooms as if you are doing something bad...the bonding of a mom and child must not be broken by either ignorant,or filthy minds......
{.i am a Naturopath; child and family counselor,and lactation consultant..check out my profile if you wish }; the very best to you!

Fae - posted on 06/07/2012

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My goal was to continue breastfeeding until my daughter turned 2 years old. Until 18 months, I bf full-time... after that, part-time. With my second child, I'll probably bf until she's 18 months as well.

I agree with the posts that say that extended breastfeeding is a good thing. I'm just not personally comfortable with bf much past 18 months- it was just more inconvenient and annoying to deal with in public. Example: I will never again bf in a bathroom stall. It's terrible.

Claire - posted on 05/30/2012

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Much love to you! I am nursing my 2 yr 3 mo old and don't plan on stopping anytime soon. We love it and don't mind what others say!

Julia Bailey - posted on 05/28/2012

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I have no problem with extended nursing I nursed my oldest daughter until 4 1/2 years old I think they should tell u when they are ready to stop. That is exactly what my daughter did

Stacey - posted on 05/28/2012

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I nursed my first until he was 22 month and plan on nursing my daughter as long as she needs to. I can't see myself nursing a child past the age of 3, but if you'd have asked me when I was pregnant with my first I would have said no breastfeeding past 1 year..things change when you actually have kids. My son only weaned because I was pregnant with our daughter and my milk dried up and it was very painful. He wasn't ready, but I was at my limit, so I feel no remorse for weaning when I did. This will probably be our last baby so I want to let her nurse as long as she needs to. We'll set limits as she gets older because I would rather only breastfeed in the privacy of my own home once she hits 2 1/2 or 3. Just my opinion!

Christina - posted on 05/28/2012

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Hey all..I fed my daughter for 2.8 years and then my son for 3.5 years. No big deal..no moral or social dilemma..definitely no shame or guilt. Both kids weaned when they were ready. I definitely wasn't promoting any particular 'movement' or 'agenda'...just doing what was natural for the kids and me.. My 'babies' are now 15 and 12..both are independent, well adjusted, secure and WEANED individuals. However, they both enjoy a cuddle from their Mum. WHAT? TEENAGERS LOVE THEIR MUM? I attribute THAT to breastfeeding...lol.

Jennifer - posted on 05/21/2012

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I breastfed to my comfort and my children were all fine with it since I had no problem weening... I dont disagree with extended breastfeeding was just wondering what the limit was... I see alot breastfeed until the child is 7... but someone mentioned adult teeth.. my daughter both had an adult tooth just before they were 6 and before they were 8 they had 8 adult teeth (they also started getting teeth at 4mths 1 wk).... I was just trying to get opinions/thoughts/reasoning to some type of age limit. not judging anyone just wanting to understand reasoning

Diane - posted on 05/21/2012

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I am currently nursing my 2 1/2 yr old as often as is convenient for us. I find it laughable how society tends to be so narrow minded and I am glad to see that there are still some moms out there that follow their hearts. If I am given a hard time, I usually toss back something snide about how long baby formula has been around. Yes, I have had grief since day one...apparently I am the only mom where I live that didn't get the memo explaining that breast feeding is "unnatural and perverted". I don't mind, especially when I am asked why my Bubby is never sick and how "he got so smart". OK, that might just be because we don't drink the city water. I say nurse until it becomes too uncomfortable for mom and baby. We forget that humans are still animals, despite our grand illusions, and tend to let our "pack mentality" override our instincts.

Celeste - posted on 05/16/2012

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Jennifer, that is up to mom and child, as long as it's mutually desirable. There is no evidence that it is harmful to nurse an extended period of time. Children WILL wean when allowed to. They aren't going to nurse forever. Here is a fantastic article:
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/stor...


And, a 16 year old would not nurse for a couple of reasons. Once the baby (milk) teeth fall out, it would be difficult to nurse because of the jaw changes with the permanent teeth coming in. And by that time, I'm pretty sure that they would not need it.

Brooke - posted on 05/16/2012

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I am a huge supporter of extended breastfeeding, I have 3 boys, I breastfeed my oldest son who is 7 years old part time and my two youngest who are 4 and 3 years old full time.

Jennifer - posted on 05/15/2012

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So, I have been curious and hopefully some of you can answer.. at what age is too old, or what age should they no longer receive breast milk straight from the breast?? I personally wouldt breastfeed that long and i couldnt even imagine how it would be possible.. my daughter is 8 and would have a big kink in her neck if she tried and it would be very awkward to get a good comfortable position, she is skinny but tall!!... back to the question though, would you still breastfeed your child when they are 16?? what is the age people are willing to go up to for everyone that continues breastfeeding past pre-school???

Candy - posted on 05/15/2012

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I am amazed when I hear a mom has breastfed so long. I nursed my oldest until 22 months- when milk dried up due to surgery. My youngest is 2 1/2 and weaning now- I need to take some medicine that I'm not sure would be safe for him. Both of my boys have allergies and nursed frequently, this was taking a toll on me and my health. The boys are much healthier than their cousins and doing amazingly well considering the extent of their allergies. The benefits are there if nursing that long is manageable for you.

LaLasha - posted on 05/13/2012

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When ever my two oldest kids are sick I wish they still nursed because I know it would help them get better and make them feel better. O have no issues with "extended"breast feeding my daughters self weaned at 18 months each I was ready to go longer but was ok with ending then I hope to breast feed my son for 2 years he is only 2 months right now so we shall see.

Laura - posted on 05/12/2012

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MOM CATHERINE GREAT.!...I AM BREASTFEEDING 5 KIDS.(extended)...WE HAVE THE NATURE MOMS circle ,...we also meditate,,and eat very healthfully. follow your HEART and do not let anything discourage you...MAY ALL BEINGS REALIZE PEACE,CONTENTMENT ,AND TRUE LOVE

Catherine - posted on 05/12/2012

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Still nursing my 4-yr-old. Neither of us is ready to stop. We must follow our instincts in spite of what anyone else says.

Laura - posted on 05/12/2012

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..FOR EMILY and other breastfeeding moms.I am a breastfeeding mom responding to the mom who,is getting pressure to stop BREASTFEEDING her THREE AND A HALF YEAR OLD ....now YOU are very intelligent and wise...to follow your....innate beliefs and feelings in spite of the old warn-out protests of...."that's wrong".............now,how can that possibly be wrong.?......( I, very part time ,breastfeed four kids that are somewhat older than my 3 yr old, .).the world has no right to control that. we live in a world where most "grown-up's are ignorant of many of life's most important things,so continue to follow your heart.............I do,....and also, my family does meditation ,yoga, healthy food only,home-schooling,creativity,. and our friend moms and families feel the same ,about the freedom of breastfeeding,and to allow the kids to be free and very happy. Peace,harmony,wellness always,

Laura...(nature moms community)

Joy - posted on 05/12/2012

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My husband also wants my daughter to stop, but I show him what happens when I deny breastfeeding: major tantrums. So he's been sometimes (but not consistently) taking over, giving me a 'free' night and putting my daughter to bed. ...usually I come home around 10 and she's still awake because she isn't next to me.

I wouldn't blame breastfeeding for speech developmental delay necessarily. It could be something else. Some kids develop at their own pace no matter what you do. My daughter's nursing at 2 1/2, but she speaks clearer than her cousin that's 4 years old (and I don't think breastfed past a year.)

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Thanks Joy. The hardest though is my husband. He wants her to stop and can't understand why I can't make that happen. My daughter has a developmental delay as well (speech mostly) so I wonder how much of it has to do with that. She's not clingy during the day, just when she's tired.

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I currently breastfeed my 3 1/2 year old but only at night. I get a lot of pressure from family to stop, but she gets hysterical if she can't have mummy at night. Not really sure what to do.

Dove - posted on 05/11/2012

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I will apologize for thinking you are a troll and will modify my earlier comment slightly, but I will not apologize for thinking something is a bit off.... and you're right in that it has nothing to do with breastfeeding.

Sally - posted on 05/11/2012

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My oldest (now 7) weaned herself at about 3 1/2, but didn't admit it until a little after her 4th birthday. When her little sister came along, she likes the occasional taste just to remind herself why she doesn't want it anymore. When the family has a germ I pump out enough to put on her cereal so she gets the antibodies.
My youngest is still going strong at 2 1/2. I'm not sure if she'll wean younger than big sister because she's so independent or later because she has allergies. We'll have to wait and see. Her allergist wants her on the boob as long as possible.
Nursing (at least a little) is good for "older" kids until their immune system becomes fully independent at about 6-8 years of age. It's also an amazing topical treatment for all infections at any age.

Anna - posted on 05/11/2012

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Did anyone see the cover of Time magazine? I'm nursing a 2 yr old but am at the point of weaning. However, if you and your kids feel ok with breastfeeding at 7 yrs old, then go for it.

Joy - posted on 05/11/2012

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Wow, Dove... uh, I'm not sure what to say then. I was going to say I've got a 2 1/2 year old girl who is breastfeeding, but will probably be stopping sometime this year (or will be needing it more?) cuz of changes in her life. She's starting preschool in the fall and I'm pregnant again. While I can see her nursing at 3 yrs for a bit, I don't see her continuing by 5 years old. Daycare & I've observed she's very susceptible to peer pressure.

Dove - posted on 05/10/2012

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Apologizing for the troll comment that I just deleted and leaving the rest of my post deleted. I think something is off here, but it has nothing to do with breastfeeding.

Janice - posted on 05/10/2012

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I only breastfed till 17 months with my 1st and my baby is only 5 mo. Personally my cut off is 2 years but in general extended breastfeeding is a good thing. Definitely not nasty. Although I am quite surprised that a 7 year old would have any desire to do so.

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There are a lot of moms in this community who nurse older kids, myself included. Welcome!

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