Need honesty from Breasfeeders who sleep with their babies!

[deleted account] ( 100 moms have responded )

(In my best AA voice.) I am a breastfeeding mom who sleeps with her baby. Apparently this is more common than we think.
My baby is now crawling so I need to convert to crib. I need help with this conversion.
I turn out her lights, put her to the nipple until she starts to doze off, place her in the crib-nipple still in her mouth, and let her suckle until she is out. Have you other moms done this too? Any other ideas. She isn't sleeping thru the night yet so I'm not sure what is going to happen tonight when we try this. Thanks, y'all!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Hannah - posted on 12/09/2009

366

8

48

I sleep with my daughter as well, who is walking. She will be one later this month. Just because your little one is mobile, does not mean you need to kick them out of bed, and put them in the crib. Sorry, that sounds harsh... but that's how I feel. I think that as long as you are breastfeeding, baby should be right in bed with you... but that is just my opinion.



If your worried about her crawling off the bed, that has never happened to me... (while we were actually sleeping, once during play time). You would most likely wake up to her crawling over you.

Minnie - posted on 12/13/2009

7,076

9

786

Quoting Janice:

Isn't anyone worry about SIDS? I'm breast feeding and my daughter, 6 wks, sleeps with me in bed or sometimes on the couch. Although this is comfortable for the baby and me, I'm constantly worried. Especially when I wake up and realize the blanket has made it near her face during the night. I never put her between my husband and me because that seems even more dangerous. Was anyone else ever fearful like I am?


SIDS is not suffocation. Cosleeping reduces the risk of SIDS.



Some people make it their life's work to study this:



http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles...



http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles...



http://thebabybond.com/Cosleeping&SIDSFa...

Jodi - posted on 12/12/2009

2,694

52

168

Quoting Janice:

Isn't anyone worry about SIDS? I'm breast feeding and my daughter, 6 wks, sleeps with me in bed or sometimes on the couch. Although this is comfortable for the baby and me, I'm constantly worried. Especially when I wake up and realize the blanket has made it near her face during the night. I never put her between my husband and me because that seems even more dangerous. Was anyone else ever fearful like I am?



SIDS is a serious concern, for either co-sleepers or crib babies! Both types of sleepers need safe environments! When co sleeping, the baby should not sleep between you and your partner (breastfeeding women are more aware of their babies than both men and non-breastfeeding women), you should not have heavy blankets, dress warmer or turn your heat up! Don't surround your baby with pillows (preferably don't use pillows at all), they could roll over into them and suffocate, don't push your bed up against a wall, baby could get wedged in the crack and suffocate. Don't sleep with your child if you are on any kind of sleep inducing medications, drugs, or alcohol. Also, if you are very ill or extremely tired as you are less aware of you LO in all those situations. For the crib sleepers, no stuffed toys, no heavy blankets, no pillows, all could cause suffocation if they fall over babies face or baby rolls into them. Also, crib bumpers should be removed before putting baby in crib, not only could they come untied from tugging and fall over babies face but children who can stand can use them to climb up and fall out of the crib. Make sure the space between bars is no bigger than a popcan or your baby can suffer serious injuries to their limbs and make sure your mattress fits the crib and there are no large gaps. I have taken SID's training classes as I have worked in childcare and the number one rule is: Lay your baby on their back! If they roll over unto their stomach that is fine, they are obviously able to roll back and lift their head. Good luck to all Mommies, be they co-sleepers or crib babies be safe!!!!

Brenda - posted on 12/09/2009

2,386

62

250

We're still cosleeping at 7 months, I bought a bedrail to keep him in the bed. As a matter of fact, I just broke the crib down yesterday because he'll never sleep in it. With my first I used the put him to sleep then transfer to crib once unconscious. And I wouldn't expect sleeping all night, most bf babies don't becasue breastmilk digests so much faster than formula.

This conversation has been closed to further comments

100 Comments

View replies by

Emily - posted on 12/15/2009

3

6

0

My son is 7 months, crawling perfectly, still on the boob, and still sleeping in bed with us. I try to make sure that for the most part he is in the middle, however he is occasionally on the outside. We have a queen size bed and an extremely soft mattress you sink into. I noticed that though he is great at rolling over it's still hard for him to go "uphill". If you wake up when he does there shouldn't be a problem. If you really want him out of the bed, my mom's friend told me her and her husband had to keep switching off who would go into their daughter's room and rub her head until she went back to sleep. I've also heard of people putting a twin bed in their kid's room so they could feed their baby when he woke up and put him back in the crib once he fell asleep.

Traci - posted on 12/14/2009

42

58

2

My baby is crawling and I just make a small baracade of arms to hold her in place. You cant spoil a baby...the only thing you can spoil is a banana. am I right?!

[deleted account]

With my first two boys conversion to crib is not successful until breastfeeding has ended. I intend to just do the same with the third, around 18mo.

Cathrina - posted on 12/14/2009

10

11

0

My little one is 16mths and has only recently been put in his crib. I let him fall asleep with me cuddling him, and then put him in his crib. He will wake up at about 11pm (2hrs later) then I go in and check on him. He will cry for about 30secs then go back to sleep on his own. At 5am he wakes up for a diaper change and feeding and is back in bed with me. He usually sleeps between me and his dad with no problems. He will roll towards me and pop the breast out I really don't have to do anything. Cosleeping is only natural and conducive to breastfeeding.

Colleen - posted on 12/14/2009

5

1

0

i do co-sleep with her in the mornings after her 6-7 hour non-stop sleep. she wakes up n wants to nurse after that she falls asleep again then we rock n i recline back n we sleep for a couple more hours.

Colleen - posted on 12/14/2009

5

1

0

i breastfeed my daughter and she is now 6 weeks old. for the first few weeks she'd sleep right with me as most nights we'd fall asleep in our big comfy rocker recliner...for the last few weeks i nurse her and put her in her swing or in her basinette right next to my bed. she will sleep for an hour to two hours before waking up, finally around 130-2am she wakes up a final time before falling asleep again and then she sleeps straight through for 6 or 7 hours. I'm too afraid to sleep with her in my bed because i dont want to roll over n squish her. (i have a king size bed but im just paranoid) plus i'd like to have a sex life again and i want her to get used to sleeping on her own. once she out grows the basinette i will start putting her down in her crib and using the baby monitor.

Tara - posted on 12/14/2009

165

10

9

Quoting Gloria:

I'm a first time mom and I'm breastfeeding and my baby sleeps with me at night. I was so worried this would be bad, but it's a lot easier than waiting for him to fall asleep and risking the chance of waking him up if i try to put him in his crib or bassinet. So co-sleeping really isn't bad? I swear I though I heard it wasn't a good idea or something so I was worried, but he tends to sleep better when he's with me..



If it feels natural, it probably IS.



 



8-)

Tara - posted on 12/14/2009

165

10

9

My kids going in the crib was quite a transition. We started with little naps & the like, still laying together at night. When it was time to sleep the night in the crib it wasn't too big of a change. I'd put them to bed, fed in a rocker when they woke (sometimes cheated and brought them to bed) and eventually made the transition.

Good Luck!

8-)

Cordelia - posted on 12/14/2009

24

43

2

I sleep with my son as well. He doesnt sleep through the night yet. I started sleep training about a month ago, by putting him in the crib and cutting down on the night feedings. (He used to wake to eat every 2-4 hours!!!) Now, I feed him at 10pm, 2/3am and his morning feeding at 8am. When I used the "cry it out method, which actually worked in 3 days, he ate at 10pm, then 5 am. We havent found what works yet for us yet though. I just hate letting him cry....He does sleep in his crib from 10pm until 2/3 in the morning though.

Nicole - posted on 12/14/2009

107

49

3

My daughter will be one on 12/20 and we still BF and Cosleep. I love it! We did have to get a King size bed and she actually did roll out of bed one night at about 8-9 months (she wasn't crawling yet). It scared me half to death! I since got a bed rail and she doesn't even seem to go near it. She will get up in the morning and crawl over me and stuff (she just started to walk a few days ago) but she knows not to tumble over the edge anymore, she can properly climb out.

Jazmyn - posted on 12/14/2009

9

18

0

All 3 of my kids where Bf and we co-slept with all of them, with the older 2 we just kept them between us and they didn't ever fall of the bed, but with my youngest my husband was deployed, so i got a bed-rail and she co-slept with no problem until she was 13 months old, I COMPLETELY agree With Hannah on the co-sleeping, it's the BEST thing you can do for BOTH of you because you will both sleep better :)

Caroline - posted on 12/14/2009

22

1

1

I'm probably not the best for advice as my breastfed 20mth old is still in bed with us most nights,it's hit and miss but what I do know is it's for comfort,so I have 2 suggestions,you put some of your breastmilk on her sheet where she lays her head and get another family member to rock her to sleep and lay her down in the crib!That somewhat works for us,at least on the nights that she does go down,lol....good luck!

Megan - posted on 12/13/2009

1

0

0

I still breastfeed my daughter who will be 9 months old at the end of this month and she still sleeps with me. She is very mobile but in the mornings she lays next to me and wakes me up before trying to move around the bed. I plan on letting her sleep with me until I wean her. It's just easier than getting out of bed 2-3 times a night.

Jennifer - posted on 12/13/2009

4

20

0

sleeping on the couch with your infant is dangerous because they can get wedged...mercola.com

Jennifer - posted on 12/13/2009

4

20

0

I slept with my daughter for her first 5 mos. while she breastfed. It seemed like we were constantlly waking her up, but I really enjoyed sleeping with her. It was so much more convenient and I knew she was safe between my arms and she could eat whenever she wanted. I didn't get good rest though. At 6 mos, my husband wanted her to go to her crib so we tried it. The first night she slept through the night 12 hrs. without waking. She has been sleeping through the night since. I breastfed her until she was 2 and it was a little difficult weaning at bed time. How old is your baby? Dr. Mercola at Mercola.com just posted an article about how safe it is for parents to sleep with their infants, that is, parents who are sober, not smokers, and not on drugs. check it out if you have time...also mothering.com is another good website to checkout :)

Tiffany - posted on 12/13/2009

310

24

29

I personally believe there is no need to sleep in bed with your baby breastfeeding or not. it is way to dangerous you could pull the covers up and suffocate them or your partner could roll on to them. there is a reason why they make cribs! I hope i am not offending anyone

Tracie - posted on 12/13/2009

6

20

0

Quoting Gloria:

I'm a first time mom and I'm breastfeeding and my baby sleeps with me at night. I was so worried this would be bad, but it's a lot easier than waiting for him to fall asleep and risking the chance of waking him up if i try to put him in his crib or bassinet. So co-sleeping really isn't bad? I swear I though I heard it wasn't a good idea or something so I was worried, but he tends to sleep better when he's with me..



Hi Gloria



Did you know that it is actually cots and cribs that are the most unatural place for a new born to sleep especially in another room away from the mother.



Did you also know that cots and cribs have only been around for the past 100 years, before that mothers did what they did best and used their maternal instincts. When my children were babies I would instinctively know if they were about to be ill and wake up, i cant explain it but even now if my children are in distress, or they need, I instinctively know, it is just a feeling I get in the pit of my stomache and a sort of ache in my chest and 99 times out of 100 I am right to go with that feeling.



Breast feeding combined with co-sleeping are the best combination in my book for a happy, healthy and contented mum and baby.



So please dont be worried, let yourself go with what you feel is right not what other people say or think!!Take care hun x

Tracie - posted on 12/13/2009

6

20

0

Quoting Lisa:
I totally agree with Lisa and the links she has put on are fabulous. When i read the information by J Mckenn I was nicely suprised to find that most of what was written about breast feeding mothers and c0-sleeping was what i felt naturallly as a mother anyway. So doenst that say that you should always go with what you feel maternally and what you feel is right. Because that is what I did and It worked for all of us. Thanks again Lisa you replaced myth with truth and logic !!! 


Quoting Janice:

Isn't anyone worry about SIDS? I'm breast feeding and my daughter, 6 wks, sleeps with me in bed or sometimes on the couch. Although this is comfortable for the baby and me, I'm constantly worried. Especially when I wake up and realize the blanket has made it near her face during the night. I never put her between my husband and me because that seems even more dangerous. Was anyone else ever fearful like I am?





SIDS is not suffocation. Cosleeping reduces the risk of SIDS.






Some people make it their life's work to study this:






http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles...






http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles...






http://thebabybond.com/Cosleeping&SI...





 

Leticia - posted on 12/13/2009

92

35

3

Quoting Carmen:

Very encouraging. I wonder why I bought the crib, if it seems like I might not even ude it. She's 4 months and I havent even put it together yet. Co-sleeping is great.


Same here!!!

Leticia - posted on 12/13/2009

92

35

3

i only wish that my daughter will sleep through the night! She is 11 mons old and i nurse her. Some nights it' good and i'll give her dinner and let her play a bit and then nurse her and lay her in her crib and she'll stay there up to 6 hrs. Then she wakes up hungry again and i just bring her to bed with me and my husband. Sometimes she doesnt stay asleep the whole 6 hrs so depending on what time she wakes up is if i lay her back in her bed, which is at the foot of ours,or ours. Just bc your daughter is mobile doesnt you have ot transition. it's your choice. I tried to just let her nurse til she was drowsy then place her in her bed but she'll wake up screaming.So i urse her till she's completely zonked out then ilay her down. hope you find what works best for you guys!

Anna - posted on 12/13/2009

552

12

52

My son just turned one and still sleeps with us. To make it safe once he started crawling, we swapped our bed for a futon so it's low to the ground. He can easily crawl off it safely.
He has only just started sleeping through the night - not every night, and especially not when he's teething, but it is getting better recently.
I haven't tried putting him in his own bed yet. The way you suggest sounds good but there is one other thing you can try. It is good if you can get her to go to sleep without the nipple in her mouth, because then if she wakes in the night, she will be more likely to settle herself. If they always fall asleep on the nipple, they think they need it. There's nothing wrong with nursing to sleep - we usually do it. But if you use other methods as well, eg rubbing her back, going shhhh, walking her, Dad soothing her to sleep but whatever means works - then you have more options. I have tried this and found he sleeps better.

Carmen - posted on 12/13/2009

6

0

1

Very encouraging. I wonder why I bought the crib, if it seems like I might not even ude it. She's 4 months and I havent even put it together yet. Co-sleeping is great.

LeeAnn - posted on 12/13/2009

4

26

0

I still sleep with my son still who will be 2 in February. He has never fallen out of the bed and he just sits up and yells for mom if he wakes up and I'm not in bed.

[deleted account]

Quoting Janice:

Isn't anyone worry about SIDS? I'm breast feeding and my daughter, 6 wks, sleeps with me in bed or sometimes on the couch. Although this is comfortable for the baby and me, I'm constantly worried. Especially when I wake up and realize the blanket has made it near her face during the night. I never put her between my husband and me because that seems even more dangerous. Was anyone else ever fearful like I am?



There is evidence that allowing babies to sleep on lounges is dangerous for health reasons, I don't remember exactly what particular risks it presents but it does make sense that it would be quite unhygenic. You do tend to feel concerned in the very first months of co-sleeping & I guess that fear helps prevent you sleeping so deeply you are oblivious to the baby in beside you, so it really depends on whether you will get enough rest this way or save yourself the worry & put her in her crib. Good Luck



 

Ariel - posted on 12/12/2009

0

31

0

I am the mommy of 4 girls. All breastfed and all co-slept. My youngest is 3.5 months old and sleeps with us. In my other house I just put the bed against the wall and had nothing to worry about...in our new house which my youngest 2 were both born in that is not an option due to doors in odd spots on 2 of the walls. But all of my older ones co-slept until they were weined and my youngest will 2. If you are lucky and have one who sleeps all night you can start by using the crib at nap time then putting them to bed, but I love sleeping with my kids so I keep mine with my all night until they no longer nurse....and I figure sleeping through the night is when you get at least 6 hrs uninterupted...which all of mine did very early on. I think this is directly related to co-sleepin and being secure. Then again I could be wrong. But I never used a crib at night. Just put baby in the middle.

Tracie - posted on 12/12/2009

6

20

0

I totally agree with all of you, and it is so nice to see so many mums in favour of co-sleeping. I have 3 girls now 15,19, and 20. All co-slept and all breast fed happy babies. All different my eldest moved to her own bed at just under 2 years old, and it was a proper single bed. My middle daughter about 2 and a half and my youngest about 12 months. I think you just go with the flow and as a mum you know when your baby is ready for their own bed, and if you stay calm about the whole issue they will be calm about the transition too. With my first baby when i put her in that huge cot, it just didnt seem right, I tried to follow advice of the proffessionals lol!! But I couldnt cope with hearing her cry and being up half the night, so in the end i let my maternal instinct take over and it was the best thing i ever did. I made sure we only had natural filling in my duvet and pillows, I made her a sort of cacoon type nest out of cotton and natural filling, with a mini duvet attached. I even tested it myself to make sure that in the unlikely event she put her face up against the sides that she would be able to breath ok. I put this cacoon/nest thing in between our pillows again all natural filling and pretty flat, so her body was near our heads, just incase we did roll over we would not be on top of her. I have heard a lot of people say you shouldnt put your baby between you or inbetween pillows, but i did it with all three and they were all fine.We did have a king size bed so that helped. I used to just pick up the nest with my baby still in it all nice and warm feed her then just pop her back down. I also found that because i fed her still all snug she dropped off back to sleep quicker and stayed asleep for longer periods between feeds. I used to end up waking up my boobs telling me it was feeding time, about to burst, which was very painful at times, so I would express a little to reduce the pressure. But never wake her up just let her feed when she was ready. When I had my first child the press seemed to be full of stuff about cot death so I was much more worried about that than i was ever about my girls being in bed with us. They are all happy chilled out kids and we ar so close as a family so i am glad I did what i did, it just felt like the most natural thing to do..

Shawna - posted on 12/12/2009

25

7

3

My daughter is 5months now and has been sleeping with me since she was born. I feel better seeing that others do it too lol Eventually i would like to get her use to being away from me at night. I am in no rush though. The bed rails are great advice though.

Kellie - posted on 12/12/2009

4

0

0

Hi Lisa, I am a breastfeeding mum who has slept with her baby from birth and still do. He is now 14 months old and has been walking since 10 and a half months. I have tried the cot. It didn't work for us as he is VERY active and kept hitting his head. We tried many many many times, but no luck. So he continues to sleep with me in a king sized bed, with him on the wall side. He does not attempt to crawl or walk off the bed as I have taught him not to and we are in the process of teaching him how to turn around and slide down of things backwards and feet first ( such as the couch etc).
He does not sleep through the night and still wakes very frequently for a little comfort feed. He does this for a few minutes at least 3 to 6 times a night. So having him across the room or in another room is not an option for us. I am not willing to have to get out of bed every time he needs me. I strongly believe in attachment style parenting and do not believe in controlled crying, so I have chosen to sleep him next to me where I can fulfil his needs for as long as it takes him to wean himself from his night feeds. When he was smaller i used to put the cot up against one side of the bed and sleep him between me and the cot so he couldn't fall out. I might also add that I only advocate that people co-sleep safely with their babies according to SIDS guidelines.

Aliesha - posted on 12/12/2009

53

47

3

ok what i wanna understand is why people frown upon co-sleeping, it helps mums get the sleep they may miss out on otherwise getting up and down to a distressed child! i find it is good to put my 6month old in the cot for the first part of the night and then when he wakes up to bring him into my bed. dunno how that would work for others but i think its a good compromise

Janice - posted on 12/12/2009

1,890

18

63

Jodi
I work in daycare myself and have completed SIDS training multiple times which is probably why I'm freaked out. Although I am aware of all the information, which is great by the way, eliminating blankets & pillows is easier said than done. Thank you.

Leticia - posted on 12/12/2009

92

35

3

if youre worried try a bed rail. theyre super cheap at target. we got ours for no more than 20 bux. we got it when our first was itty bitty hes now a preschooler

Leticia - posted on 12/12/2009

92

35

3

my daughter is 11 monsand i still BF and what i do when she first falls asleep at night i lay her in her crib and depending on what time of night she gets up after that is if i wait and put her back in her crib when shes finnished or if i just bring her to bed with my husband and i. just bc the lil one is mobile doesnt ean they cant still co-sleep safely. and chances are that if you are BF then she's not gonna be sleeping through the night for a while. My daughter still doesnt. so when she wakes up for her middle of the night/wee morning feeding i bring her to bed with us. just keep at it.

Jodi - posted on 12/12/2009

2,694

52

168

First off, I agree with a lot of other posters here in that, just because your baby is mobile doesn't mean you have to stop co-sleeping! Just need to take a few extra precautions is all. That being said, my daughter is 9 months old and we switched her to her crib little less than a month ago. I asked my dr and here's what I was told. If you put your child in their crib AFTER they are already asleep, when they half wake to roll over or something they will end up waking completely instead of just falling back asleep because they're somewhere other than where they fell asleep. We did it the hard way. :( We started a routine, bathtime, diaper/sleeper, read goodnight moon, nurse and cuddle for 10 to 15 min then into the crib. Say goodnight, love you and walk out. At first we were going in every 5 or 10 minutes and it took her 2 hours to fall asleep the first night. The next night was only an hour. Now, she hardly even whines when we put her in the crib, is asleep in under 5 minutes and doesn't get up until 5 a.m. We still co-sleep for naps though, I miss her too much to not do that! I am all about co-sleeping and wish I still were at night, but it started to take a toll on my relationship with my husband because he goes to school during the day and works nights. Good luck on whatever you choose! If you want more advice on sleep training, please message me!

Marielle - posted on 12/12/2009

8

3

1

I feel much better after reading all the comments from the moms that still breastfeed and co-sleep with their toddlers. My son is 20 months old and he sleeps with us. When he was a baby we had a cot and he would sleep next to our bed. Around 3-4months old he started crawling about so the cot had to go. I didn't like him sleeping in his room so we move the crib in our bedroom( btw his room is part of a open living room closed off by curtains and it would get cold in there in the winter). this arrangement work out great (for me) he would wake up for his night feeding and i would get him and feed him back to sleep and then lay him back in his crib. As he got older though he would wake up more and more when i would put him in his crib, but if i let him sleep with us in the middle he would sleep through the night. when he would get up he would reach out for the boob (lol eyes closed and mouth ready). My baby is an expert when it comes to breastfeeding =) . But once he turned 1 my partner( the daddy) thought it was time for him to stay in the crib the whole night. At first i wasnt for it, since when the baby would wake up at night i would be the one that would have to get up and go get him even when the crib was right on his side of the bed(grrr lazy). when i went back to work the sleeping arrangement started to get to me. Our bed is not big enough for the 3 of us to sleep comfortably (and daddy wont sleep on the couch anymore) i cant count how many times i woke up with a backache =S Now it has been over 4 months that we've tried to get him to sleep in his crib. His crib turns into a small bed so we removed the one side but he would wake up and just crawl into bed with us. so that didnt last more than a week. So we are going to save up and buy a bigger bed, bigger the better really. So my advice is...if you are planning to co-sleep, be prepared...so get a bigger bed and good luck =)

Taneshia - posted on 12/12/2009

107

32

8

they make things thatt go into between you and your spouse and the baby is strapped in it kinda like what they use for neck support, that way no one rolls on the baby and the baby cant roll out. i dont use anything personally and all 3 of my sons are just fine and slept with me until I weaned them. my 7 month old sleeps with us every night and i think i like it more than them to tell you the truth. I nurse on demand also dont follow no type of schedule. I meet his demands as needed and go from there.

Sylvia - posted on 12/12/2009

1,315

8

31

We never had a crib (no room, apart from anything else!), and we co-slept until ... well, actually the kiddo still ends up in our bed most mornings -- no idea how or when she gets there ;^).

She did fall off the bed once -- I don't remember how old she was, but not walking yet, anyway. (She never crawled, just scootched on her bottom; I wasn't much for teaching her to do things, but I did make an effort to teach her to get down from the bed safely, backwards and feet first.) Our bed is a futon, the top of the mattress is only about a foot off the ground, so there were no lasting consequences. But that was during the day, when she was playing on the bed -- she's never fallen out of bed (ours or hers) while sleeping, as far as I know :)

Jaime - posted on 12/12/2009

214

16

12

We cosleep, although at first I Thopught that I was a bad mother because of it. All the comments like "You should really get him out of your bed now!", or "That is disgusting" (because I got pregnant when my son was 5 months old, and he slept in our bed!) and then when i was pregnant, everyone was saying that i had to get him out of our bed before my youngest was born. And while he sleeps in his bed most of the night, he still brings his pillow at around 4 in the morning and crawls into bed with us.

As for moving your child to a crib while you are still breastfeeding. It works for some people, but, if you are ok with her being in bed with you, then keep going! We did get a bed rail, to make sure that he wouldn't roll off. But no, neither baby has fallen off the bed while we were sleeping. We are careful, and they are never on the outside edge (our bed is up against a wall.) I think that it is very common for people to cosleep, and we would be very grumpy tired people if we didn't co sleep.
Good luck!

Elyse - posted on 12/12/2009

24

39

2

PS my 18 month old has slept in his crib in his own room now since he was 12 months old which is way earlier than my 4 y/o and I was less stress...everyone is different but routine really does help! Hope this helps!

Jamie - posted on 12/12/2009

201

60

10

I just use a side-rail on the bed so they can't make it out of bed. If they are napping, and i'm not in bed with them, I put pillows around them.

Elyse - posted on 12/12/2009

24

39

2

Wow you are talented! I breastfed my two who are now 4 and 18 mos and they both slept either near me in a bassinet or in bed with us. I always got bad remarks of how I was starting a bad habit that they will never break and it ended up really stressing me out with my first child. We started to break the habit with my oldest who still sometimes comes in during a thunderstorm to sleep with us, when he was 2. By the time he was 2 1/2 and 3 he was always sleeping in his bed. So I decided I wouldn't let it stress me and do what I wanted to do with my 2nd child because I was the one feeding him and I was the only one getting up at night and if I was the one who was going to be a sane person in the morning at work not sleep deprived then I was the one who was going to decide whether or not MY child slept with me.

My point that I am getting at is it is okay as long as you make it safe where there is no problems suffocating or rolling over on the baby. They will eventually be ready to sleep on their own. Don't stress it if you are not ready. Believe me when I say they will not be 18 sleeping in your bed. When you are ready start a routine at night that you have already started such as supper, bath, book, bottle/breast and bed. Do this every night and it will not matter where they sleep they will sleep!

Kacy - posted on 12/12/2009

64

11

3

I would not worry too much about your little one falling out of bed unless they are a VERY active sleeper. In that case you can pick up a bed rail for under 30.00 and they work great. If your concern is them crawling off the bed, teach "turn around, feet first" and even a mobile kiddo of under a year can get out of a low bed safely. If you bed is high, consider removing the frame.
I slept with my daughter until she was three, including when her little brother was born, without any trouble. (aside from being a mommy sandwich a couple of times)
Best of luck to you,
Kacy

Elizabeth - posted on 12/12/2009

26

21

3

My daughter is in bed with us when she's sick or just absolutly refuses to go back to sleep in her own bed.,.. She is mobil.. every time she trys to get out of bed my husband or will wake up.

Alina - posted on 12/12/2009

151

36

31

lol, i love your sense of humor! please add me to your circle.

now, i am not tall enough to let my baby nurse while in their crib....mutter mutter mutter.....but i do sleep with my babies when they are nursing. it is common, and way more convenient. as for transitioning. i didnt do that till after i was done nursing usually. my babies started out in the crib but before the end of the night they ended up in bed with me. with my kids in bed with me i did not sleep deeply so i could feel them move. as soon as they would move i woke up and situated them so they were safe and we usually both went back to sleep. it is a lovely arrangement. good luck and i hope this helps you out.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/12/2009

26

21

3

Yes, I am... although most of the time my three month old sleeps in her crib, but still tthere is still somtimes she'll fall asleep on my chest and there is were she'll stay until morning.

Atalanta - posted on 12/12/2009

15

2

1

my four month old sleeps better in bed with us than she does in her crib. when she is in her crib I find myself wakin up to check on her constantly

Elizabeth - posted on 12/12/2009

26

21

3

Hello to all.. I have two children that are just about thirteen months apart. My first daughter I only nursed her for two weeks, because I had heat anxiety. My second daughter will be four months, just four days before christmas. She is also breastfed... About a month ago she just started to sleep through the night, now she gets up between 4am and 7am for her first morning feeding of the day. I never had a trouble with either one of my children sleeping in the crib. Now my only problem is I want to work from my own home and still be able to nurse my youngest and take care of my oldest too. I don't want to stop nursing but I also want to go back to work... Delama'sss....

Janice - posted on 12/12/2009

1,890

18

63

Isn't anyone worry about SIDS? I'm breast feeding and my daughter, 6 wks, sleeps with me in bed or sometimes on the couch. Although this is comfortable for the baby and me, I'm constantly worried. Especially when I wake up and realize the blanket has made it near her face during the night. I never put her between my husband and me because that seems even more dangerous. Was anyone else ever fearful like I am?

Tasia - posted on 12/12/2009

53

13

2

I also co-slept with my daughter till she weined herself from the boob!! (Yes I was that lucky, she just didn't want it anymore!) It was the BEST THING EVER!! She and I both slept better. If you can after your baby falls asleep try and stick a binkie in there mouth, and try laying them in there bed. I did this with my daughter and she now sleeps in her own bed and will be 1 two days after x-mas.
Something else you can try that one of my friends did (wish I would've thought of this) is to take off one of the rails to your babies crib and put there mattress at the same level as your bed, and push it right up to your side of the bed. It works great!! She said that she can feed and snuggle with her daughter but she is still in her own bed. Her daughter is now 2 and did not have a problem switching her to the crib, cause she was already used to it!

Rachel - posted on 12/12/2009

18

12

0

my son is younger than yours but i will nurse my son til he falls asleep then lay him in his crib to sleep. he usually wakes up once a night now so i wait til he wakes up then bring him in the bed with me the remainder of the night. it's been working so far so he's comfortable either way now : )

Kirstie - posted on 12/12/2009

2

30

0

HI, it's really interesting reading all your comments. I have had the breastfeeding/co-sleeping arrangement with both my children and it has worked really well (despite ppl thinking that it is strange). To me bf and co-sleeping go together - there is nothing more natural than nursing your child and them sleeping in the same room. We have mattresses on the floor tho to solve the rolling on the floor issue - the double for hubby and i, and a single for my daughter (she is 2 now). At one stage we had the double mattress, single for my son (aged 5) on my husband's side and a cot mattress on my side for my daughter. I felt that way that we all had our own space.

My son moved full time into his bedroom about a year ago (aged 6), it needed to be when he was ready so he didn't feel pushed out by a new baby. He weaned himself at 4.5 years which probably sounds extreme to most. But I believe in child led rearing so it was fine with me. I agree that our culture has made it alien to want to nurture and bond with our children. Enjoy it for as long as you can! Best of luck with it all x

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms