Need to quit breast feeding?

Milenamike - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I'm going back to work in 20 days,and must quit the breast! She wont take a bottle/ formula or homo milk, any advice??She's 11 months old and has been breastfed exclusively.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/16/2010

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If she's 11 months old I would just introduce solid foods and reduce the frequency of feedings. You don't have to completely stop breastfeeding, you can still breast feed her when you are with her, and if possible pump and give her that milk in a regular cup. I had a coworker who breast fed two kids while working full time, and she was able to do it (I never saw her pump either or leak).

Christa - posted on 04/15/2010

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My daughter never really took a bottle, she went straight to the sippy cup. I would just have your daycare person offer only milk in a sippy cup while your gone. When she gets thirtsy she'll drink. Check with your doctor, but she might be close enough to a year to go to cows milk. Remember she won't starve herself, when she's hungry she will eat/drink what's offered.

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Randi - posted on 04/23/2010

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You have to pump! They had elec. pumps you could use from the Lactation nurse. You take it home, and pump every 3 or 4 hrs. They say that the Carnation formula is closeest to breast milk! Use a Nuk nipple, it doesn't look like it but it works most like a real nipple. You take a glass with a lid or a jar and a hand pump to work.On your lunch hr. take 5 mins.and pump. If your work doesn't have a fridge use a cooler. Be sure to keep it cold! You can't heat up breast milk in the microwave. Put a pan with an inch of water on the stove. after it's warm, shake well to get the warm up to the top, and test on the inside of your wrist.

Heidi - posted on 04/18/2010

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No need to wean off breast feeding. As others have said. Your child is old enough to eat solids and drink from a cup. She can eat and drink this way when you are at work. You can continue to breast feed her when you are home with her. NUK makes a great learner cup with a soft nipple that is much like drinking from the breast. My girls both did/do great with that cup as a first cup. And many babies do not like milk right off the bat. So don't worry there, as long as you keep breastfeeding when you are home.

Martha - posted on 04/18/2010

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i'm in the same situation, am weaning my son who just turned one so long as they eat solids, mixing the food with milk, giving them yogurt and cheese your baby will be alright. My son will not take the bottle, formula or cows milk but i am going to start putting a sippy cup in his cot at night hopefully he will drink it. hope it helps xx

Jessica - posted on 04/18/2010

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i only work 10 hours a week and while i'm gone lulu gets my pumped BM. but like your baby, she can't stand bottles! i'm away 5 hours each day and she'll eat maybe 2 or 3 oz in that time. but lately we've been discovering that allowing her to feed herself a bottle helps a lot. b/c when tom holds it for her, she won't drink as much. but as soon as he gives it to her to feed herself, she'll drink it right up :)

Kara - posted on 04/18/2010

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She's old enough to use a sippee cup, try that, take her to get one. My son wouldn't take a bottle of breast milk even. I still BF him but only in the morning and at night. He's going to be 20 months old and I work during the day. I don't need to pump either, but you might want to do that until she's weened. Does she eat foods with milk like cereal. Check with the doctor but she should be ok with cow's milk. I bet your girl will take milk from a cup from someone other than you!

Kelli - posted on 04/17/2010

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Have you tried a bottle that comes close to your breast nipple as possible? And pumping your breast for breast milk and storing it might help if that is the only thing she will drink.

Sarah - posted on 04/17/2010

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Don't quit!! It's totally normal for an 11-month-old to refuse a bottle. You have to introduce them at about 6 weeks. After that, they are so used to the breast they want nothing else. I had the same issue when I went back to work. You can pump 2 or 3 times a day at work, or just have the caregiver offer milk and water (if the dr is ok with that) throughout the day with the solids. Your baby will probably not drink the milk for a long time, but probably will eventually.



Don't be surprised if your baby starts feeding more at night. My daughter did this. She fed 3 times a night for way longer than what is supposedly "normal." She is now 21 months and feeds once a night. He misses you and the milk during the day so he will probably make up for it at night. I was okay with it because we co-slept so I would just feed her lying down and fall back to sleep quickly. It can be hard at times though since you are working.



A note about separation anxiety - Breastmilk or not your son will have it. It is worse at this age. I put my daughter in day care at 3 months, but switched centers at about 11 months in the height of her separation anxiety. It was very hard. It took her about a month to get comfortable (my daughter is VERY picky about people.) She cried everytime I dropped her off. This will be hard on you, but truth is if it's a good care your son will be cared for and appreciated it. He will love the social interaction with the other babies.



Another reason to not quit breastfeeding and consider pumping: since he will be at day care he will get sick more often. I never found that BFing prevented my daughter from being sick, but it was a godsend when she was. Dairy causes more mucus and that's the last thing she needs when sick, so the breastmilk was great there. She always refuses solids when sick, so breastfeeding was her only source of nutrition (and it's the best one) Was also the best way to comfort her when not feeling well.



I pumped until she was 15 months. Now at 21 months she nurses twice after work/before bed. Once in the middle of the night and once in the morning. Good luck!!

April - posted on 04/17/2010

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you definitely don't need to quit, she is old enough to have solids and water while you're gone and will wait for you to come home to breastfeed.

Christina - posted on 04/17/2010

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I had the same problem as you. When my 2nd daughter was 11 months I returned to work, knowing that she had refused to take anything other than breast milk. I was told by a my Maternal Health Nurse that she would be fine whilst I was away because she was close enough to 12 months old and they only need 500ml of milk a day. This includes cheese, yoghurt etc that they would be getting with there solid foods. She told me she would be fine and not too worry. I was sure that we were going to have problems, but because I was not around she didn't seem to worry about her milk at all. I would feed her as close as possible to when I was about to leave for work (which was around 6.30 - 7.00am) and she would go without any fluids until I arrived back to feed her at about 5.30pm. Your breast milk will not dry up as I continued to feed her until she was about 16 months old and I definitely never leaked at work either. When I was at work she would only eat solids. When we eventually did get her to drink milk from a cup, we found the only sort she could drink was lactose free. Now she absolutely loves her milk and if she could she would have 3 glasses at night time and she is now three. I hope this helps!

Chenoa - posted on 04/16/2010

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My 7 month old wont take a bottle either. I really wanna be able to go back to school and go out once in a while (im only 19). Ever since she has been born the longest ive ever been away from her is about a hour while my mom comes over so i can go shopping for food and other items. So for about a week and a half now after ever time i feed Jelena her little gerber foods, i clean her up a bit, let her play with her spoon for a min and get her a bottle of apple juice mixed with a little bit of water. the first few days she kinda just chewed on it, then she noticed the yummy stuff inside. For the past two days Jelena has took a few sips out of it!! We are gonna continue this and hopefully it works. So far it has. I read that instead of trying to give the bottle with breast milk or formula try somthing different (like apple juice) because it reminds them to much of the the breast. Babies take time and patience. It took Jelena a while to figure out how to get the food off the spoon when it was in her mouth now shes a pro. So with some pratice im sure everything will work out. Think of it as like another activity. Once jelena takes it really well then ill supplement. until then juice. i hope i helped. good lucky

Melissa - posted on 04/16/2010

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I had the same issue with my son at 8 months... I just started adding a banana yogurt drink to the formula to sweeten it up some and now he loves the formula with out the drink! I also had a tough time with bottles but I found that NUK makes a bottle that helps promote breastfeeding and he loves it!! and I love it too :) I still breast feed him in the evenings only. Generally your breast take about a month to stop producing milk if that is a concern for you!

Samantha - posted on 04/15/2010

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PUMP PUMP PUMP!!!! places of work MUST provide a mother who works 8 hours a day a place o pump! Let her "starve" she will be more accepting of a bottle. Soon you will be able to sub formula.

Christa - posted on 04/15/2010

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I totally understand! Use the next 20 days to gradually wean her and only offer milk in the sippy cup, that way she'll get used to it. Hopefully she will be ok with it before you have to go back to work. P.S. how lucky are you to get a whole year off. :-)

Milenamike - posted on 04/15/2010

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Very true Christa, i would just like to minimize her stress level, theres already the separation anxiety factor.

Milenamike - posted on 04/15/2010

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i work from 8-6pm, 7-5pm or 1-10pm 5 days per week. so 48 hrs + over 2.5 hrs combined travel time to and from work long hrs. yes she likes water or juice from a sippy, not so much milk.

Andrea - posted on 04/15/2010

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Yes, solids while you are gone, breast while you are home - have you tried a sippy cup?

Amberlee - posted on 04/15/2010

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My 9 months old refuses a bottle of ANYTHING for ANYONE and i went back to work when he was 5 months, He eats baby food and cereal while im away and his dr said that is ok as long as he is eating while im home

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