My LO doesn't want anyone but me. Normal?

Kat - posted on 12/29/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter, my first and only child so far, is exclusively breastfed. She is 6 months old. She wants me and only me all day long. She won't let grandparents hold her even though she sees them every week. She tolerates my husband the best, but he can only hold her when I am not within sight. If she sees me, she cries and struggles until he hands her to me, and then she immediately calms down and is all happy again. I know that breastfed babies are supposed to have a special bond with their mom, and I love that she wants me so badly, but on the other hand, I have only left the house without her about four times since she was born because no one can babysit her - she screams the entire time I am away. I'd love to go get a pedicure or a massage, but it's so stressful for me to leave her knowing that she will cry the minute I shut the door behind me. Is anyone else going through this?

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Jessie - posted on 12/30/2010

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Yup. Sounds EXACTLY like my son and I. It does get better (easier) with time but for now, you are it. He is 17 months and still has his little 'mommy strikes' where he wants no one but me but is getting more and more adventurous.

Becky - posted on 12/30/2010

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my son is doing the same thing. he is 9 months today. around 6 months he started getting very clingy... i'm a full time nanny and he seems me 24/7 except while he's sleeping in his crib. My mom watches him on fridays and he's o-kay with her but he doesn't even let my husband hold him if he knows i'm near... i've began to leave him with one of his grandparent's at LEAST once a week.. it seems to be helping him as he knows "mommy is still around but i need to be happy with this person."
we're leaving him overnight for the 2nd time at his grandparent's house this weekend... those overnights (though difficult for me) seem to help too

Noreen - posted on 12/29/2010

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Completely normal! :) Enjoy it while it last. When she is around 1.5, she will be all about Daddy.

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Carmelita - posted on 02/12/2011

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yes i know exactly how you feel my one does the same,but i do not have anybody to relieve me besides his dad my mother in law just don't want to look after him because of the screaming

Kat - posted on 12/30/2010

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Thanks ladies! It helps to know that this is normal behavior. I don't mind it, but the grandparents get so sad when she doesn't let them hold her. Now at least I have an explanation for them.

Michelle Carpenter - posted on 12/30/2010

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This brings back memories :) My daughter was completely this way, to the point even my husband couldn't hold her until she was over 6 mo old without screaming uncontrollably until I got her back. At about a year, that changed. Now at 3.5 years she is all about daddy, grandma, daycare, preschool...it changes sometimes in the blink of an eye. I remember how stressed out I was at that stage and completely confused. It DOES get better. My son was completely different. He wanted me if he wanted/wants to breastfeed (he's 16 months now), but otherwise much preferred daddy. Every child is different (firsthand knowledge :)) Hang in there, it WILL get better!! :)

Becky - posted on 12/30/2010

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by the way.. seperation anxiety is completely normal for even formula fed babies.... that stage usually ends around 13 or 14 months

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