my 3mo doesn't want me to talk while i feed her

Amrit - posted on 07/30/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




if she is tired and fussy and i put her in position to feed and snooze and then start talking to my husband or anyone she comes unlatched and starts crying and wont re latch for anywhere from 1-10 minutes. this is fine(ish) at home when not much is going on, but when we are in town it is inconvenient to have to stop a conversation at a restaurant or tell my husband not to say anything for a while until she falls asleep. I am all for the attachment parenting but my hubby and i worry that this will become a habit and she wont tolerate nursing under circumstances that she doesnt approve of. anyone else have this issue?i want to be sensitive to her needs and feelings but i want to be able to talk also.


Kate - posted on 07/31/2012




My son was the same way and my mother told me that's exactly how I was. It's sweet when you think about it. It's a bonding moment and they want your full attention :). Enjoy it while you can!

Lori - posted on 07/30/2012




I found that both my girls went through phases like that. I found it to be much easier to breastfeed if I was alone with the baby during these phases. But there are certainly times when it's just not convenient or easy to find a quite spot to feed the baby. In that case I'd just offer to feed my baby, and if she was too distracted to eat, we'd try again a little later. There were certainly times when I'd be having a conversation with my husband and my baby wanted to nurse. But she just wouldn't latch on until the conversation was over. It got frustrating because I wanted to be able to talk to someone and feed the baby at the same time, but it just wouldn't work. I also didn't want to tell my husband "just don't talk for the next 10 to 20 minutes". But ultimately I either had to leave the room, or ask for quite to be able to feed the baby.

Rest assured that it is a phase though. It will pass, and there will be many other new ones to come.

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Dove - posted on 07/31/2012




When my son was a toddler he would reach up and cover my mouth if he didn't want me to talk while nursing. lol Easier to fix that than reason with a 3 month old. ;)

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