my grandma doesnt like it when my son grabs mine breast

Samantha - posted on 12/18/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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my son it 8 months old a fast learn. lately me has been crawling up to my and grabing my shirt when he is hungry! i kinda like it becuase i know now when he is hungry but my granmda is having a cow! i understand where she is coming from how its not aproperite and what if he does it in public. but she never breastfeed so im not sure she understands! im thinking about winging him but not sure how to do it! should ijust because he does this or what a little longer

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Carly - posted on 12/19/2009

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When he starts grabbing at HER boobs, that's when your Grandma has a right to complain! lol

Just think how clever your son is. He has learnt to communicate to you what he wants. It is probably a good time to start teaching him "breastfeeding manners" - just like table manners. Maybe you can teach him to gently pat you instead of grabbing roughly, something like that.

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Tina - posted on 04/15/2011

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They wont do it forever when they get to the girl germ stage. My son does it when he's in his cot and wants to be picked up or is hungry. I think all babies have done it. My son is not breast fed. I wear a singlet under my shirt in public just in case. You're not hurting anyone. So I wouldn't worry.

Shannon - posted on 12/22/2009

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My baby grabs my shirt right above my breast. I think it is endearing! Maybe redirect his hand to grab your shirt right below your shoulder each time. He will learn that's where to get mommy's attention.

Stina - posted on 12/22/2009

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my church just had an evening where we all acted out different parts of the birth of Jesus. My husband and I with our baby were asked to be Mary and Joseph.

When I was holding my baby up in front of everybody, she decided she was hungry and was doing the booby nose dive. Fortunately, we were almost to the end of the play and she had been fed just before we started so she wasn't starving- just looking for a snack.

Tara Lee - posted on 12/22/2009

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I just watched that video....Too funny....I can so relate...although I'm usually laying on the mat, not doing a head stand...lol

Tara Lee - posted on 12/22/2009

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Quoting Jodi:

My daughter started coming to me, pulling up my shirt and trying to pull down my bra since the day she turned mobile! I think it's just hilarious! I find this no reason to wean your child!



My daughter is the same. When she wants milk, she'll pull at my shirt, attack my bra, she just doesn't care what others think. And frankly, neither do I.  I have had to move fast when we're out in public, otherwise, half the city will have see my breasts, lol. 



I have to agree with the others, It's your decision, but I wouldn't deprive my child of the best thing(Breast Milk) for them because of someone elses discomfort or disapproval.



Good Luck!

April - posted on 12/22/2009

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Breastfeeding is NATURE'S way! Let your grandma know that people thought formula was better once upon a time but that's been proven false. Breastfed babies will pull at their mom's shirt when they're hungry because they're learning how to get fed! It's natural and will not hurt a thing.

Anastasia - posted on 12/22/2009

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My daughter is 12 months, i'm still breastfeeding and she does the same thing when she's hungry. My family thinks it's cute and they know she's just a baby and it's just one of their ways to communicate with you. Don't stop bf because someone doesn't like the way your son asks for food.

Jennifer - posted on 12/21/2009

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don't wean him just because he's yanking on your shirt and your grandma that never breastfed a child in her life doesn't like it. He's going to do that if you were breastfeeding or not. Ignore the grandma and continue nursing your son... she'll get over it.

Kat - posted on 12/21/2009

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Your Grandma really has no right to comment. You don't make family decisions based on what your Grandma thinks is important for your family. It is between you, your partner & your baby. BF is natural & your child is doing what is natural. This is not a learned thing.

Stina - posted on 12/20/2009

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Gimme a break! He's a baby. You're breasts are his dinner :-) If you are uncomfortable with his method of communication teach him a handsign, but if you are fine with it, I wouldn't worry till he's weaned.



Once he's weaned, you can teach him- please don't touch mommy there. But even at the young age that a child usually weans, it'd probably be enough to just quietly move thier hand away from where you don't want to be touched.



My son is 5 yo. he was done nursing at 12 mo. He has a baby 7 mo baby sister and with all the nursing that goes on, he has asked to "eat me" and a few times has come up to me and touched my breasts (covered by my shirt) When he does this, I just explain to him that when he was a baby, I fed him the same way- and then he stopped wanting my milk. Now he's a big boy and this is how I feed the baby. When he touches me- I take his hands and say "Please don't touch mommy there- this is my body and I don't like that."



Eventually, you're body will be yours again- and it will be ok for you to draw boundaries for those places that are "private" But at 8 months, I'd say you have a few years before you get there. Most people won't think much of an 8 month old infant grabbing his mothers shirt in public. Seriously. When my son was a baby- I went to the beach with a bikini top under my swimsuit because I knew he would grab my top and potentially flash my breast to the unsuspecting public. It's a pretty normal baby thing to do.

Terri - posted on 12/19/2009

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i have breastfed all 4 of my children and they have all tugged at my breast kits totally normal and it takes a very dedicated and mature women to breastfeed dont let you grandmother discourage you if you son only know breast milk and you stop him now he will lose alot of his nutrience even if he was bottle fed they tell you to do it untill there a year old im still breastfeeding my 2 year old

Mattee - posted on 12/19/2009

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He's a BABY! I don't think it's inappropriate at all. Babies have no sexual tentancies, so I don't understand what she's freaking out about... I would tell her to mind her own business....

Brenda - posted on 12/19/2009

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My son does the boob dive as my husband calls it. He's 7 months and tries to burrow into my shirt after them and tries to latch through my clothes. How else are they supposed to communicate? If she doesn't like it, tough, your baby. :)

Minnie - posted on 12/19/2009

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Ahahahah!

Too funny I can totally relate. Well...not to the awesome headstand, but- LOL

Jodi - posted on 12/19/2009

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My daughter started coming to me, pulling up my shirt and trying to pull down my bra since the day she turned mobile! I think it's just hilarious! I find this no reason to wean your child! Keep doing what you're doing, you son is obviously benefiting from it, and I as of yet have not had it happen in public with me! Best of luck!

Minnie - posted on 12/19/2009

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He's not grabbing HER breast. What does it matter that he does it to yours? It's only ok if he's a passive nurser, not allowed to actually communicate in the best manner he can that he wants to nurse?

Please be aware that the World Health Organization recommends nursing for a minimum of two years.

How about teaching some manners if the shirt pulling bothers you? A word and a sign that you can demonstrate over and over until it clicks?

Nicole - posted on 12/19/2009

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I agree with the other girls hun, its your baby, not hers. if you want to breastfeed, you do it. breasts were designed for babies to make thm food. not for men as sex toys. there should be nothing embarrassing about feeding your child in public either - aslong as you are descreet and cover with a recieveing blanket - there should be no problem - and if your gran or anyone else has a problem with seeing the blanket over your shoulder while you feed your baby - - remind them that it's your baby and your decision, if they dont like it then they should please rather look the other way!
dont let your gran or anyone else make you feel like you are doing something wrong. in the 50's doctors made women formula feed, but new science has shown that breast is best - your being a great mom by breast feeding your baby - you giving him your best.

Brandy - posted on 12/18/2009

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Lol my Grandma is the opposite! When I weaned my daughter at 9 months, she scolded me and told me that she didn't wean her kids until they were old enough to come climb on her lap, unbutton her shirt by themselves and have a drink! Don't wean your baby because of anybody else. When it is time to wean should only be the concern of you and your baby. It's nobody else's business.

Cynthia - posted on 12/18/2009

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yea dont stop jus because your grandma has a problem with it obviously she never breast fed like u said so she wouldnt understand. plus its ur body and ur son u do what u want. jus redirect him

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2009

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My son is 6 months old and trys to put his hand in my shirt when he is hungry my daughter did the same thing she stopped and it was no big deal if your grandma doesnt like it have her look away your son will grow out of it your breast and breastfeeding have grown to be a comfort to him can you imagine how it would feel to have it taken from him he is just a baby he means no harm its innocent and you can try to redirect his hand if you want if it is an issue he is a fast leaner he will pick it up

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