My baby is refusing the boob! Please help

Elis - posted on 04/16/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

30

0

1

Ok, so I started working this week. I breastfeed my baby in the am twice before taking him to the sitter. He started eating from a bottle, which he hates. I breastfeed during my lunch hour and after I pick him up. This week I noticed that he started to refuse my boob, especially the left one. He was breastfed exclusively for almost 3 months, but I don't know what is going on now. He gets really fussy, and I know he is really hungry but cries and cries when I try to feed him. Has anyone experienced this? Any ideas on how to get him to eat? Please help!

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

12 Comments

View replies by

Anne - posted on 04/20/2009

60

26

5

Not to worry you, but reflux babies can go off a side - my daughter definately prefers the right... It can also lead to refusal of the breast as the baby associates it with pain. Check for the signs, arching, refusal to feed, bringing up milk (can also be silent), discomfort in lying positions. Reflux babies can also scream in a characteristic way, which stops and starts as the acid burns. I hope this is not the case for you, but most often if it is, then it's easily solved. The timing (with you going back to work), could be an unfortunate co-incidence. My daughter only started to display the signs of reflux after her 8 week jabs and unfortunately we put it down to that for a while. The NUK bottle that is designed for bfeeders is the ULTIVENT and I also use 'breastflow' (www.breastflow.co.uk). Hope this helps!

[deleted account]

Quoting Melanie:



Quoting Erin:

I went through the exact same thing!! Hang in there first of all it won't last forever. Also remember that it's not you!!! Some tips that worked for me were, first of all RELAX, I know it's hard and all you want to do is cry but it's not you!! 2nd, try to do deep breathing so that your milk starts to let down (you can try messageing your boob), then cup your breast in your hand and slowly squeez down until right before you get to your areola, at the same time have his mouth there, he will taste the milk and usually start to suck. If that doesn't work, give him his pacifier, calm him down and wait a little while, I'm not saying starve your child, I'm just saying he'll eat when he's hungry. Another thing is that he may not be getting enough, so whne he does start feeding again, nurse him more frequently to get your production up. Also, what I have found helpful is to take 2 small diapers and fill them with hot water, before I feed right before and put them on my breasts, when the are about to get cool, take them off and feed. As for my left breast, my daughter doesn't like the cross cradle hold she likes the football hold on that side, it took me a while to get used to it but she likes it better and to ensure that I am getting the most out of my left boob I always start her out on that side to make sure she finishes, because my right side almost always overproduces. What bottle are you having him use when not with you? I tried, munchkin, avent, and platex before I found that NUK was the best from going from breastfeeding to bottle. If you look at your breast after he's done eating, your nipple is flatted just like this nipple. All those other bottles are more or less created for formula fed babies and this bottle actually makes them work for it like they do on us. Hang in there!!






(sorry to hijack the thread)---Erin, which model of NUK bottle did you use-- I would LOVE for my lil one to take a bottle!





The NUK bottle I use is called NUK Orthadontic Air System, I usually buy it at Jewel or Target, they are inexpensive and usually come in 3

Keona - posted on 04/19/2009

2

23

0

If he's developing nipple confusion you can try the breastflow bottles. They require suction and compression like breasts do.

Rebecca - posted on 04/19/2009

117

8

17

How old is he now? (Just trying to figure out if you started a bottle sometime between 3 months and going back to work). Could it really be something like teething pain?

Elis - posted on 04/18/2009

30

0

1

Thank you so much for all your replies. I actually tried a dif. position (football) and this really helps! i wonder if his ear hurts or his arm or something. I have spent 4 days w/him (went back to basics) and it has gotten a lot better :)

Yvonne - posted on 04/18/2009

21

9

3

I had a similar problem with my little girl at about the same age, but I didn't work. I found that she fed from one side but no the other. The only way I could get her to drink from both sides was to feed her the same way - i.e your boy feeds on your right side so he is laying on his left side. try feeding him on his left side on the other boob too rather than turning him on his other side. I know it sounds weird and it can be awkward but if you get a pillow to prop him up on he might feed better for you. It worked for my little girl. The doc said my little girl could have been picked up wrong and hurt her arm or something and that's why she didn't want to feed on one side. It really sucks though cause like you said you know they are hungry but just can't do anything for them. I also found that it took about 6 weeks for my little girl to get used to the bottle. Hope you have some luck, I hated not being able to help my baby through her bad experience.

Melanie - posted on 04/17/2009

120

24

31

Quoting Erin:

I went through the exact same thing!! Hang in there first of all it won't last forever. Also remember that it's not you!!! Some tips that worked for me were, first of all RELAX, I know it's hard and all you want to do is cry but it's not you!! 2nd, try to do deep breathing so that your milk starts to let down (you can try messageing your boob), then cup your breast in your hand and slowly squeez down until right before you get to your areola, at the same time have his mouth there, he will taste the milk and usually start to suck. If that doesn't work, give him his pacifier, calm him down and wait a little while, I'm not saying starve your child, I'm just saying he'll eat when he's hungry. Another thing is that he may not be getting enough, so whne he does start feeding again, nurse him more frequently to get your production up. Also, what I have found helpful is to take 2 small diapers and fill them with hot water, before I feed right before and put them on my breasts, when the are about to get cool, take them off and feed. As for my left breast, my daughter doesn't like the cross cradle hold she likes the football hold on that side, it took me a while to get used to it but she likes it better and to ensure that I am getting the most out of my left boob I always start her out on that side to make sure she finishes, because my right side almost always overproduces. What bottle are you having him use when not with you? I tried, munchkin, avent, and platex before I found that NUK was the best from going from breastfeeding to bottle. If you look at your breast after he's done eating, your nipple is flatted just like this nipple. All those other bottles are more or less created for formula fed babies and this bottle actually makes them work for it like they do on us. Hang in there!!



(sorry to hijack the thread)---Erin, which model of NUK bottle did you use-- I would LOVE for my lil one to take a bottle!

[deleted account]

I went through the exact same thing!! Hang in there first of all it won't last forever. Also remember that it's not you!!! Some tips that worked for me were, first of all RELAX, I know it's hard and all you want to do is cry but it's not you!! 2nd, try to do deep breathing so that your milk starts to let down (you can try messageing your boob), then cup your breast in your hand and slowly squeez down until right before you get to your areola, at the same time have his mouth there, he will taste the milk and usually start to suck. If that doesn't work, give him his pacifier, calm him down and wait a little while, I'm not saying starve your child, I'm just saying he'll eat when he's hungry. Another thing is that he may not be getting enough, so whne he does start feeding again, nurse him more frequently to get your production up. Also, what I have found helpful is to take 2 small diapers and fill them with hot water, before I feed right before and put them on my breasts, when the are about to get cool, take them off and feed. As for my left breast, my daughter doesn't like the cross cradle hold she likes the football hold on that side, it took me a while to get used to it but she likes it better and to ensure that I am getting the most out of my left boob I always start her out on that side to make sure she finishes, because my right side almost always overproduces. What bottle are you having him use when not with you? I tried, munchkin, avent, and platex before I found that NUK was the best from going from breastfeeding to bottle. If you look at your breast after he's done eating, your nipple is flatted just like this nipple. All those other bottles are more or less created for formula fed babies and this bottle actually makes them work for it like they do on us. Hang in there!!

Geralyn - posted on 04/17/2009

1,615

35

240

My son rejected one of my sides after about 8 months. I think it was just harder to get milk from it for some reason. It dried up very quickly, and I am nursong him on one side, which has been fine. How old is your baby? Could it be teething, not necessarily breaking through the gums but maybe moving down? There are times that babies will strike but then resume BF'ing. And then I have heard of babies that will just wean themselves and never go back. I think you should assume that its the former, a strike, maybe because of teething or another reason you may never figure out.



I know for my son, at about 3 months, I had gone on the mini-pill, which was not supposed to affect milk supply according to my OB, but OBs are NOT experts on breastfeeding. While many women do fine on the mini-pill, some women, like me, are affected by it. Have you started the pill or maybe could have done something else thats affecting the supply? Do you think that it could be a supply issue? Its usually pretty easy to fix. I stopped the pill at that instance. But letting the baby nurse more (especially during growth spurts) helps bring the supply up. Just work around your work hours - it sounds like you are doing that well.



I know how important breasfeeding is to you. You will be able to work through this.... Consult a lactation consultant if necessary. Good luck...

Melanie - posted on 04/17/2009

120

24

31

This happened to me too, for no reason except that I was trying to put my baby on a schedule too early. But I am not at work so I can defintiely empathise with your need to have your little one on somewhat of a routine. What helped what "getting back to basics", i.e. spending a whole weekend skin-to-skin (in bed, in the tub, in a wrap, etc..) and letting her snack at will as opposed to keeping a schedule. When the weekend ended, so did the nursing strike. The fact that you are combining breast and bottle may make it harder for you (for the reasons others have posted) except obviously with you being back at work you have no choice. Hang in there, I know it's hard. I don't know if you've been on the "kellymom" site yet but this may help with the nursing strike: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/baby...

Meghan - posted on 04/17/2009

5

15

1

Try letting him suck on your little finger for a second before latching him on. I don't know why this works but it does for one of mine. Sometimes a baby can get confused between the breast and the bottle and get frustrated. I hope this works for you!

Cynthia - posted on 04/17/2009

317

5

43

He could be frustratedf at how easy it is to get milk from the bottle and how he has to work a bit more to get it from your boobs. Both my kids nursed for on average 20 - 30 minutes on a boob versus 10 to 15 mintues to polish off a bottle of pumped milk. Help him out by using wet heated (as hot as you can stand) face cloths on your breasts for about 10 minutes before you feed to help the milk flow out faster. Hope this helps.

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms