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My husband's family is not supportive of my continued nursing.

Audrey - posted on 03/16/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My DD is almost 10 months old. She was only 6 months old when my husband's family started asking when I was going to wean. My husband thinks they are being inquistive, simply asking the question out of interest. I find it to be judgmental and none of their business. Of course, I am the polite and respectful D-I-L, and give them my thoughts at that given time, "Perhaps when she is closer to 1 and she can have whole milk." Now she is closer to 1 and it's like a shark's feeding frenzy. I'm aggravated for having to be amenable to their delicate sensibilities, "Omg, my DIL is still nursing at 16 months, what are people going to think?" I have no intention of stopping until she is ready to wean herself. I have said that numerous times but they want an "end date." My family is on board with whatever I decide and never ask me such inane questions. How do I not blow my lid? I love his family very much. They love our DD and would do anything for us. Except for keeping their opinions to themselves. Once in the past, my husband told them to mind their p's and q's when it comes to our relationship (not in reference to nursing) and they got sensitive and freaked out. HELP!!!

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Elizabeth - posted on 03/16/2011

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Honestly, I would ask why they are wondering? Then address their concerns and explain in no uncertain terms that this is how you intend to raise your child.. to the best of your ability and will decide as a family unit (you ..your husband and baby) when stopping will be beneficial to you all. Perhaps throw in "Thank you for your concern...I'm so happy to have such a conscientious and loving family." yada yada

Good luck!

Heather - posted on 03/16/2011

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I had some questions like that, too, and shared w/people the fact that the WHO and American Academy of Pediatrics both recommend 2 full years of breastfeeding. Unfortunately, my daughter could not be convinced to continue quite that long (to my very great disappointment), but at least it stopped the questions (mostly). I was the first exposure my husband's family had to breastfeeding, and it was a little uncomfortable for them at first. If you stand your ground politely and reiterate the benefits, eventually they'll stop... or at least stop asking YOU. =) If worst comes to worst, you could tell them what you said here- that you love them all dearly, but their constant questioning of a loving parenting decision that you have made is hurtful.
Good luck! You can do it!

Celeste - posted on 03/16/2011

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As nicely as possible I would say something like "I appreciate your concerns but we are doing what works best for us." And leave it at that. Good luck! And I'm sorry your in-laws are such a pain in the neck on this subject. Try as hard as you can to let it pass over you. Maybe enough times of you not responding will enable them to let it go?

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